How did you find out that you were not a very good person after falling in love?

Because when two people with different personalities get along closely, they will expose their other side, which is a good thing, and you can change it if you know where the problem is.

Because you've discovered your partner. There is a better character than you, better merits.

Because before falling in love, you were alone, and you belonged to the kind of person who fed the whole family and did not go hungry, but after falling in love, you still have to take into account the feelings of the other person, but this skill has been slowly lost in the time before you fall in love.

When you are in love, you need to be tolerant, you need to give, and there are many things that you can't imagine and control, so you will let yourself discover more in your heart, and at the same time, you will also self-reflect, so that you can find your own shortcomings and find each other's shortcomings.

I found that I still have a lot of shortcomings, and I can't handle things comprehensively and can't understand the feelings of others.

I feel the same way....In the eyes of others, I am hearty, sensible, caring, and funny, funny, funny...My boyfriend must have thought the same way when he wasn't a boyfriend, that's why he took my hand and walked all the way...What kind of girlfriend will I become? Here's what I thought: I'm going to be a sensible, caring, funny, and non-stressful girlfriend, and I'm thinking about a happy life in the future...As a result, I'm pestering, I'm vexatious, I'm jealous, I'm angry, and I don't have the effort I imagined....I found a lot of problems, and I also deeply felt that it had caused trouble to my boyfriend.

Now I have nothing to do, go out for a run, learn to study, run, go shopping, and work overtime. So: because of love, so you want to show your best side to each other, the result is definitely not good.

In fact, the most important thing is: learn to be alone.

Maybe it's because of Leo personally. When I don't feel the affirmation of my partner, I feel lost and really self-doubting. This affirmation is not a lip service, but a subtle feeling, an attitude.

If your lover is very good, and happens to be not good at words, or never willing to show appreciation and affirmation of you, you may feel the sweetness of being a lover from him, but you can't feel a heartfelt recognition of your own various qualities as an independent person, and this experience is very easy to breed denial of yourself. ‍‍

It is precisely because we are in love that we can find ourselves perfect, but we are human beings, and we will have a bad side in people, take it as a characteristic of our own body, it can be an advantage or a disadvantage, it depends on what you think.

Because in the process of falling in love, two people continue to run in, you will find that you will have some shortcomings, these shortcomings must be changed, such as being more selfish, or easy to get angry, etc., these should know how to correct.

Symptoms of sensitivity, suspicion, loss and insecurity, are common in women. There is also a case of men. The reason why the subject and many people have this kind of thinking is mostly due to personality.

There are many people around who have big personalities and big branches, and even if this kind of thought arises for them, it will be fleeting. Or quite confident people, for whom they will always find that the other person is not good enough after falling in love. Even if you suddenly feel bad, it won't be because of your lover.

It's normal, it means that you love each other very much, and if you love each other very much, you will feel inferior and feel unworthy of each other.

This question deserves to be taken seriously, although no one will notice it. I'm the one who found out after falling in love that I'm not a very good person, at least not as good as I wanted it to be. I used to assume what kind of partner I was before I fell in love.

In addition to the basic principles of love, I hope that I can do two things: be considerate and fun. I know that I am a boring and a little lazy person, and I am an otaku girl with a little literary feelings.

When you are in a good mood, draw two strokes to write some literary jokes, or feel a little philosophy of life. Although my simple life is actually not philosophical. I was confident that I would be a good girlfriend and a good wife to someone in the future.

All of this unconsciously stems from my lack of experience, and I don't actually know me after falling in love. In the early stage of the relationship, what I could do was to take care of myself, everything was self-centered, and I could get used to it. Fortunately, my boyfriend was very patient with me at that time and didn't blame me for anything, and would jokingly remind me from time to time that I was not single anymore.

Later, I began to get used to thinking about things and considering two people, and I would ask for his opinion first if I had any questions.

It's not about self-denial. There is no gold to be bare and no one is perfect. And theseImperfection forms the basis of this mentality

These deficiencies didn't have any impact on life until I met that person, so even if I knew about it, I wouldn't care too much about it. But if these shortcomings happen to be used to deal with a person who is very important to them, and even more so, these shortcomings are precisely the strengths of this person, and these problems of their own will naturally surface in the application and comparison.

Because there is a person around you who is ready to live with you for the rest of your life, he will help you find your shortcomings and transform into the most perfect image in his mind.

For many people, you leave him, more like a relief. Yes, it hurts and hurts. But from a life point of view, this is to let yourself go for a living.

Because by staying with this person, you will be hurt for the rest of your life. Left, only to be injured for a while. So, don't get caught by the wrong people.

We must not only find the right person, but also learn to leave the wrong person. Leaving will also be a kind of right.

When you are in love, you are the most authentic self (except for long-distance relationships and short-term breakups).You think you've become a better version of yourself when you're in love, it's just because your acting skills are not in place on weekdays. The biggest role of love is to expose problems, not to sublimate oneself.

If you find out that you are not a very good person after falling in love, it means that you are not a very good person in the first place. When a person takes off his defenses and disguises, what he does and what he says is what he really thinks in his heart.

Summary. Hello dear, happy to answer your questions! What we can't forget is often not the person we fell in love with, but the memories with him.

If a person is not so good, why can't anyone who has been in love with him forget why.

Hello dear, happy to answer your questions! What we can't forget is often not the person we fell in love with, but the memories with him.

Kiss, 1, falling in love is an experience, maybe this person is not very good, maybe he is very likely to fall in love. 2, he understands the feelings of girls better, he can be a potato sticker, he will be gentle and envious, and his girlfriend still has feelings, and he will give it to several boys. 3. In the end, when they break up, the girl will still not forget him for any year.

4. After a long time, remember the memory of his love.

Dear, maybe after many years, we will still miss him. 1. But what we remember is not what he was like. 2, but to amuse Yu Yu about some of his past. Mountain rolling.

Cognitive psychology has a concept called self-serving bias, which states that people distort some of their cognitive or perceptual processes to maintain their self-confidence and maintain positive self-evaluation.

For example, people tend to attribute accidents to external factors such as weather and road conditions, and to attribute accident avoidance to internal factors such as skill and reaction speed.

Similar principle, when a person has not been in love, she will tend to overestimate her performance in love. However, intimacy activates and challenges people's psychological functions in many aspects, so after being challenged in many aspects in a real relationship, people's evaluation of themselves will become very poor, so they will have the perception of "not a very good person".

However, it seems to me that both of these perceptions are biased, "good" stems from ignorance and overestimation, and "not very good" stems from failure and self-blame. In my opinion, intimacy is like a mirror that allows us to get closer to others and understand ourselves better. When you fall in love, it's not that you really find out that you're not really good, but that you know better what your real self is like.

For people who have no experience in love, it is difficult for them to perform in love, because there are many aspects of performance that we cannot refer to in our previous experience.

For example, we don't know what habits and temperaments we have in intimate relationships. How we behave especially in situations of anxiety, stress and conflict is largely influenced by our family of origin, but we don't know it. In the relationship, these habits manifested themselves and my partner responded differently from my parents, so we realized that there was something wrong with my own behavior.

Hello. Because after falling in love, you will always unconsciously improve yourself, change yourself, and learn to be restrained in many cases, because you always want to show your best side in front of the opposite sex. For fear of making a mistake or exposing your shortcomings to the other party, it is embarrassing.

The requirements for themselves are also getting higher and higher day by day.

There will be a lot of feelings after falling in love, and there will be a lot of things that feel bad about yourself after not feeling that during the relationship, so don't give yourself a forced career, but be happy to do a good job every day.

Maybe you feel like you're a good person, but after she falls in love, you find out that you're not a good person, and that's a lot of things, because in the beginning, you can do what you love to do, right? There are no restrictions, but it's different when you're in a relationship, you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Right, after being together for a long time, there will definitely be conflicts, so that you will feel that you are not a very good person.

This is quite normal.

Begin to mature, and will examine and reflect on yourself. Love Marriage is a new university, there is still a lot to learn, take your time and keep improving!

At first, it is immature', and once it matures, it is only when you understand what you want in your own generation and what kind of people you need.

Isn't that surprising! This is normal. It's human nature.

Because there must be tolerance in love. Patience. Cherish.

Accommodate. Bread. Wait a minute.

Only after getting along with each other can people feel their strengths and weaknesses, although people cannot be perfect. Of course, I don't feel like I'm a perfect person. Step into the paradise of love.

You can continue to improve your life. The benefits continue to be carried forward. The shortcomings can be corrected, and such a love life guarantee is very sweet.

You can also see that you are a very good person.

No one is perfect, everyone is not absolutely perfect, good and bad are worthy of conscience, worthy of people who are good to you.