Who are the people around you who are afraid that you are better off than me ?

1. I have such a friend by my side, I often play together, and I have always behaved very righteously and cheerfully, and everyone likes her. By chance, I learned some of her words from her family, which was surprising.

For example, if you take a friend's husband to squeeze your husband, so-and-so's husband makes money, so-and-so's husband has a high education and a good job, and so-and-so has a happy ...... familyIt's not like you, it's not promising. For example, comparing a friend's child with his own child, and going home to beat and scold him.

2. Housewarming moved to a new house, and relatives came to play. Everyone congratulates how good the decoration and decoration of the new home is, and there is a relative who is unhappy as soon as he speaks, for example, the aisle of your house is too wasteful of space, and your kitchen cannot be facing the west. It makes people speechless.

3. A friend in the circle of friends, as long as you post a few pictures of the scenery in the circle of friends, she will ask why she doesn't go to work, why is she so free today. I don't know how at all.

In life, not being able to see others better than you in some way is a pure jealousy psychology, but jealousy must be bad? Not necessarily.

Some people are motivated by jealousy and strive to be strong, some people are hit by self-confidence because of jealousy, some people are disrespectful because of jealousy and hurt others, and some people are bad behind their backs because of jealousy.

For these people who have negative energy due to jealousy, it is possible to avoid them.

There is only one person around me who is like this, a female classmate of mine, who has always had a very strong personality, but his ability is not worthy of his strong character. She has to blush when she sees anyone who is doing well, and she always feels that she deserves a good life in this world. She didn't have a good relationship with the other girls in the dormitory when we were all still in school, and no one really liked her personality.

It's always been self-respecting.,After we graduated, we basically didn't contact each other.,Only each other's QQ number.,But there's not much contact.。 After many years, I slowly connected, only to know that everyone got married and had children, but she was very dissatisfied with her marriage, her husband was younger than her, and it was said that she impulsively married her little husband because she was angry with her ex-boyfriend. Her little husband is very fun-loving, but he is actually not bad for her, but when she sees that the rest of us are calm, she can't hold her breath.

Satirizing this and that in the group of several of us all day long, I said that everyone looked down on her, and everyone lived better than her and married better than her, so I never chatted with her. I often post on Moments and say that it hurts to see others doing well, I don't know what she thinks, I always think that the world is not as good as her, she should live the best, but the reality is that she is the worst, so she feels uncomfortable. In fact, everyone lives a similar life, but some people like to show it, and some people hide it better.

The one I once met was a roommate from my university.

At that time, there were eight of us roommates, and one of them was more unusual, not very gregarious, and he belonged to the kind of person who didn't think that others were better than himself.

For example, he wants to be ahead of everyone around him in every aspect, such as academic performance.

He studies very weekdays, the reason is that there is a student in our dormitory, that is to say, he is secretly competing with this student bully, and intends to compare him in learning, but the final result is not as good as he wants, but the student has better grades than him.

Later, I could see that he was very unhappy in his heart, and sometimes even ridiculed the student bully in our dormitory, saying that he was stupid every day and couldn't do anything else.

In addition to learning, there is also the aspect of life, that is, finding objects.

At that time, it was a sophomore, and he saw that there was a person in our dormitory who was the first to get off the single and found the object he liked, and he was very unhappy at this time, that is, he felt that others had won him in finding a partner, and he came to ridicule the roommate who found the object, saying that he usually knew that he was with the object every day, and he was out of our dormitory group.

I guess I'm probably the one you said was afraid that you were better off than me. In fact, I think this statement is inaccurate, not so much that I don't want others to live better than me, but that I don't want to live worse than others. Whether you want to admit it or not, people will compare themselves to each other, especially good friends who have fun.

When other people are in a good mood, I don't think it's hypocritical to bless me when I bless people on the surface, I think it's polite. And most of the people who have this kind of thought in their hearts are born of envy, afraid that you will have a good life and have been cursing you behind your back, most of the people like you are reborn from envy to jealousy.

I don't think it's scary to have this kind of thought, and it's also a motivation to work hard. I want to live a good life like the people around me, and even want to live better than them, I don't have to feel inferior and look down on myself when I meet in the future, and my children don't have to look up in front of others in the future, is it wrong to think like this? I'm not secretly calculating others behind my back, I'm also a normal person, I will have joys, sorrows, and comparisons, but after the comparison, I will also reflect on myself and try harder to catch up with others!

One of my former high school classmates was unhappy and sarcastic about me every time I made some new progress. Before, the two of us played League of Legends together, and in the first season we played, I was positioned to **three, and then she was positioned to brass three, and she was unhappy that I surpassed her and began to ask me if there was someone to take me or something, and then I was unwilling to go to the post bar to find a very powerful diamond man to take her, and then the man took her to the platinum, and she was very happy to ask me if the **two was promoted. <>

There was also a period of time when she had no appetite to eat at night and then became thinner, I was very envious, and then I also went for a run every night**, and then lost about ten pounds, she began to look bad again, and I also said that I was too thin, I should go to eat a little supper, and I became fat to look good. I think she's so disgusting, wouldn't it be nice to see others get better and work hard? If you have to sour others and pull others into the water, it is really ill-intentioned.

I think that this kind of person who doesn't know how to make progress on his own and only knows how to sour others will never improve.

Very envious, I will secretly resolve to surpass him in my heart.

I feel that those around me who are better off than me will inevitably be jealous, but if it is just jealousy, it will not be beneficial to me, so I will aim at him, learn from him, and strive to live as well as him, or even surpass him.

In fact, in my opinion, a really powerful person is admired and envied many times, but he will not hate his excellence and will not hate his ability, unless there is some problem with being a person. However, if you hate a person at the beginning and you find that he is much better than you, there are only two thoughts: cut, what's the big deal; No, I don't think it's scientific.

How you look at it is all up to your own mind, anyway, I think I won't lose if I change for the better, no matter what he is.

Finally, observe carefully and learn from his strengths.

I envy them very much, and I am a little jealous and want to surpass him.

I envy those who are better off than me, and I am trying to surpass them.

I am very envious, I hope that one day I can live so well, and I want to surpass them.

I will look at it very normally, because there are many better economic conditions around me than me, but everyone pursues differently, and I have never thought of surpassing him.

I think they're good and I'm always trying to surpass them.

I will be envious when I see people around me who are better than me, I feel uncomfortable, and I will be jealous, and at the same time, I will bless them, and I will think and reflect on how to do not as good as others. Through reflection, understand what causes a person to be inferior to those around him.

1. Don't dare to say no.

Ordinary people follow the crowd, and whatever others say, he follows. If you don't dare to say no to the world, how can you break the rules? If you can't break the rules, then you can only take the regular income.

My classmate's values were different from most people's for a long time, and everyone didn't recognize her, but she still stuck to her original intention and didn't follow the crowd. So later, her efforts to change herself and live the way she wanted to be are also worthy of recognition.

2. Lack of strategic vision.

Maybe you are a person who pays a lot of attention to details, is strict with yourself, and arranges everything in an orderly manner. But when you look down at the small things in front of you, you can't predict the future social changes, you can only keep sighing, the world is changing fast. A smart person likes to pay attention to big things, and he will plan for future changes, and strive to achieve himself in opportunities that others cannot see for the time being.

I have to say that the girl has a very strategic vision, when we all watched Korean dramas, she went to learn dance, small languages, participated in various public welfare performances, and came into contact with many excellent people, and her temperament, cultivation, and knowledge were rapidly improved in invisible places. So sometimes you can't just see that others are good, there is a reason why others are good.

3. Naturally avoid challenging things.

Many people think about finding a good company when looking for a job, and it's best not to be too busy, enough money to spend, just enough! Most of us don't have the courage to change, and it's hard to break the current deadlock in thinking, so we have to settle for the status quo. And others are not satisfied with this, they strive to improve themselves towards the goal, and before you know it, their thinking and vision are already ahead of you.

People who lack the spirit of challenge tend to be conservative in their finances, such as when you only know how to save or buy some money**. Relatively high-risk financial investments, **, or **type**, you basically dare not touch. Low risk means low return.

The benefits of various financial management methods are there, and it depends on your courage whether you dare to make high returns. Your goal is to preserve your capital, so don't expect high returns, and you won't be qualified to envy others when you see them succeed.

Of course, there is no one standard answer to the definition of good and bad, and I believe that living the life you want is the best. But if sometimes you are a little envious of other people's lives, you might as well look at the efforts made by others, reflect on what you can improve, keep up with excellent people, and make yourself better and better!

Many people around me have worked their own, and I think it's very motivating, so I will work hard to achieve my goals and make myself well.

If there is someone around you who has a better life than you, there must be envy in it, and you no longer think about how to catch up with him all the time.

Some people may say that there are too many people around them who are better than their own conditions, and it is useless to compare, in fact, this is just for themselves, not working hard to make excuses, mature people can not be affected by this emotion at all, otherwise there is a great obstacle to their future growth.

As far as I'm concerned, although I sometimes feel jealous of this situation, but thinking about the current situation that I am usually lazy, it seems that it should be like this as a matter of course, and I can only blame myself for not working hard.

So I think the feeling of envy is good, at least it can make me look at myself better.

If you live better than yourself, then it must be because you work harder than yourself in some places, and you won't compare, just do your best.

I will feel very envious, I have thought about it, I will keep trying.

Respect him and make friends with him. Surround yourself with excellent people and learn from them as your role model. The more you are nurtured by them, the better you get.

I just look at it with a very normal mentality, because I know that not only are they better off than me, but there are many people in the world who are better off than me, and I don't want to compare with them, I just want to live my own life.

I am very envious but not jealous, I will aim at him, strive to improve myself, and hope that one day I can live such a happy life.

Looking at it with a normal heart, I will not be psychologically unbalanced because others are better than me, because other people's good lives are also earned by others' efforts.

Looking at it with a normal heart, people are better off than me, it must be because they work harder than me, and there must be a reason why they are better than you.

It's a lie to say that you are not jealous, but life is your own, and it doesn't have much to do with yourself if others live well, just manage your own life with your heart.

I will be envious, and at the same time, I will study the reasons for his success and work hard in his direction, after all, blindly envy will not change my current situation.

It's good to look at them with a normal heart, it doesn't matter to us whether other people's lives are good or bad, we just need to live our own lives.

The people around you are doing well, and you are happy in your heart, it's not a big deal, and you are not bad and there is no jealousy, so it is a happy thing for the people around you to live well.

I think it's probably envy, other than that, I don't have any other thoughts, let alone jealousy, other people's lives are other people's, and it's important to live your life well.