The elderly spoil their children excessively, what should parents do?

"Raising babies across generations" is a very common family phenomenon in Chinese society. Usually because parents are busy with work and can't stay with their children all day, they have to ask the elderly to come and help take care of the children.

But most grandparents or grandparents, because they cherish their grandchildren very much and take care of their children in every detail, lead to "spoiling" them: children are not allowed to do a little simple housework and do everything for their children. Even when parents are educating their children, the elderly often come forward to "protect" their children.

As a result, many young parents have a headache and even conflict with the elderly because of their children's educational problems, which they think are not doing well. However, the gap between the two generations is not conducive to the development of children.

At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong when it comes to educating children. The two generations experienced different cultures and educational concepts, which led to differences in parenting methods.

Parents should be aware that the elderly actually love their children as much as they do. With this sense of identity, we should communicate with the elderly.

Some parents will try to reach an agreement with the elderly, for example, when educating their children, if the elderly are not used to it, they choose to avoid it. Of course, everything must be done in a good and correct way of communication. If parents and the elderly have an argument in front of their children, the children may misunderstand their parents and think that they have a bad attitude towards their grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents; or under the influence of this, slowly develop unfilial behavior; Or they may think that adult quarrels are caused by their disobedience and misconduct, and thus develop low self-esteem.

Of course, there is nothing trivial about children's education, there are no small problems. Parents should strive to create a harmonious environment for him so that it is more conducive to his physical and mental development.

If you encounter a spoiled child, you should be more patient with the child. The child's personality can be coached. For problems that are emotionally uncontrollable, parents should not be too eager to stop or blame, but should first learn to calm themselves down, and then teach their children how to face emotions, so that children can recognize their own problems, and then educate their children.

The elderly are overly doting on the child, in fact, it is not to pamper the child, and after a long time, the child will be spoiled, so that the child's character becomes very poor, in fact, as a parent, you should communicate with the elderly, this is not to love the child, usually you can take time to accompany the child, so that the child feels the mother's love.

Parents should stop the elderly from spoiling their children in time. And to tell the elderly about the consequences of spoiling their children, so that the situation can be completely changed.

Parents must communicate well with the elderly, let him know that it is not good for him to spoil his children excessively, because everyone is for the good of the children, so communicate with the elderly, and the elderly will understand.

Many old people will have the situation of intergenerational parents, and even when parents are educating their children, the elderly will be very distressed about their children, which is a very normal phenomenon of nucleus, but the elderly feel sorry for their children and should also participate in their children's education moderately, after all, when the elderly take care of their children, they will always be very soft-hearted, which is very unfavorable to the education of parents, and even let children have the idea that their parents are bad people.

Parents are the best teachers for their children. Therefore, only parents are the best educators for children, but when the next generation is too involved in the education of parents, it is likely to interfere with the education of parents, especially when children make mistakes, many parents will have certain punishment measures, but the old people who feel sorry for their children will always block, causing children to think that as long as the old people are there, they can be forgiven for any mistakes they make, and this concept will affect the growth of children very much.

It is not conducive to family harmony When the intergenerational parents affect the child's education, even if the child's parents are not good at saying anything on the surface, they will also have a lot of dissatisfaction in their hearts, and even say to the child: Don't listen to grandma and grandma, which will not only affect the relationship between husband and wife and the elderly, but also affect the relationship between the elderly and children.

I think parents need to take the initiative in education, and at the same time, they need to tell the elderly around them about this idea.

This situation in itself is not conducive to the development of the child.

Parents need to take full control of their education.

Parents must be firm in their position, and communicate with the elderly in private, so that they do not interfere with their children's education, otherwise the children will only develop an arrogant and domineering character in the future.

As a parent, you can only popularize the consequences of doting on the elderly, or directly keep your children by your side and educate them yourself.

As a parent, you should communicate with the elderly appropriately and tell the elderly what shortcomings the child will have in the future if they spoil the child too much.