Ours is very troubled, and what are you all worried about

This kind of problem is actually very simple, just face the reality correctly, do things reasonably, do what you can, do not exaggerate, do not be ashamed, put yourself in the right position, with a confident and honest attitude to get the understanding of others is the most important, when you do what you should do, express your true, realistic, down-to-earth ideas, those who love you or don't love you will make the judgment of a normal person, as for the result, you should be left to fate, because you have no regrets, so there is no need to have regrets, I think if the other party leaves you because of your sincerity, it will be the other party's loss, regret is the other party and not you,

I think her family may have taken the house a little more seriously, but it is understandable that parents want their children to have a good home.

Because you still have a family, the eldest has to take care of the family, and if her affairs are not handled properly, it will affect the family relationship, which will outweigh the losses. You have to be sure that you really love her, and she also has the confidence to work hard with you for the future, if you have the financial ability to buy a house in Xi'an, then buy it, if you can't afford the house, then tell her and her family about your future plans, and your plans for your relationship, if they can accept it, you can work hard for another two or three years before getting married.

If you think she doesn't love you enough, your relationship hasn't reached the point of getting married, and her family rejects you, then let it go as soon as possible.

There are thousands of children in the world, if not, we will change it every day.

Sooner or later, you're going to find one that's a thousand times better than this, ten thousand times better.

Trust me!!

First, I can't let go of the past.

We are always haunted by unpleasant things that happened in the past, such as people who have hurt us, regretful things, guilt, etc. Especially the resentment of the people who have hurt us, as long as we think about it, we grit our teeth and operate violently in our hearts. and never forgive yourself for your past mistakes, like a shadow to follow and hate yourself.

One complains about others and the other blames oneself, so that we fall into it from time to time and can't extricate ourselves.

The past is gone, no matter what, it no longer exists, isn't it funny that we can't let go of a non-existent nothingness?If we don't let go, we are subjectively continuing to hurt ourselves.

Nelson Mandela once said, "When I walked out of my cell and into the door to freedom, I knew that if I couldn't leave my pain and resentment behind, I was still in prison."

Second, tangled in the present.

Don't dwell on what is happening now, don't be too obsessed with right and wrong, deal with it rationally, and look at the problem with a higher latitude and overall view, so as to see the cause and effect relationship, so as to solve the problem, rather than letting yourself be led away by emotions, and it will be painful if you can't solve the problem.

3. Anxiety about the future.

With the rapid development of modern society, it can be said that it is changing with each passing day, and if you don't pay attention to it, you will fall behind, people are full of uncertainty about their future, and they are becoming more and more anxious and fearful, young people are anxious about school, work, and marriage, middle-aged people are anxious about the pressure of career and family, and the elderly are anxious about health and children's ......, which is miserable.

The future has not yet come, everything is uncertain, and anxiety is how uncost-effective it is for us to hurt ourselves with our own assumptions! Think about it, what you're worried about hasn't become a fact at all, and you're already letting it hurt, isn't it stupid?

According to the natural law of attracting the same frequency, worrying and anxiety about the future will attract you and the probability of your wishes coming true is greatly increased, which is what we often say about what you are afraid of. I'll talk about it later, no matter what happens, just face it, the soldiers will block, and the water will cover it!

Age anxiety, when you are older, you have to face the troubles of being urged to marry, when you work, you have to face the troubles of work, financially, the troubles of not having money, socially, and the troubles of social fear