Is it true that marriage is a matter of being a good person?

I feel that more traditional places may consider the right things, but like Xinjiang, I think there are still very few. Generally, the conditions of the man's family will be better, and then the conditions of the woman's family may be slightly worse. I feel like everyone around me is getting married.

Everyone is actually not going to be the right person, as long as the relationship between the two people is good and they can be together for a long time, it will be fine.

Like my brother got married the year before last, he didn't take it as a door. My aunt's family is very rich, the family has several houses, a few storefronts, and an Internet café, although my aunt does not work, but my uncle and my brother are civil servants, and they eat the food of the state. And the conditions of my sister-in-law's family are actually not good, from the house where the family lives, they are all very old, and then I heard that her father has retired, and her mother has no job, she works in the insurance company!

Everyone looks at such two conditions, is it a good match? Obviously it's impossible, according to my aunt's request, it's impossible to get married, if it weren't for my brother's insistence on **, maybe the two of them wouldn't be together! <>

In fact, I think that the right person is a traditional person's thinking, if two people really want to be together, then they will abandon this condition. And I think this word is a kind of limitation, that is, with its existence, many people may not be together! And we are now in a new era, the wealth accumulated by those grandparents and fathers is theirs, and it is unknown whether it can be passed down or not, and we can't measure a relationship with the money earned by others, which is unfair.

So I think that when I get married now, I don't pay much attention to the family.

It is very important to say that the marriage is still very important, because the level is different, the way of life is very different, and the cultural accomplishment is not the same, so there will be many difficulties together, especially if the city and the countryside get married, although the relationship between the two young people is very good, but the old people on both sides just can't say together, the urban people don't understand the rules and don't pay attention to hygiene, and the rural people don't know the rules and don't pay attention to hygiene, and the rural people who think the city are arrogant. For girls, this should be beyond reproach. With a boyfriend and a husband, who doesn't rely on him?

But girls, if you're just starting socializing, this dependence is a must for boys. But do you really know other boys? Especially men who are not single or married.

Many men want to have their own independent space and don't want to spend too much time with women, so if you are someone who is particularly dependent on your other half, it is easy to discord. This does not contradict the respective family economy. If you both have a more spiritual world, many topics or interests should be in the same world, with few contradictions or dissonances.

They don't find their thoughts incomprehensible and unbearable. Whether the shoes fit or not is still known with the courage to put them on. Everyone has their own circle, and if two people in this circle have the same personality, hobbies, qualities, cultivation, and education, then life will be relatively comfortable.

Otherwise, it will produce very contradictions and jokes. Marriage pays attention to "the right family", that is, when a man and a woman get married, the wealth and status of the two families must be equal, so that they can be happy.

In fact, this view is that it will make both parties to the marriage buy the foreshadowing in the future, why do I say this? Because if on that day, when the difference in wealth and status between the two families changes, the other party may show disdain and contempt for the other party, and once this attitude of "disdain" is formed, the stability of the marriage will be affected. When you decide to enter into a marriage, it is not only a matter of what kind of person you are going to choose to be your husband, but also what kind of lifestyle you will choose to spend the rest of your life if you plan to stay with him for a long time.

It is often said that falling in love may be a matter of two people, and two people can fall in love as long as they are electrocuted instantly; But marriage must not be a matter of two people, because marriage involves two huge families, and it also includes the crystallization of love that you will have together in the future. Some people say that now that marriage is free, the old tradition and old idea of feudal superstition are now outdated; Some people say, what I want is the person in front of me, talk to me about material, money, and status, it's too vulgar, there is love and water, and there is happiness if there is love.

Therefore, no matter from ancient times to the present, the door-to-door pair is a topic that is worth discussing for everyone.

The reason why everyone has been discussing this seemingly traditional and feudal topic until now is because it exists in marriage, an unavoidable factor that is worth discussing.

Especially now that more and more attention is paid to children, the family is getting closer and closer, and it is not like a long time ago, for the children who got married, everyone may think that they have completed the family independently, and they will mix a little less, and now both parties are very concerned about the next generation, and both parents are happy to be involved in the life of the young couple.

Many living habits, some living habits of parents on both sides, affect their children's consumption views.

It is said that falling in love is a matter of two people. Marriage is a matter of two families. In fact, it is indeed like this, once you get married and involve marriage and love issues, you will find that both parents are on the top, and what you think is a personal idea is actually the idea of their family.

If the disparity between the two is too great, there will inevitably be some conceptual conflicts. And now everyone is talking about a lot of things that refer to some academic qualifications.

Marriage should be done in a good way. Because marriage is a voluntary and legal union between the two parties for the purpose of permanent life, it is the sum total of the social relations of both parties. Modern marriage places greater emphasis on equal respect for both men and women and the harmony and happiness of conjugal life.

First, from the perspective of the relationship between husband and wife, paying attention to the family is conducive to the longevity and happiness of the marriage. From the perspective of economics, the union of a man and a woman based on a common material foundation obtains a relatively equal return in terms of economy, resources and feelings, and the marriage status is equal, which is easier to be psychologically satisfied and spiritually encouraged, which is conducive to the long-term stability and happiness of the marriage. The unequal status of husband and wife is not conducive to the long-term stability and happiness of marriage.

From a psychological point of view, the husband and wife are culturally close to each other, so that both parties have the same views on daily trivial matters, and the so-called "things gather in kind, people in groups" are more likely for the two people to have common communication topics, which is not only easy to communicate and reduce conflicts, but also shortens the run-in period of the two people's lives together, reduces the uncertainties in the marriage, and will also bring psychological pleasure and mutual attraction enhancement. For people with very different family backgrounds and growth environments, some trivial things in daily life can often reflect this background difference, which has become the most difficult psychological gap in the relationship between husband and wife. It also hinders the final acceptance and integration of both parties, and is not conducive to the long-term stability and happiness of the marriage.

Second, from the perspective of family relationships, marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families. As "The New Marriage Era" says, if you marry him, you are equal to marrying the sum of all his social relations, and if he marries you, it is equivalent to marrying everything about you, including your family. The two families are right, just like the window of your house is just matching my home, so that the two families are married, no one can look down on anyone, no one can climb whom, the life concept between the families is relatively similar, the way of dealing with family affairs is relatively similar, everyone has their own fun, reducing the possibility of family conflicts, and the husband and wife are happy because of the reduction of family conflicts, and the life is happy, and the natural family is conducive to the long-term stability and happiness of the marriage.