I don t want to give up four years of relationship because of my parents... 10

His understanding of marriage is only responsibility and no love.

You have too much need for love in your marriage.

You may be a difficult lady to serve, but you can't deny other qualities in you.

If the man you love can also be the enemy of the world in order to love you, then when he dies, you may be martyred.

And obviously, your boyfriend doesn't have that quality.

If you are really willing to sacrifice and still drop out of school and hand it over to him, you will still face a puppet, what do his parents want him to do, he may not want to, he will still be obedient, and your eldest lady can live in peace with his old-fashioned parents in terms of her temper? When conflict erupts, even through no fault of yours.

He'll just let you let his parents. How much love can you feel?

The road ahead is muddy and bumpy, with no end in sight. What else is there to hesitate about.

is still at the age of Fanghua, hurry up and find a more suitable him.

We've been through a similar experience. I was also a junior college, graduated the year after that, he worked, and we broke up. Let me tell you what I think.

We are students, let's not say that the family agrees or disagrees, after graduation, you don't work and get married directly, I am unwilling, as a student, it is no problem to get married after three or four years of graduation, but he can't, he has worked, and I can't afford it, and then, after the man's job is stable, who doesn't want to have a virtuous wife at home, I can't give him, now it's really powerless, the family does urge him to get married, I always quarrel with him, he is also very tired. It's better to split up after thinking about it, you're still young, and you'll meet others, but he's different. I understand your feelings of loving him, but love is not a burden, if love is tired, let it go, don't embarrass him anymore and pain himself.

I also thought I would never like anyone else again, but now I have a new person around me, you have to believe that every girl will have someone to hurt, come on girl, time will take all this**. Look at the opening point, the mentality is set, everything is simple,

When you are not sure about anything, calm down first, don't make a decision, you also said Maybe it's used to having someone with you to be your boyfriend, and he also said that he doesn't know if he loves you, and he doesn't negotiate with your family for you, so calming down is the most important thing to do at the moment.

In fact, there are very few men like this If it is really for the face of the family, it is really regrettable that a 24-year-old person gives up his studies and comes to work It is really not easy for a 24-year-old person to give up his studies and work He should be quite thoughtful I must have thought about it You told him in a student's diary, But he has been working for 2 years You have a distance from him People need to communicate and solve problems Try to use the way to solve problems to think about your relationship that you don't want to give up.

Should the feelings of the parents continue to persist or give up? Before this question, I think you should figure out the following three questions first.

1. What are the reasons why parents oppose this relationship?

After receiving opposition from their parents, many couples first think about where the relationship should go, rather than figuring out what the reasons for their parents' opposition to the relationship are.

When one parent objectes, the children of the other party should calmly go to the parents to talk about why they oppose and what they are not satisfied with. To sum up, the reasons for parents' dissatisfaction are nothing more than the following:

01 Conditional issues

The problems of conditions mainly include economic conditions, appearance, educational height, work, etc., which all belong to the category of conditions. The vast majority of parents are dissatisfied because they think that the other party's conditions are not enough and do not match their children.

02 Personality issues

Personality issues mainly include temperament, attitude, style, etc., which reflect the overall impression given by the person. For example, parents think that the other party looks rigid, not kind enough, rude, etc., and does not meet their basic requirements for their daughter-in-law and son-in-law.

03 Whether it is reliable

Reliability is actually the most concerned and important issue for parents. may leave an unreliable impression on the parents because the other party is too oily and slippery, and it will also make the parents object.

2. Is your relationship strong enough?

When you understand the reason why your parents are against the relationship, whether you want to continue depends on whether the relationship is strong enough. If you are very firm with each other and willing to trust each other, then work together to convince your parents and eliminate their misunderstandings and prejudices.

3. How to judge whether the relationship is strong enough?

Many people may wonder how to determine whether this relationship is strong or not. In fact, it's very simple, which one can you accept more in the face of thorns or the loss of him together? If for you, I can accept anything more than losing him, then your relationship is strong enough, and you will definitely not be separated, and you will definitely stick to it hand in hand and side by side!

When you figure out the above three questions, whether to continue or give up will be easily solved.

A relationship that parents oppose cannot simply give up and give up, you should trust your own judgment and do a good job of explaining.

Parents are the ones who care most about and love their children, and they should fully respect their parents' objections, analyze the reasons for their opposition, conscientiously explain their views to their parents, and strive to gain their understanding and support.

After all, marriage is not child's play, if the parents' objections are reasonable, they must properly handle the relationship problem, if the reason for the parents' objection is not clear about some misunderstandings and other issues, they must explain clearly, and they can't easily lose a hard-won relationship.

Love is a matter for the two of you, and your parents' opinions can only be referred to, and you can't have your parents completely in charge of your happy life, and have the final say!

Happiness is in your own hands.

Waiver

First of all, we need to know that our parents are all for our good, and they must have their reasons for opposition, and we need to understand that our parents have considered more things than me as people who have come before, so we need to have an understanding of our parents' opposition, know why, and then carefully consider our parents' opinions. Sometimes parents are right.

Parents sometimes oppose it for our good, don't want us to suffer, we have to understand, and then communicate with our parents, tell our parents, I know, you are for my good, but what, I have been with her for a long time, I know her very well, your worries will be eliminated little by little, you can contact it, communicate with your parents in a soothing tone.

We have to learn to fight with silence, don't quarrel, quarrel will only make parents feel that their children are so disobedient, you can behave sullenly after your parents object, do everything so that your parents see that it is negative, no vitality, at this time, parents will also be distressed, will take the initiative to ask you, at this time seize the opportunity to talk to your parents, in order to agree with your parents to allow you to communicate.

If these don't change the parents' views, the two of them still haven't made an effort, so it's better to choose to give up.

The feelings that your parents oppose should be abandoned, after all, your parents are old and experienced, and your parents are also good for you, and it is right to listen to your parents, maybe now you don't understand, but when you are older, you will naturally understand. In the future, when you have children, you will do the same, and all parents in the world want their children to be well.

No matter who you are, you want your relationship to be supported and blessed by your parents, but the reality is not like this. If we are faced with this problem, should we fight for or give up the feelings that our parents oppose? In fact, this problem is still quite difficult to solve, and this needs to be looked at on a case-by-case basis.

Emotional problems are generally decided by themselves, however, if this relationship involves marriage, then the parents' opinions still need to be considered, after all, if you really get married, it is a problem for two families, if you don't handle it well, even if you get married, there are many problems.

If your parents are against your feelings, you first need to know what the reasons for their opposition are. If the reason for the objection is that the other party's character is not good, in this case, it is better to choose to give up. If there is a problem with character, it is a big problem.

Of course, if your parents are against your feelings, it is for some practical reasons. For example, long-distance relationship, online dating, or the other party's family status, work, etc. If this is the case, then you can refer to your parents' opinions, but it is more up to you to make your own decisions.

After all, you know your partner better than your parents, and that's when you need to think about it.

If you think that this is not a problem, even if you get married in the future, you will not affect your relationship because of these problems, then you can choose to fight for it, at this time, you need to look at the attitude of your other half, to see if the other party is also willing to fight with you.

Of course, if in the end you try hard and your parents still don't agree, then you need to judge whether the relationship needs to continue or give up. However, parents' love for their children is unconditional, and they must have their considerations when they oppose this relationship, so in the face of such problems, in addition to referring to the opinions of parents, your own attitude is the most important.

If the parents support a relationship, it will be the icing on the cake, but even if it is opposed, you need to understand the reasons first. After all, when faced with feelings, the authorities are obsessed with bystanders. Although you need to manage your own marriage, the opinions of your parents are also very important.

If your parents oppose your feelings, it is recommended to give up, listen to your parents' right, your parents' vision is based on experience, if you insist on it again and again, you will regret it too late after marriage, and you will suffer for a lifetime, and you will suffer for a lifetime if you don't listen to the old man.

It's all about following your heart's thoughts. But it is also necessary to analyze objectively, your parents must have loved you the most since you were a child, and they can't bear to let you suffer, if you already know. It's unlikely that this period of your experience will end well, so you can consider whether you should give up.

But it is possible that the points of opposition of the parents have not been refuted to the point, such as disliking the poor and loving the rich, such as wanting to give you an arranged marriage or something, I think it is not advisable, and you must continue to insist.

Contemporary young people should have independent thinking, and the key is to communicate with their parents in a timely manner. Explain what you value and what you care about from your parents' point of view, and find a balance between them.

Should choose to give up.

Because of the feelings that his parents oppose, he must not be optimistic about the future of the two together. Your own thoughts are important, but so are your parents' opinions, because parents think about their children's happiness.

Parents are both from the past, they have rich life experience, when they oppose a relationship, they feel that you continue the relationship without any end, and in the end there is no return except for hurting yourself all over the body. As your parents, they want you to be well, so they will ignore your feelings, ignore your thoughts, and stop your relationship.

First of all, you try to convince them, and when your persuasion can't move them, you should choose to let go, your parents are frozen there, and your relationship will not bear fruit.

Secondly, parents have experienced a lot of things, sometimes they are very accurate in looking at people, and one is accurate, and you, who are in love, do not have any IQ at all, so you might as well listen to your parents' opinions. For you, there are a lot of detours to take.

In the end, a marriage that is not blessed by the parents is doomed to be fruitless. Your life is not only about love, but also about poetry and more family affection in the distance, don't give up family affection because of love.

There are no ifs in real life, so the choice is important to you.

Parents oppose the feelings, should give up, parents oppose are justified, after all, parents are old, experienced, parents are the most distressed children, parents will not give their children a loss. You can't go wrong with listening to your parents.

It must be insisted on, because there should be autonomy in such a thing as feelings, otherwise you will lose the sense of existence of self-pursuit of happiness, and the meaning of life will not be self-convincing.

If the person you choose is the right person for you, because your parents' views are different from your own views, marriage is free, love is also free, and you must insist on your own, because the person you choose wants to live with yourself for a lifetime, not with your parents for a lifetime, at first your parents don't agree, you can communicate with your parents well, so that your parents can understand your own thoughts, because parents are good for their children, if parents can see, I live happily with the person I like, and my parents will change their minds. So many times, when you find someone you like, you still have to stick to it, don't give up a relationship because your parents oppose it, and you will leave regrets later.

If you encounter a relationship that your parents oppose, I personally think that you should not just give up lightly, or you should continue to persevere, the real relationship will inevitably need to face various tests, if only because of the opposition of your parents, let this feeling end without a problem, then, there is no doubt that you will leave yourself with regrets.