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Although I don't know if your family said this when they were angry, I think it really hurts your family to say this, especially what does it mean to have no relatives and no friends, and the family is not a relative, right? It's kind of hilarious.

I've been through something similar to you, my family has said something uncomfortable, and I've cried about it, but it's useless to find yourself sad after crying, they don't understand why you cry when you're being told, and they say you're too vulnerable. So I think first of all, you can be sad and sad about this, but don't cry in front of this kind of person, he said"No relatives and no friends"I don't think he's worth your crying anymore. Then, he said that you have a quirky personality and can't make friends, and I was deeply touched by it, because I think I am a person with a quirky personality, and my family has also said about me"Strange personality",But I don't think so.,I've always felt that as long as I can communicate normally.,Strange personality doesn't affect anything.,On the contrary, weird personality is also my character.,Although I have a weird personality, I also make a lot of friends with my own character and some kind and sincere advantages.,What's wrong with that?

And although your family says so about you, but that is not necessarily your true situation, you must not default to you being such a person, maybe you are worthless in his eyes, but in the eyes of others you are a very good person<>

Besides, even if part of what he said is true, you don't have to feel inferior to it, the world is so big, there are many friends or something, and some people get along well and may be better than your relatives, as long as you go on confidently and optimistically, you will definitely meet. If I meet someone who says this about me, I will definitely ignore him, do whatever I have to do, and live what I like.

I think you can't be inferior or concerned about this, but you can be unconvinced. You can choose to ignore him like me and live as you want, or you can start to change some of your quirky personalities and make more friends: you can read more books to increase your knowledge, enrich your knowledge, learn some skills, cultivate some hobbies, go out to exercise from time to time, read some books on how to interact with people, etc.

All in all, I think that although this kind of thing makes you sad, it can also make you learn something from it, understand some things (such as you see a person clearly, understand how it feels when you are said this, etc.), what you should really do is not to feel sorry for yourself, to be sad and sad, but to make yourself stronger, more optimistic, and stronger.

There is no need to persuade! Someone doesn't like to socialize! I like to be quiet! If you're afraid that she's lonely, just stay with her for a long time!

The mother is old and doesn't need to explain. People and personalities are different. He's probably one of those people who likes to be quiet. Take a little more time to chat with her.

Your mother is an introvert, he likes to be alone, he doesn't like to make friends, she likes to be quiet, you don't want to disturb her peaceful life. It's lively, and she will be disgusted by it.

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A person lives a very happy life, so no matter how you live, it is okay to do it

In terms of acceptability, we make friends just to make us happy. A person's character determines a person's lifestyle, and a person's lifestyle determines a person's attitude towards life, so no matter how we live, as long as we live what we want, it is enough!

You can help your mother sign up for a senior tour group to travel and make friends with her peers. Or give her a puppy, there is a dog to accompany her, and she can talk to other dog owners when she goes out for a walk.

You can accompany her and communicate with her well, but you need to be patient, adults are generally more opinionated, they are not easy to be persuaded, so it is best to give her a lot of patience.

You can take your mom to square dance and take her to meet more people of her age. Perhaps, slow specialization can be changed! I don't know if you're a man or a woman, if it's a woman, you can try this method to me, if it's a man, you can talk to your mother about things of their age, but she likes to be alone, there must be some reason, sometimes the reason is found, and the matter is solved!

No need to persuade you, as long as your mom thinks it's good to live like this. Your mom thinks it's comfortable to live like this, and that's enough.

No need to persuade, I am the repetition, me and the child.

Parents are together, basically no friends, the only thing I have is parents and children, in my heart and head are them, outsiders don't know how to get along, and don't like to get along, maybe I'm deceived and afraid, I don't know what the reason is for your mother, you find the reason, don't persuade if you don't find the reason.

Don't force it, she likes to be alone because she likes this kind of life, if she has friends, she will feel troubled, as long as she likes it, she is not trying to change, just be herself.

Take her out for a walk, meet more friends with common hobbies, only with common hobbies can you get closer to her, and gradually get closer to her psychology.

Why do you want to persuade her? Everyone has their own personality and their favorite days. You may feel happy to make friends, but for your mother, it may be a burden, and if your mother is happy, leave it alone.

is more introverted, always thinking about others, suffering losses for himself, doing what he likes to be alone, and he doesn't want to go when there are many people, and he is still not confident.

What are the character flaws you are referring to?

Is it too withdrawn and timid to communicate with others normally?

Is it because the temper is too big, often unable to restrain itself, and easy to hurt people?

No matter what kind of character flaw, since you can clearly recognize it for yourself and admit it from the heart, then you have the possibility to correct the character flaw.

If you are too withdrawn and timid, it is recommended that you start by trying to communicate with your loved ones, try to listen to other people's ideas first, and try to give them some advice after they confide in you. Then, try to tell your family about your confusion and listen to their advice. After communicating with your family, try to open up with your classmates or colleagues.

Slowly, there will be improvement.

If it is short-tempered, it is difficult to restrain it. Every time you want to get angry, take a few deep breaths and try to calm down before communicating with others. The situation will improve.

The premise is to have a strong desire to change and long-term persistence, and to constantly strive to break through yourself. Psychologists' research shows that about 50% of personality is genetically determined, and the rest can be shaped and perfected as oneself grows under the influence of the environment. If you are not satisfied with your personality, you can try the following methods.

Successful Character Training – Self-Training Here's how to do it: First, find four random acquaintances of you, ask them what their impression of you is, determine if you like their answers, and judge why you changed your image, behavior, and personality in the first place to reinforce what you like. And then go to express your new personality.

I would like to remind you that you should not expect to develop a character that will be successfully transformed anytime soon, but that you must also build on the core of your character.

If you feel that your character is flawed, you should walk through society and discover your own shortcomings, which is a good thing, and being able to recognize your own shortcomings is a kind of progress in itself. When encountering problems, solving problems, you know very well what your shortcomings are, what causes them, all this is only you know best, because only you know yourself best, come up with a specific plan, while learning, while improving, this will definitely take time, once the habit is formed, it is not so easy to change, take your time, don't be impatient, be patient, this transformation process is actually a process of exercising the heart, without a strong inner world, your character can not change.

Knowing is better than not knowing that your character is flawed, and it is an improvement. If you don't know your own defects, it is a pity to cause a lot of losses that can be avoided and cannot be avoided in life, knowing that defects can be slowly changed, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, start from little by little, have confidence in your own shortcomings, integrate with everyone, develop your strengths and avoid weaknesses, and make your character constantly perfect.

First of all, I think you have to face up to the problem, which is the real world.

Everyone in the realm has character flaws, otherwise they can be called saints. So there is no need for you to blame yourself too much or carry a heavy burden because of your character flaws. Character defects are universal, but they vary in their severity and severity.

It's rare that you can recognize that your character is flawed. Many people still don't realize that they are willful or even willful. Of course, if there are defects, we must find ways to correct them, slowly, step by step, bit by bit, and gradually improve ourselves and improve our ......

No one's character is perfect. If you feel that you have a flaw in your character, it means that you want to improve yourself, so change your personality. In fact, the defects of personality are often the defects of thinking patterns and behavior patterns, consider the problem more comprehensively, more meticulously, don't be impulsive when encountering things, calm down, your personality and behavior will be more perfect.

You think I have a flawed character, and you should do this:

1.Learn to recognize emotions, find the ** of emotions, and then slowly relieve her, concretize things, it is easier to solve or the formation of our emotional behavior response patterns to the outside world, a large part of which is affected by growth experience. In particular, the emotions generated by the negative traumatic events experienced in childhood will slowly accumulate into "heart knots" that will unconsciously affect us later in life, just as you yourself intellectually do not want to complain negatively, but many times you still can't restrain yourself, right?

Exploring the knots that affect your current emotional and behavioral responses, seeing the true state of your inner child, and healing those wounds will change your temperament and make your personality gradually perfect. Consider doing a self-growth plan.

2.Learn to relax and let go of yourself. You can feel that you are not satisfied with your current situation, that you wish you could be more confident and positive, that you want to change but seem to feel that there is nothing you can do.

Everyone has their own upbringing, and the patterns of reacting to difficulties are also something you have learned from a young age. Why you have become your current self, why you are dissatisfied with your current self, these can be explored and understood through personal growth, taking you to start the road of self-growth together, and in the process you will meet the unknown self.

So to tell you, everyone's character in this world will not be the same, everyone will have some shortcomings, because there is no accurate standard to say what kind of character is perfect, it can only be said that your character is not the kind of character accepted by the public, and it is precisely because each of us is different that we have that unique wonderful, and strive to be the kind of person you yearn for in your heart.

You feel that your character has.

The flaw, in fact, comes down to your lack of self-confidence. I think there are two main reasons for the lack of self-confidence. The first reason has to do with the environment in which you grew up.

You grew up with little affirmation, encouragement, and praise from your parents. As soon as you have an idea, they deny you, and over time, you become unconfident, causing you to be unwilling and afraid to share your thoughts with others, so that you now feel that you have a flawed character, in fact, you have been suppressed for too long. You need to be released and live as you are.

You'll be happy!

The second reason is that you have experienced too little. There are many things that you have never experienced, and your heart is bottomless and fearful. So you may also have "interpersonal phobia", you are afraid to talk to others, you are afraid that you don't know what others say, you are afraid that you don't know how to respond to others.

In fact, to overcome this fear, you just face it directly, and if you haven't experienced it, you can experience it, and you will find that many things are just that simple. When you have experienced abundantly, accumulated life experience is rich, and your heart is also full.

So, I don't think it's that you have a flawed personality, but that the emotions that need to be released are just released, and the experience that needs to be filled is just to make up for it! I'm sure you'll live as you are, and you'll be happy!

In fact, it's good that you can recognize your personality flaws and come to seek solutions, I don't know what kind of character flaws you have, but generally speaking, character flaws will affect interpersonal communication, and will also have some impact on study, work, etc. If you are simply knowledgeable, introverted and taciturn, but it's okay, but if your personality is more quirky, it will be a little difficult, you can ask the people close to you what they think of you, what are the things in your personality that you can't tolerate the most, and then start from the most serious and urgent point It would be great if you could help your family and friends.