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What is the reason for the child's isolation? Depending on the cause, take a targeted approach. There are three reasons for this:

The child's own problems. For example, children love to hit others, are restless, very self-egoed, and so on. If this is the case, the child needs to make changes and be part of the group.

Some members of the team deliberately isolated him. If this is the case, it is necessary to find out the initiator, communicate with him well, and solve the problem. When the problem is solved, it is natural that it will not be isolated.

It doesn't matter if you can't solve it, it's just isolated by a few people. This is the norm, just get used to it.

Problems with the overall environment. The environment is not very friendly, and the child is not compatible with it. No matter what, you can't fit in, and objectively you are isolated. In this case, it's best to change the environment.

Sometimes, the three causes are cause and effect of each other. In this case, parents need to analyze carefully, make judgments, and solve them.

First of all, we must look at the environment we are in, analyze the elements needed to integrate into the environment, and if the environment itself is problematic, then it is necessary to change the environment.

Listen to your child's perspective on the current situation, and if he feels unwell, he can study in a different place. Isolation has a great impact on a child's state and psychology.

Communicate more with your child, open your heart to your child as a friend, explore your child's strengths, cultivate your child's interests and hobbies, let your child shift his attention to what he likes, and teach him to complete one thing independently. Parents should spend as much time as possible with their children. Wouldn't it be better for the child to move from isolation to independence?

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1. Encourage your child

When the child is isolated, parents should not blame the child, but should patiently encourage the child, give the child time to make changes, and let the child face such things positively.

2. Teach children social skills.

A large part of the reason why children are isolated is that they do not know how to express themselves correctly and do not know how to communicate with others, and parents can take the opportunity to teach their children social skills.

3. Cultivate children's interests and hobbies.

When children meet common interests and hobbies, they will be more willing to communicate, and children with hobbies will be more confident.

In one survey, 5 to 6 percent of children were found to have been isolated in a group, meaning that unsociable or isolated children are common interpersonal problems.

Parents should not ignore the fact that their children are isolated at school, this matter can be big or small, or at worst, it is "cold violence", which is very harmful to children!

1. It will make children feel inferior.

When children are isolated for a long time, they will think that they have been abandoned, think that they are different, they will begin to deny themselves, and then they will have an inferiority complex, which will affect the child's life.

2. Withdrawn personality.

When a child is isolated, if this problem is not solved, it will continue to be isolated, and then there will be a vicious circle, and in the long run, it will form a withdrawn personality, and finally it will not be willing to communicate with the outside world and do not like to contact new things.

3. Cognition of interpersonal communication.

When children are isolated, they will have negative emotions, think that interpersonal communication is a very complicated thing, and even begin to reject interpersonal communication, and only want to live in their own world.

I found that my best friends were speaking ill of me behind my back and forming small groups to isolate me.

I was so sad when I found out.

I didn't find out by accident, I also felt that she didn't have a very good attitude towards me in those two days, because her mood usually changes frequently, so I didn't think she was just in a bad mood and didn't think too much.

Then I found out that she was building a group behind her back, and then I was seen saying bad things about me.

I didn't know what I was doing wrong at first, and then I talked to my classmates who were playing well with them and asked me what I was doing wrong.

They meant to think that I had said bad things about them, but that was not what I said, and there were people who were present to prove that I didn't say that, that it was someone else who said it at the time.

They said they knew, saying that it was a misunderstanding, but they didn't apologize to me and said that this matter would be left at that, but the bad words about me in that group continued.

I felt very sad at the time, because I apologized to them for this, saying that I really regarded them as friends, I wouldn't say that kind of thing, and my best friend didn't believe me, but trusted others.

I didn't accept this fact for a while, and I didn't know how to face them again when this happened.

Then, a few days later, my classmates told me that they thought that if I didn't talk to them, I didn't plan to continue to be friends with them.

At that time, I really didn't know how to get along anymore and wanted to take my time.

But this time they just isolated me.

Then some of them wanted me to be reconciled with them, and said a lot to me, and avoided speaking ill of me.

They didn't like what I did when I was playing with them, they thought I was a bad person, and they said some words with insulting language, which made me very sad, and I didn't expect that such a good friend would say such things to me.

Now I don't know how to get along anymore.

School is a small society that every child will experience, and it is also a place of collective life, where children can learn a lot of knowledge, including how to properly interact with classmates, but before that, in order to prevent children from being isolated and bullied at school, parents must let their children have a good character, so that their children's social skills can be improved, to strengthen their hearts, and know how to improve their own abilities.

Colleges are areas where a child is trained to see if he or she has excellent communication skills.

Many children can quickly mingle with their classmates after entering the college, but some children become more and more timid after entering the college because of their more introverted temperament. I don't know how to get along with others properly, and if such a child doesn't open himself, it is very easy to be independent by others, even if he wants to add to the group, but because of his own lack of courage, the person who is afraid of illness is not willing to accept himself to add, and gradually he will become more and more timid, and other children will be independent.

Parents should give their children more support.

When parents notice that their children come home after school, often depressed, cold and lonely, at this time can not reprimand or even suppress the child, but to understand the child, pay attention to the child, to determine whether the child is bullied or cold in the school, must give more assistance to the child, is to motivate the child, so that the child understands that the parent is the strongest backing for many people, parents will give you a lot of sense of belonging, otherwise you will have no sense of security, and even more and more willing to degenerate.

When parents find that their children have problems, they must immediately contact the teachers to communicate with them, first grasp the situation in the child's school, and carry out correct guidance on the child's own problems. In order to better prevent their children from being bullied and isolated in school, parents must first understand that they can solve the difficulties by observing their children and their good friends and growing up to be oppressed by their children.

At the same time, when the child is isolated, parents also need to give the child a lot of sense of belonging and communicate effectively with the child, so that the child can become more and more self-confident, cheerful and gradually the child will slowly join the group and get along with more and more good friends.

Find a circle as a breakthrough point and slowly integrate into it, ...... game circle, playing circle, reading circle, and gossip circle

1. Help children release their emotions.

Acknowledging that you have been rejected is a painful thing. We can encourage them to speak up with open-ended questions. If your child is silent, don't rush him too hard. It can say, "You can talk to me whenever you want."

2. Don't use rhetoric to comfort your child, we usually use negative others to divert children's emotions after they are rejected.

3. Divert your child's anxiety. Let the child regret the possible explanation for being rejected by a friend, instead of thinking: "How bad am I" or "I am really not popular."

4. Emphasize your child's efforts.

If a child is rejected, it is because they have not met a goal, for example, because the child has broken his promise, so other children are unwilling to play with him. Don't rush to find out what your child might be doing wrong, but acknowledge his or her efforts.

From the moment a child enters kindergarten, he or she officially starts his social life. But some children are isolated for some reason, what can families do when this happens?

1. Usually some children are isolated, which will cause the child to feel unhappy in the group, in the normal parent-child relationship, the child will definitely confide in the parents, at this time parents should not come up to label the child: not because you are introverted, not because you are not social......Other kids don't play with you. Rather, it is about acknowledging and accepting the child's sad feelings, which is the embodiment of "empathy".

At the same time, the family should firmly let the child realize that Mom and Dad will definitely help you get out of the predicament.

2. The child's isolation may be a problem in some way, so find the root of the matter and try to help him. The reason why the child is isolated is also because he shows something different from ordinary people, so the child's isolation is not all the fault of others, the child itself also has some reasons, at this time the family should find the child's defects, so as to help the child correct.

3. Family members should be properly guided. It is advisable not to hit the child in daily life and not to put pressure on the child. If you hit the child for a long time or cause psychological pressure to the child, it is easy to cause the child to have some withdrawn disorder or introverted personality.

In terms of educating children, parents should guide their children from these aspects, rather than attacking them.