What is your family status after marriage? How is family status reflected?

When making money, the status is in the family, which is very low, but when you are financially independent, it is different, and you feel that your status in the family belongs to the upper class.

This is probably the marital status of a woman after marriage, many times it is like this, and the same reality is true in marriage.

Some girls always say that you can drink enough if you have affection, and men have also said that they will support you for a lifetime.

But what men say about raising you for a lifetime is not to raise you like a treasure, but to treat yourself as a nanny to serve him.

After getting married, those women who leave their jobs for the sake of their families are often at the bottom of the marriage, and many times they live a very bitter life.

It can be said that because there is no income, it is not hard to talk at home, just like a gas bag, and if you say a word, it is equivalent to fart.

If you work and can make money, it will be different, the attitude of your family towards you will change dramatically, and it will also please you in every way, you will no longer spend their money, and people will treat you like a guest.

There are still differences in relationship and mode of getting along before and after marriage. When you fall in love before you get married, you are more romantic, and at that time everyone is more enthusiastic and has more time, you can often watch movies, eat, and enjoy the time when two people get along, as if the whole world is your own.

After getting married, because of firewood, rice, oil and salt, everyone's life seems to have become thicker, not in the wind and snow, but thinking about what to cook today and how to arrange it to save money. used to be spoiled, but now it's time for me to be on my own, and everyone is actually equal in status.

However, as a unique individual, women play a different role in the family than men, and they are more powerful, and the family status is still dominated by men on the one hand, but they can also have their own opinions, which is very assertive, and the whole person has become mature.

We don't have to hand over all of our economy to our side, or set up a public account and keep all the money here, we don't have it, but we are still very united, and we will discuss what we need to spend money and so on, and he is in charge of major matters.

I feel that the status is still very high.

Some people say that a woman is a princess for one day, a queen for ten months, and then the rest is all a nanny-like life.

But I don't feel that way, I feel like I've always been a princess. Sometimes the status of a woman depends on the man you choose.

Some women choose men based on men's appearance, and some look at men's money. But that's not how I chose it.

I think it still depends on whether the man is good to you or not, some people say that they are good to you before marriage, but they are not necessarily good to you after marriage.

I still agree with this sentence, but it was not good for you before marriage, so will it be good for you after marriage? A woman must have a vision.

Many women become the people in the play themselves when they are in love, and they can't see each other's shortcomings. Even think that disadvantages are advantages.

But the consequences were still very big, and I was very calm at the time. I could see clearly who he was, his habits, and even everything about him.

It turns out that I was right, and I have been a princess for at least the four years I have been married.

After I got married, my family status was basically equal to that of my wife. Because I don't think there is anyone who is higher or lower in marriage. Since two people live together, they must respect each other, help each other, and love each other.

Life after marriage is about supporting each other. Face all the hardships and difficulties in life together. Mutual respect.

Therefore, the status of the family must be equal, and only in this way can we have a happy marriage and a happy life.

In the family, it is family affection and love that govern the relationship between husband and wife, and it is the boss and subordinates who are dominated by money. Therefore, couples who really love each other have nothing to do with income, on the contrary, if you feel superior because of your high income, you can arbitrarily instruct the other half, it is recommended that you change it! Because he or she needs a subordinate and not a partner!

There is a contrast and an exchange of interests between people, including husband and wife. Husbands and wives are also an exchange of interests, sometimes an economic cooperation in running a family together, and sometimes an exchange of emotions and economics. This exchange is based on the principle of equality and voluntariness.

If one of the spouses has an absolutely high level of economic income, it often means that they have strong ability and property.

If the other party thinks that the total family ability you pay is not equal to the sum of the family ability you pay, such as managing the family and housework, educating the children, and giving the salary and income, then the exchange will change, and the party with the higher income will control the family's right to speak, that is, the higher status. Although husband and wife should be equal, but the fact is that everyone knows in their hearts that strict wife control and machismo abound, and most of these couples are not in the status of income determination, sometimes it can be said that husband and wife have a strong party and a weak party, saying that the weak is actually tolerating each other, not really afraid that you are maintaining the relationship between husband and wife.

As the saying goes, there is an iron spoon that does not touch the edge of the pot, strength and weakness are relative, money is one thing, but if you really earn less for a long time, then your right to speak in the need for money is a lack of confidence, no doubt. But if you do well enough to pay for the family, then you will have more right to speak, because you also pay the price for the family, but the form is different, as long as the goal is for the family, do what you should do, who says who is in charge, I personally think, at home on the issue, things are on the table, who has the final say on whom, in fact, at home more is also capable people work more, strong people do strong things, weak do ordinary things at home, the days are natural to divide labor.

If there is more sufficient voice in the family, it proves that the status of the family is relatively high, or that people are willing to listen to this person, which also proves that the family status of this person is very high.

In fact, you can look at who earns more money in the family, and generally those who make money will have a high family status.

In general, the decision is made by the person with a higher family status, and the person with a lower status can only give advice or obey.

In our East, especially in our country, due to national conditions and historical reasons, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families.

Before we got married, our lives were based on the individual, and after we got married, our lives were all based on the family. Sometimes it is no exaggeration to say that two people have unknowingly become a whole, one is prosperous and the other is lost. Therefore, family harmony after marriage is very important, if a couple is not favored by both families before marriage, then the contradictions and entanglements must not be so easy to deal with.

The inextricable contradictions between these two families will inevitably affect the love life of two people after marriage, and it may change from the dissatisfaction of the two families at the beginning to the dissatisfaction of the three families.

But this is not the case in many Western countries. It is not possible for parents to interfere in their children's marriages, regardless of whether the family supports them or not. The marriage of the young couple is decided by themselves.

When marrying someone, family is really important. There is a good saying, the lucky people are in childhood all their lives, and the unfortunate people are in **childhood. What kind of family environment people grow up in, what kind of personality traits they have, and this is precisely an important factor that determines the quality of our marital life.

If your marriage partner grows up in a family where parents quarrel all day long, dislike each other all day long and have no love for each other, then it will have a great impact on his or her personality and attitude towards marriage, and people who grow up in this kind of family may be more withdrawn, indifferent, and do not know how to live in harmony with their lover, do not know how to love their other half, and even do not know how to be a qualified father or mother, and do not know how to get along with their children.

If your marriage partner grew up in a family with a serious patriarchal system, and has a super strong father or mother, then he (she) must be a person with a particularly soft personality and no own opinions, boys with strong mothers often care about their mother's opinions, and even sometimes give up the necessary respect and protection for their lovers under the authority of their mothers, this kind of "fear of mothers and men" is often difficult to give a lover a happy marriage, because his relationship with his mother will only make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that is already difficult to reconcile become more and more intense, In the end, the bad family relationship affects the marital relationship between the two. A girl with a strong father may live in the shadow of her father's authority all her life, lacking due security, on the one hand, she may be overly dependent on her other half, but at the same time, she may be suspicious all day long because of her insecurity, and such a marriage may be spent in "chicken and dog restlessness" all day long.

If your marriage partner grew up in a democratic and loving family, then he (she) will develop a more sunny, friendly, assertive character, and also have a higher emotional intelligence in dealing with people, and will coordinate the relationship between family and marriage, and know how to care for the other half and children, he (she) will pass on the family style of the original family to his family and children, which is very important for the harmony of the marriage relationship between the two.

In general, when choosing a marriage partner, it is particularly important to look at the other party's family, especially the situation of the original family. But if the other party's original family is not good, can't he get married? Of course not, after all, this is a marriage between two people, if you feel that he (she) meets your own mate selection standards in all aspects, and you fully understand him (she) as a person, it is worth entrusting for life, then listen to your inner voice and let the so-called original family go to hell.

No one came to my house, but praised my husband for loving his wife. In my opinion, these are all things that a husband should do, but because very few people can do it, my husband is rare. Take eating, for example.

I am in charge of cooking, but when it comes to eating, my mother-in-law is in charge of feeding the children, and my husband is in charge of washing dishes and wiping tables. Every time I eat, I don't sit at the table, and my family doesn't move chopsticks, because we are a family, and we can't only take care of ourselves when eating, let alone cook.

Many female netizens may disagree, thinking that who doesn't have a particularly hungry time? The point here is that a lot of habits are formed once or twice, once you show that you don't care"You eat first", you will soon be the least important person in the family. The resentment towards her husband is because of the problem of eating.

When I was about to sit down to eat, my husband said to me that the nanny was not at the table, and when my parents-in-law sat there during the meal and no one spoke (wry smile mother-in-law is also min), and a few times I said that your sister should be a mother when she gets married.

Later, when I had children and took care of them, I put the children in the stroller next to me as long as the meal was ready. There are no small things to eat. As the hostess of the house, my advice is that everyone should contribute, be it a husband or a child.

In the case of a family of three, unless the children are less than two or three years old, they should also be involved in household chores. If a woman cooks, a man must wash dishes and clean up the table. Children can help with bowls and chopsticks, and it's a harmonious family life.

In conclusion, before doing anything, I want everyone to think about it"Can I live with this kind of unfairness for the rest of my life? "If not, don't start.

I know. Family status is reflected in many details, and then it will also be affected by the relationship between members, if the family status is relatively high, you can have a certain initiative and voice in the family.

Family status is reflected according to economic income, and people who make more money have more say and have a higher status at home.

I know that family status is reflected in everyday life, and it is also reflected in the financial control of the family.