How do you think you ve changed since becoming a parent?

As a woman, before and after giving birth to a child, both physically and psychologically, I feel that I have undergone a big change, which can be summarized as follows.

Physical changes. After giving birth, the most obvious change is the change in my body shape. Because of pregnancy, the whole body was blown up like a balloon, the original weight that had been within 100 pounds soared to 140+ pounds, and after giving birth, there were still 120+ pounds, and all the clothes I was wearing couldn't be worn, such a change was too big, but I could only digest it slowly.

Increased sense of responsibility. Since I was pregnant, my sense of responsibility has slowly increased, I remember to give the baby a four-dimensional color ultrasound, seeing the baby in his belly, I was moved to tears. When the baby was born and was healthy, I felt that all the hardships I had endured before were worth it.

From now on, no matter how hard I work, I hope that my children will be healthy and happy.

A change in personality. I have been a rough girl since I was a child, but since I had a child, I found that I have also changed a lot in my personality, and people like me have become more patient, can take good care of the baby, and feel that maternal love has been stimulated. Originally, my husband was very worried that my original personality would be at a loss and would be in a hurry after giving birth to a baby, but in fact it was not, which impressed my husband.

I became homely. After having children, I had to give up a lot of social activities, and my original love of going out with friends had to be reined in, and I became at home, and I couldn't get together with my friends for a long time. For the sake of children, it is not easy for parents and there are many things that need to be given up.

The concept of consumption has changed. Before giving birth, I was very willing to spend money on clothes and cosmetics, and I would often go shopping and watch movies. But after having a child, firstly, because there is no time to take care of the child, and secondly, due to the constraints of economic conditions, I have become stingy in terms of consumption, and I am stingy with myself, usually 8 out of 10 things I buy are children's, and I can save many aspects.

I feel that I have become more hard-working, because I want to give my children better living conditions through my own efforts.

In fact, I feel that I have become more mature, and I am more responsible for my family, and at the same time, I am also very attentive to my children, and at the same time I am sentimental.

I feel like I've become kind, and I cry when I see those orphans. Because I think of my own children, that's the biggest change.

After becoming a parent, I have learned what it means to be meticulous, what is gentleness, what is love, what is responsibility, in short, I have learned a lot and have changed a lot.

There are a lot of emotions in my heart that I can't let go, I feel more motivated to make money, and I can understand my parents' hearts better.

Seeing the experiences of some children on the online platform will feel bad, so they will imagine the experience on their own children, and will always deepen their determination to protect their children, and at the same time see other children will also lend a hand.

Once you become a father, you'll find that the pressure on income is even greater, and hard work seems more important than ever. If you have a heavy workload, a long commute, or don't have time for yourself, you may feel tired and stressed. You're likely to spend less time with your family, so it's important to think about your place in your life.

2.The benefits of staying with your family.

Coming home from work means the end of one thing and the beginning of another, and this feeling is especially noticeable when you first become a dad. It's very demanding for people, but at the same time, it can also pay off. Spending time with your family, or even just a few minutes of happy time, can put work stress in perspective.

The child's dad says the best thing about being a dad is when you come home after a hard day's work. Everything is very different from work. When the child asks me if I can read to him, all the anxiety is gone.

3.Work-life balance.

Some fathers make significant changes in order to spend more time with their families. They may change jobs, thus working fewer hours, be closer to home, or give up their shift work to do regular work, and some may even become stay-at-home dads.

Other fathers find ways to have more flexibility at work. For example, negotiate with your boss if you can start work earlier so that you can leave work early; If your commute is long, negotiate whether you can work from home.

These changes allow you to play with your kids in the afternoon or set aside time for dinner with your family. Not all dads can do this, but don't give up. In fact, some fathers who work long hours are more likely to spend more time with their children than fathers who work fewer hours.

What really matters is how you use your time. For example, it's better to play with your child for 15 minutes with your full attention than for 30 minutes when you're distracted by work**, TV, or other things.

One dad said that I would often bring home from work, and I would constantly call ** or check emails at home. Sometimes it's really important to turn off your phone and focus on life. See what you can do to help at home, and if you have to check your phone, check it every hour or two, and don't leave your phone.

Sometimes I feel that the child is my most intimate little padded jacket, but there are also times when I feel that the child is particularly troublesome, especially when I am waiting to be fed, I can't wait to escape from this "little devil" who was born to collect debts from me. When I really escaped, I felt that the child was not by my side, and my heart seemed to be very empty, and I wanted to miss it specially. The feelings of parents for their children are such a contradictory existence, but after all, all troubles are short-lived, and the joy that those children bring to them is eternal.

As long as the child grows up, we as parents will be relaxed, especially full-time mothers, this idea is even stronger. Children's food, clothing, housing and transportation need to be arranged by one hand. When it's cold, you have to add clothes and sell for him; If he is dirty, he should wash his face and bathe him; There are so many trivial things in life, which makes my mother feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Finally, the child sleeps, and the mother has to get up to clean up the house, toys, and chores that can't be done.

However, as the baby continues to grow into a rough gear, he will find in many inadvertent moments that he begins to learn to eat and walk by himself, and gradually, he begins to become less dependent on himself as he did when he was a newborn. At first, I will feel that the child has become well-behaved and sensible, and I can finally relax.

Suddenly, one day, the child made a basin of water in advance, brought it to him, and said, "Mom, you have been working hard in the stool, from now on, let me protect you." At this moment, I have burst into tears, at this moment, I am strongly aware that my child has grown up, I am really gratified, he has learned how to feed back at such a young age.

Therefore, cherish the time spent with children, and the company of parents is indispensable in the growth of children. But there is really no child in the world who is inseparable from their parents, but parents, when their children leave their side and go to farther places to study and develop, they always recall those times together.

Know how to honor your parents.

Summary. In addition to the parental ego state, there is also a state called the child ego state.

Children's self-state is that we act and feel as we did when we were children. The basic emotions of children, happiness and affection, anger, sadness, fear.

Parents sometimes have a vulnerable side, and they can't always be in a parental ego state.

Whether the person who is a parent is always in a parental ego state.

Glad you, this is mostly the case no.

In addition to the parental ego state, there is also a state called the child ego state. Children's self-state is that we act and feel as we did when we were children. The basic emotions of children, happiness and affection, anger, sadness, fear.

Parents sometimes have a collapsed side and a vulnerable side, and they can't always be in the state of their parents' ego.

My father is outside the home and my mother is inside the house, and they are still tired of running around for life. I thought that my parents didn't have to worry about it anymore when I grew up, but they have the heart to never finish it, and they have to help us take care of our grandchildren every day, and in the eyes of my parents, I will never grow up. Now their hair is starting to turn gray, their teeth are loose, and they don't walk so neatly, every time they go home and see the new gray hair on their parents' temples, they feel very deep in their hearts, and I wish their parents will always be healthy, happy and happy!

When I was a child, my father was always unsmiling, and my mother was always nagging and doing housework. However, they are very strong parents who will arrange everything for us, help us customize the plan, and will not allow us to say no. But when my sister and I grew up, one day I found that my parents had gray hair and a hunched back.

They will be more obedient to our opinions, and they will be more cautious when they get along, which I find very uncomfortable. One day, my dad called ** to me, asked me why I don't often call ** back, talk to them about their current life, I told him, I feel that there is a wall between us invisibly, as a father and daughter, we have little communication between them, a year can not beat five **, at the end of the ** he said "what is not to say to my parents", after hanging ** I feel that my parents have really changed, because I am older and more concerned about everything about me and my sister.

The biggest change in Mom and Dad is that they are aging, and the once vigorous pace is now slow and slow, and the movement has become sluggish. Dad's hands, I don't know when they started, trembled. Mom didn't eat much at every meal, and her appetite wasn't as good as before.

My father is old, he is full of gray hair, he loves to drink more than before, and he talks more after drinking, and sometimes he is in tears when he talks about it, and every time he sees his father like this, he thinks of his father's song, and he bursts into tears.........My mother is also old, but she is becoming more and more idle, saying that if she is idle, she is afraid of Alzheimer's disease, and there are too many such old people around her, so my mother is busy with this and that every day, happy, I just want to say to my parents: have a good rest! After a lifetime of for us, rest assured, we will also be filial to you!

I quarreled when I was younger, but now I seem to be able to do things more together. The grumpy mom has become docile, and the lazy dad has become diligent. All the changes are that they are willing to think a little more for each other.

But in general, Mom and Dad have good qualities, can bear hardships and stand hard work, are diligent and thrifty, and are down-to-earth, which is a role model for our children.

The biggest change, dad is old. More dependent on me. However, I also loved him even more. Once loved and hated, now there is only love. Love him more than anyone else.

Away from home, every time I come home, I feel like my parents are old. Looking at the wrinkles on his face, he felt that he was very unhappy, no one gave them a comfortable life, and suddenly the sourness in his heart was probably only understood by those who had experienced it, and he could only choose to work harder. Who doesn't want to be with their parents and children all the time, but the burden of the family is pressing on us, so we can only move forward selflessly.

In my memory, my father began to change because of one thing. It was my first and second grade of elementary school, and I had to pay tuition fees when school started, and it seemed to be more than 100 yuan, and then my father borrowed it for a week and didn't borrow it. I remember that the whole class was alone for a week and I hadn't handed it in, and the teacher said to me in front of the whole class

If you can't hand it in tomorrow, you won't come to school! "When I got home, I taught my father what to say, and he went out at six o'clock in the afternoon, and he didn't come back when I went to bed at night, and when I was going to school the next day, my father gave me the money. It seems that it was from that time that my father began to look for a job, and I remember that my father had never worked, just smoked, drank, and played cards every day, until I was 9 or 10 years old.

Since I went to college, my parents have become more and more picky, picking out that my father didn't buy a single dress for himself for several years, picking out that my mother's dresser only has a mirror and a comb, and picking them up for a dollar or two. But they became more and more tolerant of me, respecting my decisions and telling me to go with the flow and not be arrogant.

When I used to look up to my parents, they were my entry point into the world, giving me meticulous care and selfless love. (They would carry me to the hospital in the middle of the night when I had a high fever; When it rains, they will give me an umbrella, and they will give me a flower skirt ...... on June 1stAt that time, they were like Ultraman in my eyes, omnipotent, and all they gave me was good. Now that I look at my parents, they will tell me about ** in the occasional bickering, and they will be happy because I go home or **, and they will also confide in me about the trivial things in life, more and more like old children who need me to take care of them.