I always feel out of place with the people around me, how do I adjust myself?

In fact, there are many reasons why you are out of place, it may be caused by your own lack of self-confidence, in this case, you can selectively associate with someone who feels more gentle first, so that he can bring you into your circle. And some people are not suitable for the circle, which means that the people in this circle do not agree with themselves. If you forcibly join, you can only be cannon fodder at that time.

So, instead of forcing yourself to adapt, it's better to find the right circle. So the best way to regulate yourself is to choose the right circle and make yourself confident. Socializing becomes proactive, friendly, and naturally people will come to get close to you.

In fact, many people will have this feeling, the main reason is because it will be a little uncomfortable to enter a new circle. It will get better over time. When I first started working, I was very uncomfortable because I was used to the atmosphere of the school at school, and I would feel out of place when I suddenly stepped out of school and stepped into society.

I feel that the interaction and maintenance of interpersonal relationships are different from those at school. In order to guarantee that you will not be harmed. I'm in a state of talking less and doing more.

Of course. It was also this state of mine that allowed me to quickly integrate into the circle and be accepted by others. After slowly getting used to it, it will not be so out of place.

If you want to be able to blend in with the people and environment around you, no matter how big the waves and ups and downs in your heart, you don't show it, you have to hide it in your heart, because it's your own. In today's society, people are good at observing words and feelings, so you must learn to hide your emotions, don't make your joys, sorrows and sorrows the object of others' use, your emotions are stable, others' attitudes towards you will change, and over time, all kinds of negative factors in your heart are decreasing, so that you will soon bring yourself into the crowd and the environment.

Lack of self-confidence can make a person appear decadent, introverted, and give a sense of malaise overall. We must face ourselves, free ourselves from all the negative factors that suppress our spiritual level, have a mentality that there is nothing to do in life except death, look down on everything and things, be the most true self, don't care about anyone's vision, because people are born different, you can't have the shadow of others, you can't live in the eyes of others, everything goes with the flow and faces everything calmly, you are the best, you should have your own personality and opinions.

Lack of confidence, if this is the case, then we should maintain a positive attitude, dare to communicate with others, and contact with others through this little by little to enhance our self-confidence, so in this case we should be bold and brave to speak out.

I have experienced some things, or been hurt by some people, and left psychological trauma, and then I am afraid to communicate with others, because those traumas are deeply imprinted in my mind, I think this situation is more pitiful and difficult to solve, I can only slowly forget those shadows through time, and walk out bravely, this can only rely on my own willpower, and rely on myself to overcome this hurdle.

Think more empathy, try to share with others, suffering losses are blessings, pay more, but don't suffer dark losses, good people will have good rewards, and friends will increase.

Take a look at where you're and decide if you're obligated to change the atmosphere. If there is no value or you can't change the atmosphere, then save snacks and follow the big trend.

It's good that you have your own ideas, and you don't have to agree with them. Communicate more with people who are consistent with your three views, your ideological realm will continue to improve, the world you know will become more and more beautiful, the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds, just manage yourself, it is used to regulate and restrain yourself, and it is also used to judge the rights and wrongs of people and things. But we are just ordinary people, and we cannot control many things, nor can we impose our will and thoughts on others and demand others.

<> everything can be done in moderation, and what you call the three views are too positive, which is likely to be extreme, or extreme left, or extreme right. These are not the normal and correct three views. The scope of "three views of righteousness and injustice", even men with "three views of incorrectness" will not be able to tolerate this family concept and his own concept.

People who are really "capable" are often (really not) not social, and the reason is very realistic, don't understand. If people disrespect me, I am not talented; I am not respectful, I am not virtuous; If people do not tolerate me, it is because I am incompetent; I do not tolerate anyone, I am immeasurable; If people don't help me, it's me who don't do anything; I don't help anyone, I don't do good.

Getting along with people is not as you said, the three views are too positive, it is the problem of their own personality, stubbornness, meanness, paranoia, and it is also a manifestation of psychological pathology. There is a good saying, "Laughing at the poor does not laugh at prostitutes". Your three views are very good and correct, and I hope to stick to them all the time and not follow the crowd.

Everyone has their own choices, and we have no right to interfere with other people's choices.

Finally, here I borrowed a slogan of "not forgetting the original intention and keeping the mission in mind", and changed it to: "Do not forget the original intention, keep the bottom line, and do your best", I believe that such a "self" should still have many bosom friends, definitely. And not just positive.

The world is colorful, human nature is colorful, and thoughts are infinite. Imprisoning thoughts is terrible. Society is developing, everything is the same, and the three views of hundreds of years ago cannot be used to measure the people of the present.

Personally, I think that when this situation occurs, first of all, we must open the door of our hearts, not only immerse ourselves in our own world, but also learn to communicate with others, communicate with others more, take the initiative to integrate ourselves into the surrounding circle, and at the same time change our mentality, appropriately change our personality, and not be too introverted.

In such a situation, I think you should learn how to communicate and communicate with others, and you should also talk to the people around you, and you should also expand your social circle, and you should also improve your presentation and interpersonal skills.

First of all, you have to correct your own mentality, let you integrate with the people around you, you can also talk slowly with the people around you for a while, and you can also slowly get to know everyone.

You can change yourself to make yourself more similar to the people around you, so that you can fit into their circle.