How can I make myself happy and calm?

When you stop thinking about happiness and indifference, you can be really happy and indifferent.

I used to feel unhappy, on my 10th birthday, I was wearing a princess dress that my parents bought, sitting on a swing made for me by my grandfather, eating a beautiful birthday cake, listening to people say happy birthday to me, and at that time I made a wish that my family would be safe and that I would be happy. But now that I think about it, what was I unhappy about at that time, enjoying the care and love given to me by my relatives, and I didn't need to work all day, I should be very happy.

I later asked a friend who was very extroverted what happiness was, and she said that she couldn't say it clearly, and if she had to say it, happiness was an impulse for her, and she released this impulse, which was happiness. She is happy and smiling every day, and I am often infected when I play with her, but I have never forgotten that I want to be truly happy.

Later, I graduated from high school and graduated from college, until now I can work, such a hard life, I am so tired that I will be happy to watch ** every day, I will be happy to sleep a little more on weekends, and I will be very happy to go out to watch movies and eat with friends, I don't want to find happiness anymore, my life is not as easy as before, but I really feel that I am happy at these times. After I don't think about anything, I don't have too much pressure, just do my own things well, just do it with a clear conscience, I don't usually work overtime, I go to the gym or go to the bookstore to read books when I have time, or I thank the day alone in the dead of night, and the days are naturally much calmer.

Therefore, if you want to let go of these obsessions and take a step back, you will find that these are not far from you, you are just bound by yourself in a strange circle and never come out.

I think that in order to have a calm and quiet state of mind, we need to read more, think more, understand more, not rush things, and think about all factors. It is undeniable that there is indeed a certain truth in what some sages or famous masters said, we should learn to learn from their shining points, and sometimes the sages think far more carefully than we do, look at their famous sentences and ways of dealing with the world, you will get a lot of useful knowledge and ability, and then you will naturally use a calm and quiet state of mind.

Reading really has a lot of incredible uses, sometimes it seems that reading books is to pass the time, in fact, reading books can hone a person's mood and patience, but also improve a person's cultivation, will guide a person to look at this complex world correctly, and the complexity of the world, in each person's different treatment will have many different results, in the face of such a complex world, to have a calm and quiet state of mind is also very rare, and the sages in the book have explained the mystery to everyone, It's up to you to see if you can grasp the essence of the split.

I think from the moment you open your eyes every day, you have to say to yourself that today is a good day, no matter what happened yesterday, after all, yesterday is the past, it can't be changed, don't let yesterday's troubles affect today's good mood, everything starts now!

When you are working, no matter how busy the task is and how stressful it is, don't complain about your work, like your work, don't start the day with resentment, and you will have a sense of accomplishment to complete your work step by step!

Don't compare with others, so that you will live very easily, people's biggest enemy is yourself, I think you should have heard this sentence, so, it is not interesting to compare with others, only compare with yourself, you can always have a goal, don't measure yourself by other people's standards!

When you encounter unfair comments from others, let others talk about them as long as they don't hurt your personal dignity. After all, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, and no gold is enough! What others say is right for you to take seriously, and what you say is not right.

You just sing as him, don't take it to heart, there are so many boring people in this world, if you all worry about them, how can you have a good mood!

The most important thing is that no matter how busy you are at work, make time to do what you love to do, such as listening to music, doing sports, etc.

Hope you are happy every day! Good mood every day.

Happiness comes from your heart, give yourself a reason to be happy is very simple, first of all, you have to know that happiness or unhappiness is a day depends on how you choose, how to find a reason for your happiness, you need your understanding of life, contented people are happy, to find reasons for happiness, is to make excuses for unhappiness haha!

Take deep breaths, don't always share your joy with others, and learn to keep things in your heart. Don't be in a hurry to say the words, pass through the brain for 3 seconds before you say it.

After a lot of experience, I will naturally be calm.

First of all, you must learn to be calm, and secondly, you should not care too much about other people's opinions, and finally make your own decisions without being ashamed.