What happens to children who are often beaten when they grow up?

This still depends on the situation, and sometimes the parents' methods are really wrong. But sometimes children make mistakes again and again, and it is not okay not to fight. When you are young, children must not be too pampered. Otherwise, it will be difficult for him to adapt socially.

Because many times it is because you are particularly pampered at home, but the social environment will not pamper you because of your cuteness. I hope you look at and face it correctly, but if you don't develop some good tutors and a good atmosphere, going to society really makes you feel that there is a big gap.

Therefore, parents of children must not neglect all aspects of education from an early age, and they should be beaten. Especially if you make a mistake and often don't repent. But it is also necessary to communicate very well to convince people, no, very simple, simple and rude.

Children should understand the good intentions of their parents.

But both sides must empathize, take into account the other party's ability to bear, and cannot blindly do things blindly and completely by their own will. You can't impose your ideas on others.

How to say this, children are often beaten and it varies from person to person.

Some children are more naughty and mischievous since they were young, and they usually reason with him, but he doesn't listen.

If you don't deal with it seriously at this time, it may make the child even more lawless, thinking that he can do everything by himself, and his parents will not teach me a lesson anyway.

So it's okay for such a child to hit him when he's young, just trying to get him to do the right thing.

There is also a kind of child who has not done anything wrong, but the adult just wants to hit him and treat the child as his own toy.

Anyway, if your own child doesn't fight for nothing, he gets angry when he sees this kind of child, and it's good to beat him out of anger.

In this case, when the child grows up, there may be a little psychological distortion, and often such a child will have two extreme personalities.

One is that he likes to hit people as much as his parents.

On the other hand, the personality will become more cowardly and accustomed to accepting bullying from others.

Therefore, it is also necessary to divide things into things when it comes to hitting children often, in order to educate children. There were also beatings for no reason. It mainly depends on the adults. Hitting a child in different situations will also produce different psychology.

I believe that many people have been beaten by their parents when they were young, and children who have been beaten by their parents will grow up to be introverted, and they dare not fight back before they are beaten before they become adults, and their emotional intelligence is also very low, they don't understand the world, they don't fit in, and the relationship between classmates and teachers is also very poor, they are relatively wooden, their response is very slow, their adaptability is also very poor, they are very inferior, they are withdrawn, their learning ability is also very poor, and they will have the idea of being tired of learning. Parents will be labeled as obedient. However, these obedience are actually manifested in not daring to fight back, not daring to rebel, constantly suppressing oneself and even self-harm.

Children who have been beaten since childhood, don't like to work when they grow up, like to be alone, afraid of meeting acquaintances, and don't dare to answer when they see acquaintances calling, they will pretend not to hear, and they are addicted to games and don't work because they want to gnaw at the old, but because their emotional intelligence is very low, they are unwilling to deal with colleagues, and they will always think about the bad aspect when they encounter difficulties. The psyche has changed and is in a sub-healthy state. This kind of person is also very extreme in his heart, for example, if there is a person who does not know how to obey himself, he will start beating people in their cognitive world, as long as I beat you, you will definitely obey me next time.

Therefore, parents must not hit their children, children who have been beaten by their parents since childhood will have great psychological obstacles and distorted personalities when they grow up. It is often said that filial piety comes out under the stick, and if the child is disobedient, it will be fine as long as he is beaten, but the child who is often beaten and scolded will not develop in a good direction when he grows up. Especially when girls encounter problems, they have inferiority and stage fright, they don't have a generous character, temperament, and a submissive character, and they will tolerate each other in getting along, and they don't know how to fight for their own interests.

Most boys are irritable and lose their temper at every turn, because they were influenced by their parents when they were young, they used violence to solve problems, and when they grow up, they will also use violence to solve problems, and their ability to control emotions is poor and they are easy to be impulsive.

Children who have been beaten by their parents from childhood to adulthood may not be able to become talents, and may also rebel and choose to use the same methods to deal with their future families.

Children who have been beaten and scolded by their parents since childhood will lack self-confidence when they grow up, cannot feel the love from their parents, are very fragile in their hearts, and are cold and unsympathetic, and may have violent tendencies!

Will be a person with a very positive outlook, will not make the same mistakes when he grows up, be more independent, work better, learn more promisingly, and have stronger work ability.

Children who are often beaten by their parents will also become violent people when they grow up, and this kind of person is actually influenced by the original family, and their hearts are actually extremely painful.

You will become a person with no self-esteem, a person with a short temper, etc. People who have no self-esteem are often beaten to suppress their children's self-esteem, and they will become self-esteem when they grow up; People with short tempers, parents often use violence to solve problems, and make their children become grumpy.

People with an unusually short temper. We all say that children are carved out according to the appearance of adults, especially for a family that loves to use violence to solve problems, many times when parents use violence to solve problems, children will witness it, or parents will use this violence on children, naturally children will also follow this behavior of their parents, they will be very irritable at every turn, and their temper will also be very irritable, and when they encounter a little thing, they want to solve the problem with fighting, so parents may wish to take a look, Whether your child's temper is also with you.

Level 1: Subconscious.

I'm worried that my child isn't good enough. Usually when we are beaten by our parents when we are young, we will be very aggressive. When we grow up, we will hit our children with a high probability.

The second layer is the high expectations of the child.

The third layer is anxiety due to excessive expectations of the child and the subconscious fear that the child is not good enough. The way to deal with anxiety is to learn how your mother scolds and hits her child. Being beaten by your parents when you were a child makes it easier to hit your child when you grow up.

Trust. There are also small probability events.

It's that you were beaten and scolded by your parents when you were a child, and if you were in pain at that moment, you made a reverse decision in your heart: I will never beat my children like a mother when I grow up, I want to be a good mother. So even if I was beaten by my mother when I was a child, I won't hit my child today.

But it doesn't matter. It's not too late to make that decision. Now think about it.

When you accidentally did something wrong as a child and were beaten by your mother, how did you feel in your heart? What do you most want to say to your mom? Please write this down on paper.

Once you've written it down, you know how your daughter feels and what she wants to say to you. Okay, now about your anxiety. For children, the ages of three to six are critical periods for the development of self-confidence.

You need to recall whether you gave your child enough encouragement, appreciation, and praise when he was three to six years old.

Observe. If children praise, encourage, and appreciate well done, they will be confident. When a confident child walks into school, learning will be relatively smooth.

Children who are not confident are less efficient in learning and will also have problems concentrating. For a child who is not confident, the mother's anxiety will make him even less confident, and the mother will pass on his anxiety to the child, so that the child cannot concentrate on learning.

Admire. So you need to take a good look at whether you are giving your child enough praise and encouragement when they are three to six years old. If that's not enough, that's okay.

Let's reconcile now. Criticizing a child is not directly pointing out that he is not good, it is equivalent to telling the child that you are bad, you can't do it, and you can't do it well. When the child is hinted like this, he really feels that he is not good enough, and he will unconsciously follow you to criticize, which will eventually backfire.

I won't do this, I won't let my child continue to experience what I experienced when I was young, if the child has such an experience, it is very bad for the child's growth, and the child will feel hurt in his heart.

I don't beat kids because I was beaten when I was a kid. I don't think getting beaten will solve the problem, it will only make my children fear their parents.

After having a child, I will not hit the child, because if I do so, it will only hurt the child's self-esteem and cause psychological damage to the child.

I definitely won't hit my child, hitting my child won't solve the problem, and it's very bad for the child's growth, which I will definitely be strict with myself in life.

Children who are often beaten by their parents since childhood often have two aspects when they grow up: 1 is very inferior, and 2 is very violent or short-tempered. In the face of attack, people usually have two choices, fight or flee, which is the animal instinct of people.

These children, who have been beaten since childhood, are still scarred in their hearts when they grow up.

Children who have often beaten their parents since childhood should grow up with low self-esteem, no matter what kind of things they do. None of them will be particularly confident.

When they grow up, they will have resistance and revenge against society, and their outlook on life and values will be deformed. Deep down, I always question myself.

It will make the child lose self-confidence, and in serious cases, there may be a tendency to domestic violence, which is very detrimental to the child's growth.

The top child who was often beaten by his parents when he was a child grew up will hate his parents and will always be a little dissatisfied with society.

Will be rebellious, will be irritable, and lose his temper.

Some children, because they have been beaten and scolded by their parents since they were children, have lived in a depressive family atmosphere for a long time, so when they grow up, they have become the same as their parents, short-tempered, and like to use force to solve problems. In their eyes, hands-on problem solving is the best way to do it. They are also very distressed at times, but they don't know what to do.

I have a friend who is like this, because he was beaten by his parents since he was a child, so he has an extreme personality and a short temper, and he doesn't know how to vent his temper. After having a child, when the child has something that disagrees with him, he will also be angry with the child like his own parents.

From this incident, it can be seen that the beating and scolding of parents has formed a "serial car accident" to a certain extent, so that children will treat their children like this when they grow up.

Low self-esteem, timidity and cowardice.

Children who have been beaten up by their parents from an early age tend to form two extremes, either like the former, with a very short temper, or, like the latter, become inferior, timid, and cowardly.

They do not have the right to express their opinions from an early age, they just accept their parents' ideas and expectations, do it mechanically, and have no ideas of their own. If you don't obey, you will be beaten and scolded. Because their ideas are never accepted, they are unable to complete their self-identification.

When I grow up, I will feel that I can't do it, I can't. For the rest of his life, he will become inferior, timid and cowardly because of what happened when he was a child.

Because of the requirements of my parents, I am getting better and better.

Anything but extremes, there is an in-between. Although some children have been beaten from childhood to adulthood, they seem to be pitiful, but they have really become excellent because of it.

Because of their parents' high strictness and high standards, they are motivated to be competitive and make them better and better. When he was ignorant and took a detour, it was his parents who pulled him back through coercive means. Although I was very angry at the time, I recalled it carefully later that it was indeed because of my parents' education that I would not go astray.

This kind of result is also very enviable.

Children are often beaten, which can undoubtedly have a serious impact on their physical and mental health. Long-term exposure to violence can lead to psychological disorders such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, etc. In addition, being beaten can cause physical problems, such as trauma, internal injuries and brain damage.

As they grow up, children who are often battered may suffer setbacks socially. They may lack self-confidence, feel introverted, lonely, and have difficulty communicating with others. When it comes to work, they may feel frustrated and incompetent, having difficulty coping with stress and challenges.

In addition, they may become cynical and lose trust in society and other people.

However, while the frequent beatings of children are horrifying, this does not mean that their future is necessarily ruined. There are many psychological approaches and support agencies that can help those who have experienced loud violence to regain confidence and stability. By stooping down for help and support, children can overcome the difficulties caused by beatings and regain a healthy, positive attitude towards life.