What should be done with the cunning?

1. Don't underestimate anyone.

2. You don't have that many viewers, don't be so tired.

3. Be gentle with people and things. Don't lose your temper at will, no one owes you.

4. It's painful now, and when I look back after a while, I will find that it's actually nothing.

5. Break off friendship with people who have malicious intentions towards you. Only when people have broken friendships can they have close friends.

6. Learn to tolerate those who hurt themselves, because they are pitiful, everyone has their own difficulties, and it is not easy for everyone. 7. Learn to give up, the tighter you pull, the more painful it is yourself.

8. Low-key, between trade-offs, there will be gains and losses.

9. Don't try to make any excuses for yourself, no one likes to listen to those excuses in the face of mistakes.

10. Be cautious, learn to compromise at the same time, but also adhere to your most basic principles.

12. The past can not be forgotten, but it must be let go.

13. Live an easy life, and make a plan for the best and the worst in everything.

14. Be a simple person, practical and pragmatic. Don't indulge in fantasies. Don't bother yourself.

15. Don't lie, because there will always be a day when it will be exposed.

16. Behind the glamour of others, there may be too much unknown pain.

17. Try to enrich yourself. Don't stop learning. No matter what you are learning, language, cooking, all kinds of skills.

Nothing is absolute, and there is always no one way. You can use more cunning methods to deal with her. But you are a loyal person, so this method is difficult for you to implement, then you can use the loyal way to solve it, treat her sincerely, don't hate, don't retaliate, just use your sincerity to impress her, believe that sincerity, gold and stone are open, and she will eventually change her opinion of you.

Sometimes, patience solves the problem.

Repay grievances with virtue and treat each other sincerely, I believe it will move her.

How to deal with a cunning person, you should be more ruthless than him, and then be kinder, but not too ruthless, that is, cruel to him. There must also be a little scheming in the heart.

For the cunning person, if you can't be more cunning than him, then stay away from him.

When a cunning person is doing things, he will meet if there is a good thing, and he will hide if there is a disadvantage, he doesn't like to suffer a little loss, he is very skillful in hiding, and there is always a proper reason to reject you. Cunning people are very deep in the city, and they will not easily tell the truth, but are used to pondering the minds of others, and they are very defensive.

Cunning people attach importance to interests and look at problems more realistically, and if they provoke this kind of person, the other party will watch people cook, and then choose what method to use to retaliate against you, this kind of person is better at disguise. There is no shortage of such people around, which is often referred to as snobs.

The scheming is very well hidden

He will hide his wealth and know how to "make a fortune in a muffled voice". When he earns more money, the more he likes to pretend to be poor, on the one hand, he borrows money from relatives and friends, on the other hand, he is afraid that others will be jealous of him, and most importantly, he is afraid that others will rob him of his way to make money and squeeze him out. Money is something outside the body, but without money, a person cannot live.

Making money is a person's necessary "work", and it is wise to reduce the pressure of making money and reduce the number of competitors who compete.

He will hide his "connections" and will not let others know that he relies on the power of **. For example, in the workplace, he met a noble person, so he got the opportunity to be promoted and raised. After he was promoted, he always emphasized that he relied on ability, not relationship.

He will not pull the nobleman into the water.

Cunning people tend to have these 4 characteristics! Like my friends, click "Follow" below, and write a comment below if you have any ideas! Friends who like my content can also **show your friends around you!

Let's learn from each other and make progress together! Thank! Thank you for having you!

How to communicate with people who like to quibble: if the aura is not harmonious, don't do too much**. Discussions can never be aimed at convincing others, but rather a process of learning from each other and understanding each other's thoughts.

If it is found that persuading the other party has become a tendency, the discussion can also be closed.

In real life, there are many people who always emphasize objective reasons and do not look for their own subjective reasons. They always refuse to admit their faults, try to justify themselves, and try to shift the blame to others.

Personality reasons:

The quibble is because of fear. It is likely that he will have to dilute his awareness that he has "made a mistake", dispel his guard, divert his attention, and move on to constructive problem analysis as soon as possible.

When I myself encounter such a situation (he hints at who is at fault), I immediately tell him on the spot: it doesn't matter anymore that the problem (who made the mistake), let's see what the problem is.

A more firm tone usually allows him to focus on the substance. This is actually the result of his inner hope: "Don't hold on to my braids".

Why do so many people like to justify themselves?

Is there something wrong with their IQ? No, people who are generally good at quibbling have no low IQ.

In fact, people who like to defend do not think that they are justifying, on the contrary, they think that they are right, and they are discussing issues sincerely and objectively.

This is crucial, and if they don't think they're wrong, there's no point in arguing with them and trying to convince them.

Their mental model has determined that it is impossible for them to recognize their own problems, and if they can recognize their problems, there is a possibility of change. ​

Question?

We thought they were weak, had low self-esteem, and wanted to cover up something.

In fact, the problem is the sense of value.

People who like to justify: the height of self-identity is insufficient, the sense of value is highly insufficient, they will not easily admit their mistakes, because once they admit their mistakes, they are admitting that they are fools, and their sense of value will be devalued. They will do everything in their power to defend their correctness.

This act of justification is spontaneous, subconscious, and not rationally thought. It is subconsciously that the sense of self-identification and value is insufficient.

On a conscious level, they genuinely think that they are fine.

Because of the lack of self-identity, it needs to be supplemented by external recognition. Even if it is an obvious mistake, it will subconsciously justify, that is, it cannot admit that it has a problem, and the consciousness level sincerely believes that it is okay.

Because this is the most basic human nature, it is the natural ability of self-defense, even if people have the courage to admit their mistakes, they will be very uncomfortable inside, which is a sense of self-protection.

If you admit your mistakes, you are a dangerous thing to yourself. It is difficult for ordinary people to do it if they have heard it.

People with a higher sense of self-worth have a much lower probability of justification. Because they have a high degree of self-recognition and a sense of self-worth, they don't need a large dose of external recognition to supplement. Be better at admitting mistakes and fixing them. If you smell it, you will be happy, and you will be good at self-blackening.

And the lower the sense of self-worth, the more you need external recognition to supplement, otherwise the lack of value is very uncomfortable, good at self-deception, subconscious justification, habitual justification, the more justification, the more you feel that you are right, and the mistake is ignored.

What about the real-world consequences?

People who like to argue are slower to progress.

Often not very flattering.

There will be more quarrels.

Why is it that some people have a sense of self-worth, while others have a lack of self-worth and like to justify how their behavior is formed?

When I was a child, I criticized and scolded a lot, and my self-confidence was insufficient, forming self-denial.

When he was a student, he was belittled by the students around him for a long time.

How to fix it? People who love to defend are subconscious problems formed in the early years, and it is generally difficult to change.

People who want to remind them in kindness will not work as well as they should.

Hypnosis, in the case of strong authority, may touch their hearts.

Excuses are subconscious issues that need to be changed on a subconscious level.

The meaning behind it is that it's hard to change.

It should start with the education of childhood.

The ratio of criticism to praise is maintained at 2:8

People live in social relations, joys, sorrows, and sorrows, all kinds of "feelings", which are the "feelings" of people "feeling" by external objects, it is a reflection of what is happening around them, and at the same time, it is also a form of expressing their feelings to the people around them, but the most important thing is the reflection of things in people's hearts. This reflection is based on the psychology of the individual, and it is used to express one's own feelings, so that the world will be rich. It is precisely because human beings are emotional animals that in human society, in this colorful and calamitous society, people are struggling, struggling, and smiling because they have a firm belief and an optimistic spirit.

is also to prove that he is alive, maybe the years will be like the wind blowing away the quicksand, and slowly nothing will be left, but at least he has a process and eternity. Thousands of people will leave their own messages in this nature. Let yourself sink in memory and let future generations touch.

In fact, joy and sorrow are relative, and how can we know joy without great compassion. The trajectory of life is the trajectory of joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness, and what is the meaning of life if you don't feel joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness? When our parents gave us life, they decided to let us feel the joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness of the world, so that we could live in the world for a while.

To live is to live! Coming to this world is a privilege given by nature, crossing and feeling the joys, sorrows and sorrows of the world. All kinds of profundity allow us to leave a faint message behind.

It can add a color to the world.

Everyone's lifestyle is different, doomed, and the way of doing things is different, so this is normal, in fact, the more justified, the more difficult it is to accept, because they don't know how to be honest.

This is a normal thing, like a person's shadow, which only appears in the case of light, just by much.

Some people are good at quibbling, which is caused by his character, such people are generally more selfish and want to get rid of responsibility through quibbles, so such people in daily life, we have to find a way to stay away from them!

A person is always reluctant to admit his mistakes, likes to find some reasons, and at the same time he is deceiving himself by quibbling. Give yourself a reason to escape, a reason to prove that you are right, and keep your mouth shut, even if you make a mistake, you won't admit it.

Because the characteristic of a person who is good at quibbling is that he is good at speaking, what is called quibbling, that is, turning over the past is his reason, which is called quibbling.

Why would such a person have such abilities? One is the genetic factor, which is born with a mouth that can speak well, and the second is that there are many things that I have learned and read a lot. has cultivated such a capable mouth.

However, no matter how much you quibble, it is useless in the face of facts, so it is better to keep your mouth shut, do things well, and start a business is the right way.

Since you can't talk to him, and he won't admit his mistake, then you don't have to go head-to-head with him, you just have to agree with what he says. Follow his train of thought, see people talk about people, and talk about ghosts. You know that you can't talk about others stupidly, (even if you can say it), you shouldn't have to fight with him for right and wrong, what if you win?

Not only such people, except for your very good friends, you don't have to fight with others for right and wrong, you have to fight for others, you have to fight for others, this is very annoying, okay? You know he's wrong, you warn him, and if they don't listen, don't continue. What's more, everyone has their own ideas, and you can't force others to agree with you.

When you encounter different ideas, think in your head, "There are still people who think like this", don't show it in language, you are not a good man, you have to fight with others about right and wrong.

Some people are good at quibbling because their logical thinking ability is relatively strong, so they are good at quibbling.

Because it's all someone else's fault, I'm always right, this kind of person doesn't care, no matter what the relationship is.

There are two cases:

1.Learned sexuality. In his past experience, the benefits of quibbling outweigh the losses from not quibbling, so this behavior is positively reinforced;

2.Habitual behavior. They have a perception that they should quibble when others criticize them, so quibbling is their usual way of dealing with criticism from others, and this behavior has not been punished enough, for example, the act of quibbling has never been criticized.

To be cunning, think about the undesirable consequences it can bring to you.

Ask yourself if you have an innate cunning (which you were born with) and if you don't, then put in a little effort.

Becoming cunning is not about hurting others or committing crimes, but about better self-protection, and the benefits (good side) are example: becoming cunning and not being easily stabbed in the back by friends or colleagues.

Be calm when you encounter something, calm down and calm down. Don't show your panic even if you panic. Don't show your joy in your heart.

It's hard to figure out what you're thinking, what you're aiming for, and how you're feeling. To put it simply, it's always disguised.

Finally, it is necessary to familiarize yourself with the thirty-six measures (super useful-

Read by heart. Envision a scenario for yourself, and what should be used. It's tiring to be cunning, think clearly and then change yourself.

Know what you're thinking. Isn't it a declaration that the world itself has become cunning in this way? In fact, it doesn't matter, the really cunning people will be flexible, not just by relying on the above points.

Hope it helps!