Is it the work that matters or the children that matter?

Of course, children are important! Children are the hearts and minds of parents, children are the hope of parents, and children are the future of parents. Parents are working hard all day to earn money, for what?

It's all for the sake of having a sufficient economic foundation for children, training children to go to college, or even studying abroad, to have a satisfactory career, and to have a bright future. So, work is for the family, for the children. Failure at work can be repeated, but failure for children is irreparable.

If you lose your job, you can find it again, and if you lose your child, you will grieve for the rest of your life. Children and work are important, but they are incomparable. ‍‍

Work, children are both important. Children need to be educated, to be accompanied, and to be loved by their parents. Work is also a big part of life, the pivot of integration into the society, are important, my children are brought by their mother, live with us, every day the family is together, the children have never lacked love.

If there are no conditions, you can only take care of the children by yourself.

Don't hesitate to say: children are important! Children are not only the hope of the family, the future of the motherland, but also the mission of the development of human society.

The child's growth is irreversible, and the child's body and mind cannot be replicated. For work, we are a screw, but for a child, we are his heaven, his air and water. Although this topic is a dilemma, for people who are in love, children are the first choice.

Because, in the world of children, there are only us. ‍‍

I used to be a workaholic, I would devote myself to work, since I had children, the focus is on children, and at the same time I have to work and family at the same time, now my children are in college, and my work is also free, but my physical condition is problematic, I have been hospitalized three times in two years, and I have only been working for six months. When I was young, I overdrew my life, and now it's finally time to pay it back. Working children are important, but your own health is even more important.

are all important. I watched a program talked by a teenager before, and I saw a clip, a fourth-grade child, because his mother, who is a hotel manager, is busy with work and studies too hard, so she has less time to spend with him. What my mother said is very good, I don't remember it very clearly, one of them is that my mother works so hard to give you a better life and to give you an example. ‍‍

I think children are more important than work: at a young age, children are the hope of a family, everything we do is for children, and working to earn money is just to provide a better learning and growth environment for children.

This is a dilemma, it is okay to accompany the child's growth when he is very young, so that he can grow up healthy and happy, but he will think about going to work when he goes to school.

In fact, at this time, you can look at yourself, what stage you are in, and how to coordinate and balance the two things that are very important to you at this stage.

One person's energy is limited, and it is more difficult to do both by one's own hands and do it well. Work can only be done by oneself, but the children are family, at least two couples. Therefore, when it is time to work, you need to find a support system in taking care of your children, such as the elderly at home to help, or a lover to help, or to hire a nanny.

Of course, children are also very important, and children cannot be neglected because of work, so you need to arrange your time more efficiently and improve your work efficiency in order to squeeze out time to accompany and educate your children.

Let me tell you the story of my student.

Boy, second year of junior high school, adolescence, single parent at home, mother with mother. The above is the background.

This kid I met when I was in a nursery class before. The little boy is not very talkative, but he is very polite and smart. When my mother brought it, she also told me about the situation at home.

I didn't notice anything wrong with the first month. Until one day, a new student came to my nursery class and joined his group......

The custodian class is a self-study class + Q&A. When I was keeping an eye on their group, whenever a child asked me a question that needed answers, he would always interject. At first, I didn't pay much attention to it, thinking that maybe it was just a child who wanted to show off how much he would do.

But then the boy's problems became more and more serious, and I slowly began to understand that he had actually put me in the role of a father, and felt that others had taken away my attention from him. His mother goes out early and returns late every day, and the child goes to work before he gets up, and he can't come back until after 10 o'clock in the evening, and sometimes the child can't see his mother at all. That's the fundamental problem.

Later, I dismissed the child because I felt that there was something very wrong with his personality - paranoid, pessimistic, moody. There is also a direct reason, that is, once when the parents of the students in his group came to renew the fee, he "happened" to walk to the side and said loudly, "Teacher, I don't want to go on, I don't think it will work here, and the money is spent in vain." "I wasn't angry because I knew he wanted to get the kids out of the group so I could focus on him.

But I think this kid is too terrible to stay. Although his mother beat him up in tears, I resolutely refunded the fee.

My example may not match your situation, but I want to tell you that for children, the company of parents must be indispensable, but the reality is that if you don't go out to work, you won't have food. Many people are caught between these two dilemmas. I can't give you specific advice, because I'm not you, I don't know your specific situation, I can only tell you something through my personal experience, and I hope it will help you make a decision.

There is a chance to take care of both, the child will leave his parents one day, his own reluctance is not good for the child, and the housework in the family after work can be done by two people, so that the relationship between husband and wife will be better. My opinion.

I think it's important to be a child! I've faced the same problem as you before! But if you think about it, we work to give our children a better future! The baby must be brought well, and when the baby is older, he will go out to work!

Of course, it is important to take care of the children, but sometimes due to the helplessness and pressure of life, you still need to work, and it would be better if there were elderly people who could help take care of the children.

If you can find a job that pays well.

Consider finding someone to take care of the child.

If you work, it's just a drop in the bucket.

Then take care of the children at home.

Let your husband work hard.

It's his responsibility.

I think it's better to take care of the children, the children are not watched, and they must not worry about the work and have no thoughts.

Of course, the child is important, or wait for the child to be older before going out to work, the child's growth is very important.

Parents can find an easier job, which does not affect the pick-up and drop-off of children, and earning less does not affect taking care of children.

Of course, the child is important, and if you persist for another year, the child will be able to go to school, and you will not be able to go to work after school.

You don't have to send it to full daycare, but it's good to find a job that has a working time similar to the time your child goes to kindergarten. Even if the salary is less, it is still worth it to take care of the whole family and children.

I feel that the child is not too young, and it should go to kindergarten in another year and a half, so it is better not to look for a job during this time, and when the child is older, send it to kindergarten and then you will have time to go to work, and there will be nothing to worry about when you pick up the child home from work. Now that the child is still young and needs the company of his parents, it is best not to send him to full care.

Hey, this is a problem that every mother has to face, if my baby is about the same age as your baby, I will go out to work, not not sorry for the baby, you want the baby to get bigger and bigger, there will be more places to spend money in the future, more money to spend in middle school, the husband is under a lot of pressure, although we are still young, but we can save money for so much time, in the nursery, the baby will learn more, if I will go to work.

Send to a better kindergarten, and then find an easier job, money is not very important, the most important thing is to take care of children. The rest of the time with children should not allow yourself to be idle at home, but it can also be a light burden on the family.

In fact, it's nothing to send to full care, and many babies are like this. And it is also beneficial for the baby to come into contact with other children inside.

Of course, the child is the most important, the money can be earned at any time, and there will always be a day when it is spent, but the baby's growth will not be repeated.

You can discuss it with your husband I think the children can be sent to kindergarten After all, they are already 4 years old, but you don't have to go to full care, you can pick them up.

Finding a job where you can be flexible and sending your child to kindergarten daycare is good for yourself, your family, and your child's growth.

If the family conditions are average, you can ask your mother-in-law to help take care of the baby, if it is a full care, I will be more worried.

Didn't the old man be able to help you? If you can help the best, if the elderly are inconvenient, you can send the baby to full care. In fact, it is still important to take care of children.

If you are more than 3 years old, you can go to kindergarten, so if you have the conditions, you should go out to work, and it is not good to stay at home for a long time.

Women must have their own jobs. Although it will be hard for the time being, for the sake of the family, I personally think it is better to go out to work.

If it's me, I think it's good to come out and work, you can find a job nearby! You can see the children, and you can help your husband share his worries.

Four-year-old children are OK, and it is okay to send them in the morning and pick them up in the evening, and they should cultivate their independence.

You can ask your grandparents or grandparents to help you watch the child. I can take care of my children when I come back from work.

Of course, the child is more important, don't let him be alone at such a young age, the child needs the care of his mother at such a young age.

Education and taking care of children is important, or focus on children Go to work, you can wait until your child goes to elementary school.

Both are important, it is better not to leave them all, leave them to the elderly, and go to work by yourself.

I believe that many people have fantasized that they can take care of their children while having income**, but most of the reality is "I only have one pair of hands, I can't hold you if I move bricks, I can't move bricks if I hug you, how can I raise you if I don't move bricks". Although it is not as serious as this sentence suggests, the vast majority of workers do not have much time to spend with their children.

The company of parents is really important to children's education, everyone should have heard such a sentence "three years old to see the big, seven years old to see the old", before the age of three is the most critical period for the formation of children's character habits, and now kindergartens are required to be three years old to go on, then these three years need parents to spend more time with and educate children.

While you have to work, you have to educate your children at the same time, and work takes up most of your time and energy during the day, not to mention your children, I believe most parents will find it difficult. Many parents think that they can hand over their children to their grandparents, but have you ever thought about it, after all, there are different ideas and concepts after a generation, and it is easy for intergenerational feelings to form doting, which will affect the child's personality and habits.

But now that the economic pressure is so great, many parents have to choose to work, thus neglecting their children's education. It's a first-class approach. In fact, spending time with children is not contradictory to earning money from work.

Many people think that freelancers are unemployed vagrants when they hear about it, but in fact, the vast majority of freelancers make full use of their strengths, making money while taking care of children, and freelancing has become a development trend, so why not consider it.

Recently, the child has been having a high fever and cough, at first for the sake of work, let the child drink medicine at home, and handed it to his grandmother, but the child not only did not go away but became more serious, I was not calm, and quickly asked for leave to take the child to see a doctor, and accompanied the child at home.

Because my mother-in-law is old and her brain is not good, sometimes I can't think of it, and I am afraid that she will not take good care of her. So bring it yourself.

The proprietress here kept thinking about letting me go to work, because she was the only one in the store and sometimes she couldn't be busy. I felt that something was wrong with my child, and my mind was not on work, which affected the business of her store.

The proprietress is also under a lot of pressure, she pays for the family's expenses, the two children have to go to school, and the husband doesn't earn money outside, and sometimes she has to ask for money from her, and I also know that it is not easy for her.

But I definitely have to think from my point of view, it must be that children are important, and I work for children. And the salary is 50 yuan a day plus commission, how can I give up my children for work?

You are the boss, from your point of view, it must be the performance of the store is important, I am an employee, from my point of view, I must be the child first, because no matter how much money I transfer, it has nothing to do with my half a dime, but the child is different, the child is my own, I can't abandon the child and go to work for 50 yuan a day.

So neither of us is right or wrong, but the angle and position are different, you make money is yours, but the child is sick is my business, I will definitely take care of the child, and the money can be earned again in the future, but the child is only one, I can't let him have any mistakes.

For this reason, the boss also asked me if I couldn't get out because of family reasons, she needed to recruit another person, and it was not easy for her. I said yes, it's time to hire someone. Because I'm not sure if I'll be able to do it in the second half of the year. So that there is no delay.