Why some people always like to dictate other people s lives

The first type of people, your parents. They usually think that you are a child, no matter how old you are, they think that you are not able to handle your own life, so they like to "point fingers" at you as a person who has come before, but their main mood is to care about you, of course, this kind of care you may not need.

The second type of people, friends. The first thing you need to understand is that your life is your own, and you have to have your own opinions, no matter what others say. Some of the friends who like to give you "opinions" are overzealous, some are not afraid of big things if they are not in their own affairs, some are ill-intentioned and want to see you laugh, and some are not good enough to be happy but always hope that others will use their opinions as psychological compensation.

The third category of people, colleagues. This kind of person doesn't actually have a deep relationship with you, usually the relationship is superficial, and they usually point fingers at you with a purpose, such as using you as a gunman, but you need to understand this situation, because you may have done such things.

The fourth type of people are the three aunts and six women in the neighborhood.

Kind. People are curious, and they are usually strict with others and lenient with themselves. Many of them are jealous, many are comparisons, and many are yearning for secrets, in fact, you also have these.

Human beings are animals living in groups, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, although you hate such people pointing fingers at you, but you can't avoid it, so try not to think about them, you live your own life, if someone chokes you will scold back, it's no big deal, if you can't make a strong attitude, then ignore them, after all, the mouth grows on people's faces, you can't control, the brain grows on people's bodies, and you can't control what people think.

I think you're still too young, so you can't see a lot of psychological things, you can't figure it out, you can't control it, but it doesn't matter, after a few years, fifty years before you don't have to be confused, your days are still long, young people have to have a young mentality, let go, those people are just a fart, what they say you can't do without a piece of meat, let them say it. You just be yourself, do what you think is right, live a chic life, and them off, haha.

First, the root cause is their inner emptiness and boredom.

Second, they never cared enough about themselves and never knew what they really needed.

Third, even if they are materially wealthy, they are not really happy people.

Fourth, most of them are materialistic and vain.

Fifth, most of them are relatively self-righteous and self-righteous.

3 All some people are more worried, more like to manage, and are not at ease with other things or people, and some people think that they are better than anyone else, and like to control or criticize others, so they want to control other people's lives.

Dictating other people's lives.

Some people themselves think it's a love. Or I don't want you to take a detour. Listen to my examples.

The movie is about a journey between a mother and a child. Xu Zheng's son Ivan, who spent so much time with his mother for the first time after graduating from college.

But during this period, Ivan had too much reluctance, too much desire to escape, too much resistance and helplessness, the reason was that there was an "embarrassing mother" at home.

What is "embarrassing mother"? Fantasizing about manipulating other people's lives is actually hopelessness in one's own life.

Lu Xiaohua, the mother of the protagonist Ivan in the play, is a typical example.

They may have been born into a not-so-happy family and had a not-so-happy marriage, so they poured all their emotions into their children.

The last clip of the film gives us some comfort.

Mom finally started her own life, and in her life, there was no longer only Ivan, but also her dreams, her own happiness.

After Ivan closed the door, she muttered, "Ivan in the film is a little boy, and my Ivan is now an adult." "There's an emotion called letting go.

The need to let go is not only couples who don't love anymore, but also parents.

Because you let go, you can let your child have his own life. As a parent, you must also believe that your child can live a life that belongs to him.

Because of his life, he has the final say.

Everyone is a person with their own ideas, advice, good communication, and respect each other.

Supplementary explanation, finger-pointing, idiom, to describe the use of gestures when speaking. It is also described as rash pointing, criticism, or arbitrarily giving orders.

This person likes to point fingers, maybe his desire to control will be stronger, so it will be like this.

Because some of them care about you, some of them want to pave a good road for you to go, and some of them are purely disgusting ......But you don't think it's what you want, and it's hard to say it or reject it outright, that's why you ask.

He must have felt that he was doing it better than me.

When I meet such a person in my life, I only have one sentence to tell him: you can do it, you can't shut up.

Most of these people are strong outside, don't look at what they say when they point fingers at you, if you really let him do it, he may not be able to do it.

If he really does a better job than you, that's even better, and you can learn just a little bit along the way.

If you are always pointing fingers in life, I think for such people, they may just want to show their superiority.

They have low self-esteem, they need to belittle others, elevate themselves, on the other hand, some people love to brush the sense of superiority to find a sense of existence, no way, I try to avoid too long chat contact. Let them have points in their own hearts.

In life, I often meet people who point fingers at me, and I feel that such people are disrespectful and have opinions about people in their hearts, so they will point fingers at others.

I especially hate this kind of look that I don't know you well, but I think it's good for you, what a thing, I don't know you, aunt! inexplicably pointing fingers at other people's lives, to put it bluntly, this kind of person is looking for a sense of existence and superiority, just stay away from her, just go back when you are annoyed, anyway, she is also thick-skinned. If it doesn't work again, it will be completely torn up, anyway, if she exists, she is just blocking herself, there is no need to keep it for the New Year!

There should be many examples, etc. Do not judge people on matters of thought"lest you be judged. For as you judge, so you will be judged.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, as ye would have them do unto you, for this is the law and the doctrine of the prophets. Enter ye through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and great is the way until destruction, and many enter in: and to life the gate is narrow, and the way is small, and few are those who find it.

I wish everyone a little more exhortation, and I am full of blessings.

People who point fingers at others are no different from people who like to explore other people's lives, they are all idle and idle, which is a typical "little woman's appearance". The nature of women is to like to talk about the rights and wrongs of the east and the west, so they are actually a group of two people chattering there, comparing with each other, showing off their wealth, comparing who is prettier, looking in the mirror every day to put on makeup, whether I am fat or thin. This is a woman's specialty, and no one can say anyone.

This kind of person just has nothing to do, always wants to devalue you, and seems to have a sense of superiority.

It depends on the other party's "fingering", what is the reason, and the impact on you.

There are two kinds of behavior, one is to pick a thorn in the bones, accuse you for no reason, against you, this kind of completely unnecessary attention, the other party is blackened by his own face, he is uncomfortable and unbalanced, and the people around him are not blind.

On the other hand, someone else's "finger-pointing" may be a suggestion that you have found a problem, and your own complacent personality cannot accept this kind of behavior, so you are particularly disgusted. The so-called "humility benefits and losses are full of losses", and other people's good suggestions should still be accepted.

Finger-pointing is actually a derogatory term in the literal sense, but different objects, different stages, and different contexts can represent different meanings. A good teacher is not only a common problem of Chinese people, but also a weakness of human nature, for people who are still in the stage of confusion in the direction of life goals, negative pessimism due to entrepreneurial failure, or evasion and irresponsibility caused by family changes, in fact, sometimes let people with good thoughts "point fingers" is not a good thing, many people will inevitably take many detours because of insufficient self-awareness, lack of experience, and not much experience when they are young, and even take the wrong road because of their eagerness for quick success. At this time, in fact, I hope that someone will come to point us out, since ancient times, there has been a saying that advice is good for deeds, and the powerful charm of language lies in this, sometimes a word, a sentence may affect or change a person's life.

Jealousy, that is, not being able to eat grapes and saying that grapes are sour. There are thousands of things in the world, and everyone is different. Everyone has their own unique experiences, and there are some experiences and opportunities that those who have made a mess of their lives do not encounter.

Why are you doing so well" is the most common thought of such losers. So they do everything they can to show, show off, and command in front of others, but in fact, they are jealous in their hearts and brush up on their sense of existence, and at the same time say to others: "Look, I know everything, I am a very powerful person."

And very conceited. Such people are blindly confident and arrogant, thinking that all their failures are just born at the wrong time, and thinking that they will be able to do better if they give themselves another chance, so they do not feel that they have a problem with a bad life, but will feel that this is a manifestation of "the sky will descend on a great responsibility". So whenever they see someone else living or working in a different way than they do, they come forward to guide them because they believe they are right.

This belongs to people who are strong on the inside and not strong on the outside. Internal strength, maybe self-feeling, but internal strength is often aimed at themselves, this kind of person can convince themselves, self-feeling good is also a powerful ability, everyone's so-called "fingering" does not mean that others are wrong, but others are not strong, everyone disdains his so-called "guidance", you yourself are messy, what can you use to prove what you say? Once others are strong on the outside, live in an orderly manner, and even be very successful, then the so-called "guidance" is likely to become a "golden and jade good word".

It's better to cultivate both inside and outside, and it's better to keep a low profile when it's not strong outside, so as not to be laughed at, and it's difficult to be low-key when it's strong.

There are always some people in this world who don't want your good, and then like to point fingers at your life, saying that I am for your good, and so on.

I'm really annoyed with these kinds of people, and then there are a lot of people around me, and one by one they are like idiots, proudly saying their own opinions, trying to influence my thoughts and decisions.

Please, can you take responsibility for my life? What the hell do you say if you can do it and you can't?

Recently, because my son is under the age of three to go to kindergarten, except for me and the child's father, everyone else is opposed, saying that I feel sorry for the child and it is good for you.

I want to say that the real distress is to let him try, let him wrestle, and then the road in the future will not be believed in wrestling, and the beloved son of his parents will have far-reaching plans for it. Our love is great love.

There are also some people, like watching a good show, saying something, you see, you will regret it.

What I want to go back to is that after not regretting what made us, and you really should go to see a psychiatrist, I think that educating this thing has a thousand faces. Moreover, I think that if you look at others with this mentality today, you will regret it tomorrow.

I and the child's father, really unaware of the journey, under a lot of pressure, we still follow our own inner thoughts, the family's incomprehension does not matter, we only hope that the child can grow up in the parents' ardent hope.

Dear children, it is because we love you that we let you embrace the world, whether you are injured, lost, or even fall to wrestling, we can accept it calmly, because we all know that this is the only way to grow up, and we understand it so that you can adapt in advance, in order to make the road smoother in the future.

I'm sure your future will get better and better, to hell with those people's words.

Regarding the question of what others call me, I would like to give the following one with high quality to meet your knowledge and confiding needs:

Titles are a social etiquette in interpersonal interactions, and they can both reflect people's respect and praise for us, but they can also make us uncomfortable for a number of reasons. When it comes to other people's titles, I consider my response based on the following three aspects:

1.Intent and Background:

First, I'll get to know the intent and context of the other person's use of the title. Sometimes, someone may call me a certain name out of friendship or respect, and if I am too sensitive or disgusted, it may make the other person feel embarrassed. So, I decide how to respond based on the person's intentions, and if the person is well-intentioned, I will be grateful to them and tell them that I prefer or are used to another title.

2.Self-awareness and self-confidence:

Second, I self-reflect and figure out why other people's names make me uncomfortable. This may have something to do with my self-perception, self-confidence, or my sense of identity. If I find that this is a matter of self-perception or self-confidence, I try to improve my sense of self-worth and inner security so that I am not affected by external titles.

I will try to understand my worth and meaning, and believe that I am important enough that no matter what others call me, I will not be able to shake my certainty.

3.Direct expression of needs:

Finally, if I find that someone else's title really makes me very uncomfortable, I will choose to communicate directly with the other person to express my dissatisfaction or discomfort with the title. When communicating, I try to be as calm and rational as possible, explain my feelings and needs, and seek consensus on both sides. By expressing my needs directly, I hope to be able to establish better communication and understanding with the other party, so as to avoid similar problems in the future.

In summary, I decide how to respond to someone else's address based on their intentions and background, their own self-awareness and self-confidence, and their need to express themselves directly. The most important thing is to be firm in your heart and self-worth, not to mind too much what others are called, but also to have the courage and wisdom to express your needs and feelings. In this way, a healthier, equal, and respectful relationship can be built in interpersonal interactions.