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If you can't bear it, you don't need to endure it. When you encounter a mom boy in marriage, you have to learn to analyze specific problems in detail. If his behavior does not violate the bottom line of marriage and does not infringe on your personal interests and dignity, then you can choose to endure it.
As the saying goes, if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan. If you find that your husband's behavior has seriously violated your personal safety and dignity, and even caused serious distress to your personal life, then you naturally do not need to endure it again and again, at this time, it is better to choose divorce decisively. Ma Bao Nan's personality is that everything is centered on his mother, and he can't change it for a while.
As the saying goes, the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. If you really can't stand Ma Baonan's temper and strange behavior, then you choose to divorce and get rid as soon as possible. There is no need to let yourself be trapped in a sea of boundless suffering, and let yourself be compromised and exhausted.
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Do a good job in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and unite with mother-in-law. Since your husband listens to his mother so much, then you must learn to reconcile with his mother, who is your mother-in-law. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is handled well, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, then your husband will naturally not be too presumptuous in front of you.
When encountering problems in marriage, you must first win over your mother-in-law and unite with your mother-in-law. Sometimes, when you are not very good at negotiating a problem, you convince your mother-in-law to do your husband's ideological work. In this way, Ma Bao Nan naturally didn't dare to make a mistake.
Therefore, if you want to continue this marriage, then you must learn to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law and treat your mother-in-law as a sister. Compare your heart to your heart, and everything will be solved.
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A reasonable and sensible mother will not firmly tie her son to the waistband of her trousers, she will hope that her son will stand up to the sky, go out to see the world more, and chase after the right girl. And a relatively short-sighted mother, there is only a husband and son in the world, and the son is "the best in the world", "some other women are bad, looking at my son's money, real estate, appearance, etc." Such a mother will continue to be caught in your love and will be caught in your marriage in the future.
At that time, you will find that you are quite familiar with this city and very unfamiliar with the lover in front of you, believe me, there are many good men, there are many men like men, if you can't change the person around you, just change the person quickly.
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Continue to put pressure on him to reflect, boys usually don't take the initiative to get out of their comfort zone, they don't take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and Ma Bao Nan is even more. In the face of Ma Bao Nan, because he grew up in a greenhouse, we need to pay attention to let him take the initiative to reflect on himself, not forced, let him realize the seriousness of the problem, and avoid soft-heartedness.
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Snub him and let him feel your anger points, smart girls will have many ways to deal with such guys. Pretend to be angry, and you express your anger at his behavior of looking for his mother for everything. When necessary, snub him, let him understand your importance, let him know that he is wrong.
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Try to face the situation. And trying to change, it will definitely take time, but this thing must be done, if you don't change, then you are likely to face the embarrassing situation of being blamed for your age. Don't think it's pretty?
Then change it right away. Take the time to learn a skill and gradually become familiar with it in life, and one day it will make you understand the benefits of learning it. This process must be lonely and not understood, so learn to be patient and ignore and ignore other people's eyes and gossip.
No one can control their own life right away.
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Cultivate your husband's sense of independence. The main practice is to live separately from the mother-in-law and encourage the husband to challenge himself at work. When the husband's sense of self-worth is raised, he will enjoy the high-level happiness of self-worth realization, and he will slowly change the concept of Ma Bao.
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Even if I liked him very much, I would choose to break up, mainly for the following reasons. <> the first point, Ma Bao Nan.
The dependence is too strong. Generally speaking, mom bao men mainly listen to their mothers.
He did whatever his mother said. Judging from this way of getting along, Ma Bao Nan lacks independent thinking, and will not work hard to solve problems by himself, but will only blindly ask his mother for help. However, there are many difficulties encountered in daily life, some trivial things can be solved by asking parents, and some more serious problems can not be solved by asking parents.
If I marry Ma Bao Nan, and the other party's parents can't solve some serious problems in the future, then Xian Dan can only rely on me, because Ma Bao Nan himself does not have the power to solve the problem, so such a boy who is very dependent on his parents is not suitable for marriage. <>
The second point is that Ma Bao Nan can't deal with the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law correctly. Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
are a very common problem. Because Ma Bao Nan likes to listen to his mother since he was a child, if there is a conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the process of getting along, Ma Bao Nan must believe his mother, even if the whole thing is his mother's fault, he will defend his mother and let his wife apologize to his mother. Therefore, marrying Ma Bao Nan means that you have to tolerate your mother-in-law everywhere in your daily life, even if some mother-in-law's requests are simply unreasonable.
So, if the person I like is a mom boy, I will choose to break up with him, I like him very much now, but I still feel that compared to getting along for most of my life in the future, I like him now just like. Although I will be sad after the breakup, the long pain is not as good as the short pain, and now it is only the two people who are suffering. If I really get married to him, the two families may be uncomfortable in the future, and my mom and dad also hope that I will find a husband who loves me, but my husband must be responsible, not just looking for my mother's mom and boy for everything.
Therefore, I hope that every little sister will keep their eyes open and don't look for a boyfriend.
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When encountering such a situation, I think you should communicate with the other party, slowly guide the other party, make the other party more self-defeating, change the other party's habits, if the other party can change, then Hu Xunmo should be with the other party.
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I will choose to break up, although I like him very much, but Ma Bao Nan is really tired to get along, and it will also affect my happiness for the rest of my life.
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I will give up, because such a boy has no opinions, and staying with such a person will be very sad, and there is no way to gain the respect of the other party.
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I will slowly change the person in my life, and I will also make the other person become a person who is closed to his own opinions and opinions, and I will not often ask the other person's mother's opinion in life. Empty-carrying.
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Summary. First of all, make sure that you have encountered any strange people or events, and take care of your personal safety. If it is indeed a mom bao man you meet, then it is recommended that you do not be impulsive easily, try to take measures against him slowly and rationally, and understand the other party's purpose through tentative dialogue; Try to hint at your own supporters or security measures; You can also speak directly to him with a calm mind to resolve the conflict.
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First of all, make sure that you have encountered any strange people or events, and take care of your personal safety. If the socks are indeed met by Ma Bao Nan, then it is recommended that you do not be impulsive easily, try to take countermeasures to him slowly and rationally, and can understand the purpose of the right party through tentative dialogue; You can try to hint at your supporters or security measures; You can also speak directly to him with a calm mind to resolve the conflict.
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According to my observation, Ma Bao men generally have the following three characteristics.
First, the most important requirement for finding a partner is to be good to his mother.
I think that for a woman to be good to her mother-in-law, she needs to have several conditions. First, this woman is very kind, she is good to everyone, and naturally she will be good to her mother-in-law. Second, the mother-in-law herself is kind and knows how to treat her daughter-in-law well.
Third, as two individuals, the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law should fall in love. Leaving these three conditions, if a man unilaterally asks his daughter-in-law to be a good mother-in-law, 90% of this man is a mother-in-law man.
Second, when it comes to big and small things, you have to ask your mother's opinion. The mantra of this kind of man is, I want to ask my mother about this, and my mother doesn't agree with that.
The mother of such a man should be a very strong mother, and when the boy is growing up, she controls the boy too much, so that the boy is not used to making decisions on his own, and he does not dare to make decisions on his own. Even though he is an adult, in love, or even about to get married, he is still obedient to his mother in his bones, and he still wants to hear his mother's instructions in everything.
Thirdly, there is a mother-lover complex, in the mind of this kind of man, his mother is particularly great, especially sacred, and is the most perfect woman in his mind. By what signs is this to be judged? For example, when the two of you are dating, he always talks about his mother, and even involuntarily compares you with his mother, thinking that you are inferior to his mother in every way.
The characteristics of the three mom boys I talked about above, if a man has two of them, he can basically be judged to be a mom boy.
Some girls are kinder and always feel that a man loves his mother so much, so good, it won't be so bad. Of course, a mom boy must be kinder than the kind of man who doesn't even love his own mother. However, Ma Bao Nan's destructive power to marriage is very great.
This destructive power not only comes from the mother's exclusive respect for Ma Baonan, but also from the interference and intervention of the strong mother of Ma Baonan in the small family.
A woman who marries a mother-treasure man, in her long life after marriage, will always feel that she is an outsider in the family, because her husband does not focus the family on the relationship between husband and wife, but on the relationship between mother and child. Such a family will not bring a woman happiness.
Therefore, in the end, I still have to warn my sisters that Ma Bao Nan must not marry.
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So what does he do when he goes to work, doesn't he work and stays home with her mother all the time?
Besides, if you have a morning party, it's just a boyfriend, if you are willing to accept this life, then be together, and break up early if you can't accept it.
He's obviously a mom boy.
There are two points of view: the first is that you also treat the other person as your opponent.
When you choose to be with someone, you also have no way to get along with them.
Only when two people become friends of the alliance can you provide food, clothing, housing, transportation, and related actions.
On the other hand, you can't change someone else. Because a mom boy has to have a strong or at least more controlling mother, you can only deal with one person, you can deal with all the families. Many mother-treasure husbands do not respect their wives' opinions, and always feel that their wives are incapable or unreliable.
In fact, we are the same, when we do not recognize a person's ability, we will not choose to believe in him. The same is true in family relationships. If you want your words to have some impact, the premise is that you have your own strength and value.
So, only if you elevate yourself and give him substantial advice at certain moments, then it will definitely make the other person look at you with admiration.
What husband do you think she will have for such a mother? What kind of family has such a mother become?
You're unlikely to change all that, so you're unlikely to change 1 mom boy, and you're unlikely to deal with 1 mom boy. It's not his own problem, it's the whole family's problem.
I'm still saying that choice is better than change.
If you have to choose, then you enjoy this benefit, you have to live with this disadvantage.
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The formation of Ma Bao Nan is accompanied by the silver rent of his whole life, and it feels that it is not very likely to change him, and if you have a disagreement with your mother-in-law after marriage, your husband will not be on your side, it is better to break up, and I personally regret it.
The best thing is to talk about it.
After all, it's the two of you who live your life.
If there is nothing to talk about.
It's time for a divorce.
Listen to your mother as much as he does
Your husband's personality is difficult to change, before you marry him, you should know him better, I don't know what you liked about this man in the first place?
If you don't live with your mother, and at the same time tell your husband about the damage that your mother's baby man has done to your marriage, you can take a look at the stories on the Internet.
Husband? Already married?
If you are not married, then it is best to stay away from this kind of man who has not grown up and cannot make his own decisions.
My husband may be because of the family relationship since childhood, very calculating and machismo, although we have a small company, I never care about his income, not that I can't live a life, he is very careful, I actually work in the company to do business, the income is not low, because it is the same account in, the money has to come out of him, every time I say that I spend his money, looking for him to take money, I really can't stand it, one hundred today, fifty tomorrow, I will not be happy if I take more, and you know, Now I have a child, the expenses are very large, he thinks that the money can be used for a long time, every time he scolds me and says that you don't know how to save a little, this head squeezes the belt to buy a car, in fact, the original car is already good, I have to change, I can only use stinginess to describe, now pregnant with a second child, and then with a child, there is really no way to go to work, in fact, the original customer is still doing, but he is to manage, there are more problems, you have to eat when you are pregnant, you have to eat well, you have to spend money to eat well, every time you come back, the wallet is pressed tightly,, It won't exceed two hundred, Feng Zhao, alas, every time I quarrel for money, I don't know how many fights, there is no way to trust people, and I have never eaten at a relative's house to eat, I am embarrassed, you are a company that even cares about this, and it is only three or two hundred to solve the matter, he has never been afraid of people saying, when it comes to money, he is energetic, saying that the pressure is high, the pressure is great, I am not asking you to buy me anything, the most basic life you guarantee me is not ,,, annoying,, Now that the second child is about to be born again, I have to spend more money next,,, I can't live this day,,, I really don't know how to face the future life, it's so annoying,,, I even save myself to buy clothes for my daughter, I don't dare to say to him,,, he never asks,,, anyway, as long as you don't mention the money, you can do it,,, relatives, how to solve this problem!
He listens to fucking.
You're not going to have a conflict.
Otherwise, you will have a hard time in the future.
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