Is love an ability that can be learned?

Love does not need to learn, what needs to be learned is how to understand oneself and others, happiness needs to be achieved by people, and love is for people to experience.

We've long been accustomed to behaving around a standard, including feelings. It's a pity that there will be no standard for love life, and since there is no standard, how can you learn? Therefore, we began to imitate, such as imitating the love mode of the previous generation, such as imitating the bridges in various ** TV series, such as imitating various ways and methods passed in chicken soup.

It's just that most of the objects we imitate are immediate, that is, we only know the beginning and don't know the end. Maybe you should stack roses when courting, but how should life go after success? No one told you.

The result of imitation or learning becomes the pursuit of metaphysics, but it can be detached from all kinds of problems at the level of reality, so we will lack a sense of security. Because what we pursue is formal, and the result is all those beautiful pictures, so what if we fail? Because we are afraid of failure, we will be cautious or sharp.

The heart will go with love ...

It might be better to say that love is not an ability that can be learned. Falling in love is the ability to be learned, how to talk, how to understand other people's words, understand other people's thoughts, and be more happy with each other.

Love is an ability that can be learned. Man goes from a fertilized egg to an embryo, to a baby, and is born from his mother's womb in ten months, which in itself is a process of starting from nothing. Except for innate instinctive responses, all abilities need to be learned.

It's just that some people learn more slowly, and some people learn faster.

We all have different learning paths to acquire abilities, and we don't necessarily need to be taught, and we don't all need to learn through books. What we do best as humans is adapting to our environment. If circumstances require us to learn to love, we can naturally acquire such abilities.

Those who do not know what love is, by its very nature, do not know how to express and perceive love. This is probably because the people in the environment they are in are more introverted and don't know how to express emotions. Under this subtle influence, they are naturally assimilated, or at all, they are not inspired to learn love, because there is no need.

This is very much in line with the principle of biology to use in and waste to retreat. The more you use and the more you perceive, the more people will be sensitive in this regard. But if you never touch it, it will be silent forever, or even die.

So if you want to learn to love, you have to put yourself in that loving environment first. Let yourself feel how these people express and perceive love. After that, I use it in my daily life and deliberately train for a while. The power of love will be learned by you.

If you are skeptical, you observe those who are particularly good at expressing emotions and feeling love, their surroundings, and how they get along with people and things. I think most of the time, they grew up in that kind of environment where their parents pampered them, and at least one of the parents must have been very good at expressing love. So the ability to learn this kind of love is as normal for them as eating and sleeping, as if they are born with it.

Love is not ability, it is human instinct, so there is no need to learn.

Men and women, young and old, good and bad, good and evil, everyone has love. It's always in our genes, but different loves require different activators.

The love of children for their parents. This is the love that each of us has been activated since I can remember, and we follow our parents as little heels, crying loudly when we can't see them. Even when he was sent to kindergarten, he would hug his parents' necks at the door and be spoiled for a long time.

In the blink of an eye, I have grown up, and my parents are also old. Every time I look at their graying hair, my psychology is very sour. Although time cannot stand still, you raised me to grow up, and I will accompany you to grow old.

The love of parents for their children. It wasn't until I gave birth to a baby myself that this love was really activated. I also really understand what kind of feelings parents have for their children.

Do everything you can to give him the best and exhaust your life to pave the way for him. Although this kind of love may change from pampering to nagging, the hearts of parents have never changed, whether the children understand it or not, they have been giving silently.

Lovers and couples in love. This is love that takes age to activate. Some people are precocious, so they activate early.

In China, it is called early love, and some people activate it relatively late, so whether they are in love or married, it will be very late, and it is called low emotional intelligence. But no matter what, except for the monks, people in the world can find their other half, and this love will stay with you for the rest of your life.

The friendship of making friends. This is the love that needs to be paid to activate, and the dedication to friends can enjoy the sweetness of friendship. Whether it is an iron buddy or a girlfriend, they are a huge wealth on the road of life, and sometimes friendship is even stronger than love.

In addition to these, we also have some great love, such as: love for the motherland, love for the nation, love for the hometown; There will also be some delicate love, such as: love for the environment, love for small animals, love for objects, etc.

As long as you really look into your heart, you will find that love has always been in your heart, and it does not need to be learned.

Yes. People will always change, with the change of time, the change of the region, the contact with different people will have different changes, love is the same, just like we don't know how deep to love when we are ignorant, but as we grow older, we gradually know what we really want love, in the choice and give-off in love, we are gradually clear, so, in the process of love, we are often in the process of gradually understanding how to love each other more, cherish each other a process.

Love pays attention to fate, but there is a kind of love called "fate without part", when you meet a kind of love, you love deeply, but in the end for various reasons can not be together, you may feel sad for a while, and even feel that you will not love anymore, but people often learn from the kind of desperate love, love will make people sweet and warm at the same time, but at the same time, it will also make people hurt all over the body, and the body is incomplete. Then, in the later life, slowly rein in their fanatical heart, dare not be so headless and brainless love anymore, and finally when I meet a person who is "destined and shared", I know that love is also to pay attention to methods and management, so that it can last for a long time and be happy.

After talking about the love in love, let's talk about the love in family affection, for example, when you treat your parents with a gentle voice and respectful and know how to miss your parents, not only the lip care, but also when it falls into reality, you can also often accompany your parents whenever you have time, all of this, your children will see in their eyes, learn in their hearts, what is this, this is the inheritance of love, your love for your parents, was learned by your children.

Then, let's talk about the love in friendship, for this kind of friendship between good friends, it should be said that "the better you treat me, the better I will be for you", you have paid your sincere friendship to the worthy person, whether it is happiness or trouble, you can share or help to tide over the difficulties, then your friendship for your friend, your friend will naturally remember it, and she will also learn from you this positive energy and friendship spirit, and the relationship with you is further.

Love can be influenced by each other, if you are in a big environment, are quite a loving atmosphere, then you will naturally be imperceptibly affected, moreover, love is not to deliberately learn, love is a feeling, the kind of good and bad feelings between people, to choose whether you love or not, so, in the ocean of love, we are not only constantly exploring, at the same time, we are also constantly learning and perceiving progress.

From my own experience, I think it's okay.

Many people have said to me: you may be incompetent in love, no matter how you look at it, you may not be a suitable person for love, you may be a person who works and gets married, and so on, which seem to be not very good words. But I agreed with it all and expressed my deep approval.

I also think that I am a person who has no ability to love others, I can find out the shortcomings of others in all the people I know, and then I am extremely critical of thinking that this person is not suitable for me and that does not match me, in fact, I know very well what kind of person I am, in an easy-to-understand sentence to describe it is typical: ugly people and face control.

But this kind of pickiness of others is something I can't change and can't change.

In the face of the love shown by the opposite sex, I always go back angrily and then have a feeling of disgust, thinking about how someone likes me, and then I realized that it is not my unilateral arrogance, a large part of the reason is that I have a little inferiority complex, and I always feel that I am such a person that others will not like me, because I don't know what I like very much.

And all this self-righteousness or the thoughts of the people around me about me did not exist from the moment I met my boyfriend.

It's not that I'm very accepting of my boyfriend, but to be honest, when I first agreed to be with him, the criterion for judging whether I liked him or not was that his confession was probably the only time I didn't feel the kind of disgust that people had when they were talking to me about relationships.

So I thought, maybe I like him!

I was also very serious about discussing my own ideas with him, I told him that I might not be sure if I really liked him, he gave me an attitude of tolerance, and he even said things like I asked me to use him as a guinea pig to test my ability to love others. My first feeling about this was that I was moved, and then I thought about letting go of the mustard in my heart, letting go of my lack of confidence in myself, and slowly learning to love and how to love others.

I'm very happy that I learned this ability, I love him, I feel the feeling of missing someone who can't sleep at night, I feel the feeling of liking someone and wanting to do anything for him, these are contrary to my previous vows, so I happily slapped myself in the face hahaha.

At this time, the friends around me who had defined me were also surprised, they couldn't believe that such a cold and emotionless person like me could fall in love with someone else.

You must know that people are emotional animals, no one really does not have feelings and does not have the ability to love, it may just be that you love later than others, and feelings come slowly, so it is the right choice not to escape your feelings and not to avoid your ability to love others.

Love, no matter what, it has to be vigorous, and it is not in vain to come to the world once you devote yourself to it!

In fact, I think this love is also slowly accumulating, because I think that not everyone is born with love, and then the love they come into contact with is given by their parents at the beginning. So I think it's something that can be learned.

Learning is to grasp by yourself, and love needs to be managed by yourself.

You can't say that it's all up to you, and you'll find that you can't make your own decisions about many things as you walk, but let's move forward with a good attitude!

Learning is to grasp by oneself, and love is to grasp each other