What should I do if my child has good academic performance, but his classmates are unwilling to play

A smart, lively, and outgoing child has no one who wants to play with him, so it is necessary to seriously find the reasons for these aspects from the child.

1. Personality.

Some children are slow-burning. It is easy to be open in front of your family, smart, vivid, and outgoing. When you first arrive in a new environment, you may lack a sense of peace and silence.

I maintain myself. He doesn't take the initiative to chat or play with his classmates, so that he will refuse to come to him to play with his classmates.

When Kobayashi transferred to a new class, he was able to listen carefully and complete his homework on time, but he liked to be alone and silent, which made people wonder if he could have autism.

Gradually, he began to feel the kindness of his classmates and teachers, felt the warmth of the collective, and began to integrate into the new class. Actively answer questions in class, usually enthusiastic to help others, do good things for the class group with my talents, and win the favor of my classmates, and play with my classmates!

Second, the behavioral aspect.

Behavior habits can affect a person's life, and it determines a person's personality charm.

so much so that it can change the fate of people.

It is important to check whether your child has any particularly nasty bad habits, such as spitting, foul language, taking other people's things for himself, being violent, fighting, etc.

These behaviors and habits have a direct impact on children's communication and future development.

3. Emotional intelligence.

A high IQ does not mean a high EQ. Some children are self-centered, do things without thinking about the feelings of others, do whatever they want, and do things willfully. Scolds people or things I don't like in person, regardless of the place, and I don't know how to tolerate it.

Or I usually like to make small reports to teachers and say bad things about people behind my back.

When I encounter anything, I like to find my parents to come out first, etc., and I will have no friends in these situations.

People who can make people feel comfortable will make lasting friendships.

The healthy growth of children is the wish of every parent! I hope that parents will spend more time and patience, pay attention to the bits and pieces of their children's growth process, and deal with the problem in the bud.

Parents should also guide their children to establish a correct outlook on life.

Values, to become an excellent leader for children! You say, don't you?

In such a situation, you should communicate with your child and ask what is the reason for it. If it is the child's own reason, we must let the child change, let the child be willing to share, be kind, optimistic and cheerful, so that there will be friends.

You must ask the child why, and then make the child cheerful and willing to share so that he will have friends later.

Parents should improve their children's emotional intelligence, should let their children take the initiative to play with other children, do not mention learning when playing, and should play with other classmates, so that other students are slowly willing to play with their children.

Children should be encouraged to take the initiative to communicate with other children, let them have time to play, do not focus all their energy on learning, and develop children's interpersonal skills.

Playing with classmates with bad grades does not necessarily mean that you will learn badly, it mainly depends on his learning status. Children who don't study well are more likely to play and have more active minds, and playing with them can prevent your son from becoming a nerd, which is also beneficial.

What should you do?

First of all, you should take it easy. Even if he starts to learn badly, he is still just a child, and it is easy to correct, so don't worry. If your son thinks you're nervous and anxious, and he thinks it's nothing, there will be a gap between you, and he will feel that you don't trust him, resulting in poor communication, emotional instability, difficulty understanding each other, and things will not be easy to deal with.

And if you behave calmly, care about him as an equal, respect him, and don't express opinions about his affairs casually, he will trust you, and will be willing to tell you the truth, and accept your guidance, so that no matter what the problem, it is easier to solve.

Then you have to pay attention to observing, and if he has been studying more attentively, then there is no need to worry. If you find that he comes home late from school, his attitude towards learning deteriorates, and his grades drop, you should be careful, you should communicate more with the teacher, learn more about his situation at school, and discuss solutions with the teacher.

For fear that children will learn badly, they should pay attention to cultivating children's sense of right and wrong. But don't blindly preach and indoctricate, respect him, and use heuristic methods to let him use his own brain to think.

In fact, you just have to go with the flow, children don't have to make friends with good academic performance, and there are certain benefits to making friends with poor academic performance.

If you compare your own era, some of you have good academic performance and now you don't mix well, but some of you have bad academic performance and you can mix well, and some of them are still big bosses.

It is important for children to learn with good academic performance and their methods and research spirit, but learning depends on consciousness, and learning methods must be summarized and discovered by themselves. No matter how good other people's learning methods are, they may not be suitable for themselves, and the methods summarized by themselves must be the most helpful for their own learning. So you don't have to force your child to learn how others do, just let him do it himself.

Of course, you can't be too relaxed, otherwise the child can easily become bad. Try to talk to him, not as a father, but as a friend. That's what children need to do now.

You should also not restrict your child from playing with classmates who do not get good grades, you can tell him when you talk to him that you will not restrict him from making friends, but there must be a scale. It's okay to play with those people, but don't do something excessive. Try not to let him go out with others at night.

Playing with classmates with poor grades can learn from your child's aggressiveness, which will not make him introverted and lay a good foundation for him in the future. Otherwise, if you don't let him play with a classmate with bad grades, there will be two results. If he doesn't listen to you, you must join them, (adolescent children are very rebellious) or they are very introverted and don't participate in any activities in the future.

You have to combine your previous psychology to educate your child.

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I'm also new from that stage, and I believe that there is not too much difference psychologically. But I don't have to be all **. I still have to go to class. It is impossible to always online

Don't, don't interfere with your child except when necessary, poor grades don't mean bad character.

1. Be selective in making friends.

Be sure to tell your child that when making friends, be selective. If you are with each other and feel wronged, then this kind of friend can be given up.

When two people make friends, they are in an equal position. Moreover, the relationship between the two people is also reciprocal. If one party is in trouble, the other can help.

But don't grieve yourself and do it to others. Such a person is not a friend, but a loss. Although friends don't distinguish between you and me, no one will always let each other take advantage of each other.

2. Make friends and know how to share.

When it comes to making friends, the relationship between two people is one of sharing, sharing, not handouts. If the other party's conditions are worse, it does not mean that the other party must give them the same thing. However, there must be a response, not an acceptance.

Today, you give him an expensive toy. Tomorrow, he will give you a cherished toy. This is called sharing, not measured by **. What is really worth measuring is the hearts of two people.

3. Make friends to understand right from wrong.

Although the two are good friends, they are not trying to shield each other. If the other party makes a mistake, then you must follow the other party to make up for it, instead of shielding him and letting him go further and further on the wrong path.

If the other party does something wrong, let yourself cover up. Say, if the other party doesn't keep it a secret for himself, he will be friends with the other party. In this case, you must not be reluctant. I'd rather not be friends than have more relationships with this kind of person.

4. Make friends with yourself.

There are often children who make friends with other children, and they make compromises. Regardless of whether the other party's request is reasonable or not, the first consideration will be to meet the other party's request.

This kind of behavior is a kind of "flattering type". At the end of the day, it's an incorrect behavior. In the process of making friends, children must maintain a good "self" and do not easily lose their own character. If the other party's request is unreasonable, you must refuse.

5. Look forward to making friends.

Many children will be frightened by the argument that the other party does not play with them. Many children are frightened by this statement. I think that if I don't do what the other person asks, I will lose my friend.

In fact, for children, this problem is indeed very serious. If you are a friend, you will feel that you have lost something very important. At this time, you must remember to look ahead.

There is no need to stop it, the quality of the grades is not the criterion for judging a person. It depends on his character, and if his character is not good, let the child stay away from him.

Of course, it shouldn't be stopped, children have their own social freedom, and if you even stop this kind of thing, it is likely to make your child rebellious.

It can be stopped, after all, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black, and children are with such classmates, which will inevitably have a certain impact on learning, so it is best to talk to children.

1. Help your child practice greeting.

2. Encourage children to learn to praise.

It is a good way to encourage children to appreciate others, discover their strengths and strengths, and let them learn how to praise people sincerely. For example, in a rope skipping activity, you can encourage your child to say, "You jumped rope very well!" ”。

Encourage in art activities to say, "I love the cats you draw!" ”。These are things that children can do and that others are comfortable with.

3. Encourage children to help others.

At school, when a classmate encounters difficulties, if you have the ability, you can help your classmate, for example, you can lend your classmate a pencil, or help your classmate look at something. Giving roses, leaving fragrance in your hands, and helping others will make students feel kindness and enthusiasm, which is a great help to friendship.

4. Let children take the initiative and do their best.

Socializing is also an ability, and when a child has mastered how to communicate with his friends, he will quickly replicate this ability and become a person with many friends. Teaching children to form the right social awareness is not only to allow children to quickly integrate into the new group, but also to prepare them for future social interactions.

A common cause of a child's misfits

1. Personality.

Some children are slow-burning. is open in front of his family, smart, lively, and outgoing are easy to show. When you first arrive in a new environment, you may feel insecure and protect yourself with silence.

He doesn't take the initiative to chat or play with his classmates, and even refuses to come to him to play.

Second, the behavioral aspect.

Behavior and habits can affect a person's life, it determines a person's personality charm, and even can change people's destiny. Usually pay attention to observe whether the child has some particularly offensive bad habits, such as: spitting, foul language, taking other people's things as their own, liking violence, etc.

These behaviors and habits directly affect children's communication and even future life development.

3. Emotional intelligence.

A high IQ does not mean a high EQ. Some children are self-centered, do things without considering the feelings of others, do whatever they want, and do what they want. Scold people or things you don't like in person, regardless of the occasion, and don't know how to tolerate it.

Or I usually like to make small reports to the teacher, talk bad about people behind my back, and like to find parents to come out when I encounter anything, etc., these situations will also have no friends.

No! If the child is able to make friends on his own, then his personality is in a stage of development in all aspects, at this stage he needs to develop his own sense of independence and begin to break away from the control of his parents. Generally, at this stage, they make friends very simply, their homes are close, and they can become friends if they have some common topics and hobbies.

When a child becomes friends with a classmate with poor grades, it must be that the classmate has a common topic with him and can confide in each other.

I don't think parents should try to stop their children from playing with children with poor academic performance. It would be unscientific to measure whether a person is excellent or not by poor academic performance. A child with poor academic performance does not mean that she has no strengths, and this will make the child not know how to treat others, and cannot look at a person more comprehensively, which will also give the child invisible pressure, and will make the child feel that only you have good academic performance is the standard of excellence.

If one day the child's grades slip, then he will think that he is not good enough, which will make him feel powerless.