What should I do if I don t have friends in college?

College is a big and small social circle, no friends in college is a very painful thing, this thing may be due to people's personality, generally introverted people, are relatively closed, unwilling to take the initiative to make friends, so let's talk about the solution to this problem!

1) Work hard to change yourself.

To try to change yourself, you have to try to change your living environment, participate in more club activities, spend more time with more optimistic and cheerful people, have frequent dinners with new friends, increase communication, and establish trust between each other. But the most basic thing to do with people is to be sincere, and mutual trust is the most important thing. Don't forget to make new friends, but don't forget old ones!

There is an optimistic and cheerful person!

2) Read more books on interpersonal communication.

The book's own ** house is a good explanation, reading more books about interpersonal communication, can provide us with a better way to deal with interpersonal communication, the method is important, but the practical action is even more important.

3) Don't run away from it.

You can try to start with your personal hobbies and find some like-minded friends to socialize slowly. If two people have common interests and hobbies, they will talk to each other, so the relationship between two acquaintances will be naturally established. Therefore, we must not close ourselves off and choose to escape, because evasion will not solve the problem.

In short, the matter of friends, whether you are in college or not, is a rare thing! It is not necessary to emphasize that you have to meet such a person at a certain stage! The college years are more about everyone's view of right and wrong is gradually establishing an important stage, so some people's encounters still depend on fate, I hope we can all find our good friends!

<>In the decades of life, youth is fleeting, often when people begin to recall, the time of youth is the most nostalgic, and the college age is the most beautiful picture of adolescence.

Only people of the same energy can recognize each other and attract each other. Whatever kind of friends you want to make, you have to be like that. Friend, a rather complex and far-reaching word in interpersonal relationships, accompanies us throughout our lives, no matter when, no matter where we are, with the support of friends, people's hearts are the softest and warmest.

What is the most important thing in this era when I was in college, a new page in my life? Link! And the friends in college will have a closer connection with you in college and even in their future life.

No friends is a distressing and boring thing, first of all, we must learn to open our hearts, actively embrace the olive branch and friendly emotional expressions thrown by everyone, people together is the attraction between the magnetic field, only if you can open your mind, other people can perceive your energy, willing to approach you, so as to enhance each other's feelings and become friends.

Secondly, you can try to find the corresponding club organization according to your own interests and hobbies, the leisure time in college is still relatively rich, and a variety of interest groups can help you find like-minded good friends in it.

Third, take the initiative to express yourself, the reason why people are liked is because the aura they exude is integrated with others, which can attract people like you and are willing to be friends with you.

College is really short, seize this wonderful moment, try to express positive energy, and meet more friends will help you throughout your life!

First, ask yourself why you don't have friends

Under normal circumstances, people are social animals, as long as they are not in a closed space, not staying in the dormitory and not going out, they will definitely deal with people, so if there are no friends at this time, it means that the way of dealing with them is not right, and they should adjust their communication methods with others in a timely manner, such as whether the words are too heavy when communicating with people, causing others not to like to listen, or their own image and behavior are not recognized by others, etc.

Secondly, there are many friends, but there are no friends

There is such a group of people, they have a lot of friends, usually eat, sing, shout a big gang, and have a lively and lively play until two o'clock in the morning, but when they go back, they are very empty, because they have no friends.

It is difficult to make friends because they require two people to have the same interests, hobbies, views and tastes about the same things, and at the same time should have the same life experience.

Although this friend is hard to find, you can see if there are any of your friends who meet your requirements for a bosom friend. For example, you usually like to listen to **, but you like to listen to it yourself and like to be accompanied.

is two people sitting on a sofa, both listening to ** alone, so that the two have common interests and hobbies. So, you can find one that is "very close" to this standard, and don't go for perfection in the past.

There is an old saying: rely on your parents at home, and rely on friends when you go out. College is a good time to learn to make friends, so you should try to make more friends so that you can get better development in your future life.

College is so lonely and has no friends to self-reflect, and then open up your personality and participate in more group activities.

The first point is to actively participate in student organizations and societies. Get the opportunity to connect with others.

If you are an introvert and want to build good social relationships, you need to join student organizations and clubs, otherwise if you are introverted and don't actively join, you won't even have the opportunity to contact others.

The second point is to learn to trouble others in moderation.

I have a senior sister who likes to trouble people and ask for help from all kinds of people, she may not be good in her own right, but she can often seek help from others in some areas to help her with this. This is actually a very powerful ability.

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First, we must grasp the degree. All feedback is mutual. Ask for help and give back to others in return. Also, what you are asking for must be within the distance of your relationship.

Second, it is necessary to optimize the process as much as possible. Make your requirements specific so that others can easily help you.

Third, just don't get overly entangled. After you make a request, you want to be prepared for rejection and give others some room to maneuver.

Finally, I want to tell you that we should not be particularly autistic people when we are born in this society. Moderately bothering and communicating with others is a skill that we must have to survive in this world. Your relationships are also your resources and your core competencies.

Building your network is good for your life.

Be bold and be yourself, and when you graduate from college, you will find that you are just passers-by, and the most important thing is what you have learned in college, no friends will be lonely, but you must be clear about your goals, college just makes you better, clear goals, and move in the direction. Graduating will only bring you one step closer to your goal. If you eat and play games with your friends every day, you will be happy in college, but you will only be confused after graduation.

No friends can be generous and open, but not forced. Secondly, calm down the mentality, this is normal, some things still have to be faced by myself, "don't care about the scum, if you bloom, the breeze will come" you will become excellent first, like-minded people will come, you shouldn't care too much about "I have no friends" You can do a lot of things without friends, you have to be stronger.

Be bold and be yourself, and when you graduate from college, you will find that you are just passers-by, and the most important thing is what you have learned in college, no friends will be lonely, but you must be more clear about your goals, college just makes you better, clear goals, and move in the direction. Graduating will only bring you one step closer to your goal. If you eat and play games with your friends every day, you will be happy in college, but you will only be confused after graduation.