I always care about what others think of me, and I have developed a habit, how to change it

Updated on psychology 2024-04-19
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I think everyone cares about other people's opinions, but to a different extent. No one is completely indifferent to what other people think, and it's not entirely bad to care about what others think.

    The crux of the matter is to be reasonably concerned about what others think. If you care about other people's opinions, it will only be good for your cultivation or habits. And other people's wrong opinions, such as boring gossip, you have to learn to distinguish.

    You have to analyze this view in your heart. Are they right? If it's not right.

    Or to an opinion that doesn't have much to do with life, you have to learn to laugh it off. You really can't laugh at it, at least you have to sleep and forget about it.

    There are many things in life, don't waste your time on this. Distract yourself and be clear about who you really want to be. Sometimes, when your own goals are clear, you will naturally ignore the opinions of others.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    In psychology, there is a kind of "decentralization". In fact, everyone is self-centered, and they feel that their words and deeds, and even their every move, are highly valued by others. But this is often a cognitive error.

    Others will have certain opinions about themselves through some things, but perhaps far less serious than you think.

    There is a saying, "How can I be as good as I want, but I have no regrets." As long as you do your best to do everything well, don't care too much about what others think. Of course, that's easier said than done.

    There is a way: you can communicate with the people around you what they think of you, what they do, what they think of you, and maybe you will get unexpected gains.

    I wish you a speedy escape from your psychological troubles.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    The more you care about what others think of you, the more tired you will become, the lighter - depression, in the late stage, it is a vegetative child (eye to eye) haha, just kidding, in fact, in this society, there are many people like you, to put it bluntly, that is, you are too fragile, and it is also possible that you have been hurt in the past, and you are very afraid of being hurt or left out in your heart. Teach you a trick!!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Habit Changes Destiny

    In a good word: try to change yourself.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    The key is to learn to evaluate oneself objectively and be able to analyze and accept the opinions of others.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Cheek problem...

    The same.. Me too. o(∩_o...Ditto. I want the answer ...

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you care a lot about what other people think, this reason is mainly because you have encountered too few things, so you can enrich your own experience and make your heart strong, so that you don't care too much about what others think.

    Paying special attention to other people's opinions is a very tiring thing, taking other people's evaluations as a kind of pressure, forcing yourself to live for this pressure, and life will be very boring. Therefore, you need to actively adjust your state, if you can't reconcile and go to a psychiatrist, you can reduce psychological pressure by talking to others, and you can broaden your horizons more, through reading books or outdoor activities are a good choice. If you make more friends, you won't take this pressure seriously, and the most important thing is not to push yourself too hard.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can slowly think about this matter clearly, slowly change it, and tell yourself that paying too much attention to other people's opinions is harmful to yourself!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Caring too much about other people's eyes, generally speaking, such people are very perfection-seeking and more sensitive in their hearts. Care about what others say. Shouldn't be a bad thing.

    Illustrate that the person is able to do self-reflection on a regular basis. But if you care too much. It became a kind of character flaw.

    I have two suggestions for how to change this.

    First, we should continue to enrich our knowledge and literacy to make ourselves more confident.

    Second, when encountering things, we should consciously strengthen our training from caring about the eyes of others to caring more about trusting our own judgment.

    Because under normal circumstances, only when you are not confident in yourself will you care more about the eyes of others.

    Asking questions sometimes doesn't know what to do in front of everyone.

    Ask how you can improve yourself.

    This is a relatively long process. You are now an adult, as long as you observe more and pay attention to learning.

    How strong you are.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    If I care about what other people think, I'll make me angry. Think about how sorry my friends are for me, think about how pitiful I am, and I guess I don't care what they think.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    People who care too much about what others think are usually uneasy about their openness. They feel unconfident about their identity, education, appearance, ability, etc., and some public personal information, and mistakenly believe that others are the same as themselves, and they cannot accept themselves in these aspects, so they are cautious.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Caring about the opinions of others is inferiority, first of all, you should improve your self-confidence, only when you are confident can you not care about the opinions of others.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If you want to change the habit of caring about what others think, then make yourself understand that everyone cannot be perfect, and let everyone like you.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    I think you should first develop your self-confidence and then make yourself good so that you don't have to care about others.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I think you have to be confident in yourself, keep a rational mind, don't care about other people's opinions, and just be yourself.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    You should make yourself better and be strict with yourself.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    In a word, if you don't have confidence in yourself and don't believe that you can do things well, others won't guess you like that.

    So, you have to slowly develop your self-confidence, and you can often self-consciously rent Zen hints: I am the best, as long as I work hard to do things, as for the result, I don't care.

    In addition, if you think about it, no matter how you speculate about what others think of you, it is only your own thoughts, others may not see you this way, don't take yourself too seriously, in your life, other people are passers-by, even bystanders, others will not put your affairs first every day, at most they will occasionally discuss and discuss. This ,,, actually the inferior nature of the Chinese people. There's a good saying:

    Who doesn't say anything after everyone recites Nachai, and who doesn't say people behind their backs? "Only you don't care, other people's eyes, do your own thing, and let them do the rest. Because as long as you have a clear conscience, other people's jokes, you should only treat them as a joke, and let them entertain themselves.

    Life is short, you don't need to suffer yourself for other people's ideas!

    I believe you can do it!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Being suspicious is not a bad thing! But it's not good to be suspicious of everything! Try to think and believe! Don't care too much about what others say, and when you get better, they won't be able to talk!

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I don't think other people's opinions matter, but you can listen, accept good thinking, and stick to what you think you should insist on, because others are not you after all, and it is yourself who really understands yourself! If there is something worth doing and going, go boldly. Live in the moment, go your own way, and let others do the talking.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Get out of social fear and build social confidence!

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Oh, I used to have the same troubles as the landlord, people are not perfect, everyone has more or less shortcomings, there are places that make people look unpleasant!There is no need to care about other people's opinions, I think so: we can't not care about other people's opinions of themselves, and we can't not care, "go your own way, let others say" This sentence is not necessarily completely correct, if you don't care about other people's opinions in everything, you can do whatever you want, do what you want, do what you want, I think, such people will not only make people hate them, but also lose a certain amount of self-motivation, not advisable!

    But if you care too much about what others think of you, you will live in other people's world all day long, others think you are not good, you will change, think you are not good, you will also change, then you live for yourself or for others, and there are places that we can't change, we can only add troubles to ourselves, there is no need for this!What I want to say to the landlord is to change what you can change, change what you feel is incorrect, and improve yourself more, in such a little change, you will be more mature, maybe then you will not be troubled by this trouble!I think you should communicate with people more, even if you are shy and scared in your heart, you should have the courage to take the initiative to communicate with others, as long as you have tried once or twice, you will feel that there is no need to be shy and afraid, of course, if you are afraid of being incoherent when communicating with others, you can think about what you want to say in your heart, and you can speak slowly when communicating with others!

    I said that I have encountered such a problem, the way to change this character is to take the initiative to communicate with others, no matter how scared or shy in the heart, is to muster up the courage to try, as long as you try once, the courage will be a lot of remorse, slowly will put aside the original fear and fear, landlord, I hope you can help you or your friends to overcome this kind of problem, now in the society competition, too introverted no, you do not take the initiative to communicate with others, others will rarely find your advantages, rarely can look at you!Finally, I wish the landlord or the landlord's friends more and more mature and excellent!

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Don't care what other people think, remember that no one is perfect. Everyone has their own shortcomings, everyone has their own strengths, and if you care too much about what others think of your shortcomings, you will live a very tired life. Therefore, when you care a lot about other people's opinions, you can actually reflect on yourself, whether you are really not good in some aspects, and see your true self from the eyes of others is actually good for yourself.

    Sometimes it's okay to look at yourself from a different perspective. <>

    Everyone has a certain amount of vanity, and when others say that you are not good, it is actually a violation of self-esteem。Sometimes when your self-esteem is too high, you will feel that you can't accept your own shortcomings in the face of other people's guidance. For this reason, I care a lot about other people's opinions, and I can only adjust my mentality.

    When a person is very sensitive, he cares very much about what others say, so if you want to adjust your mentality, don't be too sensitive to anything. <>

    As long as a person has his own thoughts, he will care a lot about the opinions of others. Everyone expects themselves to be excellent, whether in the eyes of others or themselves, and they expect themselves to be very good. If you want to be recognized by others, the only way is to make yourself better and better, and to break through yourself from wherever you are pointed at.

    Improving step by step is actually growing, and the effort after being denied by others is to move yourself forward. <>

    If you don't want to live in a world where others guide you, then you should have more contact with excellent people. Get along with excellent people, and what she can give you is not a question about you, but an encouragement for you. Because excellent people look at things differently and do things differently, so being with excellent people will make you feel very confident every day.

    In fact, lifestyle is also telling yourself what kind of circle of friends will bring you what kind of life, which is the same truth.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Don't pay attention to other people's different opinions, why bother to put him in his eyes, let go of his mind to do what he likes, go out for a walk, so that he won't care.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    In fact, you can let yourself go out for a walk more, relax your mood, look at the scenery of the outside world more, and face yourself correctly, so you will naturally not care so much about other people's opinions.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Other people's opinions do not represent your real state, nor do they have any guiding significance for your own real life, so just be yourself, don't care too much about other people's opinions, and just be happy.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    First of all, make your heart strong, let go of your own face, other people's opinions of you can't be eaten, don't care too much, just be yourself.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    I care too much about other people's opinions, and my general heart is more gentle, and I usually don't have too many opinions, so I need to improve my self-confidence, and remember to work hard to persevere to the end.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    You can enlighten yourself more, tell yourself that life is your own, you can live it how you want, life is short, and you can be happy in time.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Try to make yourself less tired to live, sometimes our image or what we do will have different opinions in the eyes of different people, so we always have to care about other people's opinions, then we will live extremely hard.

    The way I change this way of thinking is actually very simple, that is, to start taking care of my inner feelings, as long as I can do things without violating my conscience, and can really achieve my goals, then don't think too much, this is the way to really change this way of thinking, we sometimes just think too much, as long as we can do things right, without hurting others, then we don't have to think about anything.

    Let go of all the baggage of indifference, let ourselves live our true selves, and run to the poetry and distance in our hearts, which can completely change this kind of thinking of ourselves.

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