Why don t I get along well with my colleagues, and why don t I get along well with each other?

The most important factor in interpersonal relationships is honesty and enthusiasm, as long as you are willing to give, you will definitely gain something. Human minds are not cloned, and it is impossible for people to agree on all views. Since you can get along well with other friends, I believe that as long as you are sincere to others, you can also have a good relationship with your colleagues.

I appreciate interpersonal skills:

2. Learn to be "obedient". A 13-year-old Dutch immigrant boy who became the world's "first celebrity rhetorical questioner" bought a set of "American celebrity legends", and he wrote letters to these celebrities, asking them to talk about the interesting things about becoming a celebrity, so he received many letters from celebrities. He deeply understands that "some big people like good listeners more than good talkers".

3. Be good at expressing your emotions and thoughts. Pay attention to the proportions of speech on different occasions; Don't say things that shouldn't be said; Paying attention to humor in speech can increase interpersonal attraction and overcome awkward situations. In conversation, pay attention to the things that interest the other person and what is most dear to him, and make him happy, and it will not be difficult for you to get close to him.

4. Abandon jealousy. Being jealous of others is actually an attempt to deprive others of the material and spiritual needs they have already received, and this kind of psychology can easily arouse the resentment of others. At the same time, it is necessary to overcome negative psychological states such as suspicion, demand, loneliness, low self-esteem and complacency.

Over time, you see people's hearts, people are like this, you have this feeling, you may begin to understand each other, there will be some vigilance in communication, or there may be some misunderstanding, after a long time to understand each other, it will naturally be solved. Don't worry, you haven't done anything wrong, as long as you have a clear conscience, Majo treats others, work hard, everyone will like you, if someone treats you as an enemy, it's his fault.

I think it's because you care too much about yourself, maybe it's because of some bad impression in your heart that you feel this way. Don't care too much about other people's attitude towards you, as long as you don't hurt others, because your mouth grows on your body, you can't make him not say it, and caring too much will only make you tired of this life, won't it? Go your own way and let others do the talking.

First of all, I don't know if you're a man or a woman! If you are a man, does a girl like you, and that boy likes that girl? If so, there's no way he's not lucky!

You don't have to blame yourself! If not, is it because you have a problem with how you deal with people? First of all, find the reason in yourself and change the shortcomings!

Accept everyone with your heart and touch every heart with a smile! Treat people who don't like you with prayer!

You owe him in your last life, so you're going to have this situation, don't care, just let it be.

I think it's because you don't get along, personal advice, do your own thing, don't pay attention to him, she can turn enemies into friends, that's the best; That way it won't be so tiring to work.

Relationships cannot be measured in terms of money. Maybe it's an inner discord, maybe it's your zodiac discord, maybe it's your horoscope.

The company has this neuropathy there, so it doesn't matter.

When he doesn't exist, don't be affected by yourself, and if you go too far, I believe that other colleagues will also help you.

Favorability towards people is not earned with money, promotions, or food. A word in contact, a look, a movement is very important.

In the workplace, although we often interact with colleagues, the relationship with colleagues is very ordinary, and it is difficult to communicate with each other deeply. ......The reason why it is impossible to establish a deep relationship between colleagues is due to the differences in personality and perception between colleagues, the lack of sufficient depth of communication between colleagues, and the fact that the state of competition between colleagues affects the development of relationships between colleagues.

1. The differences in personality and concepts between colleagues make it impossible to establish in-depth relationships with each other.

In the workplace, everyone has different personalities and concepts, and the state of dealing with people is different. As a result, colleagues are very different in personality and perception, and have relatively little in common with each other, which makes it difficult for colleagues to build deep relationships with each other. ......Although it is not excluded that a small number of colleagues become friends with like-minded people, the relationship between the vast majority of colleagues is indeed very average.

2. It is difficult to establish in-depth relationships due to the lack of sufficient depth in the communication between colleagues.

In the workplace, interactions between colleagues are generally limited to the work level. This state of communication makes the communication between colleagues lack sufficient depth, and it is naturally impossible to establish deep feelings. ......It is precisely because of this situation that although colleagues have frequent exchanges with each other, the relationship between them can never be deepened, and they can only maintain the state of acquaintances.

3. There is competition between colleagues, and such a state will affect the development of the relationship between each other.

The root cause of the deep relationship between colleagues is the competitive relationship between colleagues. ......Specifically, in the workplace, there is competition between colleagues in order to get better positions and higher salaries. In such a state, the communication between colleagues cannot really communicate with each other, so it is impossible to develop the feelings between each other, and eventually the relationship between colleagues is very weak, unable to communicate deeply, and unable to become friends.

In interpersonal communication, I feel that it is difficult to be a good person because I don't handle my colleague relationship well, and I don't get the respect of others for helping sincerely. The person who spends the most time with you every day is not my loved one, nor my friend, but my colleague. He and I were face to face in the office, eating, drinking, and entertaining together.

But when we have the concept of private space, we can't ignore the reasonable social space and public space, and how to grasp the distance in the office is not so simple. Of course, it is necessary to have a good relationship with your colleagues, but it depends on what you rely on to maintain a good relationship with your colleagues and how their good feelings about you are formed. If it's just because you're a good colleague who can relieve them of a lot of burden, you can even fall victim to them when they make mistakes.

Obviously, such a good relationship is not something to be thankful for. Especially as a newcomer to the workplace, it is important to remember that colleagues do not mean that friends cannot be separated from public and private.

Keeping the right distance between me and my colleagues will make you look more beautiful. I think many newcomers in the workplace have similar difficulties: showing a smile no matter the occasion, people think you have no personality; If you respond to the needs of your colleagues, there will be a time when you can't respond because of ability or other reasons, and people will think that you are not interesting enough and alienate you; You have lent money to a colleague many times without any money, and he quickly becomes accustomed to it, and you are forced into a dilemma.

1. In a good atmosphere, colleagues can be mentors and friends, and the company is a group of people who work together to do things well for the same goal. A good colleague, as a teacher, will teach you a variety of working methods, work skills, as a good friend, you can know after work that you don't have an umbrella, umbrella to take you to the nearest bus stop before going home alone.

2. Working hours occupy the most space in a day, and the time spent with colleagues every day is even more than that of family and friends, but all animals with emotions have been in contact for a long time, how can they have no feelings? If you can get along with each other like friends, you will be more comfortable at work.

3. When we work together for a common goal, work overtime late into the night, and cheer for the results of our work together, this feeling can only be experienced with friends around us.

Making friends in the workplace is an inevitable psychological need, a way to get recognition and support, and an aspect that supports your happiness at work.

From this point of view, mutual care, mutual trust, and mutual care are not the unique qualities of friends, and the critical point of whether colleagues can become friends lies in whether they participate in your life outside of work.

4 reasons why I don't have deep friendships with colleagues and don't recommend it:

1.Seemingly close workplace relationships, but in fact vulnerable, once you leave, shatter the modern workplace on the spot, there is a tacit view that everyone knows.

That is, after leaving the company, there is an opportunity to cut off contact with colleagues in the company. Even if there is, at most it is just complaining about work, and it is rare to continue to keep in touch with former colleagues because of good feelings. Leaving a job means not having contact with a former colleague.

Therefore, even if the relationship was good before, the relationship will quickly fade when you no longer sit in the same office and work. And as time passed, they gradually became no longer estranged, and since then they have become strangers who are familiar with each other's mobile phones, but will not be contacted again.

2.Cooperation between colleagues, the strengths and weaknesses of each other's personalities are exposed, it is difficult to admire each other, and the feelings of friends or family will definitely be cooperated between the company and different jobs.

In the process of cooperation, what kind of person the other party is, we generally know it once we contact it. We can also sensitively capture the weaknesses in the other party's personality, and some of their shortcomings will often add some difficulties and obstacles to our own work.

Therefore, when the cooperation is over, it is difficult for us to have a good impression of someone who has increased our workload, and it is difficult for us to become good friends with them. And even if we meet a lot of capable Laxins in the workplace, it is difficult for us to become real friends with them.

On the one hand, those who are stronger generally do not like to make friends with people who are not as good as them, and on the other hand, those who are in a weak position do not like to take the initiative too much to approach those who are more capable.

Therefore, because of this delicate relationship, it is difficult to produce real friendships in the workplace.

3.Iron company, flowing staff, leaders treat employees, will not inject feelings, only look at the results of their work as the company's leaders, must have worked in the company for a lot of time, they are used to seeing colleagues, subordinates come and go, used to see their own well-trained people, in the blink of an eye to leave the job.

Perhaps they have been hurt, and they no longer have feelings for their colleagues, but simply see them as people working together in the same place. Therefore, even if the leader is usually very good to you, once there is a problem at work, he will turn his face and deny people.

And if you do your job well, he will be kind to you again. In short, whether it is laughter or anger, it is just a tool and means for leaders to work, which is very realistic and ruthless.

4.Between people, the relationship is too close, it is easy to let yourself get hurt, you can maintain a good relationship with colleagues, but you must grasp the proportion, do not get too close. is too close, exposing some of his private affairs, even economic status, weaknesses, etc. to the other party.

Or, unscrupulous, dare to say anything to your colleagues, in case you encounter any situation one day, the other party chooses to hurt you, it will not be good.

1.When it's hard, it's hard to lend a hand.

A true friend, you can turn to him without scruples, and you won't feel uncomfortable in your heart. When your colleagues help you, you feel indebted to a favor. Even sometimes even if you ask a colleague for help, they are reluctant to help, because when you are in trouble, it may be the opportunity for others to explode.

So it's hard for a colleague to lend a helping hand when you're struggling.

2.There is competition among colleagues.

Competition is a natural attribute of the workplace, no matter how much emphasis is placed on teamwork, sharing weal and woe, colleagues who work with you today may have to fight for the same customer tomorrow. In the workplace, this is the norm. This natural attribute is incompatible with the setting of friendship.

3.What you may get when you're sad isn't comfort.

Sometimes you treat your colleagues as friends, but your colleagues treat you like a mustard. When you show your vulnerable side in front of your friends, you get empathy and comfort, while when you show it in front of your colleagues, you may get ridicule and ridicule. Even sarcasm.

Skills for interacting with colleagues.

1.Pay attention to the distance between colleagues.

Some colleagues have a very friendly personality and can make more friends, but there are some colleagues who look ruthless on the surface and like to chew their ears behind their backs, so they must learn to distinguish between right and wrong, see colleagues clearly, and keep a distance.

2.Set things right.

All kinds of strange things will happen in any unit, and you can't ask about everything. There are some things that you ask people to understand your affection and thank you very much. And there are some things that you can't bother to ask, and if you are enthusiastic about asking, sometimes there will be embarrassing situations.

3.See what people say.

When colleagues contact, talk and do things, there is a difference between what mountain they go to and what song they sing. Some people dare to tell the truth, regardless of whether the other party can accept it or not. Seeing what people say, sometimes those who tell the truth may not be good, and those who tell nonsense may be liked by others.

So you have to be able to discern this and treat it separately.

4.Pay attention to the attitude of the occasion.

Different situations require different attitudes. If you always have one expression and one attitude, then your colleagues will definitely not have a good impression of you. For example, when you are in the office, you should be rigorous, but when you are at a colleague's party, this attitude will inevitably make people think that you have a big shelf and are difficult to get along with.

A person's greatest duty at work is to do their job well. You're here to work and make money, not to make friends. The best way to do this is to be both independent and supportive of each other, so that you can maintain long-term relationships with your colleagues.

In the workplace, in order to make good interpersonal relationships, there are people who make friends everywhere, and instead of spending time on interpersonal relationships, it is better to spend time on improving their own abilities.