Why am I so scared of losing my son?

This kind of psychological condition is actually very normal. Because the death of your beloved wife is very traumatic for you. So you're also afraid that this lover is leaving you.

Naturally, you are especially afraid that your child will leave you. But in fact, you have to think open-mindedly. Children have the blessing of children.

Because after you lose your wife, you regard your son as the most important person, so you are afraid that your son will have another mistake, this situation can only be slow, if the situation is more serious, go to a psychiatrist.

Because in your life, the two most important people are the wife and the son, the wife has left your life, and now there is only your son in your world, and you are afraid that he will get lost, and you will be left alone, then you really don't know how to continue your life, so your spirit is in a state of high tension, so you will always be cranky.

Because you have lost a loved one, and you are even more afraid that something will happen to your son.

I think you're actually insecure.

After you lose your wife, you feel like you've lost someone you can cherish and rely on. Therefore, you are particularly afraid that your children will leave you, the emotions are mutual, and when you give your children to rely on, why not treat them as sustenance and dependence.

It's normal, because you have lost what you thought were your loved ones, and the remaining children are the crystallization of love between you, and they are also one of your emotional sustenance, so you will naturally value and worry more.

Because you have a shadow in your heart, you are afraid that your son will be bullied.

Kiss! It should be because of the death of your lover, which has invisibly increased your stress.

This is normal, after all, people need emotional transfer, which is very positive for alleviating the pain of losing your wife.

Believe that after a while, this situation will ease yours, especially after you are aware of it.

Good luck getting back to normal soon!

This may have something to do with the departure of your wife, and you will care a lot about the important people in your life, and this is normal.

The misfortune of life, the loss of a mother at a young age, and the loss of a wife in middle age, make your father and son feel it; What is lost cannot be recovered, and what is cherished is cherished even more. It's normal and needs help.

You've lost your wife, you can't afford to lose your son!

--- record the time you spent growing up with your child.

I woke up at 5 o'clock in the morning, saw the light in my son's house on, and found him doing his math homework. The Dragon Boat Festival holiday was 3 days, and as an outstanding student in the class, he worked hard to make up for the ...... homework

The first year of junior high school came to an end immediately, and there was only one final exam missing. Looking back on the past year, I don't seem to know my son anymore. Obeying the child's wishes, we chose to go to school, went to his favorite Dajinhua (a place where he often went out of the high school entrance examination), and vowed to take the Hengzhong exam in order to enter Tsinghua University, and I had no reason to doubt this beautiful plan.

But everything is slowly changing......

The first monthly exam, the second in the class, grade 12. I told him that only by being in the top 10 of his grade could he enter Hengzhong, and I thought he would sum it up and make up his mind to work hard. Then, every night after eating, he fell asleep, and when I got up in the morning, he got up at 4 o'clock, earlier than me, and before he left, he said that he had finished his homework, and I completely chose to believe what he said.

When I got up early one day and found that the phone could not be found, I realized that he was doing it for me to study, it turned out that he was playing with the mobile phone while I was running, so he yelled and blamed, the relationship began to deteriorate more and more, every day to nagging and preaching, mutual language hurt, I couldn't control my emotions and hit him, but he not only didn't listen, but also did it against me, so I tried every possible way to reform him, looking for the help of teachers in various subjects, so I went all the way, although the grades were not bad, but they were not outstanding, and the grade was hovering around 100, The worst was more than 140.

One day I went out in the early morning and found an elderly man in his 70s picking up garbage under the dim lights of the community, coupled with the pressure of life, I didn't make as much money as a day, my good wishes were all gone, life became a mess, and I began to precipitate and think about what I would do at the age of 70, and I was very afraid. Rational life, I found that I was really wrong, parents are a mirror of children, I should not pin my hopes on children, I should have my own life. The reason why the child has become what he is today is that when I first found that his handwriting was not good, I just said that it did not help him to change, so it is getting worse and worse now; When I found out that he was playing with electronic products, I didn't help him analyze the reason, but simply yelled rudely; When I found out that my child's junior high school study habits had not been formed, I did not have a specific analysis of the problem, but I just did what I asked to do, but he did not listen, and worse, and neglected the maintenance of the parent-child relationship.

The boy who wrote calligraphy and won the award, the person who loved him, the energetic and energetic confident boy is gone, who is it, the real ** is caused by my unenterprising mother, I lost my lovely son, I want to communicate with him well, change myself first, live seriously, read and write, complete my study plan, and change my job and lifestyle next year.

Mom studies hard, cooks well, and the child goes up every day", not only for the second half of her life, but also for the child, fight!

Now your child must still be very young, if you don't take care of yourself properly, then it is easy to cause the child to be easily trafficked, so it is normal for you to have this burden on yourself. In fact, watching children is not a simple matter.

Because the person you love the most has passed away, you are afraid, you are really afraid of losing your son again, don't let yourself live so nervously, it is sad to lose your wife, but you have to come out for the sake of your son.

Because you love your son very much, this kind of love and hate has to be hurt a little, and you like your son because you magnify his focus and don't want to avoid your gaze every second.

Try to put your mindset in a normal way, everything will go with the flow and not worry so much.

You can understand your feelings, you lost your wife just now, maybe you are worried about losing your son again. It is recommended to calm down your emotions slowly and do not suffer from gains and losses.

The sudden death of your wife has caused you a psychological shadow. In fact, it is better to get out of this strange circle of life, and the child should have a little room for freedom.

Scared to lose! I don't feel safe anymore.