He is a person of quality and cultivation 10

1. Be appreciative and not sarcastic. Cultured communication is the most taboo, sarcastic, and sarcastic. No one likes to be ridiculed or sarcastic.

Mockery and sarcasm not only show your lack of education, but also hurt people. Even an unintentional taunt can induce a person's mental illness. If there is an argument between a salesperson and a customer.

The customer scolded the salesperson for being "ugly", causing the salesperson to feel ugly and not want to go to work, and then suffered from depression. Ridicule and sarcasm will inevitably make their popularity bad because they are disgusting. Everyone needs to be appreciated, appreciation has magical power, can stimulate people's enthusiasm and vitality, and can also enhance people's popularity.

2. In the face of conflict, strive for a win-win situation. In interpersonal interactions, conflicts are inevitable for a variety of reasons. The best goal and outcome of conflict resolution is a win-win situation, considering the interests of the other party when considering one's own interests, and considering the benefits of the other party when avoiding one's own losses.

"Lose-lose" is often the result of uneducated communication. When it comes to verbal arguments, try to avoid things like "Okay, okay, it's all my fault!" Or, "You're always right anyway, I'm wrong!"

Admitting mistakes in this way is venting one's anger and is very uneducated. And take a step back and use the phrase "Maybe you're right......Or use "Maybe I'm wrong......It is a sincere and quality expression, and it is more able to achieve win-win goals and results. 3. Listen not only with your ears, but also with your body.

Listening with your body means that you have to use your body to tell the other person that you are listening. "Listen with your body" at least to: let go of what you are doing and focus on the other person; Look at each other with your eyes and lean towards each other; Physical contact can also be made when necessary, such as holding the other person's hand and patting the other person's shoulder.

However, if it is between people of the opposite sex, it is necessary to maintain physical distancing allowed by social and cultural customs. Otherwise, not only is there a lack of education, but there is also a suspicion of "harassment". 4. Have a necessary response.

The so-called necessary response refers to the necessary response such as "um", "oh", "yes", etc., according to the content of the other party's complaint. For something you don't understand, use "Sorry, I'll interrupt, what you just said ...... meant"Checking, being silent, or interrupting the other person frequently are all signs of a lack of education. 5. Be good at being reasonable.

Empathy is a kind of response that empathizes with the other person, that is, the ability to "listen to the voice", listen to the "feeling" of the other person, and read the "meaning of the other person" in "non-verbal expression". If you notice the other person's distress and say, "You feel very sad about this?" Or, "If it were me, I'd be sad too."

Conversely, if your response is "Oops, what's there to be sad about!" He even added the phrase "You are so self-inflicted!" This is a response to a lack of substance.

Next time, who will talk to you?

10 characteristics of a cultivated person.

Quality is a person's upbringing, a kind of inner cultivation, refers to a person's character and morality and a level of life and life, and is the level of internalization that a person has reached through training and training.

A person with quality must be a person with inner cultivation, not measured by status, money, and appearance. He is a man of his true self; a self-disciplined person; A serene man; a man of principle and character; A person who knows self-respect and respects others; A person who is good at restraining and regulating his words and deeds; A person who knows how to advance and retreat and knows how to introspect; He is a tolerant, rigorous, elegant and upright person.

We often hear a saying: "You don't look like a prince in a dragon robe." ”

In my opinion, whether you are like a "prince" or not depends not on what kind of clothes you wear, but on what kind of personal qualities and level of conduct you have.

What kind of clothes to wear, that is all appearance, what kind of quality level you have, is the key to measuring a person.

I thought that after so many years of growth and existing social status, I could improve the quality and cultivation of the whole person, but I didn't expect that the thin shit would not be able to support the wall after all. Although there is an external aura around, it is still difficult to hide the inferiority of the essence.

In fact, quality is the touchstone of a person, and good cultivation is the foundation of life. A person who does not know how to respect himself at all will naturally not know how to respect others; A person who does not know how to respect others naturally does not deserve to be respected by others.

There are too many people in this world who think that money is everything, but they don't know that under the gorgeous appearance, it is so unthinkable.

As the so-called body is not cultivated, virtue is not established, the heart is the foundation, the self-cultivation is the foundation, the body is correct, and the appearance is positive.

A person with quality cultivation is a person you are happy to associate with, a person who can make you feel pure, a person you can trust and look up to. Otherwise, don't tell me how much you are worth and how many official residences you are, it still can't hide the essence of your scumbag, so you can't avoid it.

Good cultivation is like a fresh wind, natural and refreshing, galloping but not chaotic, which makes people respectful; Good quality is more like a warm beam of sunshine, sunny and bright, warm but not warm, which makes people happy and admired.

Self-cultivation is a mirror that can reflect the superiority of personality. Ordinary people can also have noble discipline and rigorous behavior, but those who step on the clouds and swell and don't know why, may really have everything, but only lack quality and lose character.

Appreciating a person starts with appearance, falling into talent, and being loyal to character is really true. Intersecting with people is also the only good quality cultivation that is the refraction point of your personality charm. Therefore, instead of being stubborn, it is better to improve with your heart, and don't always blindly immerse yourself in the goodness of your own feelings, otherwise, your quality is not worthy of your flashiness; Your character can't support your world.