Why do you see others as yourself?

<> this question reminds me of an essay about the Song Dynasty writer Su Shi.

of the rank matter. Legend has it that Su Shi studied Buddhism quite a lot. One day, he was with his friend Buddha Yin.

Meditating and chatting together, he asked Buddha Yin, "How do you see me meditating?" Buddha Yin exclaimed, like a Buddha. Su Shi was very happy to hear it.

Buddha Yin then asked Su Shi, what do you think of me. In order to show that his Buddhism is profound, Su Shi said, like a piece of. Buddha Yin listened, smiled, and said nothing.

Su Shi thought that he had defeated the Buddha seal, and he was very proud. Unexpectedly, after his sister Su Xiaomei heard this, she smiled and said to him, brother, you lost. Su Shi was puzzled.

Su Xiaomei explained that the Buddha Yin has a Buddha in his heart, so he sees everyone as a Buddha. You have in your heart, so, you see everyone is.

Back to the question. The saying "the other person in your eyes is actually yourself" is consistent with the truth illustrated in the above story. That is to say, when we look at others with a strong subjective color, the others in our eyes are no longer objective others, but others who have been endowed with our thoughts and emotions.

Therefore, through the eyes of others, we will find our shadow, and we will see our own face.

In literary appreciation, there is a famous saying, "For 10,000 readers, there are 10,000 Hamlets."

In fact, there is only one Hamlet, but because different readers are bringing their own personal experiences, thoughts, and feelings to understand the image of Hamlet, there are different Hamlets in the minds of readers. And the difference in Hamlet's image also shows that the readers are different.

Understanding this truth, what we need to pay attention to in life is not to blindly recognize and evaluate others according to our own ideological standards. At the same time, when you encounter a problem and think that others are wrong, you should also reflect on whether there is a problem in your own area. Otherwise, he will be like Su Shi and "humiliate himself"!

In the process of getting along with others, we will always impose our own ideas on others to a greater or lesser extent. Although we often say to others that we would not do unto others as we would have them do unto us. However, when we actually implemented it, we found it so difficult.

Many times we will always throw things that we don't like and are not rare to others, and we want others to thank you! Ay! This is "we", and it is also "others" in your eyes.

In fact, looking at the problem from another angle, is it true that the other people in your eyes are not good or bad, and their so-called bad in your mouth are not the true portrayal of yourself? It's just that you don't admit it! However, other people will tune up so much of your fault!

I've been living in dormitories since I was in high school, and I'm most likely to have a series of conflicts in a dormitory like a group room! Especially if a bunch of girls are chattering together, it is easier to misunderstand! I remember that there were three factions in the dormitory at that time, that is, these few people played better, and the other few people played better together.

But even so, there are still problems with each other. There's a girl in the dormitory who is in her own right, and she can't play well with anyone! Because, she often says that we are hypocritical, hypocritical, and never take the initiative to clean.

But the fact is that she herself is just like what she said about us, too lazy to die, to see who is not pleasing to the eye and bites whom, very hypocritical, everyone does not like to play with her! It can be seen that if you like to say that others are not good or bad, you don't necessarily have to do better than others! No wonder people say that the other person in your eyes is actually yourself.

What your eyes see, what you filter in your heart, and what you present, then the final reflection is the real you!

Positive and optimistic people look at everything very well, and negative people look pessimistic about everything! Although others are not always in your eyes, you can see their improvement and their goodness. Then I think you are the same, although there are shortcomings, you never stop running forward!

Because each of us wears colored glasses when we look at others, human beings have the most unique feelings, so when others do something, they will add their own feelings to associate what happened later.

The type of person we hate the most is often the kind of person we are about to become, and in the process of growing up, we don't know if we have found that we are becoming more and more similar to the person we hate, and we have been walking towards that road. And walking and walking, I have adapted to the kind of role I hate, although I know how annoying what I do, but I don't have the ability to make any changes, I can only accept it calmly.

When I was young, I was very simple, very simple, and I especially hated people with big tempers, because my dad had a very big temper. He always talked about me, always disciplined me, and even scolded me for no reason, I didn't understand it at the time, I felt that I must be a gentle person in the future, not like my father.

As a result, the older I grew up, the more my temper became more like my dad, and my temper was very bad. But I also gradually understood that my father, as a man, has to support the family, how much pressure he has every day, although he is scolding me, but in fact it may be to relax himself, although it may hurt the young me.

But every time he lost his temper, he would apologize to me in another way and buy me something nice to coax me. My dad just has a bad mouth, but he is a very nice person and loves me very much.

So although I hate that I have a big temper and a bad character, I really can't do anything about it, and I can't change it with such an aura in my bones, but I can understand such a character.

Maybe I've always been like this, but I didn't realize it before, it's because I have a bad temper, so my dad thinks I'm scolding me for everything, and that's what I see in my eyes.

You may not fully understand what you see in your own eyes, and others can see what you can't.

Everyone has a self in their own eyes and their own self in the eyes of others, and when the self in our own eyes is different from the self in the eyes of others, we will have different opinions about this person, good or bad. When the self in the eyes of this person is expanded to the self in the eyes of society, at this time, because there is a gap between oneself in the definition of society and society, there will be feelings of complaining.

Analyse. People live a lifetime, there are few awakenings, many doubts, and the biggest doubt is that they can't recognize themselves. It is the hardest to know yourself, and it is the most painful not to know yourself.

Therefore, the first priority in life is to know yourself. Only by knowing oneself can we know the whole world and accept everything in the world.

Man has two eyes, he can see the world, all things, and others, but he cannot see himself, he can see the faults of others, but he cannot see his own shortcomings, he can see the greed of others, he cannot see his own stinginess, he can see the evil views of others, and he cannot see his own stupidity.

Summary. It is to project a part of myself onto others, so of course, others in your eyes will have a part of you.

Hello, do you know such a sentence.

There are 10,000 Hamlets for 10,000 readers.

The way you look at others, and the impression that person gives you, is your own selective way of viewing and processing that person's information.

You will judge a person with your own thoughts and ways of dealing with the world, and when this person's information is formed in your mind, it is actually with your personal color.

Do you understand that?

It is to project a part of myself onto others, so of course, others in your eyes will have a part of you.

There are a thousand Hamlets in the hearts of a thousand people.

It's telling a story, in fact, it can also be about people.

It's like in your own heart, there are a thousand you, but what you narrate is who you feel.

People can't see themselves, they can only see others. Because of the creation of mirrors, you can see your appearance more clearly.

Acne, blemishes, marks, and moles on the face are all clear. The facial features are unbalanced, and the distortion of the body can be clear and clear.

After applying grease and powder, after dressing and dressing, you can see a beautiful self under disguise.

Some people see themselves as confident and happy.

Some people see themselves as inferior, troubled.

It's all about yourself in your eyes.

You will find that you may be stupid and stupid in the eyes of others and under the lens of others.

So what had always been self-righteous shattered in an instant.

Since then, I have been cautious, frightened, and have a problem in my heart.

Always feel that others are looking at you, and always wonder if you are indecent. Not only in clothing, but also in one's own conduct.

Living in someone else's world is like walking a tightrope, forgetting the self that once felt good.

Because you don't know what you are like in other people's hearts; What you think is "what others think" may seal your own world.

A kind and gentle person, because of the silence of the first encounter, is condemned as cold; Those whose hearts are full of sunshine are condemned as withdrawn because they do not follow the crowd; A person who is full of love and courage is condemned as reckless because of a wrong thing.

But ask yourself.

Do people know you? Are they your own?

Do they know what you're thinking?

What does the sunshine or darkness in other people's hearts have to do with you?

Why define yourself by someone else's law!

After going through it again and again, learning to let go of yourself and find back who you once were is what you should do.

What about the ugliness or beauty of makeup, what about thick or glamorous, do you dare, do others dare?

If you eat fat, eat a lot, and don't look good, it doesn't affect others, so why bother with those mouths?

What clothes do you wear, what bags do you carry, and what do you have to do with others? You're clean, and you're not staining anyone's eyes.

What if you don't look good when you walk and don't write beautifully? Who made others look at you every day? Let them poke their eyes in the eye, and don't get in the way of your ugly happiness.

Life is very tired, and you have to watch other people's moods live, shackle yourself, why bother?

**From the film "I Want to Eat Your Pancreas", invaded and deleted).

End – Hi! In front of the screen, may you face every day confidently and full of sunshine.

June 9, 2020 "Stubborn" daily sign.