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If your family thinks that the banquet is very important, then, if so, are you two co-organizing? If so, then your family should also pay for it, right? And if your boyfriend's family is really tight now, and your family conditions are good, it can also be that you pay more money and the man pays less, and the banquet is simple.
Others, if they can be simple, try to keep them as simple as possible. As for the gift money, if your family conditions are good and the man's economic conditions are tight, you can also give less and a little heart. When you have money in the future, you can give your parents more living expenses.
You might as well talk to your parents about it, and see how. It's not good, you can discuss it again. But in the end, it is hoped that the decision can be made with the unanimous consent of both parents.
Otherwise, if your family wants to do this, and the man wants to do that, it will end up making the relationship between the two parties not good, and you will also feel in a dilemma. After all, both of you are your parents.
Also, when inviting guests, if there are people who are invited, it is okay, and if you don't invite them, there is no big problem, so please ask for less. In this way, the banquet money can also be used less. Of course, it would be best if you could invite them all.
However, if you are going to suffer from a financial depression after you get married, then you will have to discuss it in detail. Because when the time comes, if you want to give birth to a BB, you will have to use a lot of money. Basically, after most people get married and have children, they say, "Since they have children, they feel that this person's money is not money at all, because they need money for everything."
Also, I think if you register first, you can postpone the banquet. This does not mean that the man is afraid that he will not be willing to put it after he gets married, there is no reason for this. It's all up to how you all communicate.
I think of course your boyfriend wants to give you a wedding that will last a lifetime. But the problem is that he really doesn't have the financial capacity at the moment. And you, as his lover and his other half, should you also try to consider the problem from his standpoint?
Sometimes boys and girls are different, girls tend to be more interested in beautiful things, like romantic things; But the boy thinks that everything is better to be realistic, because they will have an extra responsibility when they get married: that is, to support their own wife.
So, I think in the end, you have to discuss it and make another decision. Do you want to put it now? Or register first, wait for more than a year, make some money first, and then put it when you have money?
Anyway, I still think that this matter must be agreed by both of your parents, so that it is okay.
Finally, I bless you all! Also, I forgot to mention that my boyfriend and I are also planning to get married this year.
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It's not important to see yourself, I also got married in August this year, and I didn't hold a banquet, it's not that I don't pay attention to it, and I don't want to, because I'm working in the field, if there are conditions, who doesn't want to, however, we said that we will go home for the New Year, although we are also very poor, and we don't even have a house, but, if there are no conditions, I think, it doesn't have to be grand, but, it still has to be done, after all, for women, just once in their lives, how can they let themselves leave their illusions, You have to tell your boyfriend what you think, and I think he can support your idea if he really loves you.
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Personally, I think that if I have a lot of money, I can have a big wedding, but if the economy doesn't allow, I can also accept a simple wedding ceremony. Because large-scale weddings often cost people and money, in addition to the glory of face, there is not much benefit.
Happiness comes from feeling in the heart, not for others to see. If I really love him and are a good fit, that's enough, nothing else matters.
This is my sincere words and I hope it helps you.
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It's definitely important. People only once in a lifetime, if you just get a license, don't hold a banquet, don't prove that you are husband and wife in front of your relatives, only your family knows, and others don't know, will your heart be balanced? Your parents also said that just a simple banquet is fine, and you also said that it is not to the point that you can't afford to do, if he insists on not doing it, you can consider delaying the wedding, no man will say to his woman that there is no money for a wedding.
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I believe you and your family are very bored: how to say that the woman's family also wants their daughter to have an official wedding, and the wedding is also a good memory....
But the man is also in a predicament now, maybe the man can't understand your feelings.
I have a suggestion: if you don't have a banquet, you can go and take a set of wedding photos, and then buy some candy and go to your relatives' house to tell them that you are in a hurry to "travel and get married".
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What your boyfriend said is right, the important thing is the relationship between the two of you, the banquet is not the banquet is secondary, and your parents don't have any opinions, where do you come from, so many thoughts.
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Then you insist on looking at it again, and you must stand on the same front with your parents at this time.
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There are many advantages to living in the woman's house after marriage, for the man first of all, he can save money without buying a house, and the money saved can be used for other things. And the woman's parents will cook for you and take care of the children for you, so that you and your husband and wife can work with peace of mind. The disadvantage is that the man may have a sense of humility, and he feels that there is no face in living in the woman's house, and there may be a generation gap with the elderly.
What are the pros and cons of living in the woman's house after marriage?
First, the advantages are:
Usually I am very busy at work, and I live in the woman's house and have my parents cooking, which can solve the problem of food and clothing. You just need to work with peace of mind, you don't have to go grocery shopping after work every day, think about what to buy every day, and don't have to worry about firewood, rice, oil and salt. When you are sick, even if your wife is busy with work and is not at home, don't worry, there will be the woman's parents to take care of you.
When you have children, the woman's parents will help you take care of the children, so that you will feel more comfortable going to work. Parents don't need to run a long way on their birthdays, just go home on time, major festivals don't need to run on both sides (mother's house, Yuan's mother-in-law's house), it is convenient to take care of the elderly with their parents, and there should be more guests (relatives, juniors), and the home is lively. The elderly are generally more frugal, and living with your parents believes that you will also be infected by this spirit of frugality and can save some unnecessary expenses.
Second, the disadvantages are:
If the food is not delicious, or if you have eaten enough, you are embarrassed to talk about it, and you can only be a ninja. You have to go home on time every day, otherwise the old man may nag. When you quarrel, it will be more embarrassing and sensitive, because the woman's parents are together, and the impression of you may be greatly reduced.
You can't sleep lazy, because the elderly usually prepare breakfast for you very early, and they will definitely ask you to get up and bring the New Year's branches to eat breakfast, and the possibility of wanting to sleep lazy is very low. Trying to discipline children harshly may be discouraged by the elderly, who tend to spoil their children.
There are advantages and disadvantages to living in the woman's house after marriage, everything will have its two sides, in general, there will be a generation gap when living with the elderly, it is recommended to live separately It is better to live closer, such as parents living next door or upstairs and downstairs are also more convenient.
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For girls, the benefits must be greater than the disadvantages of Min Bi, and they will feel very comfortable in their own homes, and they will not feel uncomfortable, and they will not have any mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems. It should be said that it is not good to have no bridge, but for men, they may need to work a lot in order to leave a good impression on the woman's parents. Let's always look at the color of your eyes.
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Objectively speaking, the premise must be that the newcomer himself agrees to do this, and the parents of both families also know and the former veteran agrees. If these prerequisites have been met, then you don't need to care what other people say or think, as long as you feel good, then it is really good. If you want to say something bad, it may be that the man is more thoughtful and tired, he may feel that he has a sense of humility, and he feels that he has lost face by living in the woman's house, and he may have a generation gap with the elders of the wife's family when he tells another man to be in his wife's house.
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No. 1. If you can go to the woman's parents' house during the big festival, try to go, after all, Chinese generally pay attention to family reunion.
2. The general small festival depends on your own planning, such as gathering with your friends.
3. If you often go to the woman's parents' house during the holidays, then you might as well go to the man's parents' house for the next holiday.
4. You can also spend the holiday with two young couples in a two-person world.
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It is a ritual to visit the mother-in-law during the New Year, which is to show the filial piety of the daughter and son-in-law to the elders, and they should go.
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What kind of festival is this, festivals like the Spring Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, Mother's Day are a must, unless you don't have elders in your eyes! If you are busy with other festivals, you can not go! Finally, I would like to remind you that whether it is a holiday or not, you should go back to visit when you have time, it is the duty of a child.
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No, according to Han tradition, the traditional festival of a married woman must be celebrated at her mother-in-law's house, on the contrary, spending it at her mother's house means that something bad has happened. The Spring Festival and her husband go back to their parents' house to visit the nature of New Year's visits, and the Mid-Autumn Festival is also a day or two in advance to buy some moon cakes and gifts to send to their parents' house, and then rush back to their mother-in-law's house to worship God for the festival.
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According to local customs and habits, you have to go if you have time, otherwise others will say that you are not reasonable.
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You must go to the New Year, and you have to see the festivals of the Mid-Autumn Festival, which is the minimum etiquette.
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Isn't this how it should be, but if it's close, we can live together.
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Well, I take my husband back every time I celebrate the holidays, so it's like this.
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Now it is a society of equality between men and women, and both families are important, and everyone who comes is a guest.
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It is common practice to consider the family conditions of both parties when getting married, and family background and economic conditions are considered to be one of the important factors in marriage. However, this is not to say that family conditions are the only factor that determines the success of a marriage.
Considering the family conditions of both parties can involve many aspects, such as financial status, family values, educational background, etc. This is to ensure that both parties have similar life expectations, values, and financial support in the marriage to reduce potential conflict and disharmony.
However, family conditions are not the only measure of a person's worthiness and happiness. The success of a marriage also depends on mutual understanding, respect, communication and support from both spouses. The personal character, emotional connection, and shared goals of both parties are also crucial factors.
Most importantly, marriage is based on love, mutual support, and mutual development. The two sides should care, respect and support each other, and work together to resolve difficulties and face challenges. Family conditions can provide some economic and social support, but it is not a decisive factor in marital happiness.
Everyone may place different importance on family conditions, so you need to weigh your own values and priorities when making decisions with a bad bench. The most important thing is to choose a partner with whom you understand each other, support each other, and develop together to run a healthy, stable, and happy marriage.
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Marriage is a matter of two people, but considering the woman's family is also an important part, because Qi changed to marriage is not only the feelings of two people, but also involves the integration and mutual respect of both families. If you don't consider the woman's family, it may lead to some problems and conflicts in the marital relationship.
Consideration of the woman's family is mainly reflected in the following aspects:
1.Social activities: There may be some important family gatherings or events in the woman's family that are important to the woman's family.
If you are able to understand and actively participate in these activities, it will help to strengthen the relationship between you and the woman's family, and it will also make you more acceptable to the woman's family.
2.Wedding planning: Weddings are usually the main business of the woman's family, so you need to understand and respect the decisions and choices made by the woman's family in preparing for the wedding, including the date, venue, range of banquets, traditional ceremonies, etc.
When it comes to wedding planning, coordination and communication with the woman's family is very important.
3.Family life: After getting married, you will live with the woman's family, so you should respect their living habits and rules, avoid conflicts with them, and pay special attention to family relationship issues, such as daily division of labor, financial management, family culture, etc.
In short, taking into account the opinions and habits of the woman's family makes it easier to promote family harmony and build a more loving family.
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Hello, in traditional Chinese culture, marriage is not just a matter between two brothers, but between a family. Therefore, the woman's family plays an important role in marriage, especially in some more traditional families, the woman's main task is to marry and have children, so the woman's family background, family conditions, family status, etc. are all factors that need to be considered when getting married. At the same time, marriage is not only a matter between two people, but also involves the families and societies of both parties.
If a spouse's family conditions are better, it will also bring many benefits to the marriage, such as reducing the pressure of life financially, making it easier to live comfortably and happily. However, in the end, it is the two people who choose to get married, and they need to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision on their own.
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