At the age of 30, what life principles have you learned?

People in their 30s, from naïve childhood to steady middle age, this journey has experienced a lot and grown a lot, if you have to sum up some truth, you need to sort out your thoughts, I found that I am a person who does not want to recall, because when I think of the past self, I feel stupid and breathable, why is the original self so naïve, maybe the difference between maturity and naivety is 4 words, sophisticated. When people reach middle age, I can sum it up in these 4 words.

I like a sentence in the licensed movie very much, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, this sentence is too right, a metaphor for many things in life are following certain rules, but this kind of rule is not necessarily the rules that law and morality refer to, there may be other rules that are not included, that part is the rivers and lakes, and later someone explained, the rivers and lakes are not fighting and killing, the rivers and lakes are human feelings, this sentence is in my heart again, that's right, This is a life principle that I have summed up over the years, many times whether a person can succeed, how far he can live, and how much career he can have, does not depend on whether you have mastered the core technology, nor on how much strength you have, but on how sophisticated you can be.

Looking back on yesterday's self, I always regret that I didn't do this or that thing maturely enough, and there were many things that I couldn't see at the time, but when I look back at the past with today's eyes, I will feel how naïve and ridiculous my self and choice were at that time, and I can't even hear others sarcastically mocking me, this is because the realm of life is different, and the so-called realm of life is not the sophistication of human feelings? Therefore, if I had to give a young person younger than me any experience, I would say that trying to understand people as much as possible will be of great help to your relationships and career.

Yesterday morning, when I was in my 30s, I realized that the truth of life is that human feelings and sophistication may be more important than the books I read.

It's better to rely on no one than on yourself, likes and kindness are free, but not cheap, be the best version of yourself.

I understand that love can't be forced, marriage can't be compromised, and what suits you is the best.

I feel that people should have dreams in life, and they should make unremitting efforts for their dreams, so as to make their lives more meaningful.

As a 30-year-old person, I am deeply aware that a person must have a skill, and only in this way can he have a better foothold in society.

Love in school can only be used to remember, marriage is not the same as love, this is my 30-year-old feeling.

That is, in life, you must cherish the people who are good to you. Because these people are the hardest people to meet in their lives.

30 years old is a turning point in life, when you are young, but you are no longer young, at this time, you will generally have a wife and children, and your parents will no longer grow old, all kinds of pressure will follow, and you will run towards middle age. And some truths can be talked about to help me become better, because I like to read books and summarize some truths by myself, and now I have written them to share with you.

The body is the capital of the revolution

This is a cliché, but many people do not have good habits such as self-discipline and fitness, diet, etc. Take the people around me as an example, there are not many who are fit, but there are several who are not in good health, and there is a friend who likes to drink and cold drinks, and has been intemperate, was found to be ventilated last year, and his bones are corroded and he can't walk normally, and he lost his health and job at the same time. Therefore, it is necessary to understand the importance of health in time and develop good habits such as fitness.

Cherish the time

Quoting a passage in the American family letter, "If I have nothing to do and waste my time, it will be an absolute unforgivable sin", and Zeng Guofan, one of the same saints, also taught his family many times in his family letter that he must cherish time and do useful things. Time is life, and you should do more beneficial things in your limited life.

Decide

Empty talk misleads the country, hard work and prosperity, this truth is not difficult to understand, want to do what you want to do, do it all out to do a good job, I used to have a very serious procrastination, some things are delayed again and again to miss, in order not to leave regrets for yourself, you should make up your mind to do what you want to do.

Words are beneficial

Everyone has heard that trouble comes from the mouth, so avoid boredom and idle talk, speech must be beneficial to people, Zeng Guofan and Franklin both used this principle to restrain themselves, and they must be measured when speaking outside, so that they can handle all kinds of interpersonal relationships well, and not to talk about others is not only a virtue, but also will cause unnecessary trouble to themselves.

The meter is clean and tidy

Have a good image, clean and tidy appearance, polite inside, a good image is also their first business card, is the first condition for respect, a sales crown of our unit pays special attention to their own appearance, often detect whether their neckline is stained, the issuance is not messy, when we ridicule him, he said that only his own appearance can be respected by others, so that others have a good impression of themselves, then the work performance will naturally improve.

The above principles are all I learned from the "Biography of Zeng Guofan" and "The Biography of Franklin" Servant Yu, and I have been using these principles to restrain myself in the past few years, I think it is very helpful, and now I write it out to share with you, I hope it will also help you.

1.Have the courage to admit your mistakes and learn to forgive others' mistakes.

2.Maintain a positive attitude, keep taking on challenges and strive to grow.

3.Know how to invest your time, money and resources, and pursue self-improvement.

4.Establish your own values and follow your beliefs.

5.Learning to care for others and help them grow will make your life more meaningful.

6.Accept your imperfections, be honest with yourself and others.

7.Hold on to your dreams, but at the same time learn to adapt to change.

8.Learn to balance your life and make time to enjoy life and spend time with family and friends.

9.Challenge your comfort zone and try new things.

10.Learn to manage your emotions and manage your relationships with others.

The 30-year-old self-contained self-containment needs Jisun to understand this truth.

Before the age of 30, what life principles should we understand?

First, you must set a goal for yourself to be able to make a difference.

I found that many people have such colleagues around them, they have been busy, but they have not gained anything, and they have been working in their positions for several years without any progress, and the reason for this situation is that they have not set goals. It's the same with us, if we just get the job done at hand, and don't think about doing it better, without any innovation, just do it step by step, then we will still be that little employee in so many years. Please set a goal for yourself before the age of 30, work towards this goal, and believe that you will meet a different version of yourself after many years.

Second, we must be motivated to do things, and nothing will be achieved if we do not work hard.

Many people don't work well when they are young, spend their energy on eating, drinking and having fun, call friends to enjoy all day long, whether they eat or wear or use, they are very fashionable, they don't make much money, they spend money like running water, this kind of life has no meaning, it can only be a waste of youth. We should be motivated to do things, we should have concentration in work, only by concentrating on one thing, investing 100% of our enthusiasm, in order to break out of the world, in order to have the capital of pleasure after the age of 30. If you understand this truth, I believe that success is not far from you.

3. Only by treating feelings well can you harvest true love.

Many people are approaching the age of 30 and find themselves still alone, but they just feel extremely lonely. Seeing that the children of colleagues or friends have been born, and the marriage is not happy, I will be extremely envious. If we want to get love and build a happy family, we must understand that love is to be grasped by ourselves.

When love comes, we must seize the opportunity to firmly grasp the other party, and if we want to keep the other party's heart, we should use our true feelings to impress him, treat each other with our own sincerity, and we will definitely be able to get the married life we want.

No one is going to get used to you, so be polite when dealing with others. Learn more knowledge, knowledge is a person's armor that can make you go a little further on the road of life. Don't get too attached to things that don't belong to you, as you will lose a lot of happiness.

Making money is the best way to resist risks and accidents, accumulate wealth quickly when you are young, learn to save money and manage investment, learn another technology and ability, and make yourself better.

1.Only sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity; 2.Spend more time with your family; 3.There is no need for deep friendship with friends who drink and meat; 4.Be a man and leave a line; 5.It's better to have one more friend than one more enemy.

1.I don't talk back to my parents, I will follow their advice, and if I really disagree, I will remain silent.

2.Don't fall into the battle of three views, everyone's personality and style of doing things are different, if you can say that you can do it together, then continue, and vice versa.

3.Immorality kidnaps others, nor kidnaps oneself, different knowledge structures have long had different ways of thinking, and existence is reasonable.

4.Make mistakes and no longer quibble, admit mistakes and make amends, have the courage to admit mistakes, and be a responsible person.

5.Accept the uncertainty of the world, do not try to settle once and for all, and be quiet with the fantasy years.

6.Don't believe in eternity, don't be deceived by this word, grasp the present and strive to live tomorrow, is the key.

7.Poverty can be changed.

8.Know what it means to make money, but at least not for the pinnacle of life.

9.Try to give others less trouble, or at least get sick less.

10.Don't try to climb to the sky in one step, so ambitious. Down-to-earth and not swayed by chicken soup.

11.Know what is most important to you in your life, experience it, hear it, and then know what is true!

12.All happiness and pain, knowing that they are formed by a momentary aggregation, will eventually dissipate.

13.If you can't get it, you can give it to others, and if you get it, you can share it with others.

14.Know that the meaning of giving is not for the sake of returning, and keep expectations as low as possible.