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What should I do if I find out that my dad is doing something wrong, but if I tell my mom that there might be a fight.

First of all, if the father does something wrong, if you tell the mother, they will definitely have a quarrel, for this matter between adults, in fact, they can deal with it themselves, I suggest that you as a child, you can tell the father that he is not doing it right, but it, it is not necessary to tell the mother to let the mother find out by herself, because as long as the father has done something wrong, in fact, there will be some clues, maybe the mother will soon be able to perceive.

Actually, this is a matter of points.

If it's just jealousy or suspicion, it's not really good for you to argue. If it had worked, the matter would have been resolved.

If it's because of the child, then you should negotiate with the child's father. The content of the negotiation is actually very simple, with one party as the main party and the other party as the auxiliary, and the conclusion is to try to improve the child's academic performance for one semester.

For example, the negotiation is based on the child's father, then in a semester, you are absolutely not allowed to interfere with the child's father's education method, even if the child is called a parent every day, you must not have any opinions, but you can convey the child's teacher's original words.

But let's say it's some matter of principle, and in the case that your communication doesn't work, you have to make things bigger! There is the momentum of a broken boat.

Your mother-in-law's words are for reference only. You have to figure out how to do it yourself.

Moreover, judging from your mother-in-law's language and behavior, it is actually perfunctory to you.

Because when you quarrel with the child's father, your mother-in-law should help you for no reason, educate the child's father in front of you, at least let you balance your mind, instead of letting your daughter-in-law let you afterwards. This is the wrong thing to do.

There's nothing wrong with that kind of thinking, and I don't think it's a bad thing to talk to your parents, after all, home is the only harbor you have in the face of wind and rain.

If you are always angry, you should tell your parents, and your parents will probably be better if they talk about him. Either he will think that you are a child that no one cares about, and he will bully you even more.

That's right, but don't keep it in your heart and think of a way to vent. It's all good news and not bad news.

Hello! You are such a child with a heart! I don't know if I can help you, but I hope to open up your ideas, so let's talk about my method:

In fact, the crux of the matter is that your dad is suspicious of your mom, right? And this kind of suspicion, in fact, many times just feels wrong, but there is no evidence, and once your father goes to find evidence based on this, then everything that happens becomes evidence. That's why you're distressed, right?

I can't teach you to convince your dad, and I advise you not to. Because the problem is in your father's mind, and unless he finds out about it, it's useless for anyone to say it. But you can be brave enough to try and help your dad discover this.

Once a problem is revealed, many times it is no longer a problem.

I think, this problem happens in a family, you and your mother are both suffering because of your father's wild doubts, but remember that the most painful person is your father, and he is constantly looking for evidence to make himself miserable, a loving child, you also feel the pain of your father!

I don't know if your father has ever told his pain in front of you, for a man, in such pain, in fact, there is no one to confide in, and it is not appropriate to talk to anyone. If he opens his mouth to tell you, that's your chance, don't try to convince him, but let him find out for himself. This requires some psychological knowledge, I don't know if you have it, if you are in an emergency, you can search for the book "A Thought", but I always feel that the method of this book is too sharp, like a knife, how to use it, it depends on you!

The status is not equal, it is impossible to communicate fairly, and you will not be listened to.

If your father is suspicious, let him find out that person, and if he can't find it, he can live with peace of mind, and persuasion is useless.

Either persuade them to separate for a period of time and calm down for a while, or divorce, and don't get involved in other things. The reason for this is that it affects your growth and learning. Sometimes, things are not as simple as they appear.

When you're older, you'll understand when you're married.

Then you're going to have to coordinate it well. Since your dad is suspicious of your mom, both parties need to be honest with each other. Let's talk about the causes of suspicion.

Did your mom suddenly go out a lot? Or is your mom always carrying a mobile phone on her body or behind your dad's back to call **? Find out why your dad is suspicious.

When you ask your dad if a woman loves him, your mother won't use that attitude towards your dad, persuade your dad to be open and don't be so stingy, he will understand and analyze, and he won't be noisy in the future, and it's better to be open.

If you look closely, the average old husband and wife feel that it will not be wrong.

When I was young, it was easy for me to quarrel with my parents, and I always felt that they didn't understand my thoughts, and I didn't have the patience to listen to my thoughts.

Now that I have grown up, I feel that many things are unreasonable, especially with my parents.

You're doing a good job, you're communicating with your parents calmly, even though they don't understand you, what you lack is just finding the right moment.

If there is a contradiction, compromise for the time being, and then find a suitable opportunity to talk about it, will it be better?

Your parents also love you, and even though this love makes you feel constrained, you also respect them, even if they don't understand.

I hope that all of us as children can find a suitable way for our parents to accept us.

I wish you and your family happiness.

A thousand filial piety is not as good as a shun. A parent's attachment to their children cannot be described by understanding.

It's good to make things clear and clear. If you really don't understand it, forget it, and don't explain it. Filial piety comes first, don't quarrel with your parents.

Writing a letter, although it is more pretentious, is a way for them to understand what you mean.

Hey, in this case, you must feel uncomfortable.

Your parents are always arguing, are you scared? Will you just stand aside in a daze, powerless?

Want to get them to stop arguing? Want them to love each other?

Then you don't have to be in a daze anymore, don't just watch quietly, can you watch it, sad thing.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, but you are a member of the family, you can no longer let yourself be powerless, you can't stand by coldly, you can't be uncomfortable alone, haven't you had enough.

Scared of parents, well......Is it because you are afraid that you dare not stand up?

If this continues, your parents are very likely to say those two words and develop according to those two words, and when the time comes, hum, you will be miserable. What else can you fear in the face of such developments?

You have to take action, be brave enough to talk to them, talk about your pain, talk about your fears, say your love for them, say you need their love, and you can cry in front of them. What do you want to do, don't let shame, fear, cowardice suppress your thoughts, what do these things compare to the results of the last two words?

You can also find someone to help, find a family member or friend who has the best relationship with your parents, but the people you are looking for must be rational, don't be the type of fuel to the fire, and don't want the type of loudspeaker (try not to publicize the family ugly).

Of course, the most important thing is how you think and how you do it. The more you do your part, the more likely things are to be better.

Don't be afraid to stand aside and say you're powerless.

Addendum: If your parents say leave it alone.

It is very likely that the timing of the conversation is not good, try to talk when they are not in a busy mood, one-on-one talk first, and then ......

It is also possible that the way of the conversation is not good, parents always treat us as children, think we are immature, so they are too lazy to talk to us, so sometimes as children we can tell our parents very solemnly: Parents, about something, I want to talk to you (of course, timing is also very important).

I believe that there is nothing that cannot be communicated, if communication is not possible.

Find someone to help, you can "scold" them loudly when they are arguing, or you still have to say your mood and make them think about you a little.

It's up to you how you handle it.

You can feel your troubles right now. What we can do as children is to communicate with our parents as much as possible, or to make them feel the importance of family to them and to their children through certain things. Believe in your family.

As the saying goes, children are the heart-to-heart locks of parents, you can persuade them that this will hurt you a lot, if it doesn't work, I suggest you go to the Internet to search for "Inner Mongolia Satellite TV" wonderful 45 minutes, let them help you solve it! The broadcast time starts as soon as the news broadcast ends every day, and you can take a look at the comments of the experts above! Maybe it will help you!

Good luck!

I have deep sympathy for you.

What you say also represents the troubles of a large part of Chinese children. Food for thought.

Of course, you, as their son, have to take care of them. Although the word "tube" cannot be talked about. However, children are the emotional bond between parents and parents, and I think I can understand ...... your current troubles

I have some suggestions for dealing with family and kinship:

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

Maybe your dad has a lot of self-esteem, just let him do it, and my dad is like that.

Find out the root of the quarrel, start from the root, and find out his mistakes.