What are the advantages of a family with a second child compared to a family with a single child?

After the country's opening of the two-child policy, there are two voices in the society, one is that I don't want to have a second child, and I feel that in the current era when the house can't afford to buy, if you give birth to two sons, they grow up, and you want to prepare a house.

The other is the voice of the family with a second child, thinking that not having a second child will leave regrets in life. Moreover, there are more and more people who think this way, and they all hope that they can have both children and daughters. In fact, thinking about it the other way, compared with an only child, families with a second child actually have no advantage.

Although there are two children, they can keep each other company, but this is a good time. If there is a conflict between them, or if there is a conflict between sisters, sisters and brothers competing for the same toy and eating together, it will be very difficult, and the most difficult thing will be the parents.

Whoever it is given or not given to may make another child feel that his parents are biased and prone to prejudice against his parents. In terms of shopping, you also need to buy double portions, so that children will not feel uncomfortable with each other.

Families with only one child, less pressure from parents:

After the material situation improves, many people will care about a family's finances. For those who belong to their sons in the family, when their sons grow up, parents should do their best to create a better life for their sons.

There are also families who face the dilemma of bankrupting their families for their sons to marry daughters-in-law and sons to buy houses. It's still one son, and if it's two sons, the pressure is even greater. In this factor, the pressure to have a son will be much less.

In the future, there is no need to worry about the problem of providing for the elderly in the future, which is said to raise children to prevent old age, and many parents are relieved at this point.

In a family with only one child, the child does not have to be wronged:

For a family that has a daughter, although she will marry into someone else's family when she grows up, she has the support of her own parents. If you live with your mother-in-law, if you are unhappy, when you go back to your parents' house, you will become your parents' big baby, and you will not suffer any grievances.

In a family with one child, often the parents are very fond of the child and let the child have everything. If the child encounters something unpleasant, he will also speak for his family, and the only child is an advantage in this regard.

Whether it is when the child is young or when he grows up, it is difficult to be wronged. Of course, it's okay for a woman to be a little willful, sometimes it's cute, but if it's unreasonable, you have to change it.

In a family with a second child, the child has one more playmate in the process of growing up, knows how to share, and everything is shared by two people, and the child grows up, with less pressure, and can help parents share responsibilities.

1. For families with a second child, if the family education is similar, then the child knows how to be humble, and the brother and sister or brother are more harmonious.

2. The children in the family who love him deeply are not lonely. They all have siblings as companions.

3. The elders have relatively thick expectations for the children of the only child, and they have been adding invisible pressure to the only child, which is not conducive to the development of personality.

In a two-child family, the two children can consult with each other on major events, and they can also help each other, especially when the parents need to take care of each other when they are old.

As soon as the child is in need of care from the parents, it can feel detached.

Clause. 1. Children who grow up in a second-child family are easy to be productive when they grow up.

For those families with only one child, the parents undoubtedly gave all their love to this one child, so what kind of atmosphere did this child grow up in?

There are no other children around to compete with him for favor, what he wants Mom and Dad will try their best to buy it for him, no one can share the love of his parents, because there is only this one child, so even if sometimes he does something wrong, parents are not willing to criticize him, after a long time, regardless of whether the parents do not carry out timely education, the child will subconsciously feel that what the parents do to her is what it should be, resulting in him not knowing to share when he grows up, more selfish, and getting along with the people around him also likes to let others follow him, When it cannot be satisfied, it may form a huge psychological error, and the independence is poor, and it may not be able to stand in society at all, and even the basic life pressures may not be able to bear.

Clause. Second, the burden of two-child families will be smaller in the future.

Although as long as a child is a relatively small burden on the family, parents can still give all their love to this child, but when this child grows up and has a child, what will he face? Maybe the other party is also an only child, then for the couple, it means not only to support the four old people of both families, but also their own children, the old man is in good health, but also to help take care of the children, if the old man is not in good health, the cost of a sick is very large, and it costs a lot to raise a child, many times the wife may need to stay at home to take care of the children, all the family's income comes from the husband alone, very tired, and for the elderly, there is only one, if not filial, Their old age is desolate.

Looking at it this way, if you have a second child, the family will indeed be happier in the future, but there will inevitably be some eccentricity, although many parents may not admit it or are not aware of it at all, but some parents always say something in their lives: "You are big, let your brother or sister", "Boys want to let girls", maybe parents do not want to treat the two children differently, but if you always say some such things, the child will feel unbalanced in his heart, and complain about his parents for a long time. Therefore, parents should learn to respect their children's wishes, treat their children as equal people, not children who must obey commands, and do not think of themselves as parents who can command at will.

In the process of children's growth, little by little to guide children to grow in the right direction, is what parents should do.

Not necessarily, happiness depends on a combination of factors such as the atmosphere of the family, the parent's education style, and one's own personality. But objectively speaking, the two-child family does make us, as children, have one more blood relative and one more warm harbor for the family.

Families with two children, first of all, have a more lively atmosphere than a single-child family, and a large number of people is also applicable at the moment. The second child does have one more friend for the child, and if the age of the two children is advanced, there is still one more playmate of almost the same age, and they can share happiness and sorrow together.

But there are actually many potential contradictions in the second-child family, such as the relationship that cannot be completely equalized, after all, people's feelings are always more or less different, for children who receive less affection, there will be some unpleasant shadows in such a family.

In contrast, the only child enjoys all the feelings of a family of three, both in terms of life attention and emotional sustenance. But for some only children who are not good at words, there will indeed be more loneliness, and there is no way to understand each other's loneliness, because when you want to share some family sorrows and joys, there is still an essential difference between sharing with friends and sharing with relatives.

Therefore, from some levels, the two-child family does have more happiness in the atmosphere. But that doesn't mean it's for everyone, it's all different.

From a child's point of view, a two-child family is happier than a one-child family:

1. Someone to play with.

In a two-child family, there are two children growing up together, which is a kind of companionship for children, companionship between peers, which is different from the companionship of parents. The two children are both relatives and playmates, playing together, learning together, and meeting new friends. However, there is only one person for an only child, in addition to the love given to him by his parents, he needs to make friends by himself, otherwise the growth process of only himself is relatively lonely.

2. You can share joys, sorrows, and sorrows with each other.

There is still a difference between the relationship between children and parents and the relationship between siblings, just like whether they are willing to share everything with their parents but are willing to share it with good friends, the two children of the second child are good friends and can confide in each other all their little secrets. For example, if he is criticized by his parents and is very wronged, the two children of the second child can tell each other about their grievances, but the only child has no choice, he can't tell his parents about the grievances he has received from his parents, so he can only be sad alone.

3. You can help each other.

There are many girls who are very eager to have a brother from an early age, because the older brother will take care of the younger sister, and the older brother can dissuade the parents and protect the younger sister when the parents blame the younger sister. In the same way, a two-child family has two children, and the children can help each other and rely on each other no matter what difficulties they encounter, but the only child is relatively lonely.

From a parent's point of view, a two-child family is exhausted:

The same family to raise two children will cost twice as much money than raising a child, now the cost of raising children is very large, the average well-off family to raise two children to grow up is still very difficult, parents have to work hard to make money but also for the children to save money, the quality of life greatly reduced.

2. Very tired.

The mother is generally a role to worry about the child, and the father is the role of saving money for the child's milk powder, so the mother will be more tired and have to the hearts of the two children at once. It takes a lot of energy for a child to be naughty and mischievous to educate his parents, and it is even more difficult for two children to educate, and children will be jointly mischievous, which is a special headache for parents.

3. Limited energy.

The age gap between the two children in the current two-child family is generally not very large, and the two children of the same age are the most devastating time for their parents when they are young. But sometimes two children can't pay attention, and when you take care of one child, you have to take care of the other child, which is sometimes very crazy for parents.

For many families, the reason why they are unwilling to invest time and energy in having a second child is also very simple, that is, the current pressure of social competition is too great.

Not only do you have to withstand the financial pressure of housing loans and car loans, but more importantly, you have to pay much more than the older generation before in raising and educating your children.

But any problem is not absolute, not that every family is not suitable for having a second child because of constraints in all aspects, on the contrary, there are 3 kinds of families after giving birth to a second child, life is sweeter than honey, if there is you, steal the fun.

01.Families with good overall economic status.

We often say: "The economic base determines the superstructure", and if we apply this sentence to a family, we can say: "The economic base determines the harmony of the family".

is the so-called: poor and lowly couples mourn everything.

When the young couple fell in love, they couldn't experience the hardships of firewood, rice, oil and salt, but once they got married and had children, it was a trivial matter when they first entered the house.

If there are various conflicts in the family because of financial pressure, then having a child is the best outcome.

On the contrary, if the family's financial situation is good, and it can maintain the high-quality operation of the family's life after coping with the children's food and clothing, hobbies and study expenses, travel and entertainment at all stages, then be bold and have a child.

Because after no worries about money, the family focuses on cultivating family relationships and the future development direction of the family, so when all members of the family can have their own goals, then the operation of the family must be healthy and positive.

Therefore, after giving birth to a second child, it is more conducive to the harmony of the family, and the brothers and sisters can also have a spiritual help and soul sustenance, which can be described as a very good family combination.

02.The main member of the family is in good health.

There is a saying: If you have a serious illness, you will destroy a family.

In the current social environment, this situation often happens, so whether you can have a second child depends on the physical health of the main members of the family in addition to economic problems.

The main family members include: the parents of the older generation, the husband and wife and Dabao.

First of all, young people now have their own careers, wholeheartedly at home with a baby, after all, in the minority, unless the family economic situation, more than 70% of the family, unless the ordinary family is difficult to achieve the goal of full-time baby.

From my own experience, a two-child family is happier than an only child. The premise is that the relationship between siblings from childhood to adulthood is gradually growing and getting better and better.

I am lucky, there is a younger brother and a younger sister, one more than the two-child family, the age difference between the three sisters and brothers is not big, but fortunately, the relationship between the three is getting better and better as they grow older, although sometimes there are inevitable quarrels, but it is rare to agree on the big right and wrong or when it comes to serious things.

But this happiness was not so much when I was a child.

Because he was young when he was a child, right and wrong were not so clear, and he was in a stage where it was easy to compete for the favor of his parents, so when he was a child, he often quarreled and fought with his siblings. My mother would often favor the youngest, which led to my sister's disaffection for my younger brother. And the younger brother will also be pampered and proud.

But fortunately, there is a sensible father, under the education of his father, the three of them take turns to do housework, there are prizes for excellence in reading exams, punishments for mistakes, no partiality in quarrels and differences, seeking truth from facts, and so on. It is precisely because of his father's justice that it is rare for his younger brother to be pampered and arrogant, and the relationship between the three gradually warms up. In this case, it is more obvious that if a two-child family or a multi-child family needs sensible and impartial parents, the feelings of siblings can be more profound.

As you get older, you feel the benefits of having siblings more as adults. Because the relationship has always been very good, I often complain about the parents together, guide each other and joke with each other, the happy times are the majority, and there are many touching moments. When you can't make up your mind about things, someone will help you analyze them together, when you encounter sad things, someone will spend them with you, if you encounter happy things, you can share them, and if you are sick and painful, you will have one more person to accompany you.

Parents have things to share and accompany together, so you don't have to worry about not being able to support yourself alone. There is one more person to help you find a way to meet anything, and loneliness will not find you, because you always have a family by your side.

Although we can't enjoy all the love of the family alone, each of us can enjoy 2 more loves, and I personally feel that this is a happier point than an only child.