Why are some parents high achieving students, but their children are very poor?

In addition to genetic problems, it is also about the growth of the day after tomorrow. Just because a parent is a high-achieving student does not mean that the child must be a high-achieving student, because everyone's growth trajectory is different. If this child were to replicate his mother's line, he might become a top student, but on the contrary.

Everyone is independent, so no matter how much you copy it, you can't achieve what you imagined.

No matter how high the IQ of this parent is, it is still a parent. may give him a part of the inheritance, and let him have some intelligence, but if he wastes his strengths, he doesn't study hard every day, he only knows how to play, and even when he plays, he doesn't find his own interests, and he just lives in a mess. How can such a child grow up to be a good person?

Or maybe it's true that he was born very smart because of his parents, but he didn't cherish it, and when he was young, it might not be good. If you don't look at what happens to him when he grows up, you don't know what he's going to look like.

Therefore, it is useless to only look at his childhood, and even to look at the situation of his parents all the time. Because he is just himself, no matter how good his parents are, they are only his parents, not him, and if he wants to be an excellent person, he also needs to put in his own efforts.

I think it has something to do with the friends he made, my elementary school teacher's child was in elementary school because his mother was his teacher and his management was very strict, and then his learning and character were very good, but after junior high school, she made some friends who were very different from herself, and slowly her personality and temper changed a lot due to puberty, and then finally her mother couldn't control him, and then it changed so much that it has become very bad now.

This situation is actually very normal, I have a classmate, her parents are teachers, but his grades are not very good, so this is not necessarily related, in fact, as long as you are willing to work hard, you can do it, the key is to yourself and not others, others can only play a role in counseling, so this situation is not particularly strange, everything has to rely on yourself, especially this kind of reading.

Parents are high-achieving students, and the child's grades are very poor, because the child has not learned at all, and the parents are high-achieving students, and there is no policy to guide the child's learning, so the child is very poor.

The child is not trained enough. My son is a classmate, and his parents are both engaged in biotechnology research in the United States. Enough cows.

But their son, in my son's class, is a "good student" who is "counting backwards" ......It's that the parents are away for a long time. The grandparents probably didn't care much about their grandson's studies. Just eat and drink ......

Maybe it's human nature.,There's something wrong with education.。。

Ask your next-door neighbor to see if he looks flustered.

1. It is the character created by the growth environment and experience of each pair of parents, which are manifested as generous, selfish, cheerful, open-minded, melancholy, kind, tricky, arrogant, etc.;

2. Cultural literacy;

3. Working environment;

4. Economic status;

5. Outlook on life and consumption.

Due to various reasons, resulting in differences in parents' concepts, some regard children as life, in order to help children can take out their hearts, and even put their lives on the line, as long as the children are doing well, this must grasp a degree, and appropriate help for children can make children's lives less tribulation, too much will "harm" reduce children's abilities; Some people value their lives seriously, no matter whether their family members are good or bad, as long as they are comfortable; Some are "fraternity", whether it is relatives, friends or strangers, they can give their belongings at all costs, however, their family members turn a blind eye, whether it is need or etiquette, they will not express, stingy to the point of unreasonable, that is, it is often said that "relatives and enemies, outsiders are close" and so on. But no matter what kind of parents you are, you have to accept and approve whether they are good or not, because it is up to you to choose whether your parents are different.

There are many reasons why parents are poor. There are congenital mentally retarded, there are family difficulties and no way to seek knowledge, there are too few opportunities and many difficulties in life, there are those who are excluded by the wicked and unable to rise, and there are ......

Honoring one's parents is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation. It doesn't matter how bad your parents are. You can't dislike them!

What they need most is their children's love and understanding. The grace of nurturing is as great as the sky. Love your parents!

Their hopes are pinned on you, make good achievements and fight for them!

Because some parents love their children very much, and some parents beat and scold their children. Some parents don't know how to love their children.

It's the same people, why are people so different?

Generally speaking, this is the case, but there are many exceptions, because the parents of high-achieving students will better tutor their children to make them top students, and most of the parents in our class who have good academic performance are teachers.

Of course not, although the education of parents is very important, but it also depends on the children's own efforts.

This is still the reason for you, many of the parents of the top students are migrant workers.

No, as long as you study hard, you will eventually have @ out of the way.

Hehe, I just learned bricks, but my parents were just workers.

There are certain factors, but that's only 1% and 99% effort.

The children of the parents of the top students do not need to study to be the top students?

No, it's up to you to make your own efforts.

Wrong, not what you think.

Educating children is a very complex project, in fact, there is no necessary connection with the education level of the parents, but the key lies in the parents' attentive companionship and teaching by word and deed, as well as the educational philosophy. Whether a child can become a talent or not is related to the general environment, the original family education, the child's life experience, etc., and it is difficult to look at its success factors alone.

Generally speaking, there are several key stages of a child's growth, and if parents do not pay attention to and accompany them at these stages, it will often have a negative impact on the child's physical and psychological development.

years ago. At this time, it is necessary to establish the child's sense of security and some basic underlying psychological states. As the saying goes: three years old looks old. This statement makes a lot of sense to some extent.

At this stage, the child's attachment to the present is very strong, and he needs to establish a "safe base camp" as a strong inner backing for him to face the external environment in the future. It's cold, hungry, uncomfortable, but it's very important to have someone by his side whenever he needs anything.

Children who do not have a sense of security are prone to low self-esteem and anxiety when they grow up, and their hearts are not very strong. And a lot of times he doesn't know why he is like this.

2. Primary 1-3 grades.

This stage establishes basic social rules and study habits. When he enters primary school, he will be a regular student and will begin his long and arduous learning career. At this stage, he will encounter many setbacks and challenges that he has never encountered in his life, and if his parents do not help, support, correct, and motivate in time, then the child will have problems in the future in terms of interpersonal relationship management, self-confidence building, and the pursuit of a sense of achievement.

Self-discipline can also be affected. Self-discipline is the foundation of success and its importance.

3. Adolescence.

This is the most critical period for the formation of a child's personality, and it is also the most problematic period. Rebellious, eager to be independent, and began to have their own immature thoughts and cognition of life and society, if they don't do it well at this time, their parents will definitely regret it.

During these periods, it is not necessary for parents to have a high level of education, but often for time companionship and attentive understanding and encouragement.

Parents with a high level of education are usually busier in today's society, but it is difficult to have time to take care of the family, and there is not much time to spend with each other. When he was growing up, his parents were often not around when he encountered things, and they could not help him or correct him in time. These two points make it difficult to ensure the mental health of children, so it is easy to develop some bad habits and thoughts, and it is more difficult to become a successful person.

The reason why many rural parents still educate children with good grades is that they have relatively simple values, a simple and supportive family atmosphere, and are very attentive and concerned about their children.

In addition, the parent's educational philosophy and method are also important. If you pay too much attention to it and limit its development too much, it will often be counterproductive.

If a child wants to become a useful person to society, it is inseparable from the intimate and personal companionship of parents, attentive teaching, and sufficient encouragement, which has little to do with the level of education.

A high level of education and the ability to educate children are not necessarily cause and effect.

1. Why is the education level high?

If a person has a high level of education, it is likely that he is good at learning, which means that this person has a strong learning ability, or it may be that his self-management ability is very strong, and he can be strict with himself in many aspects, so a high level of education is a very personal situation, which can only explain his own quality.

A high level of education may also indicate that he is very adaptable to a series of entrance exams. There are many people in life who actually learn very well, but there will be some problems when exporting knowledge.

It's like people who learn the same knowledge, some people are suitable to be lecturers, and some people are suitable to be researchers.

2. What abilities are needed to educate children.

1. To educate children, we first need to have professional knowledge, which does not need to be very advanced, but must meet the cognitive level of children. This is why there are differences between preschool teachers, elementary school teachers, middle and high school teachers, and university teachers in the teacher qualification examination.

2. Educate children to have particularly strong communication skills. Communication is an important channel to understand children, and only with good communication can we understand children's thoughts and better teach them according to their aptitude.

3. The most important thing in educating children is to be willing to spend time.

Therefore, through dismantling, it is not difficult for us to find that there is basically no overlap between high learning ability and ability to educate children, and there is no inevitable relationship between the two.

Education is a kind of inheritance, which involves the interpretation of many concepts and policies; Literacy is only a natural consequence of the education system. Therefore, the reason why these parents who have a high level of education but are unable to educate their children well may be because they have not done the following:

1.Look for a change in thinking and find a way to inherit a new type of education.

At present, there are many actual schools that have such an educational situation:

It is clearly stipulated in the education program that children's ability to make independent decisions is stimulated through the form of buffets, and the ability to communicate and communicate is cultivated; Through the teacher's daily questioning: "What do you want to do today", the child's independent thoughts and interests are stimulated, and the teacher negotiates.

2.Use a change in mindset to change your child's behavior.

The different understanding of "early education" and the in-depth understanding of children's physiological needs and natural expressions have enabled German mothers to have a more humane way of education, and naturally brought different growth environments to parents and families.

For example, German mothers explain the phenomenon of "when parents cook, children are always 'making trouble' next to them", and their way of thinking is completely different from that of domestic parents: traditional mothers will think that their children are difficult to do, and then lose the opportunity to guide their children;

German mothers think this is normal, because "children want to see what their parents are doing".

Education comes from life, and German mothers believe that children should be allowed to participate in their own lives, broaden their children's horizons and enrich their experiences through their own work and life.

In the traditional domestic concept of mothers, learning is learning, and life is dispensable; Even if you have a life, it's just about buying clothes, cooking, traveling, and playing. Mothers do not have a rich vision and do not pay attention to their children's experience, so the result can be imagined, and children's education must be far from enough to rely on reading alone. ‍‍

Many parents with a high level of education will attach importance to education, but there are also some parents whose educational philosophy or other reasons not only do not educate more children than their parents, but on the contrary, they are not as good as those children from families with low education level.

In fact, although this phenomenon is not much, it is not uncommon.

My friend is a very ordinary person, his appearance is not outstanding, his studies are average, and it is too difficult to take the key high school exam, so he simply took the technical secondary school exam, and it would be good to learn some skills and find a job in the future. Anyway, it's a girl, and the family doesn't have too many ideas, and when the age comes, I find a husband to marry, and that's how life goes.

The appearance is average, the job is found by the family, she came out to work at a young age, and when she met a man who was good to her, she decided to marry. No matter how his parents objected, regardless of the man's family background, he insisted on going his own way, and as a result, he lived in a two-bedroom apartment with his husband and in-laws for more than 10 years. Fortunately, her parents are in good condition and often help her.

And the most surprising thing to me is that her parents are highly educated people, high-achieving students from key universities in the 60s, and the job distribution is very good, and both of them work hard and hold leadership positions in the unit.

However, their children do not have outstanding places, and there is nothing to be desired in their studies, work, and family, which cannot but be said to be their educational failures.

Why do they have high academic qualifications but do not educate their children well?

Clause.

1. Too busy at work and neglecting children's education

As the backbone of the unit that is valued, parents are very dedicated to their work, and their children are left to the elderly to take care of. Although living under one roof, there is very little communication between parents and children, as long as the children do not get into trouble, and any problems are handled rudely and simply.

People's energy is limited, when both of them put a lot of time into work, often go out early and return late, work hard for their careers, and achieve achievements in work, then children become insignificant in life.

Clause.

2. Wrong educational concepts

Although both parents are educated, they are not education majors, and they do not attach importance to education. They think that studying is their own business, they can be admitted to the university themselves, and their parents don't care about anything, they have become talents.

Based on this point of view, the same applies to their children, learning is good or bad is the child's business, education is the responsibility of the school and teachers, and parents can't control so much.

On the contrary, parents with a low level of education can also educate their children well if they have a good educational concept. Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental School, his mother is a rural woman with little education, but she is very supportive of her son's study, and in a poor situation, she borrowed money to support her son in the college entrance examination for three times, and finally became a Peking University student, laying the foundation for his future brilliant life.

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