Dormitory those who are selfish and hypocritical

Minimize the chance of meeting: no one likes to deal with selfish people, one is hypocritical and boring, the other is too tired, how good it is to be fair, no need to be suspicious, no need to worry about who is behind your back, so unless it is really unavoidable, it is better to minimize contact with selfish people, and try to find another way to solve it with other methods, as the saying goes: I can't afford to provoke, I can't hide, let yourself be clean.

Maintain superficial peace: Of course, in the face of selfish people, you have to do a good job on the surface, and if you can't be a friend, you also hope that there will not be one more enemy, so maintaining superficial peace at least won't let the other party target you, otherwise with their selfish character, they will treat you as a thorn in their side, and there will be risks at any time.

The heart of defense is indispensable: in the face of selfish people, once there is a little bit of connection, don't care, after all, you already know what kind of person he is, with the mentality of defense against people, beware of him, don't trust him very much, otherwise they will be sold by selfish people and don't know, they have a sharp mouth that can turn white into black.

Establish your own personality: why you are bullied by others, why you are dominated by others, why others just like to gossip about you, because you have no personality, or that your personality is shy, too uncaring, too accommodating to others, too concerned about other people's feelings, so people think you are a bully, so you are a soft persimmon, so you have to have your own personality, everyone should have their own tenacious personality, the kind of personality that protects themselves, so that others feel that you are not good to bully casually, It's not easy for you to get angry, naturally, those selfish people don't dare to use you as a shield easily, take you as the bottom of them, use you as the object of jokes, and when you are the object of ridicule, a person's personality needs to be respected, which is responsible for himself.

If you have something to say face to face: when dealing with selfish people, don't go around in circles like eighteen bends on the mountain road, say it directly, or directly solve the things that need to be solved, figure it out face to face, don't delay, procrastinate and drag, how people say about you behind your back, how to solve it in another way, and whether those solutions are not conducive to you, these are incalculable, so it is best to have something to do with them face to face, and the words should be open and clear.

If you are dissatisfied, you have to say it out loud, and you can't accommodate it casually: we all have a mentality, that is, if you can not provoke others, it is best not to provoke, and others will not do anything to themselves, but this article obviously cannot be used on selfish people, because selfish people only care about their own interests, and he must hurt all those who hinder his interests, so he doesn't care whether you are innocent or not, so when these people hurt you and are not conducive to you, you must speak out loudly about your dissatisfaction, and declare your own interests, otherwise you will be silent, People think that you are not courageous, think that you are easy to bully, and over time, they will feel that you should tolerate them, and they will take it for granted that others are accommodating and embarrassed to them, so this kind of person can't be accommodated, in order not to be affected, or Chu Han is clear, never tolerate them, and make decisions for themselves in time.

If you can't change others, then you can only change yourself, grinding off your edges and corners, at least making yourself look sleek on the outside, but you may feel disgusting inside.

Ignoring him is of course one way, and if for some other reason you have to come into contact with him, then take it as normal or as hypocrisy.

In the university dormitory, it is more appropriate to keep the whole dormitory quiet after a student rests.

First, because as a large collective, who will respect others will achieve better results, and everyone will be more united and respect each other. Therefore, it is very important to learn to communicate with others more and respect others, and you must learn more from professional teachers and master the correct communication methods.

Second, there is the question of time.

If it's time to go to bed at night, such as 10 o'clock at night, one of the roommates has to go to bed at 10 o'clock, and the other roommates are night owls, usually until 12 o'clock or even early in the morning, in this case, the roommate who sleeps at 10 o'clock wants the other roommates to be quieter, I think it is also reasonable, even if it is not guaranteed to be completely quiet, but also to minimize the sound, I think this is a respect for each other, when you want to go to bed early, you can also exchange the other party's understanding and concession. There is also a lunch break at noon, sometimes after a morning class, after eating at noon, there may be roommates who want to sleep for a while, if you don't have anything special, you don't want to sleep, you can put on headphones and watch a drama or something, which is understandable.

Third, contingencies.

For example, there is a roommate who has a little cold in the past two days, and he always wants to sleep after drinking medicine, and then he may tell other roommates during the day if he can be quieter, I think everyone has compassion, and this kind of accident is also understandable, I saw that my roommate was sick and had no energy when I was in college, and it was really distressing, so I hoped that she could get better quickly.

I think the above two situations can be viewed normally and understandably.

Of course, college roommates are like smoking a blind box, you may encounter the situation that you ask the whole dormitory to be quiet when you sleep, and you don't respect others when you sleep, and you are very loud, there is actually no good solution to this situation, because generally this kind of person will not be useful, you can only choose to change the dormitory or move out if you have the conditions, or you can only hurt each other, or I hope everyone can meet normal roommates.

Fourth, many times, when several people live together, there will be those invisible inadvertent frictions that you don't even notice, but this question is like you asked, you obviously realize that you should be considerate of that roommate at this time, be quiet, and experience the right way, why do you want to let your indignant psychology be weird, feel conflicted or in a bad mood? I hope you can handle the friendship and classmate relationship well.

Obviously, the other person is very selfish and thorough, only taking into account his own feelings, and not considering the feelings of others. To deal with a selfish person is not to hate him, not to ignore him, but to gradually distance himself from him, from the bottom of his heart, and then pretend that he does not know anything. If he goes to someone else, then you will find that many people are far away from him.

There is never a person you can't live without, and what you can't do without now doesn't mean you can never be separated. There is nothing you can't give up, and the person you can't give up may give up on you first.

Except for parents, there is no one who does not ask for anything in return. Lovers are good to you on the premise of love and harmony, and friends are good to you on the premise of common interests and the elimination of loneliness. The others, not to mention ......

You don't care, you just be indifferent to her, she provokes you, just say what is in your heart, look at her, she wants to break off your friendship with you, just tell her that you will treat me like this, and then the birds are not birds, she often walks away with momentum.

Learn to empathize and appreciate her strengths.

In fact, you don't need to think so much about finding so many solutions to problems in others and yourself like the first floor, and when you come out of society in the future, you will meet more and more such people, and if everyone has to spend energy to please, it will be very tiring. If it's me, if you don't mess with me, forget it, if you mess with me, then I'm sorry, I won't let you have a good time, it's the first time to be a person, why should I let you.

This kind of person is more terrifying, and if you can't live in a space, you can communicate with the teacher in private and change the dormitory.

If you hate someone, don't expose her nasty side! In this way, she doesn't know how much she hates it, and she will continue to hate people, and then there will be more and more people who hate her, and naturally her circle of friends will disappear ......She won't be able to stand on her feet.

If the communication can't be solved, you can change the dormitory.

If you break out once, have a fight with her, otherwise you will be bullied.