Why do I always want everyone I meet to like me?

In life, each of us wants to be liked by everyone, not only to be recognized by others, but more importantly, to be confident in ourselves. I hope that the people I know like me, not only proves that I have good popularity, but more importantly, I will also have a lot of good friends, and I get along well with them, which is the most important thing.

I always want everyone I meet to like me, this is a very normal psychology, everyone will have it, no one wants the people they meet not to like themselves, so whenever you have this kind of thought, don't be distressed, let alone bothered, because this is a very common thing. Of course, if you have such an idea, of course you will work hard because you care about this idea, try to make yourself more liked, improve the habit of others hating you, or think about how to make others like you. That's the positive side of having such thoughts that can make you better.

However, there is also a negative side to the emergence of such thoughts. You will care too much about what others think of you, so you will care about what others think, causing you to lose yourself and live for the sake of other people's opinions, which will make you lose yourself and live completely for others, and you forget the most essential thing, you should not care about others, you don't have to live in order to cater to others, you are your own leader, don't forget your own self in order to make others like you.

Therefore, no matter what happens, you should consider both sides, and it is normal to hope that the people you know like you. But if you become not yourself at all in order to make others like you, then it is completely unnecessary, some people will like you, and some people will not like you, which is also normal.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with having such thoughts, which means that you are very self-motivated, and I hope everyone likes you. But this is not the case in real life, not everyone will like it, the same person, even if this person is very good, there will be people who don't like it, just like a star, he has fans who love him, of course, there will be black fans, no matter which star it is. Even if you are the leader of the country, there are people who support him and there are people who oppose him, so no one is perfect, don't force it, everyone likes you, as long as you do it yourself to your satisfaction.

First of all, we should be strict with ourselves in life and try to help others as much as possible. If we don't want to help others, we want to take advantage of the fisherman, and after a long time, you won't have any friends, and everyone won't like you. Secondly, I think you always want everyone you meet to like you, probably because you have a strong competitive spirit, you want to be the best, and you want to be recognized by everyone, but in fact, such people will be more tired to live.

So again, it's okay to live your self, as long as we do everything with a clear conscience, then naturally most people will like you, and a small number of people don't have to worry about them. We have to be self-motivated, but don't be competitive. The difference between the two is still very big, I hope you can understand it, ponder it well, and only when you understand it, can you live freely and happily.

To be honest, in real life, some people can be your friends, some people can't be your friends at all, we are not RMB, it is impossible for everyone to like it, so you can usually be yourself, don't think too much.

Who doesn't like everyone likes him?I'm no exception. This is a kind of yearning for perfection in human beings, which belongs to nature.

I think this is the problem of insecurity in my heart, and there are some problems in my heart, I always care about what others think of me, I will always be unhappy because of one or two sentences from others, I will think a lot, I don't do well, I don't do well, I don't want to make others dissatisfied, I always want to change myself through various things, so that everyone likes myself, I am actually like this.

In fact, this is everyone's heart, I don't want others to have this or that dissatisfaction with myself, I always want to let many people like myself, there will be a lot of friends, and the road in society will be very easy to walk in the future, one more friend and one more road, so it is normal to have this kind of heart, if there is such a person around, communicate with her more, she still needs a sense of security.

But let's solve another problem first.

Do you like yourself?Do you feel from the bottom of your heart that you are a person to be liked?

The most important reason why other people don't like you is often that they don't even look down on themselves.

You don't like yourself, so you try to like others. Because he feels inferior to some of his own qualities, he projects the emotions he likes onto another person, turning him into his idol, worshipping and liking him. At this time, you have unconsciously created a distance between the two of you, you define him as "worthy of liking" and yourself as "not worthy of liking", so why should he like you?

Then there's another question, where you say that the people you like "all" don't like you. How many people do you like? I don't know if you're talking about being in a relationship or making friends?

If it's in love, then aren't there too many people you like. I like someone, but there is no result, so I quickly give up and like another person. You haven't invested yourself well, how can you blame people for not liking you?

I may be harsh, but I want you to know that your problem is not with others, but with yourself. When you are able to solve the above two problems: like yourself and accept yourself; If you like others with sincerity and heart, I believe that you will become full of charm and make the person you like look at each other.

PS: When you complete your personal transformation, even if you meet someone who doesn't like you, you won't care. Because you have faith in yourself and are willing to find someone who can truly appreciate you. Come on.