How can a Mandarin speaker fit into a dialect speaking family?

After a long time, I got used to it, a relative of mine is from Fujian, his wife is from the Northeast, and his wife can speak fluent Fujianese after a long time. Mandarin is spoken to facilitate communication, not to eliminate dialects, and it is possible to speak dialects at home or in a small area, and feel intimate. I think dialect is also a cultural feature of a place.

Over the years, I have been to places such as Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chengdu, Taizhou, Wuhan and other places. One impression is that no matter in the city or town, whether old or young, a considerable number of people do not speak Mandarin.

The dialect of the southerners is too serious, resulting in too much communication barrier for our people in the Northeast or other regions, their teachers are generally not standard Mandarin, and there is no school that specifically sets Mandarin as a class, so it is generally the local dialect, because at home, the local language atmosphere is the same, no one will speak Mandarin in particular, which makes the people around them feel uncomfortable, and it is impossible to speak. Over time, dialects have been formed. Especially the elderly, who don't know Mandarin at all.

My boyfriend's family speaks Hakka, and the range of languages I can understand is Mandarin, mostly Cantonese, and a small part of English, and the problem is that the old man in my boyfriend's family can't speak Mandarin ......Also forcibly chatted with me, I was often confused, and I also needed a translator, and then their family chatted with the United States, I felt so lonely, I took the mobile phone to chat with the little sister, and then I was complained by the male ticket, saying that I play with a mobile phone at a meal, please, if I can understand what your family says, I will play with the mobile phone.........Then I had to tell the truth that I don't understand your dialect, and he said that if you don't understand, don't play with your phone, I'll go, then I can only smirk when I go to their house.

Learning a dialect is a fun process, first you have to accept it, then you get to know it, and then you have to enjoy it. Knowing multiple dialects and knowing multiple foreign languages is actually a truth, hahahaha, this is a skill, friend! Every time I chatted with my sister in more than 10 dialects, the eyes of the people around me were full of surprise and admiration, which was very useful.

Because I have been speaking dialects since I was a child, in my hometown, many old people can't speak Mandarin, and children are affected, most of them speak dialects when they are young, and they will naturally speak Mandarin when they read. Of course, I still use the dialect of my hometown to communicate with my family, and I will also speak in my hometown dialect when I meet my fellow villagers in other places, because it is cordial! If you don't understand, use Mandarin!

Very annoyed and annoyed, living in my boyfriend's house but not knowing how to integrate into this family, I haven't said a few words to his family for so long, I usually don't talk much, I'm a very inferior person, because of my own family reasons let me have an impact, now I live at my boyfriend's house, except for downstairs to see and call them during dinner time, the rest of the time I basically stay on the 2nd floor by myself, this kind of day is really hard, I really have no topic, am I really helpless, or I have mental illness, You can choose your boyfriend and parents to sit down and watch it together while watching TV.

In my personal opinion, I don't require you to speak, at least you can listen, right? The other party speaks Hokkien, and you reply in Mandarin, which should be a relatively best solution. As for what you said about interrupting, what kind of trouble, it is just a reason for you to use it to persuade yourself to break up.

Learn! What's more difficult, is it more difficult than English? It is not easy to speak the Chinese dialect, and it is not too difficult to understand it, not to mention having a girlfriend as a 24-hour teacher. It is said that the best way to learn a language is to get married to someone who speaks it.

I am from Guizhou, there are too many people who speak dialects, sometimes I don't know that what I speak is dialect, and the words spoken in Guizhou are all dialects, or I am committed to promoting Guipu dialect, you are close to Beijing, and you should be influenced by Beijing.

In real life, there are many dialects that cannot be translated in Mandarin, and each local language has its own characteristics, but this does not affect the expression of the content and the way of communicating with real feelings.

Therefore, in the process of communication, we must pay attention to learning to be respectful and polite, so that communication will be smoother and more pleasant.

1.Be humble when communicating.

I'm right", this attitude will only lead to the deterioration of the communication relationship and make it impossible for communication to continue. When communicating, it is best to keep your profile as low as possible, that is, you should fully respect the opinions of the other party, and express your opinions and opinions appropriately and without being excessive.

Even if you think that your statement is not wrong or there is a problem with the other party's opinion, you should first listen to the other party's words, different people have different thoughts about missing this, and the ability to express and understand is also different.

2.Keep a calm mind when communicating.

It is important not to be emotional, because being emotional may make communication stuck halfway and unable to communicate, and even lead to abandonment and failure of communication. If you feel particularly irritable and restless in the process of communication because of your emotions, you will have to stop communicating and wait for a period of time to calm down before you can continue to communicate, which will actually make all parties in the communication unhappy.

3.When communicating, you should focus on the other party.

Unnecessary self-esteem and pride can only become a stumbling block to communication, so at the very least, you should abandon your so-called self-esteem when communicating. Don't say "My self-esteem won't allow me to ......In that case, it will only make communication impossible.

4.Be open and honest in your communication.

It is very important to be honest with each other in the process of communication, and there is no concealment, honesty is an important step for you to deepen your cooperative relationship through communication. First of all, you can make the other party believe in yourself through your own honesty, and then drive the other party to be honest with you, and then promote the smooth and happy communication of the beam.

5.Communicate clearly and clearly.

No matter what the problem is, why, how, what the reason is, etc., you must fully explain to the other party, even if there is no reason to act, you must inform the other party of your own considerations and ideas, and get the other party's understanding and support in action will be of good help to the development of communication and the development of the next situation.

Before I went to university, I really spoke a dialect, and I didn't speak Mandarin at all except for a little Mandarin when I read the texts in class.

But after I went to university, I found that everyone around me began to speak Mandarin, and if I didn't speak Mandarin, it seemed a bit different, although Mandarin was not good enough, but I still forced myself to speak.

In the process of speaking Mandarin, I really experienced the influence of the environment on a person, and I think that some dialect speakers want to learn Mandarin, and they can completely change their living environment. When all the people around you speak Mandarin, you will also slowly come into contact with Mandarin under their infection.

Maybe when you first say it, you will feel very awkward, there are many words that you can't say accurately, but it doesn't matter, don't be afraid of being ridiculed by others, only by bravely taking the first step, it is possible to synchronize with everyone in the future, otherwise you will always be a mute who can only speak in tongues.

If you want to learn Mandarin, you have to start with the most standard start. That is to say, say it every day, change your own words, why will it change after a long time, otherwise if you go to ** are all hometown dialects, how can others communicate. So it's not difficult to learn Mandarin, but as long as you take the time, it's fine.

If a person wants to learn Mandarin, or to learn a certain language well, the best thing is to start learning it from the time they learn to speak. Because at this time, it is like a blank space, which can be shaped at will. Say it every day, and after a long time, it will automatically become the standard.

Karl Marx once said, "If you want to learn a language well, you must first make it your mother tongue." ”

As long as you take enough time and stick to it a lot.

If you want to learn Mandarin systematically, you have to go to those places where Mandarin is spoken at this time to further study or study, because practice makes perfect, and you usually use Mandarin to communicate with others, and then you have to practice more, and you will be able to learn Mandarin slowly.

Speaking Mandarin more, just like learning English, use it more, your speaking ability will improve, and learning Mandarin is the same, try not to speak dialects, and if you can speak Mandarin, you can speak Mandarin when you can.

Listen more. In some local dialects, there is no distinction between nl and flat tongue, so when you encounter these words, slow down your speech.

In some places, the dialect accent is relatively strong, and even if you learn Mandarin, you will have a dialect with it. The best way to learn a language is to love to speak and communicate more with people who speak standard Mandarin, such as watching TV or movies, and learning what others say. The most important thing is to figure out the pronunciation of each word, the pronunciation is accurate, and the ordinary can be learned well.

If a dialect speaker wants to learn Mandarin well, the most important thing is to read more books, so that he can have a better experience in reading Mandarin, and secondly, he must read more tongue twisters, so that your pronunciation can be more standard.

People who speak dialects to practice Mandarin must first start practicing from the pronunciation of the letters, and now it is very convenient to learn these, and there are many people who teach these on the Internet, listen and read them every day, so that the practice is also good, and you can read books that practice Mandarin, and you must read more to practice Mandarin!

Most of the dialect speakers practice more Mandarin in their usual days. In the future, when you can contact your friends, you should practice your Mandarin more, so that your Mandarin will improve faster. There is also a need to look at some standard Mandarin **, which may have results.

When we were in high school, we started to speak Mandarin, and as a child who grew up around Dongting Lake, I always couldn't distinguish the sounds of l and n. In the end, we did pass the Mandarin test, but after graduating from high school, we went to Changsha, and we never corrected our fluent plastic Pu.

To learn Mandarin, you can use Mandarin software, or a good friend in Mandarin to correct your pronunciation, or listen to the pronunciation of the announcer. Blindly practicing Mandarin by yourself has no effect at all, just like you do a lot of practice questions every day without looking back to see if you have made mistakes.

I think it's actually very easy for people who speak dialects to learn Mandarin if they want to learn Mandarin, as long as you can have an environment to learn Mandarin, if the people around you can speak Mandarin to you, then you will naturally speak Mandarin, so I think it's really easy to speak Mandarin.

We dialect speakers were taught to speak Mandarin by the teacher when we were young, although the teacher also spoke in dialects, but when he taught us, he spoke in Mandarin, so I think the teacher was a good enlightener and taught us a lot of good things.