Seafarer comes home Mark Twain

In the early years, Nepal's southern Himalayan foothills were rarely visited by foreigners. Later, many Japanese people came here for sightseeing, and it is said that this was due to the integrity of a teenager.

One day, several Japanese photographers asked a local teenager to buy beer, and the teenager ran for more than three hours.

The next day, the boy volunteered to buy them another beer. This time the photographers gave him a lot of money, but the boy did not return until the afternoon of the third day. As a result, the photographers talked a lot, and they all thought that the teenager had cheated the money.

On the third night, the boy knocked on the photographer's door. It turned out that he had only bought 4 bottles of beer in one place, so he climbed another hill and waded across a river to buy another 6 bottles, and when he returned, he broke 3 bottles. He cried and took the broken glass and handed back the change to the photographer, and everyone present was moved.

This story has deeply touched many foreigners. Since then, more and more tourists have come here.

"Lies" are called "lies" because they are false, untrue, and deceitful words. But today, when we talk about "lies", there is another definite term - benign ones, and with the addition of this qualifier, the nature of lies has also undergone a fundamental change. Even if a person who hears a white lie knows that it is a lie, he will still try to believe it, and he will not feel the hypocrisy of the liar, and sometimes he will be grateful from the bottom of his heart. The instinct to survive has them fighting for their limited supply of dry food and water. At the critical moment, a passenger who was temporarily on the plane stood up and said, "Don't panic, everyone, I am an aircraft designer, as long as everyone works together to listen to my command, the plane can be repaired".

This is like a shot in the arm to stabilize everyone's mood, and they consciously save water and dry food; Everything was in order, and everyone united to fight against the difficulties of the wind and sand. More than ten days passed, and the plane was not repaired; But a caravan of merchants who were traveling to and from the desert came to their rescue. A few days later, it was discovered that the temporary passenger was not an aircraft designer at all, but an elementary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes.

A white lie is motivated by good intentions, with the purpose and starting point of defending the interests of others. The lies that a person who is good in itself is "forced" to tell in a certain state are benevolent, and this lie is a kind of kindness, a kind of concern for the subject. Obviously, a white lie does not hinder integrity.

So we think white lies are beneficial.

Concealing the truth for the benefit of others is a well-intentioned concealment, which will make the relationship more harmonious and the society more harmonious, so there is a great difference between the concealment of good intentions and the malicious fraud from the motive to the result, and they should not be confused. Therefore, I insist that white lies not only do not hinder integrity, but also greatly enhance friendship and affection between people, and have an indelible effect on social stability.

When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by doctors, his parents, lovers, children, and all his relatives will not directly tell him: "Life cannot be saved", "At most, how long can I live in this world?" and so on. Although these are all truths, who would be so cruel as a judge to sentence a prisoner to death, and tell the truth to his relatives who are already sick.

At this time, everyone will form a united front, keep silent about the truth, and use white lies to make the patient full of hope for **, so that the patient can spend the rest of the years in a peaceful state. Is this an undermine to integrity?

When a child who does not rhyme with the world suddenly encounters misfortune and loses his relatives, how to explain to him that his relatives have gone. We think the best thing to do is not to tell him the real situation for the time being, just to say that he is far away for business, or studying and working abroad.

When the child is sensible and has a certain ability to bear, and then tell the truth, the child will also understand the behavior of his relatives and will not be angry because he did not know the truth earlier. Is it also an obstacle to integrity?

When the mother of a soldier who is on a mission in the field is terminally ill and breathes from the heat, how much he hopes to see his son for the last time, but the son can't come back, can't do a little filial piety for the old mother, take care of the mother who once broke her heart for her son, he is very sorry, and he is also very worried. And the old mother understood her son very well, and told her relatives around her that she should not tell her distant son after she left, and she could not distract him, but to say that his condition was stable, so that he could be loyal to the country with peace of mind. Is such a white lie an obstacle to integrity?

White lies are beautiful. When we tell a small lie in moderation for the sake of the happiness and hope of others, the lie becomes understanding, respect, and tolerance, and has magical power.

When we look at things, we often add a very strong emotional color, which is the emotional stuff of human emotion. Although we know that well-intentioned deception is also deception, we always feel that the original intention is good, and the deceived person will not feel ashamed or even feel a little noble, even if the deceived person knows that it is deception, because of the loss of face and the goodwill of the deceiver's purpose, he will not feel indignant and condemn the deceiver. But that doesn't change the nature of the deception itself.

From a rational point of view, deception is a departure from integrity.

Regardless of whether the lie is well-intentioned or malicious, to deal with others with such lies is to deceive others;To deal with oneself with such lies is to deceive oneself. White lies, which always emphasize their good intentions, are deliberately divided into the moral category of good in the perceptual world, so that white lies seem to draw a clear line with the malicious deception that people hate in moral evaluation, and thus are more easily adopted and accepted by people. However, we should not ignore rational thinking because of our emotional likes and dislikes, and for this reason, the author believes that the deceptive nature of white lies determines that white lies will inevitably hinder good faith when discussing whether white lies hinder integrity.

Logical reasoning should be the most rigorous and scientific reasoning, and a lie deviates from the principle of good faith, which is a judgment that everyone agrees on. Then a white lie is included in the concept of a lie, and a white lie is bound to deviate from the principle of good faith. This is the simplest syllogism reasoning.

If someone tries to prove that a white lie is not an obstacle to good faith, then they must overturn the primary judgment that the lie deviates from the principle of good faith.

The same is true of a white lie, although it can be accepted by people emotionally, and even a white lie has a good original intention, but it is still a substantive act that violates rational morality, that is, lying, so no matter what the purpose and result of a white lie is, it is an indisputable fact that it violates the principle of good faith.

When we look at things, we often add a very strong emotional color, which is the emotional stuff of human emotion. Although we know that well-intentioned deception is also deception, we always feel that the original intention is good, and the deceived person will not feel ashamed or even feel a little noble, even if the deceived person knows that it is deception, because of the loss of face and the goodwill of the deceiver's purpose, he will not feel indignant and condemn the deceiver. But that doesn't change the nature of the deception itself.

From a rational point of view, deception is a departure from integrity.

A white lie, which has a good starting point, is a lie that has to be made up when lying at the same time as reaching good deception.

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The other party's defense friend, since a white lie is a lie, how can it be benevolent, even if it is benign, then why lie, it is better to tell the other party directly, why deceive others.

If you are trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be trustworthy, you will be successful, and if you are trustworthy, the Chinese nation will be eternal.

Here, I would like to ask the other student, when a person loses his integrity, is his starting point still good?

A person is terminally ill, in order to let him spend the rest of his life peacefully, relatives and friends unanimously conceal him, there is no malice, and there is no selfish interest, but often not satisfactory, deception can not last, but the patient loses the rationality of cooperation and the opportunity to deal with personal affairs. Female philosopher Cicela? Polk warns that such lies can put people on the verge of a great decline in personality.

I think that even if a lie is well-intentioned, its negative effects abound Why do you need to give examples This kind of negative impact on the destruction of integrity is often more hidden, a kind of chronic poisoning Ignoring this poison is undoubtedly covering one's ears and stealing the bell

A lie is always a lie. Is it right to deceive others?

A ** family once wrote: "When we first try to lie, we are caught in the web of disorder we weave." ”

Even if it is a white lie, as a lie in itself, it is already an act as opposed to integrity, so whether the lie is in good intentions or not, being a lie itself will inevitably hinder integrity.