What are the consequences of not being tactful?

In fact, it is not so exaggerated as the consequences, each person has a different personality and a different way of dealing with the world, and produces different results.

Dealing with things is not tactful, for example, I just worked, don't say that it is sleek or not, that is, the concept of doing things is actually relatively vague, I know that I am bored to work, and I feel that as long as I work hard, everything will be fine.

Result: Do the most, be blamed the most, thankless, and give you the least bonus. Of course, I also received the evaluation that I worked hard, but I didn't have such an idea.

At that time, I thought, in fact, if you have an idea, can you see it? I just don't want you to know what I think, those who say that they are brain-dead suggestions next to the boss, do they have ideas?

Later, I thought that such an idea should still be divided into two, for example, if you don't say that the boss really doesn't know, so he will give you such an evaluation and complain about others.

And if you really don't take into account the opinions of these leaders, and don't want to discuss with them whether you have ideas or not, then you have to be even better.

In fact, most of the time, the main reason for our state is that we are not good enough to ignore interpersonal relationships.

I can also excel to the degree.

So if you want to live in the future without thinking about how to deal with things smoothly, then practice your skills and abilities to the extreme.

The consequence is that everyone doesn't like you anymore.

The adult world is more hypocritical, and everyone knows a lot of truths, really you don't need to say it, you don't think it's anything to say it, and the person who listens will definitely feel uncomfortable, but the person who listens is smooth, people won't say anything, but they will remember you silently, this time you offended this, next time you offended that, and in the end, you offended all over again.

People are still polite to you on the surface, but behind the scenes, they all think that you are too upright, and you can't let others get off the stage.

People live for a lifetime, the most important thing is to be happy and happy, don't drill the horns, don't be aggressive, don't go into a dead end, make everyone unhappy, this is really not good.

When people are too upright, others will not praise your justice and will think you are naïve.

Before the company had a monthly meeting, a little girl was late, the minimum requirement of our company's leaders is punctuality, which everyone knows, it just so happened that our supervisor was also late that day, but she came in one step ahead of her, and she must have seen that the supervisor was late.

Then the manager criticized her a few words, and when she thought she would sit down obediently, there was a dramatic conversation: "Our supervisor is also late, why don't you criticize her?" ”

Everyone was stunned at the time, one sentence embarrassed the supervisor, made the manager speechless, and made the audience speechless.

Good girl, how do you say that you will let the supervisor arrange classes for you in the future? People are under the eaves and have to bow their heads, and the old words still have to be heard.

Failure to be tactful can have the following consequences1:

At the wine table, when facing villains and gentlemen, the attitude does not change much, which can be uncomfortable and have an impact on the person's future life.

It's hard to succeed. Because a true master not only knows how to deal with people, but also knows how to maintain his interpersonal relationships so that he can get more help and support in work and life.

It is easy to offend people. If a person does not know how to be tactful, he will offend others because of his words or deeds, and offending others is a thing that does not outweigh the loss.

The basic interpretation of being tactful is to see people and talk about people, and talk nonsense when you see ghosts, not to offend people, and not to attract people's jealousy.

Handling things refers to encountering things that need to be dealt with, and simply refers to "doing things".

Sleekness refers to an attitude and method, which simply refers to "being thoughtful in all aspects of dealing with people".

Characteristics of a sleek person in general:

1. Be good at pushing things to others to do.

2. Talk and laugh but don't show your attitude.

3. I like to play tricks, say more and do less.

4. Not good at taking responsibility.

Extended Information: Similar idioms to describe tactfulness:

Eight-sided exquisite]: exquisite: delicate and meticulous, referring to people who are flexible and agile. This means that the windows are bright and spacious. Later, it is used to describe people who are sleek and all-encompassing.

Eight-sided round]: Describe people as sleek and thoughtful everywhere.

He is also a right and wrong, and this is also a right and wrong]: that is also a kind of right and wrong, and this is also a kind of right and wrong. The parable speaks tactfully, and does not offend anyone.

Knife cut tofu on both sides]: The metaphor is sleek and flattering on both sides.

Slippery head and slippery brain]: Describe people as cunning and dishonest. It also refers to being sleek and unwilling to be responsible.

Grinding disc two circles]: The metaphor is sleek, and both parties are not offended.

Cliff Breaker]: Grinding off edges and corners. The metaphor is tactful.

Shunbi slippery]: Shunbi: follow the meaning of others; Slippery: Smooth speech. In sleek language, follow the meaning of others.

Tactfulness means that you have a certain degree of ingenuity and flexibility when dealing with interpersonal relationships or problems, and can be good at listening to others' opinions, expressing your own opinions and needs, and also being able to maintain good interpersonal relationships. A slick person usually has the following characteristics:

Good at communication: Able to clearly and unambiguously express their opinions and needs, but also able to listen to the opinions of others and actively seek consensus.

Adaptable: Able to respond to different environments and situations accordingly, and avoid conflicts or disputes due to their own principles.

Ability to grasp scales: the ability to discern when to stand up for one's position and principles, and when to compromise and back down, so as to achieve balance and harmony in dealing with problems.

Insightful: Able to understand and feel the emotions and needs of others, and be able to use different methods to deal with different interpersonal relationships.

In conclusion, tactfulness is the ability to use wisdom and skill to deal with problems and interpersonal relationships, and it is an important social skill that can help people better adapt to the social environment and improve their communication and problem-solving skills.

Tactfulness refers to being able to cater to the wishes and emotions of others when dealing with things, and to achieve goals in a flexible way without hurting the feelings or interests of others. Specifically, tactfulness includes the following aspects:

Good communicator: Ability to communicate with others in gentle, polite language, understand their needs and ideas, and find common ground.

Flexibility: In the face of problems and challenges, they can flexibly adjust their thinking and methods to find the most appropriate solutions.

Consideration of others: Before making decisions and actions, we will take into account the feelings and interests of others, and try to choose a way that is friendly and beneficial to them.

Stay calm: Even in the face of tense or difficult situations, you can stay calm and rational, and will not make wrong decisions and make decisions due to mood swings.

Patience: Be able to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others, guide others patiently, help them understand their own ideas and accept their own opinions.

Being tactful helps us build good relationships with others, enhance our ability to work together, and improve our efficiency and effectiveness in solving problems and achieving goals.

Tactfulness means being able to deal with things flexibly and flexibly when dealing with things, not affecting decision-making due to personal emotions or prejudices, and at the same time being able to live in harmony with others, and not being cautious about smiling because of conflicts that affect work and interpersonal relationships.

<> "What is tactfulness? I suggest you stop and take a look.

1.Don't speak hard.

2.Don't say harsh things.

3.Don't point out other people's shortcomings, weaknesses in public.

4.Don't brag about it, others can see it.

5.If you talk awkwardly, you'd rather not talk about it.

6.Don't say anything that embarrasses others.

7.Talk about topics that interest the other person.

8. Don't panic, others will easily see through it, and then you will no longer have a place in the hearts of others.

9.If you don't know if you can say it, then don't say it.

10.Before you speak, think about what the consequences will be after you say this, and whether you can accept the consequences, and then decide whether to say it or not.

11.Learn more words that everyone likes to listen to, and listen to words that feel very comfortable.

12.Don't say anything demeaning about others.

13.Using humor to defuse embarrassment requires people who are very good at talking, and people who can't talk can make things even more awkward.

14.Don't try to uncover other people's scars.

15.When you speak, be gentle, if your tone is too hard, others will think that you are too self-conscious.

16.If you can't speak, shut up, if you can't speak, you can't speak, and try to talk as little as possible.

17.Don't interrupt people easily.

18.Learn more from people who are popular, and see more about how people talk.

19.Don't speak too directly, don't be too straightforward, don't be too straightforward, others will not be able to stand it, be tactful, be tactful.

20.Learn to empathize, learn to think from the perspective of others and see things, so that what you say is likely to satisfy others.

21.Say more words of praise.

22.Be confident in yourself. There is energy in what you say.

23.Don't mention other people's troubles, sad pasts, and troubles.

24.Say more compliments, say more good things, say more beautiful things.

25.Others didn't ask about you, don't point fingers.

26.In front of anyone, have a humble attitude and don't float.

27.Learn to read words and looks, and look at other people's expressions to decide what you can and can't say, when to stop talking, and when to leave.

28.If you can't do it, don't promise others, don't send it.

29.When necessary, learn to shut up, silence is golden, because if you say too much, there will be many mistakes, and disaster will come from the mouth.

30.When others laugh at themselves, you must not echo them.

31.Learn more from humorous and funny people, these people are very good at talking.

32.When talking to elders and bosses, be sure to use honorifics, be polite, and be respectful.

First, more and more people are giving things to them.

Sleek people are especially good at pushing things to others, saving if they can, pushing if they can, doing less if they can, not doing what they can, and secretly breaking down their own things to others in a round, so that they can do as little work as possible.

Once you do less work, there is less chance of making mistakes, and you are not only happy to be idle, but also happy to be safe.

But simple work, easy to produce results, they will not give up to others, and they are experts in grabbing credit.

Second, they don't show their attitude in words.

A person who is sleek often has a smile on his face, seems to be very good to everyone, is not angry about anything, does not mind, the more he has no attitude on his face, the more he can't see his attitude, because he has a position and attitude in his heart, but he does not show it.

You think he has no temper, but in fact he is the whole until you have no temper, the sleek person is the best at tai chi, play haha, don't listen to what he says, think about what he thinks in his heart, how to do it with liquid spikes and actions, smooth people's mouths, deceitful ghosts.

Third, no longer take a position lightly.

When everyone was discussing things together, he was reluctant to take a stand, and even if he knew what to do, he wouldn't necessarily bring it up.

Because once it is proposed, it may be handed over to oneself to do, even if it is not handed over to oneself to do, if the method is improper or wrong, it is often necessary to bear the corresponding responsibility, so in order not to be responsible, the sleek person pretends to be deaf and dumb, let others take the idea, do it himself, and do the superficial scenery things, in order to let himself grab the credit when he succeeds, and let him take advantage of the benefits.

Fourth, I like to fight with people.

There are four kinds of people in the workplace, the first one is to say it with his mouth and do it with his hands;

the second, those who talk and do not act;

the third type, who does not talk about it, only knows how to work hard;

Fourth, they don't say or act.

People who are sleek in handling things belong to the "talk a lot, don't work in their hands", and like to fight with people the most, either to raise the bar with others, or to play Tai Chi with others.

Fifth, there is less responsibility.

The responsibility in the workplace is not necessarily valued by the leader, because the more you do, the greater the possibility of mistakes, you do nine things right, the leader can't remember; If you do something wrong, you will be held accountable.

Therefore, sleek people especially know how to pick things, let themselves take less responsibility, and be safe and stable.