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There is no one to take care of the mother's bedside, and the children play by the bedside.
It is the so-called distance to cut the constant affection. Looking at it, how many people will not forget their parents when they go abroad. Maybe you feel that your parents can't take care of them when they're not around, which is commendable, but it's not realistic.
If you don't leave your parents every day, they will live forever? Will they be immune to all diseases? Parents have their own lives, and children and grandchildren have their own blessings.
Parents want you to be closer to them when you start a family, but they want you to be closer to happiness ... I feel like your parents don't like your boyfriend... That's why you're conflicted, right?
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As the saying goes, loyalty and filial piety can't be both, and no one can help you choose! In addition, it is definitely not unfilial for an only child to marry far away, from another point of view, assuming he stays in the provincial capital, will you go to see your parents every day after you get married? Filial piety or unfilial piety is not something that can be explained by distance, nor can it be expressed in words, but by action!
Support you to marry far away, after all, it is not easy for two people to fall in love!
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You just want a reason to marry far away, you told us the answer in the first sentence, since you have decided, don't think about it, in fact, parents love their children, you are good, they will be happy.
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The only children are all parents and treasures, and they are reluctant to marry far away, but the two of them really love each other, they are sweet and happy together, and they are conducive to their work, so they should be supported. Because it is not easy for two people to fall in love. Marrying far away is not unfilial, now the transportation is very convenient, in such a developed era, the distance can not hinder the kindness of two generations.
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It's okay, won't it be over if you take your parents over in the future, and won't you regret it if you don't marry?
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Many people may say, then we can't live for our parents for a lifetime, we can't miss our true love because of our parents, yes, it's not easy to meet true love, but it's easy to stay away from your aging parents, for a man who doesn't know how long he will love you, leave a parent who has raised you for more than 20 years, won't you feel sad like this?
You are an only child, you can let this boy buy a house in your city, or in the city where you work, instead of taking you back to his home thousands of miles away, you follow him, how will the parents who stay in their hometown spend the New Year's holidays, have you ever thought about how bleak their old age will be.
Many people say that as long as you have money, you can come back to see your parents often as long as you have money, many people leave their hometown to work for Hu Shan's life background, and go home at most once a year, do you think you will have a few opportunities to go home a year after you get married.
You will get pregnant and give birth, you have to take care of the child, the child is not three or five years, there is no way to take a long-distance bus home alone, if you want to go home, you can only wait for your husband to take a long vacation, that is to say, you want to go home depends entirely on whether your husband has time.
When the child is good to go out, maybe you are going to have a second child, or after the child goes to kindergarten, you will start to go to interest classes, at this time you have no time to go home during the holidays, and when the child goes to primary school and junior high school, you will go to work again, at this time you will not have time to go home to see your parents.
So don't say that the transportation is convenient, even if you marry far away, it is easy to go home, I am married to a husband in the same province but different cities, and I currently go home at most once a year, at most a week at a time, and my parents have to cry every time they send me away.
Although parents raise their children is a process of seeing each other away from themselves, what parents hope is that their children can be closer to them, so that they can see Zheng's family and see him happy, instead of marrying thousands of miles away, they don't know what happens, and they see other people's families lively, and there are only two old people in their own family, I think you should be able to imagine how bitter this kind of life is.
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If the parents have prepared a pension and pension insurance for themselves, then it will be good for Andala to enjoy his old age, and he can just go and see his daughter when he wants to, after all, the girls are all supported by the family.
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In fact, who a girl chooses to marry and whether she wants to marry far away is a personal decision, and there is nothing that can or can't. If you marry each other, you can make your daughter happy, and I believe that no pair of parents will prevent your daughter from marrying far away. But conscience advises that, if you can, choose not to marry far away, especially if you are an only child.
First of all, if an only child marries far away, then it is not particularly convenient to support his parents. When your parents are old, if you are sick and it takes a lot of time to rush home from other places, how tormenting it must be during the time to rush home. Secondly, if you are wronged at your mother-in-law's house and want to go back to your parents' house or find family support, your mother's family is out of town, and it is very inconvenient to rush over.
I met a girl before, she was the eldest in the family, and she resolutely married to another place for love. Later, her parents often got sick or had a little accident, she was very anxious at home, her husband couldn't drive her back when he was away on a business trip, and the tickets he could buy were the next day, and sometimes he had to take the children back. She admits that if it weren't for her younger brother and sister at home to help take care of the elderly, she really didn't know what she would do.
It's just that her husband has always been very good to her and has lived a very happy life, otherwise I'm afraid I will really regret marrying far away.
Don't be willful and feel that true love is invincible, for love, you can do anything, even if you marry in a distant place. In fact, parents hope that their daughters will not marry far away, not out of their selfish psychology, but more because they hope that their daughters can not be too far away from home, and if they have any grievances or unhappyness, they can be used as a harbor for their daughters at any time to back up for their daughters.
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Generally speaking, no matter whether you marry far or near, you should consider both parents, after all, China is still a society that raises children and prevents old age, and the social security system has not yet developed to the stage of socialization.
If you only think about your own work and life, the life of the elderly may be very difficult in the future, because there are some things that cannot be exchanged with money.
I hope you will think about it again.
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You can discuss with your parents, if your parents don't agree, it's really miserable, we have lovers whose parents don't agree and don't eat, and finally my mother agrees in distress.
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You can bring your parents over after you get married, and communicate more with your parents, boyfriends, and other parents.
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In fact, you are not very far away, even if young people are married, they may not live with their parents, they may live on both sides, or they are all working outside, and if they have money, they may buy houses in other cities, so don't think about these things with traditional thinking, you should think about it with people's thinking now, after all, your parents can't live with you for a lifetime, and the one who will accompany you for a lifetime will always be your lover.
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The only child is far from marrying, this has always been a difficult choice of the problem, on the one hand is love, on the other hand is family affection, in fact, I think that if the two parties really love each other, it is possible to marry far away, now the traffic is more convenient, 500 kilometers a day can go home, when you have time to go home to see your parents on it, of course, if you have the ability to take your parents over to live.
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An only child should not marry far away, no matter how good the outside is not as good as your own family, you have to raise yourself, and you still need to take care of you when you are old.
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If you marry an only daughter far away, your parents will be anxious when you are old and have a big illness and a small illness, and if one of your parents dies and one is left alone, a person's life becomes casual, the traditional ideology of the Chinese is heavy and many old people are not willing to go to nursing homes, and the nanny at home will not have children and daughters intimately, so that the elderly have a happy old life is the responsibility of the children, you raise me and I support you old, so it is best not to marry far away.
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Depending on the family conditions of both parties and the development of the area, if you have the conditions, you can also let them move to your side.
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It doesn't matter how far the children marry, the key is not to be far away, the distance between the hearts is also far away, then it is nonsense, as long as the distance of the heart is close, the family affection will be very close.
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It depends on whether you are true love, whether you can give up something for each other, and whether your parents are willing, in fact, there is nothing that should be done, it depends on whether you are willing or not, if it were me, I would definitely not be willing, I would like to accompany my parents more.
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Bring in our parents, when our parents are old and have reached the age when it is time to benefit, we as children should learn to be filial.
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Not recommended. It's a very real problem, my relative's only daughter is married, and then my mother is sick, and my father takes care of it very hard, and the two old people cover it, and finally my father is also sick, and my parents are a lot older all of a sudden, because I am married far away, and the children at work are all dealt with, plus it is an ordinary family, and it is really difficult to come back from leave, so it is very realistic to tell you. The girl also regretted it, but what about the child, what about the small family, she said this to me very hard, and you will weigh it yourself.
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Generally speaking, only children should not marry far away, the first is too far away from home and there is no sense of security, and the second is that there is an urgent matter that cannot be dealt with as soon as possible.
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If you meet the right person, and it happens to be far away from your parents, is it really going to break up? Filial piety is to be done, but their true love and happiness must also be pursued, it will be difficult to encounter such a thing, you can discuss, after all, the only child has to rely on himself to support the elderly, the parents are young, and they can take care of themselves. If the parents have mobility problems, we must be around, or have the financial means to send the parents to a better nursing home, but we must visit them often.
The best thing is that you discuss it, and when your parents really need to be taken care of, you can be by your side, the elderly have worked hard all their lives, and I hope they will not end up depressed in their old age. If not, then you have to think of another way, far from marrying is not the most important, the most important thing is to be able to fulfill filial piety in time when your parents need it, parents will be one in your life, but there will not be only one person who is destined for you, give up your parents for love, then no matter how deep your love and feelings will leave regrets.
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It's really a question, everything that comes to the future marriage needs to be thought through! Only child, besides, you are a girl, marrying so far, it is absolutely difficult for your parents to take care of it, and your boyfriend said that it is correct to take him over, but you think it is unscientific, and it is understandable, so at this time, it depends on who is willing to make a little sacrifice for love. If it's true love, I'm sure this distance isn't a problem either, so it might be better to have the best of both worlds, you know?
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It should not be bad if the child is far away and is wronged.
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It's best not to marry far away to take care of your parents.
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