What is it like to be scolded? What should I do if I am scolded?

If you are scolded, you will first feel very embarrassed, because when you say some of your thoughts and opinions, you will feel that others will agree with you before you say it, but what you didn't expect is that others are actually treating you, and you will feel a little lost in your heart, and you are very embarrassed.

I think that being scolded by others is really a very helpless, very speechless experience, because I will feel why to chase me, and I haven't done anything wrong, why slap me, generally laugh at me if I am scolded, then I will also go back, because I think there is no other reason, that is, I am very unhappy in my own heart, if I do wrong, then you have no problem with me, I have little family, but if you have something to do with me, then you are really indebted.

It should be like eating a fly, don't go back, be unhappy, go back and feel afraid of hurting your feelings. However, let's go back, after all, someone often scolds you, which means that it doesn't care about your feelings. There is also a saying:

A guy is trying to get your attention because he likes you. Wrong, people who like you will hold you and will not scare you.

I think being scolded is a particularly helpless thing, sometimes it is also a way of emotional communication, my friend likes to scold me, but when he scolds me, I will also scold him, sometimes the mutual scolding between us has become a way of our daily conversation.

Hello, when encountering such a thing, first of all, we must figure out the reasons and analyze the specific situation.

No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you. In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided.

The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract. There's a way to go back. The basic logic is to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "difficult opinions".

Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts". To put it bluntly, it's called buttoning hats. If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness and immaturity, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me.

At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are.

In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it. When responding to the other person, you should be careful about your words and actions, "personal attacks", "discrimination", and "name-calling" are unacceptable, and they will also put yourself in a disadvantageous position, and there is no room for change. So don't say anything as soon as you are emotional, be caught by the other party, and kill the stove clan with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you. In short, "control the hidden ruler and control the emotions, don't go up." ”

I wish you all the best in your work and good relationships with your colleagues.

I like to scare people only because I am too dissatisfied with that person, so I will go to him.

My favorite person to scold is my husband, because he is sometimes too unreasonable, no matter who he is, he is arrogant and unreasonable, which makes me look really unpleasant, so I always scold him.

When facing his parents, he always has no patience at all, and he will always count down his parents for this and that. Every time his mother is taking care of my son, he will always find fault with her, especially when the child is sick, he will be angry with his mother, I think he is too unreasonable to do this, others have helped him take the child, he also went to lose his temper with her, thinking that she was not good at it, he is not qualified to do this, right? It wasn't her job to help him with the kids.

And it's normal for a child to get sick, no one is born without getting sick, if the child is sick and angry with his mother, I think it's quite unreasonable, so whenever he loses his temper with his mother, I will scold him, so that he is speechless.

When he gets along with me, he is always very self-conscious, sometimes I want to go to work, but he doesn't let me go to work, which makes me feel very annoyed, is the whole family all dependent on him? He also doesn't have the ability to make the family live without worrying about food and clothing, so why bother in this case? But he just didn't listen, every time I said I wanted to go to work, he was very annoyed, and even angry, I don't think he really needs to do this, because I just want to reduce some of the burden for my family, and I don't want to stay at home all day and become a yellow-faced woman.

He didn't let me go to work like this, and in the eyes of others, he thought he felt sorry for me, but in my eyes, he didn't really feel sorry for me at all. That's why I always scold him. Because he's just so weird, so incredible.

When getting along with children, he always depends on the child for everything, the child says that he wants money, he will give him money, and if the child wants to play, let him play enough. However, the child should be made to understand that everything that can be given will be given to her, but not too much, because to know how to stop in moderation, can not rely on him for everything, he wants to give him, he does not want to give it to him, this is not the best way to educate a child, so it becomes doting, doting will eventually harm him. But every time he clings to the child for everything, I will be very annoyed and will often scold him, because for me, the child was born by me, how to educate myself to understand that I don't need him to make trouble like this, he will not be good for the child like this.

To educate the child from an early age, don't let him develop the bad habit of pampering and worrying from an early age, then he will not be better when he grows up.

It's not that I like my husband, but he sometimes does things and talks too poorly. Every time I listen to him, I feel very annoyed and unreasonable, which makes me feel very uncomfortable. Therefore, I can't help but scold him.

Because I am a reasonable person, I don't want him to continue to be so ruthless and unreasonable, which will hurt both his family and himself.

Finally, in fact, don't feel that people who are scaring are not kind, my friends like scaring people very much, because scaring people can sometimes bring up a certain atmosphere, can make the other party relax and laugh happily, but she is also very kind, and she will often help others in her daily life. Therefore, scolding people is just a communication technique, many people like to use this way to shorten the distance between people, like scolding people is also addictive, after a long time, it will form a habit, and we can't say that this habit is good but it can't be said to be bad, such a habit will bloom different sparks in different people, do you like scare?

Pick a head first, mock others, and then be scolded by others, slap back, and never get tired of it!

For the sake of fun, life needs some fun.