For the Seven Year Itch , how to treat it between couples

The "seven-year itch" is a marriage phenomenon, which means that marriage is married through passionate love, and when the marriage enters its seventh year, with the familiarity of the husband and wife, romance and chic disappear with the pressure of life, and the marriage enters the first dangerous period.

The seven-year itch is a foreign word, which originally meant that many things will develop to the seventh year without the will of the person to transfer some problems, and later it is often used to explain some problems in marriage, the key to the seven-year itch is that people are bored, and after staying in the same environment for a long time, it is inevitable that they will feel very annoyed and bored, and they will inevitably have some other ideas.

Once the honeymoon is over, even couples who are expected to stay together for a long time will have a "cooling period" of about two years, and then there will be "one year up, one year down". The researchers found that the traditional "seven-year itch" is actually just a halfway point in a continuing downward trend in satisfaction levels. After 10 years of marriage, most couples will have a plummeting level of satisfaction with their spouses, below the pre-marital level.

How to prevent the "seven-year itch".

Dedication concept: Don't find fault with each other, don't hope to reshape each other. Instead, always ask yourself:

What ——— worry-free material life can I bring to the other person? Abundant food for thought? A sense of security, a sense of well-being?

Do something for each other from the bottom of your heart in your daily life, even if it is the smallest thing, a hug, a smile, a kiss, so that the other party can experience warmth.

Leave space: Many marriages perish in bondage and counterbondage, and many offer to give each other space. In fact, you should first leave space for yourself, maintain a normal circle of friends outside of marriage, and don't take marriage as your only spiritual sustenance.

In the relationship, you will continue to improve your life wisdom, constantly adjust yourself, and adapt to marriage.

Adjust expectations: Expectations that are too high can be in contrast to reality, causing pressure on both sides. The spouse is not necessarily the best and the best of the opposite sex you meet, but it may be the best for you, and that's enough.

Choosing a divorce: Divorce is not as scary as you might think. If both parties decide that the marriage is wrong, divorce may be the wisest option.

And if you still can't reflect on yourself properly after the divorce, and you still don't know what you need, that's really scary. We often see that after the first divorce, people who don't pay much attention to marriage and divorce enter a state of instability, and the whole life is greatly distorted.

Comments: A period of instability that occurs after seven years of marriage. The seven-year itch of marriage has been married for a long time, and the freshness has been lost.

As a result, emotional "exhaustion" or boredom puts the marriage into a "bottleneck", and if there is no way to effectively pass this "bottleneck", the marriage will end. The "seven-year itch" is a foreign word, meaning that many things will not have problems in the seventh year, and marriage is no exception.

This is really a headache, with incomplete statistics, the divorce rate of couples in this period is as high as 70%, to safely get through this period of confusion must have a solid emotional foundation, but also need two people to manage this relationship well, learning to tolerate each other is the most important.

Both men and women, facing the seven-year itch in their marriage, understand these 4 points to make your marriage stronger.

And in my opinion, husband and wife should not take the matter of seven years to heartHave ye faith that you can overcome this difficulty. As long as the relationship between you is good enough, believe in each other in life, tolerate each other, no matter what problems the two people have, they will directly say it and solve it together, as long as the two people do these things, I believe that the relationship between you will not change much, you will still rely on each other as you did when you were together, even if the relationship between the two people fades with the passage of time, but it is still an irreplaceable existence.

Couples face the seven-year itch, and the first often creates warmth in the family. Second, there should be a private space between the husband and wife to create romance. Third, the couple traveled a lot. Fifth, remind each other more of the anniversaries between the two people.

Usually there should be more communication, when you have time, you can travel together to enhance the relationship, and occasionally buy a small gift for each other to give each other a small surprise to increase the mood of life.

You can occasionally create a little surprise in your daily life, so that both people can feel each other's love.

Two people only need to do something very interesting, but never done before, such as bungee jumping and the like, to keep a sense of freshness and get through the 7-year itch.

Two people have to face it together, and they must understand that the seven-year itch is just a statement, and it does not necessarily mean separation.

I think two people should understand each other, and don't always look for trouble. Especially girls, don't do it. Then the guy can find a way to surprise the other person.

We must face it calmly, resolve grievances between each other, communicate well, and don't be cold and violent.

Husbands and wives must face this problem head-on, and they must be clear about what kind of problems have arisen between two people, and they must solve it together.

How young couples should smoothly navigate the "seven-year itch".

Husbands and wives must understand each other more, communicate the ideas between two people in a timely manner, don't choose to be angry overnight, and share more with each other.

Control the other person's temper. Why do couples have problems during the seven-year period? Bizhi may be because they have accumulated too many small conflicts in the past seven years, and this time is when they don't want to get along easily.

So, if you want to live safely, keep each other's tempers in check.

I think the itch of 7 years is more normal than the jujube of the limbs, because if you get along for a long time, both parties will transform love into family affection, as long as both people are responsible for the feeling of dismantling, you can spend it without a lot.

If you consider marriage as a hobby and hobby, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, at least you can keep it fresh forever. The hobby is that the longer the time, the more difficult it is to let go, and take the love of you a little more every day as the pursuit of your interest. In this way, your love and marriage will be pursued day by day.

Some small romances, small turmoil, and even small opinions and contradictions can be a catalyst for interest. Marriage is the best pursuit, and I hope that friends will continue to explore, use interests and hobbies to complete the road of life. If you take seven years as one of your stages, then you will gain more in these seven years, so as to pursue the next seven years.

If you treat marriage as just a kind of marriage, then the seven-year itch can only be the reason and excuse for you to refuse marriage. May all friends better maintain your interests and hobbies. I also wish my friends a happy and long marriage.

Many people complain that after being married for a long time, there is nothing to say between the two, and there is almost no communication. After living for so many years, we are very familiar with each other, we know each other very well, and there are fewer common topics, so we can create. My husband likes football more, and I don't dislike it, and in recent years we have started to go to the stadium to watch Tuan Wang football, and both of us are very happy.

From the sweetness of love to the reality of marriage, there is a transition process in the middle, and there is also a process of slowly accepting adjustments.

From a biological point of view, human cells are iteratively updated all the time, and scientific studies have shown that all cells in the human body will be completely renewed every seven years, in other words, you seven years ago and seven years later, in a way, are not a person at all. Just imagine, would you and a stranger keep all your preferences the same? Taking 10,000 steps back, even if the preferences are the same, can you guarantee that the preferences are the same?

All I can say is, hard. Therefore, the seven-year itch, to a certain extent, there are objective factors, although it is not excluded that subjective factors account for the majority, but objective factors cannot be ignored.

It is said that there is a seven-year itch of marriage between husband and wife, but a happy marriage is always happy every day, and such a result can never be seen.

A happy marriage is completely based on the joint management of two people, and such a business is the joint contribution of two people, and each person has their own sense of responsibility in their own marriage.

This is the love of two people, which is fully embodied in life, and will not lose the feeling of falling in love because of the dullness of life, but completely embodies their marriage in happiness, so that their love is growing every day, and every day is boring in different changes.

This is a happy marriage, two people have endless words every day, and they have a common goal, in order to manage their marriage well.

In marriage, men will always tolerate their women, and this tolerance is the greatest happiness in marriage, and they will never quarrel with their beloved women because of some trivial things.

This is a man who knows how to love, can grasp the psychology of a woman, so that two people can find a real happiness in marriage and have a stable foundation.

And women in marriage, always respect the man they like, and this respect, but to the man is a real vitality, when their man has a positive spirit, can change their career status, for their happy marriage will bring a stable guarantee.

When this happens in a marriage, it will always be a happy marriage, and every day will be very happy, and there will never be a seven-year itch.

If you want to get through the seven-year itch, couples should communicate with each other more and solve problems.

First of all, you must not quarrel, do not blame each other, and secondly, you can create some small surprises for each other.

Preface: Feelings need two people to manage together, and many people get married after falling in love, life returns to the dull, two people get along day and night, over time, lose the freshness, and there will be a feeling of tiredness in the heart. In life, the opinions of the husband and wife are often not consistent, and the behavior between the husband and wife will make the other party resist, resulting in the inability to communicate normally, and the relationship will slowly deteriorate over time, and the relationship will gradually break down.

Many couples can still live in a two-person world when they don't have children, and they can create some romance from time to time, but when they have children, the couple's experience is put on the children, and there is no two-person world, and the content of the conversation between the husband and wife has become related to the children, and other things become less and less, and even no longer communicate. Why are there many couples who can't get through the 7-year itch, many cases are that two people have been together for a long time and lack of freshness, if you want to get through the 7-year itch safely, you have to turn yourself into a new person. <>

Improve your own value and make yourself good, so that you can shine and re-attract the other person. It is also necessary to change the rhythm of the relationship, you can become a little hot and cold, take the initiative into your own hands, and let the other party figure it out. If two people have been together for a long time, there is no common hobby, and they play each other in their spare time, then the two people will drift apart, so it is very important to cultivate a common interest and hobby, it can increase the time that two people spend together, and it can also allow two people to have a common topic, for example, two people can play games together, but they must not dislike each other, otherwise it will cause conflicts and backfire.

It is best to go out to travel to the stars and climb the mountain together, the scenery is good, the atmosphere is good, and it is more conducive to enhancing the relationship between the two. We have to learn how to manage this relationship, improve ourselves, take care of each other, rely on each other, and protect this hard-won relationship together, which also requires two people to manage together.

Seven years is a hurdle, seven years is not long or short, but it is enough to understand a person, there are some contradictions in the life of some couples, and it is easy to explode when it accumulates to a point, and seven years is just a point in time.