What to do if the parents are eccentric 20, what to do if the parents are eccentric

Updated on parenting 2024-04-19
24 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Dear to me, filial piety is so difficult; Hate me, filial piety; "First of all, I am sure that you are a filial son, you have to do your best, and you can do your best to be filial, I think it's okay. Don't hold grudges, let's take a look at the story of 24 filial piety first.

    The father of Shun, one of the Three Emperors and Five Emperors, was a foolish man, and people called him gusou, which means blind old man. Shun's biological mother died early, and her stepmother was very bad. The younger brother born to his stepmother was named Xiang, and he was so arrogant that he couldn't say it, but he doted on him very much.

    The father, stepmother, and elephant team framed and wanted to kill him many times, but Shun designed to avoid it. And as always, he honors his parents and actively establishes friendship with the same image. Shun lives in such a family and treats his parents and younger brother very well.

    All, everyone thinks that Shun is a virtuous person. Emperor Yao married his two daughters, Empress E and Nuying, to Shun, and also built a granary for Shun and gave him a lot of cattle and sheep. When the stepmother and younger brother saw it, they were envious and jealous, and they used tricks together with Su Suo, and tried to assassinate Shun several times.

    Once, he asked Shun to repair the roof of the granary. When Shun climbed to the top of the warehouse with a ladder, Su Su put ** below, trying to burn Shun to death. Shun saw ** on the top of the warehouse and wanted to find a ladder, but the ladder was gone.

    Fortunately, Shun carried two hats to protect him from the sun. He took the hat in both hands and jumped down like a bird spreading its wings. The hat fluttered in the wind, and Shun landed lightly on the ground, not hurt at all.

    The Elephant was not reconciled, and they told Shun to go to the well. After Shun jumped down the well, the Seeu and the elephant threw pieces of earth and rocks on the ground, filled the well, and tried to bury Shun alive in it. Unexpectedly, after Shun went down the well, he dug a hole by the well, drilled it out, and went home safely.

    He didn't know that Shun had already escaped, so he returned home triumphantly and said to Su Suo"This time, my brother is dying, and I came up with this clever plan. Now we can divide my brother's property.

    After speaking, he walked towards the house where Shun lived. Who knows, as soon as he entered the room, Shun was sitting on the edge of the bed playing the piano. Xiang was secretly surprised in his heart, and said embarrassedly:

    Oh, how I miss you! "Shun also pretended to be nothing, and said:"You're just in time, I have a lot of things to do, and I need you to help me take care of it.

    In the future, Shun still treated his parents and younger brother as kindly as in the past, and he didn't dare to assassinate Shun anymore.

    I hope it inspires you, you can handle all this tactfully, I believe in you!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Family, be calm! You just don't pay too much attention to them!! After a long time, they won't complain about you like that!! The Cold War is the best way to fight.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Calm... It's good to have a clear conscience... Time will change a lot ...

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You're rich and make them jealous? Or were you unreasonable when you were younger? Huddle against you?

    Several cases,1 Hate because of jealousy. 2 Because you have said too much that you ought not to say. 3Because you are poor, let them feel that you are going to take advantage.

    4 It's that you feel good, but you just feel about yourself. 5 do less and say more (give 100 yuan to parents, and the result is to talk to 100 people 200 times). In short, it won't be for no reason.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    There are no wrong parents, only unfilial children, we must learn to give, don't always ask, just have a clear conscience, don't care what others say

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Be relaxed, as long as you do it and don't regret it in the future.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Hello dear, I am inquiring about the relevant information for you, please be patient, I will reply to you within six minutes, don't worry.

    It is recommended to do the following:1Don't care too much about what your parents do, especially when they are biased, you can choose to ignore it...

    2.When you really can't ignore their eccentricity, try to avoid being in the same place with them...3.

    In daily life, try to avoid conflicts with them and let yourself not be influenced by them4.Adjust your mindset and take it when you hear them say something nasty"The left ear goes in, and the right ear goes out"method, don't go to the heart...

    5.Then try not to fight for anything, just give something and then it's okay, because they are already partial, no matter how much you say, it's useless, it will only increase their harm to you...6.

    Treat your parents as you should support them, because this is the obligation of a daughter.

    If this answer is helpful to you, you can end the consultation and please click on the evaluation of five little stars Thank you very much! If you have any questions, you can leave a message or consult again, and I will do my best to help you

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If your parents' partiality is too serious and you have reached the point where you can't bear it, you can find an opportunity to talk to your parents, tell them how sad you are, and let them realize that what they are doing is inappropriate and will pay attention to it in the future.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Try to talk to your parents about your true inner feelings, sometimes it may be our own thoughts that trap us, maybe sometimes our parents are not what we think, everyone expresses emotions in different ways, so only to communicate with your heart, try to tell each other the truest feelings in your heart, you may untie some knots in your heart. I believe that my sister also loves my sister. Come on.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    If you have been treated favoritly by your parents for a long time, you may be submissive over time, and you dare not tell your parents about these grievances, as your parents may not be aware of it, so you have to communicate with your parents more and tell them not to be too partial, they are all their children, and they should do things evenly.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Parents are eccentric, what should I do? I think if your parents are eccentric, you can talk to your parents about mini hearts, what do you think, if she is eccentric, you can tell him, he's ** eccentric? Later, if your parents don't listen, you tell him that if you are so partial, you won't provide for them in the future.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Parental partiality is actually the most hurtful child's heart, especially the one who is not paid attention to is even more sad, this situation can only make themselves stronger and make parents look at it differently.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If you find that your parents are very biased, you must communicate this bad idea with your parents well, and then let him know that his behavior is incorrect, so that parents can correct it faster.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Parental partiality, which is often encountered in many families with many children, in this case, it is still necessary to communicate with parents to a certain extent, so that they are aware of the harm caused by such behavior to their children, and to a certain extent to avoid.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You can talk to your parents directly and ask them why they are doing something wrong.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    As a parent, it is natural to love their children, but there will be some selfishness and partiality, and one or two of them who love many children more are also human nature, in fact, they don't have to mind, go with the flow, do well, and become strong.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    As parents, some will be very eccentric, and there is no way to meet eccentric parents, you can try your best to fight for it, because parents love their children for sure.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It's best to talk to your parents about this kind of problem, tell them what you think, and see how they will understand.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    This matter is difficult to complete, you can admit it!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    First of all, this concept is a subtle inner hurt for children who are elders. Maybe your parents are casually saying that you have to let your younger siblings because they are younger than you. But this sends a negative message to the elder child – that the parents favor younger siblings, and I am not watching.

    The psychological damage this causes to children is enormous. Children who grow up in this environment will invisibly increase the estrangement from their parents, and children will think that their parents do not care about them. This can create more insecurities for the child.

    Especially those children who are not good at communication are not concerned at school and do not feel the attention of their parents at home, which is a huge psychological trauma for children. Over time, the child's personality is different, but the parents are not aware of it at all, so that in the end, tragedy occurs, and it is already too late. Some people may question that it is impossible for an elderly child to have such a scary outcome for his younger siblings.

    Indeed, because of this concept, there are indeed few tragedies, but that does not mean that there are none. In reality, there have indeed been tragic incidents of hurting younger siblings in order to compete for the attention of parents, and it is necessary to prevent it. In addition, there is no doubt that this concept will slowly become a psychological trauma for the child and will slowly accumulate into the child's negative emotions.

    Second, this kind of thinking can create a false perception for favored younger siblings that it is only natural for older siblings to let me help me. This also has the realistic "Fan Shengmei" incident. The girl died unexpectedly, and her parents claimed 410,000 yuan from her company to buy a house for her younger brother.

    The younger brother also gladly accepted it, and never understood his sister, who had never taken care of him, as if his sister was obliged to help him even if he died, because he was the youngest in the family. Think about how terrible this perception is. In the end, in the face of this perception, how to correct it is the key.

    This belief has a long history in China, and among most Chinese parents, it is so ingrained that it is difficult to change. However, that doesn't mean it can't be changed. Parents, schools, and society can work together to change this.

    Parents are the most critical link, because parents are the first teachers of children, and they are also the most important companions of children during their growth. If parents do not instill in their children who are elders from an early age the concept that "big must let the young", and do not instill in their younger siblings the concept that "older brothers and sisters will let you". It is to educate children, whether they are older brothers and sisters, or younger brothers and sisters, to help each other and be humble to each other, rather than blindly humble, and endless humility is called "doting".

    In this way, the child can grow up healthily in a harmonious family.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    1. Talk to the teacher: You can talk to the teacher and ask the teacher to help solve the conflicts in the family, so as to improve the family relationship.

    2. Communicate with friends: You can communicate with friends and ask friends to help you clarify your thoughts and improve your family relationship.

    3. Participate in more social activities: You can participate in some social activities to increase your social experience, so as to improve family relationships.

    4. Learn to analyze objectively: Learn to analyze objectively and find the root cause of family conflicts, so as to improve family relationships.

    5. Communicate more with family members: Communicate more with family members, respect each other, and establish a harmonious family atmosphere, so as to improve family relationships.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    What should I do if my parents are eccentric, and my children are the meat of my parents' hearts. This phrase is familiar, so parents usually favor children with less ability. If this is the case, then we should support and cooperate with this partiality within the scope of the bottom line, and the country should be prosperous and well-off, not to mention that brothers and sisters should support together.

    There are also a few parents who favor their sons. If parents use their own money to be biased, as long as it is not excessive, the daughter should understand, after all, it is difficult to completely change the patriarchal culture in the hearts of the elderly. Think less and work hard to create a better life on your own.

    You have to walk the road by yourself, and you can't rely on your parents for a lifetime. There are also very few who exploit daughters to subsidize their sons. In this case, when the bottom line is crossed, we must be brave enough to say no and resolutely say no.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Be yourself, after all, you are raised so big, and you will slowly understand.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Hello. I'm glad to serve you, your parents are biased, this is your parents' own problem, you really don't need to say anything chilling, you have your responsibilities, you have your future, your future does not lie in your parents' escort, but in what kind of road you create for you, I know you may complain in your heart, feel angry and wronged, but this is the test that life brings you, this is the truth that reality tells you. In addition, you can also take the initiative to talk to parents about the problem of eccentricity, so that parents are aware of the harm they have caused to their children, so that parents will more or less balance the scale, and will also make their hearts feel better, I hope to help you

    Is there only chicken soup for the soul, I have this on the Internet.

    Forget it, chicken soup for the soul can also send two more paragraphs, right?

    Hello, this is not chicken soup for the soul, the suggestion is written later, you can try to communicate with your parents about this problem, they may not have found this problem if you don't communicate, and everyone has a different opinion, it is recommended that you communicate it.

    You're talking so simply......

    In addition, you can choose not to live with your parents, your parents are too partial, and you must think about the children you like in everything, and if you still live together, you will only do this and that like a slave, and you have to be thankless. If you don't obey, you will speak ill of each other at least and beat and scold at worst. Therefore, it is better to live separately, out of sight, out of mind, and just take a look at it during the New Year's holidays.

    In addition, you also need to empathize, sometimes you can think about it differently, you can look at this problem from the perspective of parents, maybe you don't think your parents are too biased, maybe if you are a parent, maybe you can't reach that level of fairness. Thank you.

    All the efforts have been done, but they can't see it at all, every day they are smiling and pretending to be strong, the pain is always endured alone, please think about how I feel now, don't say cool words, I chose to consult and didn't hold the hope that it can solve any problems, at least please don't add fuel to the fire, I just want to relieve my painful emotions.

    Hello, I'm sorry, it's true that parental partiality is a very painful thing, many people, including myself, have experienced it, and the way I choose is to stay with them as little as possible and be independent outside, so I understand your feelings.

    There is a saying that it is difficult to change the concept of parents, and only when you slowly become stronger and have your own world can you be less harmed.

    In the pain and suffering we know the solution, there are not a few such children in the world, how many are successful, children are fragile after all, not everyone has a clear mind, I want to ask the teacher, how do we drive ourselves to become stronger? And how to increase your chances of winning?

    Hello, life is difficult, so we can not start with difficulties, but should let go of difficulties to grow, life is short, we need to work hard to fight what we want, to prove ourselves, learn more, improve more

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