What is it like to change yourself for someone you like?

In fact, love at first sight and eternity are completely different things, and romantic love and the life of oil, salt, firewood and rice are completely different things! Love at first sight and romantic love are not necessarily long-lasting, and love over time is very old-fashioned but very simple, although the process is difficult, it is difficult to separate when you fall in love. Love at first sight is always related to appearance, and love at first sight is always related to habit.

Therefore, in order to love a person for a long time, you need to change some of your bad personality and habits, so that the husband and wife can better integrate together, and the hard work to change for the person you love will definitely move each other, a long-term marriage is based on the accumulation of love in the ordinary life of oil, salt, firewood and rice, the slower you fall in love with someone, the longer you will love. Love can have a moment, but true love needs time to be watered. Because as long as it takes to fall in love, it takes as long as it takes to forget.

And if you love for a lifetime, you will never forget.

Originally, in my own small circle, everything was calculated, and I didn't know how to be a person. But if he has a very wide circle of contacts with the other party, and they are all upper-class figures, they will slowly change for the better, and they will become one of them and be an excellent elite. You will also behave in the world, you should pay when you should pay, and you will not be so stingy.

People mainly rely on acquired learning, and you will become who you are with whoever you are. If you find someone who gambles money to play mahjong, you will definitely go to gambling and playing cards with him every day. Find someone to do business with, and you will definitely do business with him every day, which is to change for the other person.

I'm going to change it, because bad habits are bad for people and bad habits. I think as long as you like each other, anyone will change for each other. For example:

When you just fall in love, when you agree to meet, whether you want to dress yourself up beautifully and handsome for each other, this is to start changing for each other. After getting married, if the other party thinks something is bad, you think what he said is reasonable, and you also recognize it very much, and you will also change your original thinking and follow the other party to develop your future life synchronously.

The ancients said, "A man dies for a confidant, and a woman looks for a person who pleases himself", which means: Men are willing to dedicate themselves to those who appreciate and understand themselves, and women are willing to dress up carefully for those who appreciate and like themselves. It can be seen that people can change themselves for each other.

In real life, between couples or partners, it is not hesitating to change themselves for the sake of the person they like or the person who likes them. Because the power of love cannot be underestimated, for the sake of love, you can change your willfulness, change your laziness, change your sloppiness, change your character, change your habits, and seek common ground while reserving differences. Two people who love each other, knowing that each other's "little problems" cannot be changed, will also accommodate each other, strive to wash and change in the long river of love, and run in the bumps and bumps in life.

It is true that a person will make changes for the sake of the people he likes, but this change is to change himself for the better, not for the worse! People often get carried away because they like a person, and they work hard to change themselves to cater to her tastes in order to make the other party like them, and in the end they don't even know themselves, so change should not be blind, let alone blindly change just because they like a person! After all, both parties will understand each other as much as they interact with each other, like a mirror to reflect each other so that they are more aware of themselves, because they like to love because they will be willing to change their bad places, so that the other party will like to cherish and be more harmonious.

If you like someone, of course, you will change for him and for this family. The problem is: if it is indeed my own shortcomings, I will change, not so much for him, but constantly revise my behavior, which is also a good thing!

Because only when a person sees his own shortcomings and has the courage to correct them can he make progress! A person's greatest enemy is himself, and only himself can overcome himself. Some are issues of principle, and then they will stick to their own principles to be people and do things.

As long as it is right, there is no need to change yourself to adapt, cater to others, and please others, too humble love is not true love! When a man really likes a woman, he should respect, trust, understand each other, care for each other, and not let the other party compromise, and not let the other party be sad.

If after marriage, he thinks I have no taste in cooking, and my temper is a bit big, I will try my best to change it. I will carefully check the recipes for my loved one and make delicious meals, and I will try my best to reduce my temper to the middle of the middle, taking into account his feelings. But it will not be temperless, nor will it be blindly obedient without assertiveness, so it will lose its personality and lose itself.

Changing himself beyond recognition not only made him lose interest in me, but also saw me as transparent and didn't care. Change is to get along better, after all, everyone has flaws, and in order to get along more harmoniously, both parties should change their shortcomings to varying degrees. The change is also to shorten the distance and fit each other, inject emotional understanding, and increase the intimacy between each other.

If you like someone, you need to count less gains and losses, dedicate more, understand more, cherish and forbear, so as to join hands with the person you like for a long time to travel ......

In life, I was not so good, but the partner I met was very good, and I would learn a lot of advantages from each other, which can also be said to be slowly changing for each other. The environment in which people live is different, and so do their thinking. Originally, she was growing crops in the countryside, but when she went to the other party's house, it was another environment, and there was no dealer doing business, and you would definitely change for her to do business, and it would be impossible to go back to farming.

These bits and pieces, each person, I believe, will change themselves for the other.

The most difficult thing for a person to make is to change, the so-called easy to change the nature of the country is difficult to change, but sometimes it will change, so what is the biggest change you make for the person you like.

At the macro level, the changes we make are both good and bad.

A good change means that you have met an upright person, perhaps with a strong sense of dedication, or a love of life, or helpfulness, which will also subtly affect you at a certain departmental level.

Bad changes are usually driven by negative emotions, which affect themselves, and some people say that pessimistic people will not be depressed and become sentimental after a long time.

Our own changes are often directly related to the people around us who are close to us, so sometimes we need to think about what is the biggest change we can make for the people we like?

This is important. Because the reason why you change and how much you change for it actually represents the degree of recognition you have for this relationship.

At the same time, if you meet someone you don't want to do anything for him, then letting go is sometimes the best option.

If you want to get good grades, you must sit at your desk, study seriously, and do the questions carefully.

If you want to have a good image, you must keep exercising, keep your mouth shut, day after day, day after day.

If you want to join hands with your beloved, you must move towards your goals, work hard to improve yourself, and make yourself a little better and a little better.

You see, none of these steps are missing.

Perhaps, using small actions such as cheating and stealing can achieve your wish for a while, but after all, it is not the real yourself.

Someday, the truth will come out, and without embellishment, you will be completely exposed to the sun without the cover of Week 8.

Only by making real efforts and moving forward step by step can we be fearless and do not panic. Because every achievement and every beautiful side of you is the most real you, they belong to you, and there is no need to be afraid that one day the magic will disappear and Cinderella will leave.

In the face of love, we are all humble. When you meet someone you really like, you are really willing to give everything for her. You will try your best to change yourself, make yourself perfect, become excellent.

Many times, a lot of work is made, just to get a smile from her, and she will feel very satisfied. This is love, for no reason, unreasonable.

Change yourself for the person you like, or be changed by the person you like, this is the most wonderful process in a relationship, all changes are not good or bad, it all depends on your own attitude, I think the change in love is to make two people more comfortable to get along. So let me share some of my experiences with you.

1.Became a collector for a while and kept a habit of collecting the last letters of his name and the last letters of his own name. Now there is a small cloth bag full of five dimes and ten yuan, which is the creative gift that I once thought of

But they broke up before they could send it out. And then I kept it like this, reluctant to spend it, and even became a collecting habit.

2.Become accommodating Because he has never been in love, the person who falls in love for the first time often has sincere feelings, like a blank slate. So I accommodated any small mistakes he made. But I now understand that being overly accommodating in a relationship can only lead to the wrong results.

3.I became a very handsome boyfriend when I was in college, probably like the middle school in my heart, tall and handsome, he was two years older than me, I often felt that I was a little unworthy of him, and there were a lot of girls chasing him in school, all of them were very wow, and I still didn't understand what he was dating me for. At that time, when I saw those girls, my sense of crisis suddenly came up, so I worked hard to improve myself, and kept learning makeup and dressing up, which is quite useful to this day.

When you are with someone you like, you will take it for granted that you will get closer to each other and do what they like. As a result, I will have to make some changes.

1. Love to communicate. Introverted personality is not good at expression, and when you meet someone you like, you can't express your love well, and you often can't get the other party's understanding. So when I meet someone I like, I like to express my situation, my attitude, and I can find a topic.

Second, look down on love. Love is beautiful, but a lot of time pure feelings are not easy to obtain, especially for blind dates, even if you meet someone you like, you have to leave yourself a little room for emotion, desperate is often hurt, and looking down is a kind of protection for yourself.

3. Improve yourself. A large part of the reason why I can't be with the person I like is that I am not good enough, and I have to learn to improve myself at work and in life skills, and when I can take care of myself and others in all aspects, I can better win the happiness of the person I like.

4. Practice driving. In the era of the popularization of vehicles, without a car as a means of transportation, basically lose the conditions for falling in love, especially for boys, it is inconvenient to have no car, and it is difficult to get the favor of girls. Just imagine how romantic it is to be able to drive in front of your loved ones at any time.

Those who missed their favorite people have changed a lot in themselves, and their own concepts have also changed a lot, and in the continuous self-renewal, they are looking forward to meeting the person they like.

After watching a lot of unfortunate romances and marriages between men and women on Zhihu, I came to a conclusion: Except for uncontrollable forces, most of these people's emotional misfortunes are caused by themselves.

Sticking to this question, my answer is: I will change myself for the people I like, but I will only change myself for the better, in order to change myself for the better, (such as improving my career) instead of making myself uncomfortable for the sake of the other party. (e.g. changing one's own habits to match the other person's habits).

You don't give the other party a chance to hurt you, you stick to your bottom line, then at the beginning, after the other party is tempted, they will choose to either respect your bottom line, or they can't control you and leave.

Because I can't control it, I'll leave, then Lao Tzu wishes you a happy calf, and the rest of the people left, naturally we respect each other and love each other sincerely.

Just wanted to say. The first step of PUA is to cover up your mistakes by accusing the other party of trying to use tactfulness, gentleness, pretense gestures, etc., to blame your problems for causing your emotional problems. If you take the first step and you fall on the path of others, you can imagine later.

No one punches you on the first day of your relationship, it's just a little bit of temptation and escalation, and it's the same with asking the other party to change.

When a person says something to you, makes demands, or does something that makes you uncomfortable, when you eliminate problems that are not your own, trust your subconscious, this person is a spicy chicken who wants to control you. I guess everyone has had this experience, quietly changing themselves for the sake of the people they like.

He likes to be cheerful, you are afraid that the other party will detect your stubbornness, he likes gentleness, you change your donkey temper and smile everywhere to cater to.

This kind of performance to change oneself for the sake of the person we like will always be perceived as a kind of giving, carefully guarding the return, and the result is often grievances.

People who don't know how to love are always like this, thinking that as long as they give, they will win a lot of love and love from that person, but people will understand that changing their personality for the person they like is the most childish behavior. Willing at the age of seventeen or eighteen.

I am willing to study science for the people I like.

Willing to choose another city for the person you like.

Willing to change the character of the people you like.

Later, in his early twenties, he was less reluctant.

It turns out that he likes you, and he probably likes it because of you.

You can get rid of some harmless little shortcomings for the sake of two people getting along better, but when you grow up, you don't like to change the direction of your life and change your thoughts for one person.

When you really meet someone you like, you will deliberately change yourself according to the preferences of others. If the other person accepts and senses your change, that's fine. But if the other person doesn't care, you will be very tired.