Why don t you dare to look into other people s eyes when you get along with people?

You feel that looking directly will make people see in your eyes what you don't want to express, tell yourself that I am the leader of the communication, and force yourself to look into the eyes of the other person when talking, maybe you will slowly get used to it.

In fact, people dare not look into the eyes of others, deep in their hearts they are inferior, they are afraid, they are afraid that others will look at themselves, in other words, they care a lot about what others think of themselves. Externally, he feels that the other party is stronger than him, and in his heart he thinks that his status is lower than that of the other party.

It may be the aura of the other party, or it may be your habit, being shy and inferior, afraid that others will see your eyes and see through your heart, it is also possible, in fact, it doesn't matter.

It may be that you are not used to it, or you may have a little inferiority, you can try to get along with some cheerful and lively friends, and it will always get better. And if you look into other people's eyes and speak, it will make them feel that you are sincere and trustworthy.

Is it because I resist communicating with others, I was afraid to talk to others, let alone look them in the eyes. Later, I met some friends, who have been with me to enlighten me, and gradually became optimistic, because now the friends around me have not brought you the idea of talking.

It's because I don't like to look at my eyes, and if people keep talking about it, thinking that you won't listen, you might be unhappy! So, if I hit a noteworthy point, I'll interrupt a little bit: "Wait, you just mentioned ......My understanding is not ......Can you elaborate on that?

In this way, others will think, "He is thinking seriously when he doesn't look at his eyes!" ”

Maybe you have some inferiority, at least you don't have the confidence. But looking at the eyes is really nothing, because I don't like to look into other people's eyes, and I think it's actually quite fake to look at them. But I'm a good communicator.

I thought that the point of communication was "timely feedback", not looking at the eyes. There are many ways to give timely feedback without looking at your eyes.

Lack of communication with people, you can consciously or unintentionally exercise in this area, it is recommended to do sales, very exercise this ability, you can also look at books on communication with people, I used to have the same problem as you.

Be able to understand your pain, and according to the situation you described, you are already a neurotic fear of eye seeking.

From your description, you can see that you are an introverted and thoughtful person, and you are also a person who is very demanding of yourself, and always wants to show your perfect and excellent side in front of others. Therefore, if you can't meet your requirements, you will blame yourself and regret it, so you don't dare to look at each other's eyes, but you want to know what others think of you, so you go to see, but you are afraid of being discovered, and you don't let yourself look. So now you're miserable.

It is recommended that when we meet outsiders, we accept that we have a stressful experience, do not control, do not analyze, do not pay attention, accept and allow ourselves to be nervous. Then do what you need to do your normal job with this tension, and gradually you will find that you accept that your symptoms appear, and your symptoms disappear.

But in the beginning, it will be painful, but persevere, accept it and go to work with such symptoms. As long as you persevere, the faster the symptoms will go away.

I wish you a speedy way out of the hardships of compulsion!

Generally speaking, when communicating with someone, look at the other person's nose, so that the other person will feel that you are paying attention to him, and will not be psychologically stressed by the eye contact, and will not appear insincere.

Not confident enough! Looking into other people's eyes is also a kind of respect for others! Give it a try! Hope.

Hemp back to the line, thank you!

Maybe a little inferior and autistic, maybe a little shy.

This is a manifestation of your introverted psychology, to change this psychology, you have to go in and out of crowded places frequently, and the more people you have, this phenomenon will gradually change.

Do you always have an inexplicable panic in your heart when you talk to others and look into their eyes? The eyes are the windows of the soul, your situation may be that you often take the initiative to look at others, so when you look at others, you feel uncomfortable to break the bridge, it does not mean that you have low self-esteem, if you want to change, you can try to look at the friends around you, and slowly get used to this feeling

Don't be afraid, many people are like this (and maybe your teachers and friends), people look at you, not at your eyes, if you look back at their eyes, the other party will definitely divert their gaze, this is a human habit (normal), a long time of staring, but it will be very unnatural. Only lovers who are in love, or interrogations that want to blow the confidence of their opponents, will have long stares. Is it polite to talk to people and look at **?

Look at the other person's eyebrows or forehead. You try it.

Not confident .........I used to be like this, and now I dare