At what point do you feel that today s college students are becoming more and more selfish and utili

Yes, I'm a freshman student, mediocre looking, not tall, not the kind of young people who play the trend, I find that good-looking people and bad-looking people don't have much intersection, even more so when it comes to falling in love, good-looking people are selfish, especially treat people who don't look good, and people who don't look good are also selfish, such as me, I'm very jealous of those who study well and have good looks, I always work hard, work out quietly, study quietly, always hope that I become good-looking, study well, Find all kinds of ways to make yourself stand out, this is actually not called utilitarian, I was not talented, and if I don't work hard, it will really be wasted, so utilitarianism is not wrong at all.

There are indeed many selfish people who treat their relatives with hatred, one is that they are not well cultivated, do not understand things, have no love, are not sensible, and do not know the importance of maintaining the overall harmony of the family. The second is immaturity, indicating that the intelligence is low enough to understand the importance of family affection, and the emotional intelligence is too low, resulting in unwillingness to be grateful to the family.

The current society is a market society, an economic society, and the utilitarian atmosphere of the whole society is very heavy. In fact, the pursuit of profit is not at fault in economic activities, and it is even very reasonable. Because in economic activities, we pursue a kind of "rational thinking", that is, to spend less to obtain the maximum benefit.

But unfortunately, this kind of thinking has now expanded from economic activities to all aspects of life, and it is constantly mutating and developing, and has produced many bad effects.

Selfishness is common to everyone, and it's normal, but it's bad because many people don't know that they're selfish. When you feel that you are selfish, you are actually starting to be unselfish.

I remember someone saying that today's education produces a group of refined egoists. Everyone has something to some extent. I feel that the spirit of collectivism and cohesion is really not strong.

Selfishness and selflessness are both part of human nature, and they have been the same from ancient times to the present, but they are perceived more and more!

Throughout the ages, there are a few people who can regard fame and fortune as clouds of the past, and a few people yearn for the life of idle clouds and wild cranes.

What moment? You should ask which moment do you not feel like a college student now....

As long as you don't want to give it to others, it's your right, not your obligation, so you can give it if you want to, and don't give it if you don't give it, it's not selfishness, but your own will. First of all, your current state of mind is very normal, after all, the notes you worked hard to organize are finally lost to others, and you must feel uncomfortable. Secondly, they don't usually study, and you must not feel comfortable with your notes at the end of the semester but you may get the same good grades as you.

Well, when they lend you notes, you have two options. First, lend them and learn to share, you may feel unfair and agitated, but it will be helpful to your thoughts when you do things in the future, and you will not have this kind of psychological imbalance thoughts, lending them notes does not harm your personal interests, right, you can still borrow it. Second, refuse directly, don't find some weird reasons because you don't want to borrow, if I ask you to borrow, and you twist and pinch there, I will definitely think "If you want to borrow, you can borrow, if you don't borrow, forget it, why is it so inky."

So, say no if you want to, and don't let the relationship deteriorate further. The notes are organized by you, which means that you must have studied carefully and summarized them, so you lend them the notes, and they will ask you for advice about what they don't understand, and you can also tell them the knowledge points, as we all know, teaching others is the best way to learn, so you have consolidated the knowledge you have learned, which is not a good thing. I usually get the information or review questions of a certain subject, I will send it to my roommate as soon as possible, for this reason we have created two groups in the dormitory, one is a chat group, and the other is a notification group, which is used to send information or notifications, not to chat, so I send the information to the dormitory notification group every time, and my roommates are also happy to share the information and notes to this group, and everyone learns and uses it together.

To put it bluntly, the benefits are mutual, and you are uncomfortable because you help others, and you don't get any benefits. When encountering this situation, shouldn't you start to change it, instead of feeling uncomfortable and sulking

In fact, there is only one answer to this kind of question, don't go to extremes.

College students should not be utilitarian and not go to extremes. It is necessary to have a utilitarian heart, but the utilitarian heart cannot be too heavy.

After all, we live in a society, a person is too utilitarian, everything is based on interests, you will be very lonely. Because the people around you are not stupid, you are utilitarian in everything, and everyone will avoid you. It is impossible for people to do everything smoothly, if you are usually "utilitarian" to others, people will also use utilitarianism to you.

If something happens to you, no one will help you.

We live in a society, and we can't do everything by ourselves, we need to cooperate with others. Utilitarianism is too heavy, you have no friends, you are in college for four years, you will not be happy.

It's not enough to be a complete Buddha, you have to fight.

There are some resources in college that you can fight for and that will help you grow. At this time, you have to be utilitarian, you have to fight. However, the means of "fighting" should be above board.

It's good that you put your own conditions out. The process of "fighting" for manuscript fluid is actually part of learning. Learn to compete, and when you leave the university campus and go out into society, you still have to compete with other people.

Only competition will lead to progress.

It's good to have competition, but don't go to extremes and have a degree in everything. Some things, especially where you are strong, sometimes allow others to give the weak some opportunities, and you will build your prestige because of this, and you will get the opportunity to become a leader in your classmates.

Fight or let's go, this thing is very metaphysical.

I don't think it's too deliberate.

My own child went to college, and when it came to getting along with his classmates, I gave him four words, "Be honest with people." After all, college classmates are not shopping malls, you have to fight to the death, many things in college are hard indicators, such as academic performance. I have good grades, and I can't compete for a scholarship.

Rely on academic performance to compete, and no one will say that you are bad.

As for the student union, I think you should try to do a good job to make Jingchun. When employing people in schools, we must first consider ability. The school leaders are not comfortable with the person who can play tricks but can't do the work, and he has to make achievements and show them to his superiors.

If you do student work in a university, you just have to do it well, even if you don't get appreciated, you can also cultivate your ability to do things by doing your work. There's really no need to spend a lot of effort trying to compete for a cadre or position.

Finally, let's sum up, there must be a utilitarian heart, but there must be a degree.

I don't agree or disagree, but I try to generate neutral, reasonable answers.

It is normal for college students to be utilitarian, and it reflects people's need to pursue self-realization and growth. However, we need to realize that utilitarianism should not be the main pursuit of Zheng Shengfang college students, but should focus on learning and growing. We should encourage college students to use utilitarianism for meaningful things, such as learning, exploring, and developing their own interests and hobbies, so as to realize self-worth and growth.

At the same time, we must also guide college students to take a correct view of utilitarianism. Utilitarianism should not be the only goal they pursue, but should focus on the pursuit of self-fulfillment and growth. We should help college students realize that success and happiness are not just due to utilitarianism, but to hard work and dedication.

In short, it is normal for college students to have utilitarianism, and we need to guide them to correctly view and use utilitarianism to realize self-worth and growth.

This has a certain relationship with their family education and the social environment in which they live.

Nowadays, the vast majority of college students are only children, and the common problem of only children is selfishness. Because there is only one child in each family, parents give almost all their love to their children. However, China's family education does not have a particularly formal kind of learning and training, so parents use their own methods to educate their children according to their own emotions.

Many parents are worried that their children will suffer losses in the future, and the word "blessing" is very silly in their eyes. So they seldom teach their children to share, because when they do, they don't have anything to do. This is completely different from a non-one-child family, where parents always want their children to share things with each other and be humble to each other, because they are a family.

When facing outsiders, parents rarely ask their children to share their own things, at most they are bartering, and everyone's toys and other things are exchanged for play. This kind of education method will teach children to be selfish from an early age, and will only blindly ask for "taking advantage", rather than choosing to share what they have.

Therefore, we can often see young people on the bus turning a blind eye to the elderly, weak, sick, disabled and pregnant, seeing them watching the injured people at the scene of the accident, and seeing them making insulting remarks or even fighting in public to grab something, which is a manifestation of the lack of family education.

Therefore, when they go to college, they will not get along well with their dormitory classmates because they will not be willing to sacrifice their own interests for the benefit of others. When they encounter what they want, they take all kinds of tricks, resulting in no real friends around them, of course, they can't be blamed alone, their parents themselves have an unshirkable responsibility.