Why can many trivial things defeat hard love?

Because trivial things are an integral part of everyone's life, we often enter married life because of love, and after we really get married and live together, we will find that no amount of romance before marriage is worth the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life. After all, love is one thing, marriage is another. Love can not consider the economy and family, but marriage cannot, married life should consider not only food, drink and Lazar, but also food, clothing, housing and transportation.

With love before marriage, you can drink a bottle of water, eat a steamed bun, and as long as you see that the other party is good to you and loves you, you can pay for each other unconditionally, ignoring all his shortcomings.

But as you enter into married life, the story of the two of you is not only the two protagonists, but also the supporting roles of the other party's parents, your parents, and the seven aunts and eight aunts, who play a positive or negative role in your life. The life of two people is no longer about you and me, just to please each other, but more about "what to eat in the morning", "what to eat at noon", "what to eat at night" and other life issues.

It's like you're going to make a pot of white rice, but there's a few grains of sand in the rice, and you either pick out the sand and cook a perfect pot of white rice with your heart, or you just can't see it, ignore those grains of sand, and let it be in your white rice. But you have to know that once it is mixed with a few grains of sand, this pot of rice is no longer the perfect white rice you imagined. So, love is like this pot of white rice, either you cook it with your heart, or you tolerate this sand (the trivialities of life) to ruin your white rice.

Therefore, it seems to me that love is not invincible, on the contrary, it is fragile. As long as a little problem in life may make you start to look at each other anew, examine yourself, make you doubt, make you doubt, make you puzzled, this is life, this is also love. Therefore, there may be such considerations behind the saying that "marriage is the grave of love".

Because married life is inseparable from a lot of trivial things in life, love is actually very fragile, and if the trivial matters are not handled well, it will also cause a breakup.

In many cases, if trivial things are not handled very well, it will be easy for two people to become separated, and the relationship will not be particularly strong.

Love is really afraid of trivial things attacking, no matter how good love is, as long as it is mixed with the trivial things of life, it will become vulnerable, love is beautiful, but the reality is also cruel.

Because the trivial things of life can make people anxious, in this case, two people will often quarrel, and then they will be able to defeat a very hard love.

Love is not only romantic, but also life's firewood, rice, oil, salt and all kinds of annoying trivial things, it is important to learn to live together.

Because daily trivialities are a big part of life, love can't match it.

Because every day is faced with firewood, rice, oil and salt, children, in-laws, the previous romance is long gone.

1. Women don't express their needs correctly.

In daily life, many women don't know how to express their needs to him, and women often think that if he loves me, he should understand me, but in fact, it's because of your idea.

In the relationship, learning to express your needs directly is actually a very important ability, and in many cases, your preparation to express your needs may also help you reduce a lot of unnecessary conflicts.

2. Silently sacrifice yourself for the sake of your family and children.

Women rarely have self-space, and most of them pin their time, energy, concerns, emotions, expectations, and hopes in life on their children and even husbands, so their lives can be summed up as maid-style life care and queen-style emotional requirements.

After a long time of family sacrifice, women often have more emotions, and only women can know the trivialities of family life, once their family emotions are not accepted, they will have more negative emotions in their hearts.

3. Daily emotional instability.

Women should clearly know that love is not the same as marriage, but many women often live their married life into love after marriage, and after marriage is not better than love, it may be a little sweeter and more romantic when in love, but after marriage, you need to face a lot of trivial life, so your emotions will inevitably collapse occasionally.

Love is beautiful, but if you use it to live, you will be defeated by daily firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Because we tend to underestimate the time and overestimate our firmness in love.

The time together is all occupied by trivial things, and there is no interest.

In love, the two should tolerate each other, rather than competing for one over trivial matters.

Because the original good feeling was gradually broken by firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Because life is so much reality, so cruel, no matter how beautiful love is, it will lose to the trivialities of life.

It's easy to fall in love and hard to get along with, because there are different attitudes towards the trivialities of life, and those trivial complaints accumulate and will separate the couple.

I think the reason why love will lose to daily trivialities is because this love is not strong, and he has not experienced the tests that love should have.

Because of love, you have to experience daily trivialities, and most couples break up because of incompatible personalities and some trivial things in daily life.

Because the love in people's imagination is beautiful, the idealized daily trivialities are the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life. There are a lot of worries.

Because love always can't stand the wear and tear of time, after a long time, the daily trivialities will become more and more light.

Because feelings can't stand the wear, everything in daily life is easy to disagree, and feelings are consumed all the time, and love fades after a long time.

Because two people show each other's best state when they first get along, but after a long time together, many daily things will have some conflicts, so they will slowly fade their feelings.

Daily trivialities will wear out the patience of both parties, and beautiful things have to go through some quarrels, but if both parties are too idealistic, they will not work.

After a long time, love is lacking, and if you repeat the same thing or similar things every day, sometimes you will feel that the other party is very annoying.

This is a very normal thing, after two people get married, or after they are together, they will always encounter some trivial things in their daily lives.

Because of the daily trivialities, if piled up together, it will become a huge bump, and then become a high mountain between two people.

Because the nature of love is discontinuous moments, all love, to some extent, is intermittent. In some moments, we love each other far more than in others. Sometimes love is not felt (but love is still present in faith), and even the most loving couples can feel disgust and hatred in rare moments.

Love will slowly fade or even disappear over time, etc. Because of this, it is often said, "It's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to get along."

Details can achieve love, can also crush love, after a long time will naturally produce contradictions, only to care for the details, in order to make daily trivial matters become the "lubricant" of emotional life.

When it comes to love, we often think of it as an exaggeration. In fact, just because the feeling of love happens at a certain moment, it also means that it can be worn out at a small moment. For the other half who loved them deeply from the beginning, the most likely thing that led to their breakup was not the big problem, but the trivialities of life.

Many couples can support each other in times of difficulty, but can no longer maintain a relationship when things are calm. In the later stage, how the two sides handle the relationship in detail determines the satisfaction of both parties.

It is undoubtedly a cliché that husbands and wives should communicate more with each other. But proper communication does do a good job of sustaining a relationship. Once, I often talked directly with my boyfriend, trying to point out the other person's shortcomings and how to be good at myself.

Clearly articulating the different details that you and others care about is an important step in breaking the "triviality curse". And pointing out the other party's shortcomings is a good way to vent emotions, which has accumulated in the heart for a long time, and once it breaks out, it will be out of control. Receiving satisfactory information from the other party can also form a good emotional feedback.

When innocent love encounters the trivial blows of life, how to resist the washing of time, the triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, the aging of the face, the change of mentality, and tightly hold the person around you, and grow old, is really a profound knowledge. Knowing oneself and knowing oneself, invincible. I wish you all the best to fight this battle when you come prepared, and fulfill the dream of "a lifetime".

Because our yearning and imagination for love are often very beautiful, but in the relationship, many daily trivial things appear. It's not like we fantasize that it's easy to fall in love and hard to get along.

Because daily trivial things can consume love, people can no longer feel the romance in love, which is particularly painful.

Because love is a feeling of emotion, and daily trivialities are very real life, it is naturally difficult to have them at the same time.

Because love is very romantic, it can make people full of fantasies, but everyday trivialities will shatter these fantasies.

Because the trivial things of daily life are the business of two people, but there is always one party who will think that it is the business of one person. So it will cause quarrels.

Because love needs to be managed together, not that love can be managed well, in love we also need to have a lot of tolerance and a lot of patience to face all the trivialities of both parties in the future.

When two people are in love, they will present their best side to each other, and they will deliberately beautify themselves, and the trivial things in life are actually the best way to see through a person's true face.

Because it is actually easier for two people to fall in love, but when two people fall in love, after the baptism of time, then two people will also have certain differences in daily life, and the difference in living habits also brings bad feelings to each other.

Because firewood, rice, oil and salt will be particularly cumbersome in daily life, and it is easy to cause quarrels, it is particularly difficult to get along.

Because living is firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, these are the little things in life, and small things are easy to contradict and cause quarrels.

Falling in love is actually very simple, but if you get along, the shortcomings of the other party will be exposed in the daily trivialities, and quarrels will arise.

Love will lose to daily trivialities, in fact, the main reason is that there are many pains and hardships in life, and if you often live in trivialities, you will feel that life is too hard, so love is gone.

That's because after being together for a long time, you will get to know each other thoroughly, and then you will get bored.

This is because love is worn out by the firewood, rice, oil, and salt in life. That's why love loses its original appearance and becomes a way where they don't know each other.

Because love is worn out by the parents in life and firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the loss of the original love becomes very terrifying.

Because the man's understanding of love is problematic, he does not realize that love is not how much you give in return.

Yes, you can learn proper communication there, and you can turn distance into a kind of motivation. Therefore, communication is not only an art, but also a science.

I'm also in a long-distance relationship, and I broke up today, so tired.

Because love is a great love, it is the willingness of both parties to sacrifice some of their time and self-habits to love each other. When you encounter a good love, you are willing to sacrifice yourself and achieve another person.

Love is warm, so it can make people become good wives and mothers. Such people are very good and can be treated very well.

Because he was pampered. Because Yao Chen was favored by her husband and taken care of meticulously, Yao Chen, who was sweet in love, became a good wife and mother.

Because in love, some people will be willing to give and change themselves.

In life, if a woman pretends to be you in her heart and has feelings for you, she will often regard you as extremely important, and she will keep your things in mind and bring some surprises to your life, such as you casually say what you want to eat, but she remembers it, she will cook herself and cook some delicious dishes you love to eat.

If a man does not know how to cherish and take a woman's goodness for granted, it will often make women feel cold, and no matter how much a woman loves this man, she will be "broken" by this man, and finally she will no longer have hope for this man, so she will consciously leave this man.

If you don't want to see such a result, when you meet such a woman, you must learn to cherish it, in fact, the woman who really cares about you will attach so much importance to you, don't know how to cherish it.

1.Remember your things and won't let you down.

On the contrary, if a woman has a deep affection for you and values the affection between you in her bones, she will keep your affairs in mind, and she will remember what you have said and done, no matter how long it has passed.

If you tell a woman that you want to go to a place to play, want to achieve a certain wish, the woman will take your words to heart, she will take time to accompany you to some places you want to go, help you realize your wishes, women can treat you so gently, always bring you some surprises and touches, which shows that she really values you in her heart, don't be stupid and don't understand.

2.It will give you face and maintain it in front of outsiders.

For example, in front of outsiders, women will often say that you have done good things, elevate your position, help you speak, appear to respect you very much, and when you invite her to do something, she will be very cooperative with you.

3.Will take your business as your own.

When a woman is in a relationship with you, if she sees you outside, she will attach great importance to your affairs, and when you encounter problems, she will take your affairs as her own business, and will try to help you, and will not let you face the dilemma alone.

If you encounter financial difficulties and need to repay a large number of debts, at this time, there are many people around you who do not trust you and are not willing to lend you a helping hand, and some will even say cool things, however, at this time, the woman appears in front of you, takes out her savings, and goes all out to help you, because she believes in you and feels that you can overcome the difficulties, and you are only worth looking forward to.

The reason why a woman attaches so much importance to you is because she has true feelings for you, feels that you are reliable from the bottom of her heart, and wants to have further development with you, so she is willing to help unconditionally.