Grandma is unreasonable, what should I do if grandma is unreasonable

Although many people will say that the younger should respect the old, however, I do meet many old people who are poor in quality. Through what you said, it is difficult to understand who is reasonable and who is unreasonable, but from the fact that your grandmother scolded your grandfather for not respecting the elderly, it is estimated that the quality is also limited. Most of the time, people are always accustomed to standing on the moral high ground, without knowing the truth to accuse the junior of disrespect, I think that many of the current chronology after all from childhood has received a better education, the quality is better than the old.

The reason why they are always justified on the surface is that they have decades of experience in "struggle" and their spirit of being able to ignore the facts and be shameless when encountering problems.

Suggestion, one is to try to be considerate, not everyone is born with a desire to be quite unreasonable and unqualified, in the era when they grew up is a special era, everything to survive as the biggest goal, not to mention a good education, in order to survive must be ruthless and fierce, for their own interests for the purpose, decades of habit, can not be changed.

The second is to try not to conflict with the old ones, complain or forbear, because as long as there is a conflict, people will first accuse the small ones, you are very at a loss, and their decades of experience, if there is a real conflict, you are not an opponent at all.

When you are old and your hair is gray.

Hello, for us, grandma is old and can't communicate, you can use another method, but you can't force it. As the saying goes, that's what old kids mean. Sometimes the old man will become quite unreasonable, not that the old man has become unreasonable, there are physiological factors and psychological factors, which is an inevitability.

For example, he obviously bought a very beautiful dress for the old man, but the old man Peiqiao scolded himself for spending money arbitrarily, just saying a word, chattering endlessly, at this time, the best way is to pretend to be deaf and dumb. Pretended not to hear, so he didn't tell anything, and followed the old man to scold and speak. Slowly, the old man forgot about it.

2.Relieved understanding. If the old man has several children, he must be the most concerned about the most distressed child.

As the eldest son and eldest daughter in the family, you must be relieved and understand the elderly. If you are obsessed with the partiality of the elderly, not only will it not help, but it will cause contradictions, provoke outsiders to watch the excitement, and the old man will also get angry and sick. Why bother, so be sure to relax and don't worry about it.

3.Distract the elderly. Some elderly people become very reluctant when they get older, and they have to do things that they shouldn't do.

At this time, forcibly stopping the elderly will cause conflicts, which can be solved by diverting the attention of the elderly. For example, some elderly people are superstitious about a certain health care product and have to insist on buying it. At this time, you can accompany the old man to travel and so on, distract his attention, and slowly forget about this matter.

4.Earnestly teach. When we were young, our parents always taught us earnestly.

And when our parents are old, they become our children again, and we need to teach them earnestly. For example, the elderly like to eat foods high in sugar and fat, which we know is not good for the body. At this time, we need to teach the elderly patiently and meticulously, so that they know the dangers of excessive consumption of these leaky key foods.

5.Finally, magnify the trick and treat it cold. To treat the elderly who are really vexatious, it needs to be treated coldly for a period of time.

Cold treatment is not a cold war, nor does it make the old man feel hurt, but to keep a certain distance from the old man, and when the old man feels that he is wrong for a long time, he will turn his mind and slowly accept the correct way and method. It should be noted that you must not be in a hurry to get along with the elderly, be patient and slowly influence them.

Once in the world, anyone comes and goes alone, and anyone thinks of intimacy.

Not worth mentioning at the time of parting ways.

Grandpa worked hard and endured all kinds of unreasonable demands, inexplicable emotions and princess illness from his grandmother.

I thought he would be infinitely tolerant of his grandmother, but it turned out that he was just helpless. Grandma only thinks about herself all her life, and is well taken care of by her children, but she is not satisfied, and she has to fight for everything. I can't get used to seeing us being good to my grandfather, so I sprinkled all my grievances on my grandfather who couldn't move, and I first scolded Xinyan and then found out that someone was there, so I pretended to care, said the most ruthless and frank words, and did the most bizarre things.

Because I was afraid that my grandfather would be sad, I didn't dare to say her in front of my grandfather, so I endured my anger and found various reasons to forgive her. said that she has always been like this, she is used to it, and she doesn't care about Alzheimer's disease, I'm afraid that she won't be able to figure it out, and as a child, patience will pass. Probably my grandfather was like this before, and he couldn't stand her crying, so he tolerated it all the time.

As a result, she didn't do anything, but she felt very bitter.

There are many things that can not be endured, and there is no need to endure them anymore. Although he has a bad personality of throwing things when he is angry, he scolded his grandmother fiercely today. Because it was too loud to be heard by his grandfather, he was afraid that his grandfather would be sad, so he stayed silently by his bedside and didn't dare to speak, and kept reflecting on himself, which was really wrong, and he began to feel sad, afraid that his grandfather would have a burden in his heart.

Who knew that grandpa suddenly said that he really wanted to tell his children that if he passed away in the future, he hoped that the two of us would not be buried together. I think Grandpa must have been angry to say something like this.

Grandpa's temper is recognized as the best, and everyone admires him for being able to guard grandma for the rest of his life. But the dissatisfied grandmother didn't even let him relax when he was sick in bed. The grandfather who is sick is probably desperate and will slowly learn to be numb to his grandmother's unreasonableness.

No one is obliged to always be good to another person, husband and wife are strangers, and they are fortunate to be together in this life, so why bother with each other. Grandma drained Grandpa's good temper, and Grandpa only felt tired when he couldn't move.

My grandmother is 89 years old, but my mother has a bad attitude towards my grandmother, so what should I do if I don't listen to what I say?

Grandma is close to 90 years old, and according to common sense, my mother will be 60 years old. Therefore, how to communicate with your mother is also a great knowledge.

This kind of example is still relatively common in life. Our neighbor has a grandmother who is in her 90s, and her children are not good enough in the area of old-age care, but it just so happens that the grandchildren of the grandmother are very filial. This example is similar to the one mentioned in the title, so let's take a look at how this one handles it.

Grandma is in her 90s, her health is not bad, she is not deaf or blind, she has frequent physical examinations, and all indicators are quite normal. Her children are probably in their seventies, and they all have longevity genes, and their bodies are quite tough. Only in the area of filial piety to the elderly, it is not good enough.

The grandmother has 5 children, and these 5 children have their own opinions on pension, and when there are many opinions, there will be more disputes and comparisons. In the matter of pension, they each take care of who pays more, who pays less, who takes advantage of it, and who suffers.

The family fought back and forth, making a big joke and pitting the 90-year-old mother.

As mentioned earlier, the grandchildren of the grandmother know filial piety very well. Grandma has no one to care about her children's disputes, and her children, including her daughter-in-law, have a bad attitude. The grandchildren couldn't stand it and began to make moves.

They first put their parents together, and then invited the village party secretary, and everyone talked openly about how to be filial to the elderly.

The reason for asking for a branch secretary is to be a witness, and at the same time to prevent the grandmother's children from worrying about the elderly, after all, they still have to be face-saving. It is appropriate for the branch secretary to come forward and be impartial in handling things.

With the above persuasion, I believe that most children can pay attention to their parents' pension issues.

If your grandmother used to be very bad to your mother, don't persuade it, if you persuade too much, it may be counterproductive, if you have the heart, you should be more filial to your grandmother. If your mother has not been treated badly by your grandmother, or she is not filial to the elderly, then it is estimated that no one will persuade her, unless one day her own conscience finds out. You and your father are better for grandma!

If your mother is a good mother in your opinion, as a caring child, you should ask your mother the reason for her abnormality with your grandmother, to be honest, your mother does not have the responsibility and obligation to be filial to your grandmother, the first person responsible for filial piety to your grandmother is your father, and the second is your grandchildren, which is consistent with the order of property inheritance. If you have a problem with your mother because of this, it means that you are too young to experience.

Then rent a house for grandma and live with her. Let my mom stay alone and enjoy her solitude, my grandma and I live our lives happily, which is happy.

My grandma is not a good stubble, she loves to sow discord! Whether daughter-in-law or granddaughter love to provoke, if she doesn't obey her will, she will stir up, my dad listened to her, beat my sister and my mother, go to my uncle's house and stir, almost my cousin was also beaten by my uncle, fortunately my aunt reasoned with my uncle and didn't do it, it's not bad to meet such a wonderful grandmother, and I want to fat daughter-in-law How good someone else's daughter is to you, it's a pure dream.

You only see that your mother is not good to your grandmother, but you don't know what your mother and grandmother have experienced, so you have no right to blame your mother, everything is cause and effect. If you feel sorry for your grandmother, you will do your best to be good to your grandmother.

It doesn't matter what your mother's attitude towards your grandmother, the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not something that grandchildren can solve. The important thing is how your dad treats your grandma, so that your dad is filial piety, that is his own mother.

You are filial to your father, don't talk about your mother, you haven't experienced her life, don't persuade her, maybe your grandmother was not good to your mother when she was young.

Grandma and Mom must have had conflicts before. But it's really difficult to be a grandson and son, since your mother doesn't honor your grandmother, then you should be honored!

If it's your mother's problem, you should have a good chat with her and communicate. If it is your grandmother's problem, then I advise you not to persuade others to be kind without suffering from others.

This is the common phenomenon of mother-in-law today. It is also the reason why many mothers-in-law are not with their sons and daughters-in-law.

Sometimes it's just a matter of karma, it's good that you and your dad are filial, don't expect your mother, you haven't suffered from her.

Where's your dad? If she is gone, why don't you, the grandson, be filial to her? Incompetent? So what qualifications do you have to ask your mother to support you and support your grandmother at the same time?

Why don't you persuade your dad to be nice to your grandma? Your mother is not obligated.

Have you ever considered that a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a long-standing thing? Have you ever understood what a direct conflict your mother had with your grandmother?