We got married in a flash, should we get divorced? 50

Let it be, as the saying goes, persuade and not discourage, but don't wronged yourself, your own marriage is your own decision, and your life is your own. It's not for others to see, the biggest drawback of your flash marriage is that the two parties don't know each other well enough, you should communicate well first, maybe it can help you solve some problems.

4 years, the relationship is still there, the divorce is goodbye, I am giving him a chance!

Actually, you have to know where you are in the house, what his position is (and you have to do it well), you don't have to acquiesce, he earns more than you, you have to listen to him.

The man is yours, and he loves you, and he should still be able to listen to it.

You must not have any burden in your heart, so that you will not be able to afford life in the future, 2 people have a good life.

Little sister, I heard you say that you got married after free love, and it is normal for two people to live together and inevitably bump into each other, but the fact is that a man's temper is very different, and he is nameless and angry, until frequent quarrels develop to the point of beating you, then it is not normal. , the second is that if there is no fate, then it is good to get together and disperse, the two sit down to talk, and the lover is not in the friend.

You don't have to listen to him, there's no need to live like a slave, what does this have to do with income, you can tell your husband directly, you don't feel good about it.

It's been 4 years of marriage, and you're still arguing, how much affection do you have? Feelings are not dominated by who has more money, or what do you want your wife to do? You can't just get it with money.

You should know whether it is more fun or more pain after being together for so long, parents are worried because their children are not happy enough, do you think you are happy? You can only refer to other people's opinions, whether to give up and start a new life or continue to spend time in quarrels is the key to your heart!

You have to think about whether you are suitable for being together or not. Sometimes after flash marriage, they slowly cultivate a relationship together, and they will be very happy, and some of them are because of flash marriage, they don't know both parties, and they find that there are big differences after marriage, and it will be easy to have conflicts, you have been married for 4 years, do you think that in these 4 years, you have gained more happiness or more pain? If you feel that your daily life is hard and painful, then let it go, you should do what you love once in life.

I hope you think about it, and it's a good idea to ask friends and family to see how they feel about your relationship.

I think you should talk about it, otherwise there may be bigger problems in your relationship in the future.

If you talk about it, I don't think he will talk to you well, and he will even do it. You think about your happiness, so... If you are not happy, leave!

I think life should be happier, and barely it will be unhappy.

Calm down and talk about it, after all, you've been married for 4 years.

Now that it's all like this, let's leave.

Flash marriage is a more common phenomenon of social travel, for flash marriage couples, the probability of divorce is also relatively high, many times when they meet, love at first sight, each other does not know each other enough, it is easy to cause a lot of quarrels and discord after a long time, so it is easy to divorce.

Under normal circumstances, it is ideal to get married within three years of falling in love! After three years of getting along with each other, they can fully understand each other, not only in terms of temperament, but also in terms of the concept of three collapses and the life philosophy given by the original family! Being fully aware is the cornerstone of the stability of most marriages.

There are many young people who lack enough understanding of each other, and often make a hasty decision to marry two people after knowing each other for less than a year, or even less than half a year, which is what we often call flash marriage, however, this flash marriage is likely to have some problems in later life, and may even lead to the final breakdown of the relationship between two people.

First of all, a marriage, whether a relationship can last for a long time, depends on the couple, whether the two people can be highly compatible in the three views, and for couples who have not been together for a long time, for two people, it is difficult for each other to have a real understanding of their three views, if only by virtue of the surface understanding of each other and a momentary impulse, choose two people to marry together, then after the two people get married, they find that there are too many differences and difficult to adapt to each other. will feel that this marriage does not bring you real happiness, but a kind of torment, which is likely to cause a rift in the relationship between two people, and even very likely to lead to the final breakdown of the marriage between two people.

So I personally think that for two couples, from the moment they just realized that they decided to get married, two people should get along for at least 2 to 3 years, as the so-called road knows the horsepower, and sees the hearts of the people for a long time, only two people can understand each other for a long enough time, and can finally determine whether each other can achieve general agreement and agreement in terms of three views, so as to slowly run in the feelings between the two people during this time, and see if the two people can really make each other feel comfortable, especially after such a long timeAfter all, no one is perfect, and anyone will have their own shortcomings and shortcomings, and only if they can truly tolerate each other and accept each other, it is one of the important conditions for two people to live for a long time after marriage.

Before the flash marriage, both parties were attracted by each other's appearance, money, and family background, and blindly invested in a marriage. After the flash marriage, I found that the values of the two people did not match, and the other party felt incredible about the things that I took for granted, and when the hormones in love began to disappear and the two parties showed their original appearance, the next thing was to flash away.

Two people who get along day and night will always encounter some problems that test their values: attitude towards money, attitude towards children's education, attitude towards quality of life, attitude towards work, and so on. Every point will seriously torture the hearts of two people, and couples and couples who do not agree on these values are likely to have constant conflicts because of various trivial things, and finally go to the end of breakup and divorce.

Love is also essentially a kind of communication, and the best communication is evenly matched. When both parties are at the same or similar level, they have the same topic and meaning range, and the pleasure of knowing oneself will also arise spontaneously. At the same time, the exchange and sharing of resources can also be carried out in an orderly manner, no one only asks for nothing, and no one only gives without taking, and the resources provided by each other also have the ability to use them for their own use, and this healthy mechanism and environment is also very beneficial to the continuation and development of the relationship.

When it comes to dating, only people who have nothing to do feel lonely, and friends are casual encounters in areas of similar interests, rather than casual acquaintances in order to highlight their popularity. I've never made friendship cheap in order to solve the problem of loneliness. The circle is different, and it doesn't have to be strong, which has always been a value that I believe in.

Everyone is busy, and no one will notice you at all when you're not strong enough. In the final analysis, if you have a hard foundation, there will be no so-called "stitching" and "flattering". The sense of existence is never given by others, only if you are too weak, you don't have enough weight to exist in the world.

A person who agrees with a certain idea must also benefit from that idea. The concept is different, there is no need to fight, the process of respecting others is the process of their own strength, only people who are weak in heart need others to identify with themselves in everything, and those who are mature and strong in their hearts will never force others to agree with him. The stronger a person is, the more tolerant he is of various ideas, and his strength is precisely because he absorbs the essence of various concepts, and finally condenses them into his own unique concepts.

When the husband and wife are mentally out of sync, when they quarrel for the nth time about whether the toothpaste is squeezed from the bottom up or from the head, what they care about is not how to squeeze the toothpaste, but the different life attitudes and spiritual qualities reflected behind the simple action, which is the dissonance of deep communication.

Whether you are young or old, you must maintain sustainable growth in your marriage. People say that if you fall behind, you will be beaten, and in marriage, it is easy to be kicked if you are backward.

Yu Anan said frankly, "It's because the accident happened too soon", anyway, it's not interesting to drag it out, because everyone still has a long life to live, and she feels like an "obsession" about experiencing a flash marriage and divorce within 9 months.

After Chow Yun-fat and Yu An'an's "first marriage" ended in a flash marriage, Chow Yun-fat met the second "lotus sister" in his life - Chen Huilian, and the long-term relationship between the two allowed Chow Yun-fat to find his true home.

After experiencing a failed marriage, when Chow Yun-fat was dating Chen Huilian, he bluntly said, "You have to remember, I won't marry you", so Sister-in-law never thought of marrying Fa Ge, loving someone is unconditional, and you don't have to think about it so much.

In 1986, Fa Ge went to New York to shoot "Autumn Fairy Tale", and his sister-in-law accompanied him as his girlfriend. At that time, Fa Ge filmed all night and finished work at 7 o'clock in the morning, and suddenly proposed to his sister-in-law, "We might as well get married".

Hello, there are many young people who lack enough understanding of each other, and often make a hasty decision to marry two people after knowing each other for less than a year, or even less than half a year, which is what we often call flash marriage, however, this kind of flash marriage is likely to have some problems in later life, and may even lead to the eventual breakdown of the relationship between two people. First of all, after the completion of a marriage, whether a relationship can last for a long time, depends on the couple, whether the two people can be highly compatible in terms of three views, and for couples who have not been together for a long time, for two people, it is difficult for each other to have a real understanding of their three views, if only by virtue of the surface understanding of each other and a momentary impulse, choose two people to marry together, then after the two people get married, they find that there are too many differences and difficult to adapt to each other. will feel that this marriage does not bring you real happiness, but a kind of torment, which is likely to cause a rift in the relationship between two people, and even very likely to lead to the final breakdown of the marriage between two people. So I personally think that for two couples, from the moment they just realized that they decided to get married, two people should get along for at least 2 to 3 years, as the so-called road knows the horsepower, and sees the hearts of the people for a long time, only two people can understand each other for a long enough time, and can finally determine whether each other can achieve general agreement and agreement in terms of three views, so as to slowly run in the feelings between the two people during this time, and see if the two people can really make each other feel comfortable, especially after such a long timeAfter all, no one is perfect, and anyone will have their own shortcomings and shortcomings, and only if they can truly tolerate each other and accept each other, it is one of the important conditions for two people to live for a long time after marriage.

Good luck.

Corresponding to flash marriage, there is also a so-called flash divorce, that is, the marriage starts very quickly and ends very quickly, and there is no shortage of such examples around. Next, I sorted out the possible problems of flash marriage in three grinding branches, and I hope that friends who are considering flash marriage can choose carefully, and consider that marriage is a lifelong thing, and cannot cause tragedy because of impulsiveness and blindness.

1.The two have known each other for a short time, and it is easy not to understand the authenticity of the other party, so they don't know how to deal with it when the two have run-in and deviations. When two strangers first get to know each other, they will definitely want to leave the best impression on each other, so in the limited contact time, it is easy to disguise themselves as the best person to show each other, and it is easy to compromise themselves in order to cater to others.

There is a saying that people see people's hearts for a long time, so most relationships are generally very beautiful and sweet before three months, everything seems to be the happiest person in the world, but the fact is that each other comes from different family environments, from different experience factors, different personality ideas and thinking, etc., it is destined that there are no two people who are born together, and any relationship that can go to the long term needs to go through the process of running-in and adjustment. What is even more worthy of Chang Youshen's attention is that when you are not more aware of the other party's shortcomings or what you may not be able to bear, once it is exposed in the marriage, the price of your run-in will be very large, and it is easy to feel the happiness and security that marriage should bring.

In particular, I need to remind that some people who are accustomed to domestic violence are easy to expose the nature of domestic violence after flash marriage, and when they fall in love with you, of course, they try their best to please you, let you enjoy and immerse you, but once you encounter something that does not go your way in marriage, since there has been a first time in domestic violence, there will be countless times, which is the most important thing to be careful about.

2.Flash marriage may bring about the fact that the two have no emotional foundation and do not have much accumulation and precipitation of trust, so when there are problems and conflicts between the two, it is easy to be patient and impatient to face and deal with them, so that the frequency of conflicts will be higher, and the possibility of divorce will be higher.