If my parents divorce, what should I do and with whom?

If it doesn't get to that point, that is, there is still room for redemption in the marriage, don't let them divorce! Otherwise, you won't be right with anyone. If you think about it, you will understand, and it will be verified in the future, after your parents divorce, they must find the other half of their life, and you will think about it in the future!

I'm also 12 years old

I feel it. Think about it yourself.

Whoever you like, you follow.

You'd better not talk to your father.

Although to earn a lot of money.

But he doesn't care about you.

You have to think about your future.

Are you afraid that following your mother will increase her burden?

It's okay. Do not worry.

You and your mom will only make your mom happy.

But I still hope that your parents will not leave.

Because I know how children with divorced parents feel.

Actually, when I was 6 years old.

My parents left.

I followed my mom.

My dad went to dinner with the big bosses every day.

I didn't come back until midnight every day.

I want to be with my dad too.

Because I'm afraid that after my mom and I leave.

Dad can't take care of himself on his own.

But I think my mom needs someone to take care of her too.

But I followed my mom.

It should be because my mother's income is not high.

I also inherited my aunt's heart disease.

But my dad has a lot of income.

He can find a babysitter to take care of him.

But my mom can't.

Hopefully, your parents won't get divorced.

I'm also 12 years old

I feel it. Think about it yourself.

Whoever you like, you follow.

You'd better not talk to your father.

Although to earn a lot of money.

But he doesn't care about you.

You have to think about your future.

Are you afraid that following your mother will increase her burden?

It's okay. Do not worry.

You and your mom will only make your mom happy.

But I still hope that your parents will not leave.

Because I know how children with divorced parents feel.

Actually, when I was 6 years old.

My parents left.

I followed my mom.

My dad went to dinner with the big bosses every day.

I didn't come back until midnight every day.

I want to be with my dad too.

Because I'm afraid that after my mom and I leave.

Dad can't take care of himself on his own.

But I think my mom needs someone to take care of her too.

But I followed my mom.

It should be because my mother's income is not high.

I also inherited my aunt's heart disease.

But my dad has a lot of income.

He can find a babysitter to take care of him.

But my mom can't.

Hopefully, your parents won't get divorced.

Legal analysis: If the parties are adults, the parents are not responsible for custody, and there is no statement that the parents should divorce with whom, and if the parents reach an agreement on the custody of the child, the parties' intentions will generally be respected and handled according to their agreement, except where the agreement is seriously detrimental to the normal life of the child. If the child reaches the age of two, if the two parties agree to take turns raising the child, the agreement between the two parties will be respected; If the agreement fails, the court will decide in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child.

Legal basis: Article 1084 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China The relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of the parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother.

After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise, educate and protect their children. In the event of a divorce, children under the age of two shall be raised directly by their mothers. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of child support, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child.

Where children have reached the age of 8, their true wishes shall be respected.

The divorce of parents is for them to choose the happiness of life again, this is also their right, as children we can not interfere too much, although it will bring us pain, but we should understand them more.

After all, love is mutual, learn to be considerate, and if their marriage really makes them unhappy and unhappy, then what's the point of being together?

We as children can only quietly rise to let them choose their happiness, we can only live a good life and not let them worry more. It looks like you're just a kid, and it's too early for a kid of your age to suffer from it.

First of all, it still depends on your mother's intentions, if you think it is best to persuade your father to be able to go through the dates, if you can't, just cut the mess quickly, the long pain is better than the short pain, it will be better to solve it through legal means, the money in the family must be divided equally between the parents, if you decide to live with your mother (you should already be able to decide custody at your age), your father also needs to pay your child support regularly.

As for the woman who cheated on money, it is not worth it for you to hate her at all, ignore him, and adopt the strategy of ignoring her and ignoring her......

You should continue your life as usual, and don't be distracted by things at home. Find the old aunt of the neighborhood committee or the elders who know about the situation and let them solve it, and they can seek legal aid while they are alive.

For me personally, I can accept the problem of my parents' marital status. After all, the emotional aspect cannot be forced, and for parents, they also make deliberate decisions, so I will respect their approach.

1. Learn to respect your parents' decisions.

When parents choose to divorce, they must have thought it through and thought that it would be good for both parties to make up their minds to end the relationship. So, you have to accept this fact that you can't change, and try to ease your emotions as much as possible. You have to understand that if two people in a family no longer love each other and still live together under the same roof, that atmosphere may not be a good thing for you, not only will you not feel the warmth of the family, but you will also be depressed and miserable because of the endless quarrels between your parents, or the indifference of ignoring each other.

And this kind of physical and mental torment, for parents, is often better than a short pain. Since they have chosen to divorce, then you have to be considerate of them, maybe after separation, they will be fine, and their lives will be happy and beautiful. As for you to come here to rent a place, after all, the time to accompany them is limited, rather than seeing them make do with their miserable lives, it is better to let them seek a better home for themselves.

2. Care more about your parents.

When your parents divorce and suddenly there is one less person in your family of three, you will naturally lack a sense of security in your heart, and feel that your home is incomplete and different from other families with parents. In fact, for divorced parents, they will face various problems after breaking up, and the habits they have cultivated will also be broken, so both parties need to have a process of adaptation. And when they face you, they will definitely blame themselves and be ashamed.

If you don't adjust well, react violently, and get mixed with the contradictions and disturbances of your parents, it is no less than sprinkling a few handfuls of salt on their injured hearts. In this way, the process of calming their emotions will be more difficult. So, learn to be considerate of them, and tell yourself that the result is best for them, and you will try to adapt to it.

And life will get better and better.

If you can support yourself and have the conditions to live independently, live separately. If you think it's good to live with one person, choose to live with one person.