Why don t many mothers let their children sleep with their in laws?

Now the living conditions of the children are very good, and the home environment is very comfortable and clean. They will give their children the best living environment. It is precisely because of these superior living environments that some mothers will have a habit of cleanliness.

She will think that her in-laws are old, their health is not as good as when they were younger, and there may be some chronic diseases.

Therefore, if you worry about your child sleeping with them, it will cause some symptoms.

In particular, the parents-in-law or the elderly living in the countryside who are not very wealthy, and they have experienced an era and lifestyle that are unacceptable to modern people.

It is mainly for the sake of children's health that children are not allowed to sleep with their parents-in-law. Some elderly people still have a smell of old people on their bodies, which is also very unacceptable.

So most of the elderly may not be so clean and hygienic in the eyes of young people. How can my own heart and soul baby sleep with such an old man. It will make them worry about the health of their baby.

First of all, it is not conducive to the child's physical health. As the elderly age, the functions of various organs in the body slowly weaken. Moreover, the elderly exhale too much carbon dioxide, and many grandparents like to sleep next to their grandchildren, and some sleep with their grandchildren in their arms.

The carbon dioxide exhaled by the grandparents is just inhaled by the child, causing the air the child breathes to be carbon dioxide, which is not conducive to the child's health. <>

Then there is the impact on your child's sleep. When people get older, they often suffer from insomnia, and it becomes more and more difficult to fall asleep. It is often easy to wake up, and often wake up and turn over at night, and the movement of the person next to the child often turning over will disturb the child's sleep status.

The child does not sleep well at night, and the next day his spirit is not good.

In the end, it will make the child develop bad sleeping habits. The elderly like to wear thick clothes to sleep, and they feel that it is warmer this way. Therefore, when the child is sleeping, the old man will also put a lot of clothes on the child to sleep, thinking that the child often kicks the quilt, so that he will not catch a cold.

If your child wears too many clothes to sleep, it will only restrain your child and make your child's sleep uncomfortable. Children often wear so many clothes to sleep, and they will gradually develop the habit of wearing more clothes to sleep. If you wear less clothes to sleep, you feel that you can't sleep, which is very detrimental to your child's sleep.

Because they are not at ease, they think that their in-laws can't take good care of their children, and generally children have a better relationship with whoever they stay with for a long time, so if they are not in a hurry, they will not be too busy, they will take care of the children by themselves.

Children are just at the stage of learning and forming habits, so education at this stage is still crucial.

And the in-laws are generally more precious children, even if the child does something wrong, they will not criticize, and generally give what the child wants.

But for children, this is very bad, and once some behaviors are formed, it is difficult to change, so the child's initial education is very important.

This is also the reason why many mothers do not let their in-laws take care of their children, unless they are really too busy.

And whether the in-laws are with their daughters-in-law or grandchildren, they are not people of the same era, and mothers may tell their children some stories before going to bed, but these in-laws generally can't do it.

Therefore, they are not at ease, only when the child is by their side and everything is arranged by her own hands, they will be relieved.

Actually, we should understand what our mothers do.

Children always like to turn around at night and sleep unsteadily. If you sleep with your in-laws, your in-laws won't be able to sleep well, and your children may not be able to sleep well. The mother sleeps with the child, and the mother knows when the child moves.

If the child sleeps with the in-laws, not only will the in-laws sleep even worse, but the children may also be woken up because the in-laws get up at night. I think it's better for children to sleep with their mothers, and their mothers take better care of them.

I don't want to see her grandmother sleep on my child mouth-to-mouth, and stick tightly, once I saw her grandmother cover the quilt tightly, and pull my child over and cover herself, mainly because she is still afraid of the cold, the air conditioner will be turned off after a while in summer, my daughter can't sleep on the air conditioner and is sweating and wakes up in the heat, sometimes I want to sleep alone with my husband, I tried to take the child to sleep with her grandmother, but every time I must wake up crying in the middle of the night to find me, so I still sleep with me, rest assured, I wake up as soon as the child moves, and I fall asleep all over the bed, and I think that only when the mother can wake up when the child is moving.

Every morning I wake up and sleep at night, without brushing my teeth, my face or my feet. If I don't brush my teeth, I say that I will retch, and I don't have a face towel, and I would rather put a large stack of new towels from my mother's house in the closet than be reluctant to take them out. It is possible to take only two baths in one winter.

In the summer, you can only take a shower for a week. I am reluctant to burn the liquefied gas for too long, and the beans can be eaten if they are not broken. As long as my child has a fever, if I don't have a temperature check, I will be given antipyretics.

I was reluctant to take it to a regular hospital for laboratory treatment, so I went to a small clinic to give the child an enema or something. I probably won't cook a little meat for my child for a week, saying that her son grew up drinking noodle soup and eating noodles. There are too many to mention.

By the way, as long as the child is with them, teach the child that I am a bad mother, if they are playing with the child in the living room, I just turn around and go to the yard to do something, and they immediately close the living room door to prevent the child from seeing me. There are still a lot of people who can't complain.

It's very simple, personal hygiene is too poor, and you can't wash your face and feet every day, how can you let your children follow them.

It is very obvious that my mother-in-law is very afraid of the cold, because the palace is cold and does not fan the wind much in the summer, and does not sleep on the mat much, and the quilt is spread when it is cold. The in-laws have a lot of food taboos for these three highs and one ** disease high blood pressure, so they don't want them to take their children, and they can't eat a piece together.

I don't really want my in-laws to bring, give my one-year-old and three-month-old child a coke to drink expired pure milk, the elderly don't think about the expiration date, and there are leftovers for the children to eat, I don't want to, saying that they don't listen and think I'm hypocritical.

I feed the milk and I stay up all night, why sleep with her when I bring it up, it is impossible to drop.

I don't worry about them sleeping in their arms, when I buy a small bed and go back, my mother-in-law said that I spent money indiscriminately, and I couldn't use it, I said that the child sleeps, how can it not be used, she said that when she was born, she will sleep with me, how can she use it, I said let him sleep by himself, and now it is good to sleep in a separate room when he is older, and now it is recommended that children sleep in cribs, so as not to have any accidents, the hospital is discharged home and we sleep at night My husband directly locked the door, and he took the child at night, which was good.

To be honest, I think young people nowadays are too pretentious! There are many comments that children sleep with the elderly, they are ugly and dirty, and they smoke carbon dioxide! Hey, I've said a lot of bad things about the elderly, but what will you do when you really bring it yourself?

Most of them are playing with a mobile phone and letting the children play there by themselves. The elderly are different, they will interact with the child, they will also make the child happy, put her to sleep, and so on! Just look at other people's shortcomings, don't look at a little, like this, you can bring it yourself, it's you who is tired, don't complain too much.

I wanted the old man to take it, but the old man was not in good health and couldn't bring it

Feed the child what he shouldn't eat, feed him tea, take him to touch the water bottle, electric fan, wipe his mouth with a rag, they all did it secretly behind my back. Later, after a long time, I said it myself, including some of the bad habits that my son has developed now are used to when he was with them...

The elderly have body odor, but the children don't follow.

As soon as my son was discharged from the hospital, my father-in-law said that he slept with him, slept with him at night, and when he was hungry, he wanted to be fed and then hugged over, and then hugged him, I told him that you don't have to hug it back, I can still sleep well without feeding, I sleep at eleven or twelve o'clock every day, and I still sleep and snore I don't have points, the child is going to sleep and I say that I am not sleepy** to sleep....I had a fever and was dazed, let my mother-in-law and father-in-law put me to sleep, coaxed for more than an hour and was still awake, and fell asleep within a few minutes of carrying back to ......the room, and my mother-in-law said that I was asleep and went to our room to sleep with us, and was directly rejected by my husbandNow more than a year old sleeps with us

I met several mothers-in-law who watched the children and said that they wouldn't let me feed anything, and I promised to leave her alone! I'll feed them all!

The elderly take their children from generation to generation, whether they are in-laws or parents, and the educational ideas and methods are relatively backward, so they bring their own, if they really need the elderly to bring one day, they must communicate and discuss, try to avoid bad things for children, and there is no way to bump into them.

The three views do not match, the way of life is different, and you should bring it yourself when you are born, and it will be a few years if it is difficult

If my in-laws love cleanliness very much, you can sleep with them, but my in-laws can't, they are all rural, they don't love cleanliness, my mother-in-law doesn't take a bath a few times a year, they don't care about anything from my pregnancy to confinement, and I still bring the child myself.

My baby lives with his grandmother for a few days and doesn't know what his surname is, most of the old people spoil their children too much, which is not a good phenomenon, so I don't let my son live with her grandmother, you can play with it for a while during the day, and it is absolutely not good at night.

The old man can't stand it! They have to take you to work during the day, and they don't let the elderly sleep peacefully at night!

Old people are afraid of cold, like me, although I am young and afraid of cold, but my son is very angry, and I have to observe whether he is hot anytime and anywhere.

It's unhygienic, the point is that my father-in-law smokes a lot every day, and he smokes it in front of his children, which is so annoying that he doesn't listen to what he says.

The living habits are not good, and the child's grandfather likes to smoke in the room and sleep with the lights on.

The old man was never so attentive. Like my mother-in-law, the child slept with her for two nights and caught a cold. Speechless, though knowing that she had done her best.

I'm too used to the child, give him what you want, and coax him again this night, and the child can turn the sky upside down.

Because my mother-in-law has a heavy body odor, she also burps and farts and snores, and she can wake herself up when she farts. Can I rest assured that the child will follow her?

When the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law live together, and the mother-in-law asks the daughter-in-law to sleep with the baby, as a mother, she will definitely agree to the mother-in-law and the baby sleeping together. For most young people, it is considered that the mother-in-law is easy to develop the symptoms of staying up late when sleeping with the baby, so it is not too habitual to ask the mother-in-law to sleep with the child. But if the mother-in-law wants to sleep with the baby, she will definitely try her best to meet the mother-in-law's request.

Because for the mother-in-law, the main reason why she wants to sleep with the baby is to shorten the distance between the mother-in-law and the baby.

Most women in life will habitually let their children sleep with their mothers at night. But when the mother-in-law proposes to her daughter-in-law that she wants to sleep with the baby, as a mother, she must agree to sleep with the baby. Even if the mother-in-law is only willing to take the child for 1 or 2 days, it may be that the mother-in-law thinks that the daughter-in-law takes the child to sleep all day, and the night is very hard.

Therefore, the mother-in-law is willing to help the daughter-in-law take care of the children at night, and the daughter-in-law must understand the mother-in-law's approach.

If the child expresses a strong desire to sleep with the grandmother, the parents must also agree with the child's approach, and the parent cannot always leave the child with the mother's side. Parents should be aware that their children already have their own ideas, and when faced with their children's sleep, they have already said that they want to drink grandma to sleep. Parents need to understand their children's thoughts, maybe the children just want to get closer to their grandmother.

For most novice mothers, when they see their grandmother and children playing friendly together, they will be jealous from the bottom of their hearts. As a mother, you should also realize that your child is not only your own child, but also the child of your elders, because your elders love their children, so they want to take care of them. And women should understand the real reason why the mother-in-law wants to take care of the child, which may be because the mother-in-law sees that the daughter-in-law is very hard to take care of the child at night, and wants to help the daughter-in-law share the burden of taking care of the child.

My mother-in-law wants to sleep with the baby, but as a mother, I won't agree, because when the baby is older, it is necessary to cultivate his independence and autonomy, and he cannot be too pampered.

If it were my own feelings, I would definitely not agree, but as an elder, this request is also because he likes children, don't refute it directly, you can consult the baby's meaning, generally the baby is more dependent on the mother.

The mother-in-law wants to sleep with the baby, as a mother can agree, but the baby may take a while to adapt, the baby wants to sleep with his parents, do not force him to sleep with grandma.