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Don't be cold, the world itself is not so beautiful, for example, like you said, but it is precisely because the world is not beautiful that you can better set off your value, as for the kind of person that exists around you, you can face him with a tolerant attitude, and patience will pass, which can also help you improve your self-cultivation, it is called the prime minister's belly can support the boat, think about the sea, so broad, it is because it is tolerant, and it is not worth it to be sad and sad for the mistakes made by others, I believe in you, can be treated correctly.
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Personally, I think that the world of children is still relatively simple. But when you grow up, pressure and competition will make people play some small tricks.
However, it should be a matter of morality. But that doesn't mean he's a bad person.
In today's society, those who help others for free are good people. And this kind of standard, in the past, was not much.
Therefore, what LZ is talking about is just ordinary people, and there is no need to be cold.
Purely personal opinion, hopefully.
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There are a lot of good people, because people's hearts are good, and the society of knowledge gradually submerges people's hearts, and you have to learn to look at people.
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There are good people, but they just don't meet them. However, I believe that there are times when good people are forced to become bad people, and of course we only see the result and not the process.
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If you understand this, you will understand what it means to be warm and cold, and the world is hot and cold.
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Try to think of people in the good way, everyone has their own reasons for doing things, just be with good people.
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The original nature of human beings is good, the "original" in the sentence means "original", there is no evil thought at the beginning of human birth, but everyone is in this society, whether it is the "original family", "school", "workplace" or other environment, it is a kind of social activity, then each person or each society is different and intersecting, resulting in everyone's mentality and purpose are different, but all societies can not escape the world system, this system is "profit-seeking", This leads to the fact that most people's daily goals and behaviors are driven by "profit-seeking", which leads to a decrease in the probability of truth and goodness and an increase in the probability of hypocrisy.
And if you are a true and good person, then you will naturally distinguish hypocrisy at a glance, so you will find that most people are not really good people, which can also show that you are a good person.
Hope mine was helpful to you and received by yours
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Because most people are not smart enough. Good and evil have a lot to do with wisdom. Strictly speaking, at least 80 percent of the people in this world are not good people!
Those who are brave and help grandma cross the road are not necessarily good people! Because these people may also be jealous of others and bully others at times. And people who are jealous of others and bully others are naturally not good people.
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Xunzi said: Human nature is evil.
For the sake of their own interests, they will do some extreme things, which gives us the illusion that most people are not good people.
In fact, the vast majority of people in life are still good people, but the good is not obvious.
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Be sure to be a good person and be kind to others. Because only in this way will others treat themselves equally, be welcomed by everyone, gain good interpersonal relationships, and make this society more harmonious and beautiful.
However, we often hear the phrase "it is difficult to be a good person", which shows that a good person is "too good" to be improper, not only will not make you popular, it may alienate others, and more importantly, you will not get due rewards for your efforts, and your heart will be more tired.
We may have seen this kind of person: they often have a smile on their face, they look positive, it seems that there is nothing unhappy in their life, they always enlighten their unhappy friends in this way: what is this, look a little away.
You may wonder, how can such a person be annoying?
The psychologist pointed out that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses in character, joys and sorrows, and it is these that constitute a real person.
If you always respond to everyone's questions in the same way, it will seem extremely unreal and even hypocritical in the eyes of others.
It is true that we need to be happy, but we also need to allow ourselves to have some "unhappiness" in order to spur us on to be better.
Just imagine, you are in a bad mood after having a conflict with your partner today, but your "good person" friend comforts you like this: What is this, look away. How would you feel? I believe that most people will think that this person is standing and talking without back pain.
There is such a group of people who seem to have a good temper, never quarrel, and when encountering conflicts, although they are reluctant, they still choose to remain silent or back down, so as to avoid conflicts.
Gretchen Rubin, a columnist for the New York Times and a senior interpersonal consultant, believes that "if you can't even be honest about your true feelings in front of others, you can't have a real, warm relationship with others."
Getting along with a "nice guy" who never quarrels is actually not as pleasant as you think, especially when you meet a partner who tries to avoid any arguments with you, you will find that the problems you have between you are not resolved at all, and he just refuses to talk to you head-on by avoiding them.
This type of person seems to have a good temper, but in fact lacks the ability to express opinions and communicate with others.
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In the past, I thought it was quite simple to be a good person, but it really made people feel like a gesture. But in reality, when you meet some people who are kind enough to help them, they will think that you have other plans, which is very sad, and those moments really make people feel that it is difficult to be a good person.
1. It's hard to be a good person, and the concepts formed when I was a child collapsed.
When I was a child, I felt that I had to have the idea of picking up gold and helping the elderly, and I had to give up my seat when I met someone in difficulty on the bus. But in reality, sometimes when you pick up money and return it to the owner, you will think that you stole it. If you help the elderly, you will be called the perpetrator by the elderly.
When you just want to give up your seat on the bus, people say they want you to go away one step in advance, but it's really a very bad experience for being a good person. These things are really chilling, and they are also the reason why there are fewer good people.
Second, it's not that there are fewer good people, maybe it's that there are more bad people.
Because nowadays, when doing good deeds, you have to consider the cause and effect, and you are afraid of getting into trouble, so there are fewer people who are willing to do good deeds. Everyone wants to help people, but nowadays good people can get too little in return, and some people are reluctant to do it. When we help others, on the one hand, we want to receive the gratitude of the recipients, thinking that this kind of gratitude can make our own value gained, and there will definitely be a sense of satisfaction.
On the other hand, there is the belief that doing good deeds is happiness in itself, but these two ways of being good people are fundamentally different. One is the need to be thankful, and the other is the happiness itself.
3. Good people are not rewarded, so what are you going to do?
Sometimes, after doing a good deed, those recipients not only do not express their gratitude to you, but will also engage in all kinds of slanders in an attempt to cheat you out of money. As a result, many people become disillusioned with the trust between people, believing that they are not only not being rewarded, but are still in this kind of trouble, and thus do not want to be good people anymore.
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It's hard to be a good person", and I know this very well.
Borrow money and think twice.
I once borrowed 280,000 yuan to my brother in 2014, he took it to invest, at that time my husband hesitated, was ready to buy another suite, but in the end I was persuaded to lend it to my brother, said that it would take two years to pay off, but until now it has not been given to me, although I know that he also failed to invest, but what is the matter with me, let me miss the best period to buy a house. I am from Chongqing, and the housing prices were at a low ebb in those years, and I regretted it in one word! But what can be done, it must be my brother.
You can't lend a car to someone else.
acres of imperial destruction. I have a scooter, and I don't usually drive it much, and my friends often use it to drive, and I don't care. But what happened once made me understand that I can't borrow a car at will.
I remember that at noon that day, she called me and said in frustration that there was a car accident, and she was fully responsible for crippling an old lady, and I was stunned. My colleague's family was not in a good financial situation, so I ended up adding a lot of money to buy another car.
Helping others is fun to keep your eyes open, and sometimes it's asking for trouble.
I saw a ** newspaper on the Internet on September 8, 2015 Huainan female college student was falsely accused, female college student Xiao Yuan rode a bicycle and encountered an old man fell to the ground, Xiao Yuan immediately helped the old man up, and the old man then pointed out that Xiao Yuan hit himself. In the end, it was brought to court.
The above are just some objective social phenomena, not to advocate not to be a good person, but to correctly judge right and wrong when helping others. Although it is difficult to be a good person, the fine tradition of being willing to help those who really need it cannot be missing.
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I advise you to go, wasting your time
I'm done. I feel a little pierced in my heart.
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