I seem to have a phobia of marriage, why do I have a phobia of marriage?

It's that you don't love her, do you?Why don't you go according to your feelings and get married in less than 3 days together? Is it because your family is in a hurry that you agreed?

In this case, you don't have time to cultivate relationships, if I am for me, I love a man, of course I feel insecure if I am not married, if you love a woman, will you be deterred by the so-called trivial things? No, as a 28-year-old man, it's neither too early nor too late to get married, maybe the right person hasn't appeared yet?

To you, she is like a stranger, not even a friend, what about after marriage?Lying next to you is a stranger you don't feel, can you accept it? I don't think a marriage without an emotional foundation will not be happy, so it's better to walk at your own pace, maybe the next woman will be better.

You don't love her! This is the most fundamental reason, there is no marriage without love.

Think clearly, this is the happiness of your life.

The situation of LZ is basically the same as mine, we are the relatives of the 08 wax moon phase. After the New Year, I got engaged and I want to go to Shanxi, she wants to go to Shanghai, I am 23, she is 22, we fell in love the next day after the blind date, and we all want to get married early, but the rules in the countryside do not allow it, there are not so many things, what does it feel, and now it is the same as lovers. I'll get married next year.

I don't think LZ is too cold to her.,If both sides fall in love with each other, I wish I could snuggle up together every day right away.,What's the matter.

I heard you say you really don't like her

28 is not too big.

I can't think of any way, so I'll sigh with you.

I'm only 24 years old during the New Year, and my family is a little anxious.

I really don't want to go on a blind date, I want to really love.

The reasons for the fear of marriage are:

1. The economic situation is related to the situation, 2. It is related to the way the individual looks at things, 3. It is related to the emotional foundation of both parties, 4. The Shihong family, 5. The personality of the individual, for example, some people are easy to be anxious and prone to gains and losses.

Fear of marriage, also known as fear of marriage, refers to the feeling of confusion and fear of the future marriage of one of the couples who are about to get married.

1.Rebellious psychology caused by the urging of relatives and friends: There may be such a type of person in life, who has reached the age when they should get married and have children, but they do not get married so early.

As a result, there will be a lot of relatives and friends who have been urging you. But in reality, this kind of urging not only does not play a role in urging, but also makes people have a strong sense of resistance. Over time, it will induce the appearance of marriage phobia.

2.Parental influence.

There is nothing wrong with saying that the best education for a child is that of his parents. The impact of a failed marriage on a child's child is enormous. When I was a child, I saw Chang's parents fighting and arguing for a long time, and I began to be full of disgust for such a family, which caused the child to be reluctant to contact with the opposite sex, and did not learn how to get along with the opposite sex.

3.Fear of dealing with family disputes.

Marriage is a matter of two families, two different families are combined, there are naturally many contradictions, and dealing with the endless family conflicts of all sizes will make people daunted by marriage.

4.Accustomed to no one knowing how to be restrained, people who like to wander around will also be afraid of marriage, afraid that after marriage and family, they will have a bond and no freedom.

The life knowledge of each person can be divided into two parts, one is the acquisition of external survival skills, and the other is the inner emotional consciousness of family marriage. For the external survival skills is relatively easy to obtain, as long as they work hard, you can learn a variety of survival knowledge, and for the internal emotional consciousness is the need for a healthy, harmonious and happy family cultivation and influence, the success or failure of the parents' feelings is related to a child's future feelings and the fate of marriage, because the person's character imitation and plasticity are very high, the emotions of parents, The attitude towards life and the way the family gets along will directly and deeply affect the formation of a child's feelings and sense of life.

Therefore, if you want to overcome a situation like yours, you need to go through a new process of cultivating and shaping your personality and emotional consciousness, to cut off and recognize your parents' past shortcomings and mistakes, and to promote yourself to adjust to the right emotional and life direction through such mistakes and shortcomings.

Because for such a family environment, first of all, your character will be sensitive and uncertain, for feelings and life lack of security and self-confidence, when encountering things will panic, anxiety and emotions, because your concept does not have how to deal with problems and life thoughts, because you have not really felt a peaceful, stable and happy life, so you don't know what is ahead, you also lack the confidence that you can live a good life, because of such a character, so you will worry and fear the long married life, Fear of falling into the circle of your parents' lives.

There is also an important factor in the current state, that is, your relationship itself is not mature enough, and the weight has not yet reached the level that enables you to cross and overcome such fears, and when such motivation is insufficient, every time you talk about marriage, you will instinctively doubt and fear, because you are not sure of yourself, and you are not very sure of such feelings.

If you want to really come out, you must first adjust yourself, first understand what a marriage and relationship need, and be able to gradually solve and channel the entanglements and problems that existed in the past in your heart little by little, and through these entanglements and problems to re-understand life, re-cultivate your own thoughts and repair character defects, and at the same time, for marriage, you don't need to force yourself to accept it immediately, because the more you are like this, the more panicked, let go of marriage problems for the time being. Gradually adjust and build your current relationship and get along, and when these two aspects rise simultaneously, it is possible to gradually establish a new self.

Happiness Bodhi Garden, the guide to happiness lost.

Nowadays, there are endless problems about marriage, and many people will have the idea of not wanting to get married, and even have a fear of marriage. In this regard, there are many books and magazines about marriage now, and there are many love stories on the Internet. At the same time, some people who are married and divorced around me are also the best learning materials, and they can understand the essence of marriage from their successful and failed marriages.

In addition, you can also study your parents' marriage, discuss their love and marriage with your parents, learn a lot of knowledge from it, and also make some preparations for your marriage and married life.

Marriage is the process of human life continuation, and it is also the obligation of human reproduction, through marriage and childbirth, to inherit one's genes. The so-called love is to serve it, to use it to inspire selfless devotion in the reproduction of offspring. Just as a man is a natural warrior, using his flesh and blood to defend the security of his tribe or country.

Love is born in marriage, which is the result of the evolution of human society, rather than an ethereal fantasy, without marriage, love also loses the meaning of existence. If you refuse to marry, then you are cutting yourself off, cutting off the continuation of your life, and your genes are gone. Therefore, in a broad sense, marriage is an obligation, and fear of marriage is a manifestation of extreme selfishness.

The original intention of love is for the reproduction of human beings, is it to refuse marriage in order to pursue "true" love? Isn't that putting the cart before the horse?

You'd better see a psychologist more often, and you don't take things too extremely.

Hello teacher! I am a 32-year-old "leftover girl" who works in a foreign-funded company, and my conditions are good in all aspects. My problem is not that I can't get married, it's that I don't dare to marry.

For as long as I can remember as a child, my parents often quarreled, and when I was 12 years old, my parents divorced and I lived with my mom all the time. The divorce rate in society is so high now, I am very scared of getting married. I've talked about two boyfriends, both of them broke up because I didn't dare to get married, and now I don't dare to talk about boyfriends anymore because I was so nervous and even trembling at the mention of getting married.

But my parents are very anxious for me, teacher, I have a fear of marriage, what should I do? Hello! Judging from your description, you are somewhat one-sided in your perception of marriage.

If it is convenient for you, we recommend that you come to our counseling room for some psychological adjustment in person. Because psychological counseling requires interaction with each other, written answers do not have a good effect, and it is difficult to grasp your psychological changes after answering. Also, the amount of information you provide is too small to analyze and evaluate your mental state in depth.

Therefore, I can only briefly state my views for your reference.

Your fear of marriage may be caused by the disharmony or even divorce of your parents' marriage, which has brought negative cognition of marriage to your heart since childhood. The objective fact of the high divorce rate in real life has strengthened the negative concept of marriage that you have accepted since childhood, and has been generalized and amplified by you, so that you have lost the ability to love and fear marriage. You now have the psychological implication that "marriage will not be happy, marriage will definitely divorce", so you dare not get married; Because no one jumps into the fire pit "knowingly" that there is a fire pit in front of them.

Therefore, to solve your fear of marriage, you must first establish your "correct understanding" of marriage.

Your current perception of marriage is unhealthy, you only see examples of unhappy marriages, and they are infinitely magnified by you. You only see a drop of ink on a blank piece of paper, but you can't see a blank piece of paper that big. There are so many couples in the world who have been together for hundreds of years and grow old together, but you have pushed a few divorces into your future, which is to mislead yourself with a generalization.

You must know that others cannot represent you, you have to see the fact that divorce is only a few, and you have to see the happiness and beauty of marriage. Although your parents are divorced, it does not prevent you from building your happy marriage, and you can learn from your parents' experience and lessons from their marriage and turn it into a positive resource for your future marriage. In fact, marriage is indispensable for every normal person, and a life without marriage is a crippled life.

Marriage is like a harbor, when you encounter wind and rain on the way of life, you have a place to shelter from the wind and rain; Marriage is the sun, it can give you warmth and sunshine, marriage is the moon, it can give you warmth and romance.

I hope you will get rid of the "fear of marriage" as soon as possible, actively look for a life partner, and build a beautiful family with him.

The key to marriage is "management", as long as you put in hard work and ingenuity, with wisdom to operate, a happy marriage must belong to you!

Nowadays, many people have been single and reluctant to get married, and the possible reasons are also different from person to person. The main reason why I have been single is that I don't want to take on the responsibilities and obligations after marriage. Falling in love is a very easy thing, as long as you like each other, you don't have to worry too much about external factors.

And marriage is not, marriage means that you have to work hard for your family, you have to run for firewood, rice, oil, salt, and grandson, so many people will be afraid of marriage, and the solution:

First, don't be overly afraid or resistant to marriage. The reason why many older single young people are reluctant to get married is mainly because they are full of resistance to marriage. Especially when they see that many couples are not happy in their marriages at all, they are even more afraid of marriage.

However, you should not deny the meaning and value of marriage just because someone else's marriage is unhappy. In other words, you don't want to completely reject marriage from the beginning, you might as well face a relationship with an open heart.

Second, marriage should be built on the basis of genuine love for each other. Regardless of whether you are in a relationship with the intention of getting married, you have to take the relationship seriously. Marriage is based on genuine love for each other, which is not in conflict or contradiction with love.

In other words, your love will not be diluted by marriage. Marriage also needs love as a support. Many marriages break down mainly because they didn't love each other from the beginning.

The third is that marriage is a matter of course, and there is no need to force it. In any case, marriage is a matter of course, and there is no need to force it. Whether you insist on unmarried love or fall in love with the intention of getting married, you have to be comfortable with the coming and going of a relationship.

Love is the eternal theme of human beings, and it is also a beautiful and noble emotion. Entering marriage from love involves the lives of two people, and will produce a third life, a new life, which makes marriage more social and gives rise to responsibility for society and family.

Love is not a person's private matter, it is related to the moral outlook and stability and unity of society. Love is the unity of spirit and flesh, which not only contains physical attraction and desire satisfaction, but also has higher psychological needs, emotional attachment, spiritual resonance, and spiritual enjoyment. With the development of society, as well as the increase of social responsibility and the progress of science and technology, people's desire for love, marriage and childbirth is getting lower and lower.