What do you think about the problem of mother in law taking children?

To be honest, I don't want my mother-in-law to take care of the children. But I can't help it. Mother-in-law is good at everything, but she spoils her children too much.

My husband and I are busy at work. I don't have time to care about the children. If there are some questions about the child, we will also tell the mother-in-law in detail.

For example, children should be allowed to eat on their own. For example, children can't always watch TV during the day. But we don't have time to regulate.

When the mother-in-law listened, she didn't have any objections. But what to do or how to do it when it comes to implementation? Now the child is three and a half years old and is about to enter kindergarten.

I don't know how to eat by myself yet. Won't dress themselves. If you are unhappy, you will get angry.

If you don't listen to him, you'll cry for a long time. I can't say that it was all brought out by my mother-in-law. But the mother-in-law with the child is really infinitely indulgent.

On the one hand, we are grateful to our mother-in-law. On the other hand, it's really frustrating.

I think I can make it easier for myself, but I'm still afraid that I'll spoil my children.

Mother-in-law will love her children more, after all, it is her own grandson, and there may be some education methods that are a little old-fashioned, but as long as you tell her a little, she will correct it.

For a mother-in-law to watch her children, I think it's a normal phenomenon, after all, it's his own grandson.

I think that mother-in-law with children is not as good as my wife with children, thinking ability, without young people's thinking ability is more open and far-sighted, will play a bad role in the development of children's IQ.

There is a saying that companionship is the most affectionate confession, so it is necessary to combine your actual situation, and the elderly with children will have more or less doting elements, and the elderly with children, can only help you with basic care.

Let the mother-in-law not take the child, and respect the opinions of both parties. If the mother-in-law happens to be willing to take care of the child, the daughter-in-law needs to work, and the mother-in-law also needs to take care of the child. Then the two sides will communicate in advance.

If one party is unwilling, or both parties do not get along well, then you must not let the mother-in-law take care of the child, so that the conflict will increase. The mother-in-law is tired and can't please her. The husband is caught in the middle and gets angry, and the daughter-in-law will be infinitely wronged!

How do you say that? Personally, I think that if I can afford it, I will take care of the children by myself. If it is an ordinary family, you still need to invite your mother-in-law to take care of the children!

Of course, it must depend on whether the mother-in-law is willing or not. Forcing it is definitely not a no! My mother-in-law brought me a child for two years.

In the beginning, there were a lot of arguments. My mother-in-law is strong, and so am I! But there was no way, I had to work.

After a period of running-in. I think we all have good intentions. No one is deliberately trying to embarrass anyone.

On the contrary, they got along well. It's really tiring to watch children. Therefore, the daughter-in-law should thank her mother-in-law for her dedication.

My baby is now two and a half years old, and now my mother-in-law has been helping me to bring it for a year and a half, because we are in business and can't take care of the children.

My mother-in-law is very careful with her children, and as they say, "Young people nowadays don't take children." "I don't know anything, and my mother-in-law doesn't worry about me taking care of the children, for fear that I am inexperienced. After all, my mother-in-law is still a person who has come from here, and she knows everything about taking care of children.

For example, some mothers say that they are afraid that their mother-in-law will not be able to speak Mandarin, which will affect their children, but I don't think it matters much when the children are young. When I was a child of my age, I still learned Mandarin, and I didn't speak it slowly when I grew up and communicated in society.

My mother-in-law taught her children a lot of things, although she doesn't speak Mandarin, but I feel that my mother-in-law is still full of achievements, because after my baby went out, with the songs and ancient poems taught by my mother-in-law, she won the praise of many people.

I feel that my mother-in-law is better than me with the child, and for now, my child is very crying in front of me, but in my absence she can hardly be heard. So I was relieved to ask my mother-in-law to help me take care of the children.

Today's mothers are worried that their mother-in-law will spoil their children, and they are afraid that the children will not be easy to manage in the future. But my children are different, they are more obedient in front of their mother-in-law, but they seem disobedient in front of me, and everyone also says that they don't let me spoil the baby, for fear that I will spoil the baby.

I feel very relieved to see so many people who disagree with my mother-in-law taking care of my children, because my mother-in-law can let me work without worry.

I think if my mother-in-law is in good health, she should look after the children for her daughter-in-law. Young people nowadays are under a lot of pressure. Housing and car loans have to be repaid.

If the mother-in-law is not helping. The pressure is all on my husband alone. Of course, if you have good financial conditions, you can find a nanny.

If the mother-in-law has a job, of course, another story! If the mother-in-law stays at home. The physical condition allows to take care of the child.

I think it's going to help. But the mother-in-law shows the child to the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law can't take it for granted. Look at this with gratitude.

Be kind to your mother-in-law. It's not easy to be more considerate of your mother-in-law. In this way, the family can live in harmony.

In general, the elderly will especially dote on their children. As long as the child doesn't cry, anything. If you want the stars not to give the moon, as long as the child cries and makes trouble, she will give everything.

Whether it's right or wrong. Over time, children develop bad habits. So we try not to let the elderly take care of the children as much as possible.

The children brought out by themselves will be very obedient. Children brought out by the elderly are generally disobedient. As the saying goes, if you want our children to be excellent in the future, don't let your mother-in-law take them as much as possible.

The mother-in-law will feel sorry for her grandson and don't care about anything. If you don't cry or make a fuss, you're a good boy, no matter what you go. Let's take care of the children ourselves.

Once, I took my son to the mall to play, he wanted to take the rocking car I let him sit, the child next to him kept asking grandma for money, the old man did not respond, the child could not get off the rocking car, the old man forced him to take him down.

1. Mother-in-law with a baby is love, not duty.

In the end, the child's guardian is his parents, not his grandparents. It is the parents who are responsible for taking care of the children, not the white ones. Mother-in-law generally loves her son and wants to reduce the burden on young people, and some grandmothers are their own grandchildren, no matter what the reason is, helping to take the child is the greatest affection.

If we don't help take care of the children, we have no reason to refuse to support Bai Chau, in the end there is the grace of nurturing for the husband, and it is a natural job to support Bai Chau.

2. Mother-in-law with a baby is auxiliary.

Bai Chau has reached a certain age, and his body really does not meet the conditions for bringing a baby, so it is not suitable to take children all the time. And from the perspective of parent-child growth, the growth of children is inseparable from the company of their parents, and the child's dependence and emotional needs on his father's skin and pants are irreplaceable.

Therefore, no matter from Bai Chau's physical condition, or from the perspective of parent-child relationship, the mother-in-law is only a foil with the child, and most of the time it still depends on the child's parents. 3. Know how to be grateful.

Mother-in-law helps to take care of the baby is dedicated to her old age, and also has to cook, laundry, do housework, some mothers-in-law not only help take care of the child, but also serve as the child's milk powder, clothing, diapers, etc. Therefore, the mother-in-law with the children has helped us reduce a lot of fatigue and lighten a lot of burdens, and we must know how to be grateful. shouldn't be nitpicking, thinking that the children brought by the mother-in-law are not good, maybe this is not good and that is not good, but the mother-in-law still helps a lot.

4. Give your mother-in-law "wages" appropriately

Bai Sue is willing to help take the child to hide and give her mother-in-law some "wages". Families with good economic conditions give more, so that Ran Jian's mother-in-law is also happy and happy, and if the economic conditions are not good, they should also give a little, although the money is not much, but they express their recognition of the mother-in-law's payment and express their gratitude to their mother-in-law.

Young people are busy with work, and mothers-in-law help to take care of children, which is also for the good of the whole family, and young people should know how to be grateful. If the mother-in-law is unable to help with the children for various reasons, it is also a job that cannot be forced, and they should also have their own old age, please forgive them.

Text: I'm Lin Banxian.

Since the birth of the child, the mother-in-law has been helping to take care of the child, although there are many contradictions and problems, the child is two years old, there will be contradictions from time to time in the past two years, most of them come from the child, the mother-in-law is the kind of careless person who only pays attention to physical health, cooking is a good hand, but the mouth is broken, will always say something useless, no matter whether others love to listen or not, sometimes I will lie to me when I encounter the child's problems, because she is coarse-hearted, the child will often be injured, and what happens at home during the day will not tell me truthfully, will only talk to herself, I always speak my hometown dialect with my children, and I know that fifty-year-old people are not as good as eighty-year-old grandmothers, and I understand a proverb from her: Poor people must have something to hate. I used to think that it was not easy for her, she went to work alone to support a family of three, and her father-in-law belonged to the enjoyment type, she had never gone to work and stayed at home, she should also have a good rest, and treat her better, but after getting along, I really understood why she was not treated at her in-law's house for a reason.

But then again, even if she didn't do it well, she also helped take care of the child for two years, so she is still grateful, there are often cases of children being injured, large and small injuries on the child's body, I am obviously very angry when I see it, but I can't say, hey, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. It will be better if she is not here when the child goes to kindergarten.

This is a sensitive and complex issue, often with differences in culture and family values.

In traditional Chinese culture, mothers-in-law often take on the responsibility of taking care of children, and this is considered to be the obligation and responsibility of the family, family, and tradition, and it is also a manifestation of love for the family and the return to the lead key for the children. Therefore, in some families, it is a common phenomenon for mothers-in-law to voluntarily take on the responsibility of caring for children, in which in addition to the sense of responsibility and responsibility, there is also a certain degree of moral restraint and social expectations.

However, with the development of society and the change of values, more and more families are beginning to accept the idea that parents should not feel out of the way for their children to pay for themselves. As a result, there are young couples who prefer to take care of their children on their own or by hiring a nanny or kindergarten, etc., rather than by turning to elders such as mothers-in-law or in-laws.

All in all, whether a mother-in-law should take on the responsibility or obligation to take care of the child should be decided based on the family and cultural background, as well as the individual's actual situation and needs. If the mother-in-law is willing to help take care of the children and takes care of them properly, then of course it is a beautiful family bond and an expression of love; However, if taking care of children puts too much pressure and burden on the mother-in-law, or some couples have too high expectations of the mother-in-law, it may lead to unnecessary conflicts and family problems, affecting family happiness and intimacy.

1.Responsibility: Some people believe that it is their responsibility for mothers-in-law to take care of their children, because they are the grandmothers of their children and should care for and take care of their children. In the traditional family concept, this sense of responsibility is important.

2.Obligation: Others believe that the mother-in-law is not obligated to take the baby. They have the option to help, but it is not a statutory duty. They also have other important responsibilities in their lives, such as taking care of their families, work or personal interests.

3.Choice: There is also an opinion that this feast should be a choice between family members.

The mother-in-law can decide whether to participate in bringing the baby according to her own wishes and abilities. In this case, it is crucial to have good communication between family members in order to find the best solution.

4.Family affection: Finally, many people believe that the mother-in-law taking the baby after marriage is not just a responsibility or obligation, but a manifestation of family affection. The mother-in-law cares and loves her grandchild or granddaughter and is willing to help and care for the child as he or she grows up.